Reddit reviews Slut! Growing Up Female with a Bad Reputation

>Girls may be called "sluts" for any number of reasons, including being outsiders, early developers, victims of rape, targets of others' revenge. Often the labels has nothing to do with sex -- the girls simply do not fit in. An important account of the lives of these young women, Slut! weaves together powerful oral histories of girls and women who finally overcame their sexual labels with a cogent analysis of the underlying problem of sexual stereotyping.

She may not have read it, but she's not wrong

Maybe you should read this? http://www.amazon.com/Slut-Growing-Female-Bad-Reputation/dp/0060957409

In a perfect world, they wouldn't. But words don't exist in a vacuum. They have connotations.

My question would be why the hell do people feel the need to label people for their personal sexual choices? Who gives a shit who is a slut or who slept with 5 people or who slept with 100 people? It's their body, and their choice. Why can't we all just have sex with who we want without people labeling and judging us?

> Basically, if people are calling you a slut, you are either a slut or, you are surrounding yourself with people that don't have the same principals as you.

This is not true. You are creating a false dichotomy.

There are a number of other viable possibilities. People use words to hurt people regardless of whether it's true or they share the same "principals."

> Slut is a word, it doesn't change your behavior or the amount of people you sleep with.

Words can change people's behavior. That's why we use them so often. Why would the word 'slut' be an exception?

Slut! is a great book that illustrates this on this very topic.

Sorry you have to deal with that. Kids in high school are illogical assholes.

So, this is a book I read when I was like 19, maybe it could help? Slut! Growing Up Female with a Bad Reputation

The main thing I liked about it was because most women who are branded "sluts" really aren't at all. Double standards are a crime and a shame that make no sense.

Just ignore the assholes and go about your business.

A few more thoughts:

-People might be jealous of you.

-Just go with the lie. When I was younger people used to make fun of me for "eating dogs" since I am half korean. I noticed once I started saying I did eat dogs and go into detail about which dogs were the best to eat, people stopped making fun of me. Of course, this was in junior high school, so who knows.

TL;DR- sorry people are assholes.

Isn't that the truth? Slut technically applies, but it unfortunately has negative connotations for most (particularly not in a sex setting) and used to ridicule and shame women for perfectly normal sexuality. And it shouldn't, but men want the Madonna and the whore.

Slut: Growing Up Female With a Bad Reputation is a great read on this topic.