Best personal success books according to redditors

We found 3,179 Reddit comments discussing the best personal success books. We ranked the 651 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.

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u/this_guy83 · 486 pointsr/personalfinance

This is a great way to think about major purchases. It's one of the core concepts in Your Money or Your Life. There's even an extension for Google Chrome that will change any prices on a website to the amount of time you'll have to work to earn that much.

u/Thooorin · 346 pointsr/leagueoflegends

Outcome-independence is an extremely valuable concept to understand if you seek to improve your situation in any area of life. The goal should be to perform an action with optimal technique, success will be a long-term bi-product of that approach.

There's a good, and very short, book on this topic called "The Inner Game of Tennis", by Timothy Gallwey. You don't need any interest in tennis, it's more about the mental aspect of improving and competing.

u/tommy2014015 · 253 pointsr/SubredditDrama

As a corollary Donald J. Trump once wrote a book without having a brain. It's exhausting, but it can be done.

u/ninjafirepants · 177 pointsr/personalfinance

This is basically the thesis of Your Money or Your Life, which I'm currently reading.

I saw your comment in the original thread, and I'm glad you made a separate post to get it more attention. I don't know if this is something you realized on your own, or if you got it from this book or another, but it really doesn't matter.

Thinking of money in this way has given me more motivation to save than I had before, which should help me reach my goals sooner.

Again, thanks for sharing this viewpoint. Hopefully it helps another see the light.

u/RedditHoss · 174 pointsr/hmmm
u/iRayneMoon · 123 pointsr/changemyview

Going to attempt to fit this in one post...

1.) What are some fallacies to look out for?

List: Ad Hominem, Argument from ignorance, Argument from authority, Argument from final consequences, Appeal to Tradition, Overgeneralization, Begging the question, Correlation does not imply causation, False analogy, False dichotomy, Slippery-Slope, Straw man, Moving the Goalpost

2.) How do you recognize you are running around in circles?

Person A presents an argument, and Person B responds with a counter argument. Person A then uses either a Logical Fallacy or doesn't address any point Person B has made. If you try to get back on track, and Person A refuses to get back on topic, then you might be talking in circles.

You may simply have to leave the discussion if the other person refuses to address any point you've made.

3.) How do you recognize there is a flaw in your own premise?

See the list of Logical Fallacies, check to see if you have adequately addressed the argument at hand, and remember to not become too overly aggressive. Instead of posting immediately, check your own post and see if you can predict any counter arguments. Clean up your own argument for clarity, get rid of loopholes, and simply strengthen your point.

4.) How do you admit that you made a mistake?

If a person points it out, thank them for catching the mistake, apologize, and amend your argument accordingly.

Do not become defensive! Pride and ego have no place in an honest discussion. If you are more concerned with being right than having an open discussion where everyone learns, then you are hurting yourself and the discussion. Please, for the sake of everyone involved, come into all debates with a super humble attitude!

5.) How do you recognize when you have used a fallacy?

Check the list of Logical Fallacies, and become familiar with all fallacies. You just have to learn them, be aware that they exist, and reread before posting. If you find you've posted an argument with a fallacy, edit, declare the edit at the bottom, and say something like, "Amended argument issues".

6.) What are some common misunderstandings you see?

Very open question, but here are a few...

These aren't suppose to be arguments, which is based purely on emotion, but instead discussions. We're debating and discussing topics, but we aren't here to argue.

If you need clarification from the original poster, then ask for it instead of simply debating from miscommunication.

7.) What are some fallacies that are more grey than black or white (in your opinion)?

No True Scotsman: "The term was coined by Antony Flew, who gave an example of a Scotsman who sees a newspaper article about a series of sex crimes taking place in Brighton, and responds that "no Scotsman would do such a thing". When later confronted with evidence of another Scotsman doing even worse acts, his response is that "no true Scotsman would do such a thing", thus disavowing membership in the group "Scotsman" to the criminal on the basis that the commission of the crime is evidence for not being a Scotsman. However, this is a fallacy as there is nothing in the definition of "Scotsman" which makes such acts impossible. The term "No True Scotsman" has since expanded to refer to anyone who attempts to disown or distance themselves from wayward members of a group by excluding them from it. "

No True Scotsman is a Logical Fallacy, but a clarification exists. If I were debating religion with a Christian, I point out bad things that extremists do, and the Christian says, "I acknowledge they exist, but they're not the majority." That is not No True Scotsman. They acknowledged that those Christians exist, but are clarifying the statement by saying they are not the majority.

Tone Argument: "The tone argument is a form of derailment, or a red herring, because the tone of a statement is independent of the content of the statement in question, and calling attention to it distracts from the issue at hand. Drawing attention to the tone rather than content of a statement can allow other parties to avoid engaging with sound arguments presented in that statement, thus undermining the original party's attempt to communicate and effectively shutting them down."

