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Jesus loves you. Jesus cares. God has a plan for your life. And you know He will always be there.
I'm sorry for the pain and hardship that you've gone through. The authorities in your life were not fulfilling their role. They did not help you to protect your heart. But there is healing through Jesus Christ. I know because I've experienced that healing myself.
You said that you cannot imagine your life without this person. Let me offer you some counsel. In Proverbs 29:18, the Bible says "Where there is no vision, the people perish." I want to help you create a vision for your life that is wholly devoted to Christ.
If you're like most people, you've spent over a decade preparing for higher education such as college or a career. Well, we go to college for four years and then most don't work in the field they studied in. But how much have you studied about God's plan for marriages and families? If you're like most people, probably very little. I know I had no idea what a good marriage was supposed to look like. I knew my mom had been divorced three times and I knew I didn't want that, but I had never seen or heard of another way!
But there is another way, there is God's way. God has standards that should become your standards when seeking a relationship. The Bible says we are not to be unequally yoked with non-believers. This means that first and foremost the man you marry must be a Christian that has been washed in the blood.
The Bible says that those who do not provide for their household are worse than unbelievers. This means that the man you marry must be committed to working hard to provide for his family.
The Bible says that husbands are supposed to wash their wives in the Word of God as to present them blameless even as Jesus cleansed His bride, the church, from all sin so as to present them blameless. This means that the man you marry must be committed to leading his family spiritually. He must be committed to praying with you, for you. He must be committed to reading the Bible with you and to edifying you and to helping you grow in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.
When you renew your mind with this vision, I dare say that you will not even be able to imagine your life with your former non-Christian partner.
A couple of incredible books to read:
https://www.amazon.com/What-He-Must-Be-Daughter/dp/1581349300
https://www.amazon.com/When-Writes-Your-Story-Expanded/dp/1601421656
If you think $20 is too much to invest in your future, I'm more than happy to buy these books for you as long as you commit to reading them. I believe wholeheartedly that they will provide you with a vision that shows you the incredible Biblical plan God has created for marriage.
I liked his book "What He Must Be: ...If He Wants to Marry My Daughter". I recommend it if you're engaged or thinking about it.
https://www.amazon.com/What-He-Must-Be-Daughter/dp/1581349300/
When you become a man that a woman would want to marry, a man that a father would want his daughter to marry, then you will have no shortage of women to marry.
http://www.amazon.com/What-He-Must-Be-Daughter/dp/1581349300
If God keeps telling you no, then why do you keep asking? Ask not how you can glorify yourself. Ask instead how you can glorify God.
Do you realize that the person you marry should be with whom you can glorify God more fully than you could alone? You need to be the person that can help someone else glorify God! That's a big responsibility. Read that book. Study it. It will help you seek after God's will.
That's Voddie Baucham's influence showing in me (are you familiar with his book What He Must Be: ...If He Wants to Marry My Daughter?). It is also the position held by my girlfriend's family. I think scripture does support that position ([Exodus 22:16-17], for example).
Willing to read a book or two? In the season of waiting, don't waste it. You can sharpen your character and faith to such a degree that when you do get married, your wife will be tremendously blessed by who you've allowed God to make you.
What He Must be to Marry My Daughter - Voddie Baucham - Excellent book that helps a man understand how a man of God wants his daughter treated.
The Exemplary Husband - Stuart Scott - This book will hammer into you the character traits we need to be husbands which God has called us to be.
Steps to Freedom in Christ - Neil Anderson - This is free and something you can do right now. Marriage can reveal hidden character issues that need work. Why not get radically right with God now rather than later when the stakes seem higher?