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There is a really good book on the subject. It's called Getting to Yes.

It is great for explaining ways to negotiate outcomes where everyone walks away happy.

There was a good article on flexible leases similar to jdutch's suggestion. You can also check out the book Getting to Yes about negotiating concepts.

I think everyone's heard about how high corn prices have been, that makes landowners start seeing dollar signs. Offer him a cut of those giant profits and you might go a long way to appease him.

Put together a couple hypothetical situations, large yield, low yield, emphasize the input costs, and show him what he would get in the different situations under the current agreement or some flexible lease. Also emphasize how you know the land and take care of it. The person whose going to pay the highest is just going to use it for whatever he can get out of it, and leave the land depleted of nutrients when he's done.

Just the ramblings of some random internet stranger.

Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In

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The negotiation course I took at business school was awesome. It was based around a technique called "getting to yes", which sounds contrived and bullshitty but which tries to find positive aspects of a negotiation that the two sides are looking at.

For example, you may want more money, but do you only want more money? That may be a total showstopper for the other guy due to hard budget limits, so maybe there's other forms of compensation (training, holidays, etc.) that are more valuable to you, where the other guy can give.

Similarly, the whole thing focused on the phrase "where does that number come from"? Basically trying to find out why there is a limit. And if you can identify that (e.g. HR policy, my boss says so), then try to engage your negotiation counterpart in a constructive approach to changing that number. For example, let me help you convince your boss that I am worth more. Let's figure out what I can deliver to make you more comfortable - an evaluation period, salary contingent on clear, objectively measurable goals, that kind of thing.

You must also learn to understand what your value is, in a close to objective manner. For example, figuring out what similar jobs pay elsewhere, what you have contributed, what value you have added, etc. This is unfortunately something a lot of women in business do not do nearly enough, and is part of Sheryl Sandberg's whole point about being more assertive (it does not make you a bitch to be assertive in a civil manner about your value and your place in an organization). This is something where you can keep in mind "hey, please understand that what you are offering me is not fair value based on this, this, and this evidence." Part of this is also being willing to insist that anything you negotiate be measurable and put on paper (i.e. no vague horseshit promises of "we'll discuss that in the future").

Lastly, there's a ton of nifty little psychological tricks - for example, never feel compelled to fill silences, never feel pressure to set an "anchor" sum around which a negotiation will revolve, remain calm.

Does that help for a start?

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Understand these doctors and psychs are on your side, they may not share the same interests as you but they want what is best for you even if they disagree on what is best. These doctors may seem crash and spiteful, but in reality almost all of them are not this way.

 

I do not want to make blanket statements but I am going to make one. Your anxiety is always going to continue when it is you vs the world or you vs the system or you vs the doctors. You can't open up, you can't ask for support, you can't trust for you have no clue when to start trust and when to stop trusting.

Only by taking things off your plate will your anxiety go down, to take things off your plate you need to allow other people to help you and to trust them. Now once your anxiety goes down your ability and your performance will go up for it is easier to think, you do not feel like you have brain fog.

 

I am going to give you a piece of advice and ask you to look into something called the Harvard Principled Negotation. Look at this webpage that explains it with comics and storyboards. Link

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One book on this subject is called Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In Amazon US link now you do not have to read the book cover from cover but read some stuff about this on the internet. It will teach you techniques on how to tackle problems smartly and you will have more self control and you will also see a reduction in anxiety for you will win far more and your trust will go up without you being more vulnerable.

Now this is not the only book or such that has these types of concepts, it is a universal truth that has been known for thousands of years and women get it instinctually due to how their brain is wired (manipulation but in a way you do not realize you are being manipulated). Stephen R. Covey author of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, this is one of Barkley's favorite books and one of the 30 things he recommends parents do is read this book calls it Youtube Link. Think Win-Win a win for you and a win for me.