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I’m so, so sorry. Sometimes horrible, random things happen and it just sucks and breaks your heart. It WILL get better over time, but You have to allow yourself to process this and to grieve, and you also have to give yourself permission to forgive the entire situation. Forgive yourself if you need to, forgive your pup for jumping if you need to, forgive the driver who hit your pup, forgive God, forgive life. Forgive it all. Hold your hands over your heart and repeat “I forgive (myself, pup, driver, god, life) and wish (myself, pup, driver, god, life) love, happiness and peace”. Do this a lot, until it is real for you. Forgiveness is the key to allowing yourself to let go of the pain and trauma of the situation, and to find peace and to remember your dog with love and happy memories. I also recommend the book Going Home. It’s a beautiful tribute to pets who had to leave us (in whatever way they do), and to us who are missing them and hurting. A Very moving and healing book.

https://www.amazon.com/Going-Home-Finding-Peace-When/dp/0345502701/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1537329274&sr=8-1&keywords=going+home+finding+peace+when+pets+die&dpID=51q8xUTVRdL&preST=_SY344_BO1,204,203,200QL70&dpSrc=srch

I know you’re hurting right now. Consider that your sweet dog is around you right now, and will stay until you’re okay again. Talk to him, he’ll hear you. If you’re open to it, you’ll see the signs. He loves you. He knows how much you love him and he wants you to be happy again. That’s just how dogs are 😊. Take good care of yourself, this too shall pass.

Edit: had to change all the “she’s” to “he’s”.

Hey, so sorry for your situation. I went through something similar in July. I wrote a LONG post as part of my healing. You may find it helpful. https://www.reddit.com/r/Petloss/comments/92k19h/sharing_my_peace_after_a_week_of_losses/Check the links at the bottom, too, there are some great resources. If you want a guide to help with grief, this is really good: https://www.amazon.com/Grief-Recovery-Handbook-Anniversary-Expanded/dp/0061686077/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1536347988&sr=8-1&keywords=the+grief+recovery+handbook+20th+anniversary+expanded+edition. Also, I found it really comforting to post a memorial on "mydogjustdied.org" when I was ready, which was about a month after he passed. https://mydogjustdied.org/post/177317363990/mr-chango-the-sweetest-dog-ever-you-were-loved Hope this helps. Hugs.

Cats take care of themselves quite well. They communicate a lot through body language. They need a place to scratch their claws and mine loved to chase toys. I recommend this book https://www.amazon.co.uk/Catwatching-Essential-Guide-Cat-Behaviour/dp/0091883113 it helped me understand my cats better. Post some photos when you have them!!!

So sorry for your loss. Having been through a few losses, what you're feeling seems normal--it completely sucks, but it's to be expected suddenly losing your best friend. Here's a very helpful guide to accept and work through it: https://www.amazon.com/Grief-Recovery-Handbook-Anniversary-Expanded/dp/0061686077

So sorry to hear about your kitten. There are a couple of books that you could probably find at your library that might help to explain it to him and help him deal with the grief:

• When a Pet Dies by Mr. Rogers.
  
• The Fall of Freddie the Leaf by Leo Buscaglia.
  
  The Fall of Freddie the Leaf is also available as a series of youtube videos, the first of which I linked. Hope these help.

When you first lose a pet/when will it start getting better
https://wokesloth.com/old-man-advice-about-dealing-with-death-anthony-bourdain-kate-spade/noah/

Grief recovery book
https://www.amazon.com/Grief-Recovery-Handbook-Anniversary-Expanded/dp/0061686077

Helping children with petloss
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/06/08/well/family/when-a-pet-dies-helping-children-through-the-worst-day-of-their-lives.html

Memorial ideas
https://www.thehonestkitchen.com/blog/interview-coleen-ellis-dealing-pet-loss-mourning/

Stages of Grief
https://www.thehonestkitchen.com/blog/pet-loss-the-5-stages-of-grief/

Petloss links (membership costs money, but they have good resources for non members)
https://www.aplb.org/

Petloss experience
http://drandyroark.com/5-lessons-learned-losing-pet/

It looks like the whole site is down, which is a shame. Maybe it's just a temporary thing. The person who maintains that site also wrote this book.

Two books stand head and shoulders above all others in helping me deal with the intense grief and mourning after the death of one dog in May of last year, then another in June of this year.

Heart Dog: Surviving the loss of your canine soul mate

It's OK that you're not OK - this one is about dealing with grieving the loss of a spouse, partner, friend, but I still found the advice to be relevant to me.