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Nope.
There's an excellent book that discusses this in the context of the famous Marshmallow experiment.
What they found when replicating that experiment in different forms was that the subjects able to resist temptation were actually doing different things -- such as looking away from the temptation, or finding something else to occupy their mind. That is, they often had an existing set of skills that they were deploying to resist temptation, rather than the myth of an inborn "pure willpower" trait.
Um, I have 2 pieces of advice for you. The first one was given to me by a doctor. They said this is the simplest way to lose weight. Every time you eat, fill half your plate with produce (veggies or fruit) and eat that first. It doesn't matter what you put on the other side of your plate, do this and you will lose weight. I do a lot more snacking/grazing than full meals so i interpreted this as "whatever you want to eat, easy the same mass in produce first." Wanted some cookies? Eat an apple or banana first. Want some trail mix, start with a big spinach salad. Want a mocha? Better have a big cup of veggie soup first. I started doing it and lost about 20 lbs. With no exercise.
The second piece of advice is about motivation. For many of us, motivation is like a unicorn - impossible to find, and the mysterious magical answer. But there are ways to hack your brain and learn how to change habits without motivation. I highly recommend studying this book: https://www.amazon.com/Change-Anything-Science-Personal-Success/dp/0446573906. It has excellent suggestions.
I really liked Change Anything. It has a lot of useful science behind it for ways to change your life. Of course, I haven't followed it long-term, but it was interesting.
http://www.amazon.com/Change-Anything-Science-Personal-Success/dp/0446573906
You have absolutely no need to help facilitate his suicide.
If I was him, I'd be depressed being around myself.
I know it's hard to see when you've been immersed in his whole scenario for so long, but You don't need to agree with or have to accommodate all his excuses about everything.
I can see why you'd be fascinated by the prospect of helping him solve his life. Or something - anything - any part of his situation. I would be too if I had your history - if someone had similarities to me I'd want to dive in and try to solve the problems, hoping he'd be inspired by someone "who's been there".
He's looping through several vicious circles - with depression, incompetence, belief in his incompetence, making errors, depressed about results of errors, confirming incompetence, being some of the points on the circles.
But his problems are taking root in your life, and even taking over, to the point his crazy vicious circles are sounding like sense to you.
Your goal is to find an "exit point" in one of the vicious circles. Some point where one could do "B" instead of "A", and get a slightly better result.
Good Luck
One time I have cut off a hand. And, some time back I plucked out an eye.
[Not my own. Sheesh...]
Seriously, if doing that works for you, great. But for myself, I like doing little things that change the environment, that help assist me in choosing holiness.
For example, if I know a certain movie is going to lead me to specific thoughts, I tend to avoid it, even if the reviews are positive. Or, I force myself to look away.
If a certain drive has me tempted to go into an adult bookstore, and I am prone to fall, I go an alternate route.
There is a very good secular book that I've read in the past, that has assisted me very well in stopping many different bad habits. It's called Change Anything, and it has a very sound approach to changing one's environment to help assist people to naturally be prone to doing hard things for them. I highly recommend it, if you're okay with it. Amazon.