Reddit reviews The Anxiety Toolkit: Strategies for Fine-Tuning Your Mind and Moving Past Your Stuck Points

There's a violation of trust there from people who ruin our stuff. Afterwards, it's hard to lend things without reservations.

I haven't gone through therapy, but I really respect it. I studied psychology and human development in school but never thought of myself in that context until recently. I was really considering therapy but wanted to see how far self-help books can get me. I'm also reading [The Anxiety Toolkit: Strategies for Fine-Tuning Your Mind and Moving Past Your Stuck Points] (https://www.amazon.com/Anxiety-Toolkit-Strategies-Fine-Tuning-Moving/dp/0399169253/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1469987586&sr=8-1&keywords=the+anxiety+toolkit) and it made me realize how much crap I'm still dealing with.

Kids aren't on the radar for me yet, but I want to be a knowledgeable parent caring for a child and their well-being. I don't want my hang-ups to spill over into their life. I think that's great that at least now you're aware of what a toll it can take on a child to see their stuff tossed/destroyed. I wished my parents taught me how to manage my possessions. I felt like my parents didn't know how to care for kids beyond basic needs like food, shelter, and school. They didn't know how to talk to us beyond those things. I don't want to become like them. Especially having gotten married recently and becoming a "grown up", my relationship with my mom has been strained. We never had a really supportive one to begin with. Now she really doesn't know how to deal with me at this stage since she can't control me like when I was a kid.

There's an awesome chapter from Dr. Alice Boyles' "The Anxiety Toolkit" that I come back to often. The whole book is fantastic; I think perfectionism — for me at least — manifests in so many ways: procrastination, ruminating to "right" an episode, shyness, impossible standards/inferiority complex. It addresses many of those separately, which I find helpful.