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You are definitely under reacting!

I think that your "normal meter" is broken. Because nothing about what you described is 'normal' in a healthy environment (family or otherwise).

You are being abused (physically, verbally, mentally, emotionally) & continually manipulated.

THIS IS NOT A HEALTHY FAMILY DYNAMIC.

THIS IS NOT HOW PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU ACT.

THIS IS NOT OKAY.

THIS IS NOT NORMAL.

If you haven't been documenting this behavior/physical attacks, you need to start now. If you can safely record or take videos (& its legal in your state) do so. Make sure that the recordings/videos are stored in a cloud that is password protected (& not attached to your normal email/phone number). Use a new email account (gmail) & a password that isn't written down anywhere (maybe leave a sealed envelope with the information in a secured spot at your workspace to give to the police if something happens)? There are recommendations (in the sidebar here & on some of the other justno subs) on how to write down what happens in a composition notebook, but please don't store this any place that it might be found by your abusers.

Have you talked to your therapist about the physical abuse & ongoing verbal/physical threats?

Most therapists don't suggest a discussion/rule setting/negotiation of behavior with someone who won't stop an attack or encourages an abuser. They suggest an exit plan - the sooner the better.

No amount of discussion with your Mother is going to change her behavior or help you. She isn't willing to get your brother out of her life or yours. For whatever reason, she is encouraging, provoking, & enabling his behavior. She wants you to stay so that you can continue to be a victim for him (& her, as needed).

You need to stop setting yourself on fire to keep everyone else warm.

YOU DO NOT owe your mother or siblings ANYTHING.

They are adults who are actively choosing to remain in a behavior pattern that is violent & self destructive.

It sounds like there are some serious psychological problems along with a cycle of violence that are way beyond what you can or will ever be able to help with. IT IS NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO FIX THIS.

The physical/verbal abuse between your brother & mother is something that you can not involve yourself with anymore. They don't want to change their behavior & see nothing wrong with it.

They may be your biological family, but they don't want your protection/help/intervention & nothing you do or say will change anything (except further damage you). THEY need to WANT to change (& it doesn't seem like any of them want to do this).

By staying in the home them/this situation, the chance of one of them hurting you or even killing you is extremely high. It might not be entirely deliberate, but violence continues to escalate & they have already shown that they are willing to hurt you.

Is there a way for you to move out now? Not necessarily an apartment (unless you can find a tiny studio), but as a roommate? A room for rent in an apartment or house (ask around if a friend or co-worker has room or knows of someone who might or even via an ad on Craigslist) somewhere locally? You need to get out of that house YESTERDAY.

Moving to a safe location locally for the next 4-5 months until you can move 800+ miles away is a very good idea. If you can move to the new location now, that would be a good idea.

If you can move, do not tell your mother or siblings where you are moving to, block them from your phone (or port your number to google voice & change your actual mobile phone number), forward all of your mail to a PO Box, & cut off all contact with them immediately.

Your biological family is dangerous to you & they only want you around to be a victim for their behavior.

Advise your HR & supervisor at work that your family has been violent towards you in the past & made threats. If your family attempts to show up at your work, the workplace can have them arrested for trespassing.

Talk to your local police department about the threats & previous attacks by your family. They probably won't be able to issue a restraining order unless you have additional proof (video, hospital visits, etc.). This is how you can make sure that the police know the situation & they won't investigate if your Mom attempts to report you missing, etc. They can advise if a "No Contact Order" sent by an attorney would be a good idea (if you want to pursue a restraining order).

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To make your move easily portable & give you very little furniture for your move, here are some suggestions for items that can easily pack into an average size car with your clothes & personal items.

A well made double height queen size airbed/air mattress (typically less than $100, but max $150). Look for the ones with internal reinforcement, as they are more comfortable for long term sleep (& I know people who have replaced their long term mattress with one).
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A thick mattress pad with a feather bed under it, & some cotton/flannel sheets with a blanket or 2, a thick comforter, & a couple of pillows.

Having a thick mattress pad & feather bed (or even another comforter) under the mattress pad will be more comfortable overall & keep a good barrier between the cool air in the bed & your body (so you don't get too cold at night).

TJ Maxx & HomeGoods (or similar) almost always have mattress pads, comforter & sheet sets in their clearance sections. Even at full price, they have all of the items & are almost always less expensive than most stores (including WalMart/Meijer). Occasionally Target will have a sale & their sheets are a decent price. I have bought quite a few sets of 100% cotton high end sheets that have lasted for years at TJ Maxx/HomeGoods. You can sometimes find nice blankets & comforters at Goodwill, Thrift Stores, or garage sales (& they are super cheap!).

A folding camping table & a lamp that can clip onto it become a bedside table.
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An oversized folding chair with a throw blanket becomes a comfy place for you to sit in your bedroom.
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All of your clothes can be hung in the closet & items that don't hang (sweaters, socks, underwear) can go into portable shelving with a few drawer inserts.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07PHYTVHJ/
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For any storage (like extra shoes, summer clothes, or extra sheets/blankets), you can use soft boxes & put on the upper shelf or stack on the floor of the closet.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07YWFY9K4/
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If you end up in a studio apartment & need kitchen items, check your local thrift/recycle stores. You can buy individual cups, dishes, silverware, cooking implements, pots & pans - just enough for 1 person instead of whole sets - which you may not need right now.

When you are moving, you can condense all of your soft items (sheets, blankets, pillows, & clothing) down to a much smaller size by using compression vacuum bags. They are also great for longer term storage!
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