Reddit reviews The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame

I agree, it's an excellent book. It deals very comprehensively with the global trauma epidemic and is quite academic in style. The symptoms really just point to causes, that too often individuals, families, society, parents and the media wish to avoid or deny.

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Shannon Thomas' (social worker) discusses the concealed nature of narcissistic abuse in 'Healing from Hidden Abuse' (cover quote) :

‘Psychological abuse leaves no bruises. There are no broken bones. There are no holes in the walls. The bruises, brokenness and holes are held tightly within the target of the abuse’.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Healing-Hidden-Abuse-Recovery-Psychological-ebook/dp/B01JR4ST9S

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Also check out:

Dr Judy Rosenberg's YouTube channel - Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud!) is rich resource for those wishing to understand and heal from narcissistic abuse. Dr Judy hosts a weekly online radio show. Check it out:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOJvZ0gxCu_G5ufZjsI3TCw/videos

Before healing can happen we firstly need to shine light on our wounds and understand their cause.

And her book: Be The Cause: Healing Human Disconnect - Dr Judy Rosenberg

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Be-Cause-Healing-Human-Disconnect/dp/1514793032

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POWER: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse: A Collection of Essays on Malignant Narcissism and Recovery from Emotional Abuse By Shahida Arabi.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/POWER-Surviving-Narcissistic-Collection-Narcissism/dp/1945796324

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Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A GUIDE AND MAP FOR RECOVERING FROM CHILDHOOD TRAUMA by Pete Walker is a book that helped me make sense of my past and its impact on me.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Complex-PTSD-Surviving-RECOVERING-CHILDHOOD/dp/1492871842/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=complex+ptsd+walker&qid=1558114813&s=books&sr=1-1

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The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame also by Pete Walker

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Tao-Fully-Feeling-Harvesting-Forgiveness-ebook/dp/B017I3NRRO/ref=pd_cp_351_3/262-3610686-0428419?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B017I3NRRO&pd_rd_r=eed98e8c-78cb-11e9-9794-6b186da2a7c7&pd_rd_w=NVyx0&pd_rd_wg=PxcGS&pf_rd_p=01704ebe-a86a-4b47-8c36-0f9f5bbc2882&pf_rd_r=2749HYE9SAVA0ZTDQQ5E&psc=1&refRID=2749HYE9SAVA0ZTDQQ5E

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Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor's Guide to Healing and Recovery.

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https://www.amazon.co.uk/Close-Encounters-Worst-Kind-Narcissistic/dp/1973915626/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=close+encounters+of+the+worst+kind&qid=1558114864&s=books&sr=1-1-catcorr

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Waking up from the trauma that is narcissistic abuse can feel lonely but there are literally millions of us! You're not alone. Happy healing. 😀

There's a book by Pete Walker called The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness Out of Blame. The second chapter, Forgiveness as Denial, talks a lot about this. The entire book is gold, though. Pleasepleasepleaseplease read it because 1.) I am going to fuck up summarizing it 2.) the entire book is gold and 3.) I felt the same "Shouldn't I/you just let it go?" from self and others, and Pete Walker explains why this causes INJURY. I wish for you to be able to protect yourself and your right to grieve.

It's US$8.99 for the Kindle version; I don't know how much it is on Audible because it's not showing me because it's already in my library.

Edit: The sample you can see on Amazon is amazing and I hope convinces you to look into it.

Edit 2: The first part of the chapter I told you about is actually included in the tail end of the sample.

The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blameis a book that has helped me immensely. I've read a LOT of self help, and I must admit this book is the most holistic and comprehensible one I've ever read.

And don't be too bummed out if you can't afford professional therapy, this guydoes a pretty good job at explaining why the mental health system is generally terrible. In most cases people just need someone to listen to them and mirror them, and therapists are to a large extent not able to offer that.