Top products from r/latebloomerlesbians
We found 44 product mentions on r/latebloomerlesbians. We ranked the 10 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
1. Whatever...Love Is Love: Questioning the Labels We Give Ourselves
Sentiment score: 6
Number of reviews: 1
2. Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire
Sentiment score: 4
Number of reviews: 1
Used Book in Good Condition
3. Switching Teams: What Coming Out Later in Life Taught Me About Love, Conquering Fear and Accepting Change
Sentiment score: 2
Number of reviews: 1
Switching Teams What Coming Out Later in Life Taught Me about Love Conquering Fear and Accepting Change
4. Living Two Lives: Married to a Man & In Love with a Woman
Sentiment score: 10
Number of reviews: 1
Used Book in Good Condition
5. Dear John, I Love Jane
Sentiment score: 7
Number of reviews: 1
Used Book in Good Condition
6. Leaving the Fold: A Guide for Former Fundamentalists and Others Leaving Their Religion
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
7. Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love: A Roadmap to Finding the Right Partner and Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams (Conscious Lesbian Guides Book 1)
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
8. The Wise Lesbian Guide to Getting Free From Crazy-Making Relationships & Getting on with Your Life (The Wise Lesbian Guide Series Book 1)
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
You're definitely not the only one. I was a strict conservative Christian for ten years until age 26, when I started to question and deconstruct my old beliefs. I also started to embrace my identity as a sapphic woman to a greater degree around that time. I had known for a few years that I was bisexual but believed I was required to be celibate and could only have platonic partnerships with women.
I also dated a woman and explored sex for the first time at age 26 which was an amazing experience for me. It helped that the woman I explored with had been friends for me for nearly a year by that time so we were close and I felt 100% safe and accepted with her. Getting comfortable with masturbation, self-pleasure and sex toys was a great place to start before I ever tried having actual sex with a real person. You can order them online if you feel awkward going into a sex shop. I'd recommend exploring your body and getting comfortable with pleasuring yourself.
If you're really nervous about dating or having sex, perhaps you could start by making some LGBT friends on the apps? Or maybe joining a local LGBT meet up group? I started off by finding a few platonic cuddle buddies through r/cuddlebuddies and other websites before I got comfortable with actual dating.
Here are some resources that might help as well:
For sexual health and sex education: Scarleteen
This article in particular is great: Figuring Out How to be a Lesbian Safer Expert
General tips for dating women: How To Be A Girl Who Dates Girls: Your Syllabus For Lesbian Dating 101
Finding other sapphic women: 10 Queer Women Reveal Where They Go To Meet Women, & It’s Really Great Advice
For flirting tips: A How-To Guide on Flirting
You might find the following books relevant to your situation:
Conscious Lesbian Dating
Leaving the Fold: A Guide for Former Fundamentalists and Others Leaving Their Religion
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Kudos for surfing the reddit threads.
Open-relationships are WORK. Honesty and communication are #1 on that list. It can 100% work where only one partner is open, and that's totally fine.
Lately, the r/polyamory boards are *mostly cis-hetero couples wanting to open their relationships so their wives can sexually explore or so they can have threesomes....so as of late, I wouldn't suggest that /r being your best option.
What I can suggest (to start with) is this:
You are changing - an old you is dying, and a new one is emerging. Noticing that despite your efforts, this new identity persists is a positive step. Is your therapist LGBTQ-friendly?
I'd recommend reading: "Dear John, I Love Jane": https://www.amazon.com/Dear-John-Love-Jane-Leaving/dp/1580053394
"Sexual Fluidity": https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Fluidity-Understanding-Womens-Desire/dp/0674032268
"Whatever...Love Is Love: Questioning the Labels We Give Ourselves": https://www.amazon.com/Whatever-Love-Questioning-Labels-Ourselves/dp/0062351842/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_t_1?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=1MC963EA42M449F32YWW
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Most of these authors have YouTube/Vimeo videos out there, too, if you're not into reading.
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Good luck!