A clarification can be made though. Every discussion of tone is not a tone argument. If you are being uncivil, using personal attacks, and generally making an argument so hostile and toxic that the other person has to leave, then you haven't won. If you act awful to people, then when they call you on it don't yell "Tone Argument! I win!". No, you didn't "win", you just were rude to a person before they decided to leave.

8.) How do you continue to maintain a civil discussion when name calling starts?

Calmly say, "I do not appreciate being talked to that way. We can have a discussion without going to personal attacks." If they continue you may want to message the moderators, or simply leave the discussion. If they aren't interested in a real discussion or debate, then don't waste your time.

9.) Is there an appropriate time to downvote?

In regards to /r/ChangeMyView, do not downvote for disagreement. Downvote for not adding to the conversation. If they have broken a rule message the mods, don't downvote.

10.) What are some of your pet peeves?

Please check your post before posting. Be clear, to the point, and don't assume your audience can read your mind. You have to explain yourself well, but with the fewest words possible.

If someone has made a great argument or post, please upvote them so we reward good skills!

11.) What is your biggest mistake in argumentation?

I have used logical fallacies before. Just admit it, amend your argument, and move on.

The biggest mistake is I have to be careful about topics I am emotionally involved in. Humans are emotional creatures, so it's easy to be overly emotional. I just have to take a deep breath, if I need to I'll take a bit of a break, and then come back. Don't let it get to you, and just remember you are responsible for the civility of the discussion as well.

12.) How can your argumentation be improved?

Avoid fallacies, watch debates on Youtube, or research a topic some before posting. Build up points and anticipate the counterpoints to your argument. Look through some of the best posts on /r/ChangeMyView and see common techniques used.

13.) How do you find common ground so argumentation can take place?

Treating the other person as a thinking, feeling human being. It creates common ground when you treat everyone involved as a person. If the other person makes a good point, acknowledge it and say you'll think about it. Treat the discussion as a sharing of information and ideas. If they change your view in some way though, then obviously award a Delta.

14.) What are some topics to formally study to better your experience?

That's complicated. School and college obviously always are helpful. The book Thank You for Arguing: What Aristotle, Lincoln, and Homer Simpson Can Teach Us About the Art of Persuasion is a great book that I've lectured with.

15.) What are some concepts that are important to grasp?

The other person is a person, treat them as such. Base your argument around actual counterarguments, not fallacies. Don't take discussions personally, and likewise don't make them personal.

16.) What are some non intuitive logical results?

None I can think of. May edit later.

17.) How do you end a debate that you have recognized is going nowhere?

"Thank you for the discussion, but I feel we are talking past each other. I think this discussion has run its course, so I should leave." Just say something like that and leave.

u/shaun-m · 106 pointsr/Entrepreneur

Not sure if it's a cultural thing between the US and the UK or just society evolving now we have social media and stuff but I recently reread How to win friends and influence people and though it was massively overrated. Same goes for The 7 habbits of highly effective people.

Anyway, heres my list of books and why:-


Excellent book in my opinion. Based on variations of the 10,000-hour rule with plenty of examples. Also touches on how the unknown habits and circumstance of someone can lead to outstanding abilities.

Zero To One

The first book that I couldn't put down until I completed it. Picked a fair few things up from it as well as a bunch of things I hope to move forward within the future with startups.

The 33 Strategies of War

Not a business book but definitely my style if you take the examples and strategies and turn them into business. This is the second book I have not been able to put down once picking it up.

The E-Myth Revisited

Although I had a decent understanding of how to allocate duties to people depending on their job role this helped me better understand it as well as the importance of doing it.


Another book I loved, just introduced me to a bunch of new concepts with a fair few I hope to use in the future.

Black Box Thinking

Coming from and engineering background I was already used to being ok with my failures provided I was learning from them but this book is based around how different industries treat failure and how it is important to accept it and grow from it.

Millionaire Fastlane

I feel this is an excellent book for reality checks and getting people into a better mindset of what to expect and the amount of work required. It also explains a few common misconceptions of the get rich slow style methods where you may end up rich but you will be 60 years old or more.

I update this post with all of the books I have read with a rating but here are my top picks.

u/mrteapoon · 73 pointsr/sysadmin

Honestly, when you go in for "the big talk" just keep your value and importance to your company pinned on your chest. It's a lot harder to let go of someone when they know just how much will have to be done once you're gone.

Doesn't necessarily help after the fact, but you might get some use out of the 48 Laws of Power. Great book by Robert Greene that breaks down some crucial social/professional skills that often go overlooked. I read it for the first time when I was 16 and it really changed the way I approach work relationships as a whole. It's not some kind of self help guru silliness, but rather a collection of historical instances where a small shortcoming lead to the demise of empires, businesses, and even just individual people. Why not learn from the mistakes of generals, kings, moguls, etc? :)

Law 1: Never Outshine the Master
>Always make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to please or impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite – inspire fear and insecurity. Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.

u/PuglyTaco · 73 pointsr/EngineeringStudents

How is this the top comment? He offers poor advice on grades and no advice on OP's question.

