Reddit reviews The New One Minute Manager

Out of the books I read, these were my favorite.

• Meditations
  
• The Effective Executive
  
• Managing Humans
  
• The New One Minute Manager
  
• How To Win Friends and Influence People
  
  I suppose these focus less on "leadership" so much as management. But they are all helpful when it comes to thinking about being a leader.
  
  I also can't stress enough the importance of being introspective, and taking the time for self reflection. It's crucial that you be able to take a look at yourself, and see how your actions affect others. How you make others feel. Things like that. I know that's not particularly helpful, but I guess all I can say is do whatever makes the most sense for you to make yourself a more empathetic human being.

If he was initially resistant to going to school, it sounds like the sweatshirt was an excuse, not the actual reason. You may want to explore that further with him; as others have said, your counselors should be able to help with the situation.

But to address the part of your post about your response to him: You allowed him to shift the focus of what was bothering him. If you can step back and be objective about the situation, you'll see him trying to push your buttons (rudeness and disrespect) and can counteract that by not responding to it.

This may sound far-fetched, but there's an old business management book, designed to be a quick and easy read (although it takes a long time to figure out how to implement the ideas, like any other good system) that might help you get a handle on your own reactions: "The One Minute Manager".

What I noticed about it when I was learning to manage employees, years ago, is that many of the techniques are also good parenting techniques, particularly for adolescents. Kids are particularly good at shifting responsibility back to the parents, simply by acting out or pushing hot buttons. My SAH mother was an excellent 'kid' manager, and I recognized some of her techniques!

A later book which built on the principles in the One Minute Manger was called "The One Minute Manager Meets the Monkey"](http://www.amazon.com/The-Minute-Manager-Meets-Monkey/dp/0688103804) which is even more appropos of your situation, since it highlights all the ways in which lazy employees try to con their managers.

Assigned tasks are the 'monkeys' which employees try to get the manager to do for them; the book highlights the ways in which managers fall for the ploys, and provides counters. But step one is recognizing what's happening at the time.

Take the sweatshirt issue (ignoring that there may be something else at the heart of this behavior, but just assuming there wasn't). He stood in the rain and got it wet and dirty, right? Why wasn't it his responsibility to wash and dry it, if he wanted to wear it the next day? He had a problem, his solution was to turn it into your problem--and you let him. But he's just being a kid and doing what adolescent kids do, which is see-sawing between growing up too fast and not growing up at all.

Your parenting job right now is to manage him past this behavior, and maybe treating him like an "employee"--someone capable of responsibility--is part of the answer. Of course, hugs and love are an acceptable part of this workplace!

Good luck to you!

ever read the 1 minute manager series?

https://www.amazon.com/New-One-Minute-Manager/dp/0062367544/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_t_0?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=2WJQE87R7QGXRWYJPM2V

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basically, you build them up, correct them, and build them up. sandwich approach.

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What do your parents want you to do, long term? take over the business, or have your own career?

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I would think of yourself as a owner of the business, and I expect others to think of you as their eventual boss. vs co worker or just another employee.

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As far as other sub-reddits, there isn't really a good one dedicated to management. I'm subbed to r/business, r/consulting, r/management, and r/smallbusiness (this one might be the best for you because there are a lot of posts asking how to deal with small teams and difficult employees).

Really basic: One Minute Manager https://www.amazon.com/New-One-Minute-Manager/dp/0062367544/ref=sr_1_sc_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1506001797&sr=1-1-spell&keywords=one+minut+emanager

Story Factor: https://www.amazon.com/Story-Factor-2nd-Revised/dp/0465078079/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1506001667&sr=8-1&keywords=story+factor

Honestly, there's nothing better than on-the-job experience when it comes to management. You might want to follow up with your boss and ask the same pointed question, "my team seems to be growing, do you have any recommendations of books that could help me become a better manager?"