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Firstly, read "What does the Bible Really Teach about Homosexuality" by Kevin DeYoung.
The foundation you walked in with that the bible clearly condemns homosexual practices on the same level as gluttony and alcoholism is sound and straight from scripture. There's no need to tap dance around and dig deeper for a "hidden meaning" by trying to pick apart Old Testament customs and ancient Hebrew translations. The larger the time/culture gap between us and the original author, the greater chance we have of misinterpreting the authors intent. Paul does a very succinct job of labeling it clearly (twice).
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As for the topic of masturbation, Joshua Harris's Sex is Not the Problem, Lust Is (previously called "Not Even a Hint" is a must read for approaching all sexual sin (even including homosexual sin). Masturbation is a physical act. You're correct in stating the bible does not address it specifically, but it does cover: lust, desire for what we do not have, idolatry, loneliness, selfishness... all of which can be the root behind a "masturbation session". God is much more concerned with the heart than the actions, though there are specific actions he has specifically mentioned in scripture.
frychu has it right. You need to find someone who is spiritually mature that will follow up with you out of love. Also, I'd recommend Joshua Harris' book, "Sex isn't the problem, lust is."
http://www.amazon.com/Sex-Not-Problem-Lust-Lust-Saturated/dp/1590525191
Just offering another opinion... I have read through every mans battle, and I wouldn't recommend it. I wouldn't say its "bad"... but there are other books that are more rich and full.
One being, http://www.amazon.com/Sex-Not-Problem-Lust-Lust-Saturated/dp/1590525191
Anyway, Like the above person said, really pray about telling your wife.
Another good resoure, and woth a listen. (1o minutes long) http://www.desiringgod.org/interviews/is-my-husband-s-porn-a-marriage-deal-breaker