Reddit reviews Open
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I'm gonna recommend this book:
http://www.amazon.com/Open-Love-Sex-Life-Marriage/dp/1580052754
It's about a married couple where the wife, Jenny (the writer of the book), has a "higher" sex drive than her husband and they open up their marriage, though her husband is less interested in finding other independent partners. It's a good read and it might give you some perspective on the dynamic.
You know how people say you should only try to quit smoking or lose weight if it's something you want to do for yourself, otherwise it won't take? Sure, you might be able to cut back for a while or drop a few pounds, until that super stressful day or holiday buffet comes along.
The reason "they" say that is simple: eventually, if your heart wasn't in it to begin with, you'll find a reason to go back to your old habits.
I'm all for broadening one's horizons and exploring new sides of yourself - and I firmly believe that not everyone who thinks they couldn't do it is right. However, "trying out" polyamory with so many barriers in your way from the start could be seriously harmful to your current relationship, future relationships, and your core self.
There absolutely ARE ways to "get over" almost all of that, but it is a long, arduous, often painful process. And the best way to start is with wanting to change - or at least explore the possibility of changing - those things about yourself which would prevent polyamory from being a positive influence on your life: possessive jealousy, competition, viewing love as a pie chart, potentially codependence, and any others not listed in your OP.
/u/alc6379 is correct: "Only problem with trying polyamory first is there's so much at stake..." IMO, you have to be not just curious what all the hoopla's about, you need to be honestly wanting to seek out polyamory for its own merits in your life, which means you have to think it has merit for you.
It's totally possible to go from "I could never do that" to "This is amazing, even if it isn't how I originally thought things would go", but that won't happen just because other people have made it work for them. Poly - like monogamy - isn't for everyone, and that's ok.
I would recommend picking up a few published books as primers and see how you feel after reading them: The Ethical Slut, Open, and Opening Up are some of the key introductory references most people crack open first.
Whatever you guys choose, I wish you the best of luck!
This is a good one. It's an autobiographical account of a woman discovering she needs to be open and working with her husband for him to be OK with that and make it happen. It has a lot of things people coming from a mono background can relate to.
Have you read any book about opening your marriage? I call it "renegotiating your wedding vows" because one person is unable or unwilling to help fill your sexual needs. This is my fav book and it gave me language I needed to convince my spouse though I did it in stages.
https://www.amazon.com/Open-Love-Sex-Life-Marriage/dp/1580052754/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1503036475&sr=8-1&keywords=open+marriage+book
Edited to fix word.