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It's been a fetish for a VERY long time.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Candaules,_King_of_Lydia,_Shews_his_Wife_by_Stealth_to_Gyges,_One_of_his_Ministers,_as_She_Goes_to_Bed
On a more modern note - in the 90s, Penthouse has always had those fan submitted "penthouse letters". Basically erotica written by readers. The #1 category typically fell within the realm of wife-cheating/sharing in one way or another.
Men have a lot of anxiety about their own worth when it comes to infidelity. It's really no wonder all that anxiety manifests itself sexually. Anxieties have a way of doing that...
People always like to quote that the most hardcore homophobes typically turns out to be gay. And i don't think that's the case. I do think that ..spending so much time and emotional energy on it, will eventually drag your sexuality a certain way. So that's why you see random, family values Republican preachers locked away in a motel with their barely-legal boy toys.
Also - am cuck. That Daily Beast article has been floating around a long time. It's shit. Most people with this fetish aren't "intellectuals". Most of them barely understand their own fetish well enough to even think about acting on it without tearing their relationshps, nevermind their own psyche's apart. Cuckoldry is literally the result of sexually manifested anxieties regarding jealousy and infidelity as that times to your worth and masculine identity. And successful non-monogamous relationship of any style, has to be able to handle jealousy in a positive manner. These two things are at odds when people try acting out this fetish. That's why you end up with cyclic bullshit like this:
https://www.salon.com/2013/09/13/i_dated_a_cuckold/
Nevermind the guys who can't handle the reality of what they think they want.
This is a better article on the subject: http://www.nerve.com/dispatches/ma/cuckold
This is a fairly decent text on the subject: https://www.amazon.com/Insatiable-Wives-Women-Stray-Love-ebook/dp/B0056A8A2Y
The fact this word has been appropriated by the alt-right and has become mainstream lingo mentioned on daily tv and the likes of everything from Rush Limbaugh to the Colbert Late Night Show, kinda sucks.
Edit: Wait wait wait, are you saying you are actually in love with your FWB? I mean ok, sure, it could be cuckolding if things have changed so are you saying it’s actually moved on from FWB now? That’s maybe a whole different topic. Are you wanting to get this relationship towards a real commitment? Maybe just not acknowledging it yourself? Or...she’s not ready? What’s the deal? I mean let’s sideline this cuckolding thing for now and address you falling in love with your FWB. That’s...kind of a big deal right?
I was going to limit my response to “I just don’t see it that way” but after writing this all out it’s simply objectively false to call what you’re doing cuckolding. It’s just mashing other individual fetishes based on pornographic tropes and calling it cuckolding. You might just as well have come from a protracted jerking session on pornhub just to post here.
Humiliation existed as a variation of BDSM long before the cuckolding fetish became popularized by pornography. So did denial and chastity. They also currently exist as wholly separate ways of playing for couples absent of any cuckolding dynamic. Voyerism is and has always been it’s own thing.
So, striping that all away as individual fetishes based on what you prefer, then how should anyone else view the relationship you described? Well, a friend with benefits is...a friend absent of the recognizable commitment in truly coupled arrangements...with benefits...meaning you enjoy sexual encounters without the commitment. So you’re living the Kardashian life of the sexual Olympics. Kudos. Slow clap.
The original source for the cuckolding fetish was a cheating wife meaning the couple was outwardly recognized as married. This changed a bit over time to allow the husband to know of his wife’s indiscretions if not fully aware or included in any way. This does not require anything else like chastity or humiliation.
Jeez, I could go on for an hour here. It’s better if you check out what most people consider the canonical source for what cuckolding is and how it actually works in real life. I’m basing what I’m saying on this author’s research, and, well, other verifiable sources like the Kinsey report and other recent papers on sexuality and non-monogamy. This one’s easily accessible to you...
https://www.amazon.com/Insatiable-Wives-Women-Stray-Love-ebook/dp/B0056A8A2Y
See:
https://www.amazon.com/Insatiable-Wives-Women-Stray-Love-ebook/dp/B0056A8A2Y
https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships-ebook/dp/B007679QTG/