Reddit reviews Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know

Wonderful news! I know you aren’t looking for a recommendation, but as a dad myself I loved the book “Strong Fathers Strong Daughters” by Meg Meeker.

Really put in perspective my role as a dad for a daughter.

Strong Fathers Strong Daughters

http://www.amazon.com/Strong-Fathers-Daughters-Secrets-Father/dp/0345499395

Granted he's not her biological father, but I can't recommend enough Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters. Really a quality book.

My wife is the oldest of her siblings, three boys, and I think it works so well. Much of it has to do with the way they were raised, but because she is so protective of them, and the way they look up to her, I wanted a girl first, and I got my wish. I don't care what comes next, though I'm partial to girls because they're easier when they're young, and I'm older than the average dad.

If yours is a girl, get this book.

Finally, here's how we learned her gender. We gave the doctor a small pouch with a boy and girl doll inside and asked him to remove one after reviewing the ultrasound. He left the room, came back and handed it back to us. We had dinner that night with the pouch sitting on the table, and opened it before dessert.

Congratulations! It seems as thought you found the source of her sexual activity. As you know, the sex makes her feel needed, desired, wanted, and cared for. It seems that, according to what I've read, are the very things missing from her family life. Not implying that it is done consciously by you and your husband, but that is her perception.

Changing schools is an idea worth exploring, allowing her to have a clean slate, make new friends, not feel intimidated, and in general escape the bad. As a child that had low self-esteem and various other issues, you can have a major impact on her as of today. Not knowing your family history, let's cover all the bases (not implying that the list below is necessarily reflective of your situation)...

• Acknowledge your lack of engagement and/or noticing things about her and her life.
  
• Acknowledge hurtful behaviours, attitudes, and words.
  
• Ensure that you understand her points as being valid. They may not be to you or your husband, but they are very much so to your child.
  
• Ask for examples of situations that make her feel like she does. Don't get defensive, just listen. Again, it's all about perspective.
  
• Make a point to spend time together, as a family, engaging with each other.
  
• Talk to your husband regarding his role.
  
• Ensure that your husband and daughter talk to each other. They must understand each others' feelings and how they came about. Identifying root causes can be difficult, tricky, and painful, but essential.
  
• Discuss how your daughter's behaviours and attitudes can be and are interpreted by her family, friends, and entourage.
  
  
  Growing up, I didn't have a dad, just my grand-father, and we really didn't do all that much together. As such, I had nearly zero male influence in my life and never saw what dads did. When our daughter was born, my wife found this great book which really helped me understand what's important to girls and the importance of the fathers. I strongly recommend that your husband read it. It's not a opinion based book, a rarity in this genre as it is based on clinical observations and patient-therapist discussions. Meeker also has one about boys, again, a very worthwhile read.
  
  Good luck!!
  
  

Also, on more of the personal / family side - Strong Father Strong Daughter profoundly changed my outlook on the responsibilities of fatherhood.

http://www.amazon.com/Strong-Fathers-Daughters-Secrets-Father/dp/0345499395/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1395712737&sr=1-1&keywords=strong+father+strong+daughter

Buy this book now: Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know by Meg Meeker

It will help you understand how much her life will be shaped by your actions and behavior and how ultimately she might be choosing a partner that will be similar to you. It has a lot of christian nonsense the can be skipped and still get a lot from it.


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