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You might find the book "Sex and God" to be interesting. It's an examination of the negative effects religion has on how people view sex.
What is interesting about it is that people of all religions have very similar sexual experiences and histories. Very few people are virgins until marriage, those who do are extreme, extreme outliers.
What the book does is examine the fact that both believers and non-believers alike have about as much sex, and about as many sexual partners (there is some variance, but I found this all very surprising). It goes on to look at where the guilt and shame that religion lays on a person comes from.
Fascinating, excellent book.
I've had several people on here recommend God and Sex by Darrel Ray. So far it's helped a lot with both the cultural and religious indoctrination my wife and I have grown up with.
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Darrel Ray - Sex and God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality
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To go with that christian's kind statement, I read in chapter 10 of This Book some really interesting things about biology. Like all fetuses start out as female and it takes a surge of hormones at a specific time to turn an XY fetus into an actual boy. And that lots of things can affect the proper formation at that time. Which causes the large variety of gender/sex mental maps.
Yeah that's a good point - it's frustrating when people sexualise everything. Perhaps it's a symptom of their own sexual repression, which they project onto other people. After all, if they are thinking about sex all the time, they assume other people are too! I do also think our culture has retained some Freudian ideas even if they are not scientifically valid... the idea that nearly everything people do is motivated by sex.
You make a great point about child abuse and sexual shame. Shame about sexuality is one of the primary tools that religion uses to keep people coming back, as most people experience sexual fantasies and thoughts fairly frequently, thus they feel guilty on a regular basis and have to repent continually. You might find this book interesting if you want to explore this topic further: Sex and God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality
But yeah I'm in a partnership with a woman now and sometimes it's frustrating feeling like our relationship gets sexualised. I feel like my relationship with her is primarily based on a foundation of friendship, first and foremost. We have gone long periods without sex for health reasons, so sex to us is really just a nice bonus - but not a necessity. However, people act like it's the only reason we're together.
If possible get this book: http://www.amazon.com/Sex-God-Religion-Distorts-Sexuality-ebook/dp/B0073WNSV6/ref=la_B002GEZTFO_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1411321197&sr=1-2 and see how religion fucks your head about sex.