That's a Kobyashi Maru level predicament.

As written, it seems you are marrying an insensitive woman, but you will come across as hypersensitive if you say anything.

My advice, as a recovering "that's-okay-honey" guy.

Look her in the eye and say: "I don't want your boss at the wedding. You know why and, quite frankly, I am disappointed in you for inviting him without asking me first. Are you more worried about what other people think, or are you more worried that on the day we wed I will be thinking about you in bed with the man kissing you on the cheek?"

If she pushes back at all, don't marry her. I'm serious. You have to set boundaries right now.

http://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Marriage-Dr-Henry-Cloud/dp/0310270839

At 2012-07-13 14:22:57 UTC, knumbknuts replied to "A little advice for someone about to get married?" [+10 points: +11, -1]:

> That's a Kobyashi Maru level predicament.
>
> As written, it seems you are marrying an insensitive woman, but you will come across as hypersensitive if you say anything.
>
> My advice, as a recovering "that's-okay-honey" guy.
>
> Look her in the eye and say: "I don't want your boss at the wedding. You know why and, quite frankly, I am disappointed in you for inviting him without asking me first. Are you more worried about what other people think, or are you more worried that on the day we wed I will be thinking about you in bed with the man kissing you on the cheek?"
>
> If she pushes back at all, don't marry her. I'm serious. You have to set boundaries right now.
>
> http://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Marriage-Dr-Henry-Cloud/dp/0310270839

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