Reddit reviews DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition

In a nutshell, DBT therapy is a tailored program that was developed by Marsha Linehan (who had BPD as a youth) It teaches you skills in order to deal / cope with intense emotions that lead to impulsive behavior (ie: self injury, gambling, binge eating, risky sex, dangerous driving, reckless spending, etc) These skills are helpful for anyone who has intense emotions that lead to self destructive behavior and help you not escalate.

The core skill that is taught through the program is mindfulness. All that is, is being aware. Knowing what you're doing. Noticing that you might be making things worse, or noticing that your environment isn't that healthy. Mindfulness helps you stay in the here and now and is taught in some form in each class (or should be.)

Other skills taught deal with emotion regulation (not making things worse), interpersonal relationships (dealing with people), and dialectics (in that.. something can be multisided. ie: you can have a bad experience AND you can take something good away from that)

Usually DBT is taught in a group setting but may also be taught one on one. The groups last anywhere from 12 weeks (which really is too brief unless it's an intesive daily course) for up to a year. The group dynamic can be helpful in that you learn how others handle the issues they encounter.

Diary cards are filled out daily in order to track your mood and pinpoint triggers. Diary cards also help you notice patterns of behavior. (ie: every day at 3pm I get miserable because I'm hungry and dinner is 3 hours away)

Hope that helps explain it. :)

You can check this link in order to help find a trained DBT therapist in your area (USA only I believe)

Or Marsha Linehans books, Worksheets / Handouts., Training Manual (mostly for therapists but it explains the concepts of DBT) or you can get The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook which is more inclusive with worksheets and concepts explained.

He's a piece of shit, not you. You're lucky he didn't propose, makes it just a bit easier to get out eventually. I know that's common advice, but it's always really really hard to actually leave. You should think about what you're getting out of the relationship... and unfortunately he sounds bitter and resentful for some reason, and changing people's minds is a very difficult task. You can sacrifice yourself so much, but they'll never change.

Don't worry about the sunk-cost fallacy of relationships, and even leaving after years isn't a waste. My biggest advice, in any case, is read this book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00SVCMRCI/

Helps to organize your thoughts and feelings and blame yourself less, and give you more confidence. You don't deserve to feel like this and be put to tears by this man!

I attended DBT through my mental health care provider. However, there are lots of online resources for DBT.

General overview of DBT, as presented by mind.
http://imgur.com/gallery/Zs92ICm


https://drive.google.com/folderview?id=0BxbhXNkT67stRnFiUXhNYW1iRVE (this link has lots of mental health resources, but to get specifically to DBT, look in the folder marked "Treatment, Therapy, and Medication.")

https://www.pdfdrive.com/the-dialectical-behavior-therapy-skills-workbook-e19134904.html (the link to purchase this book is below)

https://behavioraltech.org/resources/resources-for-clients-families/

www.mind.org.uk

http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/

http://www.middle-path.org/

There's also YouTube videos (this playlist is good: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLb51Q732nMqeTJp05TQsE3YkCCY6p6_FS) (or search for DBT skills and/or Marsha Linehan).

On Pinterest at: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.pinterest.com/amp/pin/231583605811059286/

You can also order the books online.

This is the book linked earlier in the thread.
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, and ... (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0041D8UWM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_1dd4CbN7T7HD3

This is the manual/workbook that I have. DBT® Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00SVCMRCI/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_sed4CbJ4D3F5Q

This is the clinical training manual my DBt therapists use. DBT® Skills Training Manual, Second Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/1462516998/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_Yed4Cb430ZATG

There are also Facebook peer support pages and groups.

https://m.facebook.com/ilovedbt/

https://m.facebook.com/groups/dbtskills/?ref=group_header&view=group

If you're wanting to go at it alone, finding someone who has already been through it to guide and with you might be a lot more helpful. I am available anytime to answer questions and help someone start. I've been through the DBT "cycle" almost 3 times now, because the facility I attend does not currently offer "maintenance level" support. I also enjoy the feeling of support and camaraderie.

In the beginning, DBT can seem stupid, confusing, redundant, or even silly. Stick with it. Do your homework if you're in a group. Do a diary card daily, even in the beginning, even if you don't get it. If you're not in a group but have a peer counselor, ask for homework!

Hope this helps!

Edit: thank you for the platinum! What an honor.

Checking the site u/jagreenday linked and sorting with her insurance would be best. I would also recommend you contact the best options and explain financial situation, sometimes they would offer reduced rate. A university in the area might have DBT therapy or groups led by people in training.

Other than that, workbooks can be effective, especially with others to practice with, if she is willing to commit some effort. These 2 are popular: https://www.amazon.com/Dialectical-Behavior-Therapy-Skills-Workbook-ebook/dp/B0041D8UWM/ and https://www.amazon.com/Skills-Training-Handouts-Worksheets-Second-ebook/dp/B00SVCMRCI/