Reddit reviews The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness
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Probably not related, but there is a book by the same name:
https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Be-Disliked-Phenomenon-Happiness-ebook/dp/B078MDSV8T
It goes into detail about Adlerian Psychology and has changed my life. It helped me understand many of the things I told myself and many of my decisions were defense mechanisms (excuses) to prevent me from taking risks (growing). It helped me break that cycle. I would try to explain more but I had already been introduced to Adler in school and the textbooks never did it justice. This reddit comment couldn't do it justice either. The book itself is worth reading.
The psychology of Alfred Adler has been quite useful for me to keep going. More specifically this Japanese book: The Courage to Be Disliked. The book is written in an INTJ dialogue style. So it's easy to absorb.
Even more specifically the part about Contribution to the Common good. Essentially, focusing on helping others, someone, something. Just selflessly, truly help someone/something without expectation. It helps going past that 35yrs old-man without children peak where your physical capabilities, career opportunities, the world, etc. all seems to be going downhill.
Concretely. I picked a skill I was good at, found an audience that wanted to learn said skills, and started to teach them.
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I'm almost finished reading a new book on Adlerian psychology told in a very Zen way (teacher and student conversation) called The Courage To Be Disliked, and I am positive that r/nosurf, and you in particular, would find it very illuminating and helpful.
the courage to be disliked
A couple of book recommendations, from one ENFJ to another :0)
https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive-ebook/dp/B019MMUA8S
https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Be-Disliked-Phenomenon-Happiness-ebook/dp/B078MDSV8T/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1WUVIAOXN7Z3Z&keywords=the+courage+to+be+disliked&qid=1556202673&s=digital-text&sprefix=the+courage+to+be%2Cdigital-text%2C249&sr=1-1