Reddit reviews Trance-Formations: Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the Structure of Hypnosis

I've challenged redditors here and on many other subs with this : Name one teen rehab or corrective residential facility that has never had a serious reputation for, or history of abuse. No one can name one it seems.
If I am being asked to help, the best I can do, is unconventional and I do not expect everyone to approve or whatever but here goes.
I wandered randomly into meeting a high level hypnotist who tranced out artists and writers for a living, allegedly helping them with the creative flow or some such thing.
He put me in a trance without my desire or consent one day, and it spurred me on to study hypnosis, being fascinated that someone could do that.
There are more than a few schools/genres of hypnosis. 99% of them were designed to attempt to help people, by people looking to help people.
I ended up reading lots and lots about therapy, as many of the hypno superstars were also allegly great therapists.
I ended up helping myself a whole lot, just from studying proper therapy books, that aren't some pop star new age trendy drivel. It can be hard to tell what to read. Where should one look?
Type hypnosis into an amazon books search. Sort by rating. Some of these books are ex$pen$ive.
Neuro Linguistic Programming is a deep school of trance induction.
Put that into google and sort by rating.
Type it into youtube. I see 65,000 videos when I sort by rating.
If you have a close friend, invite them into your study project, or even if not a close friend, someone you feel is truly good hearted and someone you can trust. Many books suggest finding a partner to go back and forth with. I've had hypnosis fights with the guy I know who told me about some books.
Don't trip out on trying to memorize or keep all the details of everything you read. Just get a few books and leave them around. Just casually browse that stuff if you don't feel like tackling a whole book at once and trying to ''learn'' it all. It;s a skill, like playing pool, or rock climbing. Just dabble around different books casually. I am sure that those two will be a great start.
If you want therapy in your life, getting to know what kinds there are out there is a good start. Many of the books are quite entertaining and fun, for clinical psychology books. The two I linked will make you laugh.
I think everyone should study hypnosis in elementary school, so it is more easily recognized when authorities, the media, and schools use it on people.
You start seeing and hearing politicians in a whole new way.
It tended to be invented for good, but is used to do bad things, as this sub knows very well. Studying and using what you read can help unravel and reframe experiences that can use some clarity and some that could use some fuzziness. If you want to be a great therapist to yourself,and want top take it seriously, you can do it if you choose to. Read enough books, and bet you can get hired as a counselor somewhere, when you tell them what you've read.
You'll be more helpful to yourself and to your friends and strangers if you just want to dabble.

I'll just add an echo for Mind Play - A Guide to Erotic Hypnois by Mark Wiseman

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There are a number of erotic hypnosis groups on Fetlife. Which is a route to finding events near you and other people doing hypnosis.

For books I also like to recommend:

Monsters and Magical Sticks. There's no such thing as Hypnosis by Steven Heller

Trance-Formations Neuro Lingustic Programming and the Structure of Hypnosis by Richard Bandler & John Grinder

Specifically the Exercises I, II and III :)

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Before Mind Play came along and became the Defacto community standard this was my go to recommendation:

Look Into my Eyes by Peter Masters

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Your wife will know you are both new at this. One common bit of advice is to "Be The Hypnotist". Which is to say have absolute confidence that what you are doing will work.

The moment you have success - and with a willing partner like this there is no reason you won't - it gets easier to build on that.

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Humans have a habit of rationalizing. Which means afterwards they say "I was just playing along" or "I didn't feel hypnotised", which can be one of the hardest parts to overcome. Having some experience and being pretty damn sure they were hypnotised it got easier after convincing them they were.

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There are set pieces out there that utilise an induction and the 'convincers'.

In the UK Anthony Jacquin or Jonathan Chase present similar training material for Street Magic.

Here's there set piece.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1i90iXhELM0&index=9&list=PLLOptAK72kDrJAOkMD-sNKBTfYs0WNot5

Here's there inductions and if I got the link right there should be a whole series in the playlist.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x85prwKYgOQ&index=1&list=PLLOptAK72kDrJAOkMD-sNKBTfYs0WNot5

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(If you want to look into that more then "Reality Is Plastic" by Anthony Jacquin )

But that's not erotic or in the bedroom. His style is chatty and sharp and he might have picked the volunteers from the audience.

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So how do you do this in the bedroom?

It wouldn't hurt to "do a roleplay". In which she imagines she is the best hypnotic subject ever and for want of a better explanation, plays along.

It can be that simple.

Before, During and After try and get your partner to talk about her experience.

Remember the way she describes things - because if you use similar language it will work better.

(That's what the exercises in Trance Formations cover).

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On the subject of audio files. It may help you a great deal to study how others talk. Hypnotists have 'a voice'.

You can also listen to them without going into Hypnosis and you can skip through parts.

May a few minutes of induction and then to half-way through to get to the 'content'.

Your wife may listen to a few files and just find them very erotic - in which case you can use the suggestions that they are using as material to hone in on what she likes to hear.

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http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0911226230?pc_redir=1405956829&robot_redir=1

OK. Regardless of what you choose to do with it, I want you to be clear that you're engaging in hypnosis. Hypnosis without all the hard, complicated, induction bits, but hypnosis none the less. You need to be VERY careful about what you say and how you say it.

In particular, the unconscious mind doesn't really understand negatives at all, and will interpret just about anything as a command. So if you say "Now you don't have to want a dog anymore when you're awake!", this will be taken as a command to want a dog when she's awake.

As long as you stick to describing scenes, it's probably not a big deal, but something you need to be aware of none the less.

It would probably be an excellent idea to pick up a good book on hypnotherapy. I'm personally fond of http://www.amazon.com/Trance-Formations-Neuro-Linguistic-Programming-Structure-Hypnosis/dp/0911226230 , but that's mostly because it's the one I read first. http://www.amazon.com/Handbook-Hypnotic-Suggestions-Metaphors-Corydon/dp/039370095X looks like it might be a good choice in this particular case (since the induction is already done for you), although not for beginners. Amazon has various suggestions off of those that might also do well.

-Robin