A 65 and 73 are likely equivalent to a C and C+ in your average curved course. Last time I checked, top companies have strict cut offs of at least a 3.0, and for good reason.

> I don't understand what the problem is.

It's twofold. The problem is he doesn't understand the material enough to apply his knowledge effectively. The problem is also he has shitty grades, which equals less job prospects.

>Nobody grades you in the real world, bud.

Yes, because instead of grades you get a finished product. And a 65 on a work project is the equivalent of screwing up a stress/strain analysis. And when you fuck up people die.

OP-you're likely not studying efficiently and/or effectively. Look at Cal Newport's blog and books. He has some great advice on how to study well. You may also want to look into some relaxation exercises as you seem to get very anxious. At the very least you should be doing practice problems until it's practically second nature.

u/NewlyIndependent · 69 pointsr/IWantToLearn

The best route is to take up a course on Logic.

Study introductory predicate logic. Break statements into predicates - identify their antecedent and consequent. Identify the differences between a predicate's negation, inverse, converse, and contrapositive; more importantly, how they can be used to derive logical Truth. Familiarize yourself with Gödel's completeness theorem.

Next, learn to identify a fallacy; study up on logical fallacies.

Cognitive Biases are the next most important step. Being aware of your own cognitive biases will help you identify when your analyses are being skewed.

Study everything about everything. More information about your domain of concern will granter you further insight for analysis.

Lastly, take care of yourself. Get lots of sleep, eat healthy, and exercise; your judgement will be impaired if you don't.

Some books to help:

u/SheilaNOOOO · 59 pointsr/TwoXChromosomes

For a long time, I didn't think of myself as a feminist. I thought of myself as utilitarian. I wanted people to be equal in the realm of opportunities.

I did a lot of things that lead to me being a "feminist." Honestly, part of it was reddit. I was so tired of seeing people be sexist because it's the status quo.

But I did a lot of other things, too. I lived abroad. I read a lot of books. I took some sociology classes. I learned about implicit bias, institutional sexism, and gender norms.

It made me realize that a lot of the problems I've brushed off are real problems. Gender norms hurt both sides. Men being told to "man up" and not to "throw like a girl" as hurtful. Men being told they should enjoy it when coerced into sex is fucking stupid. To me, as long as we're defined by the gender roles we're "supposed" to play, we will never live up to the true strength of our community or economy. Like any team, we're only at our best when we work together.

Also, no matter the stance you decide on for feminist, I really suggest reading Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg, who talks about why "feminism" is the new "F-word." I think she lays out a very pragmatic view to both feminism and women in the workplace. The big section on Feminism starts on page 141. (Also, if you're thinking about going into a career, the book is probably my top recommendation to new college grads.)

u/stackofbricks · 46 pointsr/Stoicism

Instead of giving you advice, I have the perfect book recommendation that will come pretty close to directly answering your question. I read this years ago, but only just found it again and am giving it another read through.

The book is called 'So good they can't ignore you: why skills trump passion in the quest for work you love' by Cal Newport.

The author actually has a computer science degree funnily enough. In it he uses empirical evidence to argue that the common advice of 'follow your passion' is flawed and unrealistic, and generally bad advice. After arguing that he puts forward his arguments about what the best course of action is if you discount the passion hypothesis. Its full of examples of people he interviewed who took different approaches to end up doing what they love, why some failed at it and why some didn't. I really can't recommend this book more highly actually, I think it will be perfect for you.

Here is the amazon link

u/seventeenninetytwo · 41 pointsr/NoStupidQuestions

Your dream life is 100% possible today. You can get remote gigs as a programmer making 6 figures working 5 hours a day if you have the aptitude for it. So if you're fine making $50k per year (which is more than enough for van life), you could work like 15-20 hours per week doing consulting work over a satellite internet connection from your van. And then take all the rest of that time and live your life. :) But you've got to work to get there because it requires lots of technical expertise in something.

These books have good generic advice for getting there if you're interested. They're by a professor who got into a tenured position while working normal hours (most people on tenure tracks work INSANE hours), so he knows what he's talking about.

u/techcontroversy · 39 pointsr/computerscience

Home Assistants, Self-Driving Cars, Virtual Reality, Machine Learning, Natural Language Processing, Big Data, Drones, 3D Printing, Blockchain, Internet of Things, Cloud Computing, NoSQL, the Hadoop ecosystem ? What about following tech news portals so that you can see that for yourself ?

As a student, you are better off making sure that you know the basics and can prove that you are able to learn quickly. There is still so much you can do also with "established" technlogies. The most important thing is to know yourself first, because there are so many things you can pick and you have to find out where your main interests lie.

What color is your parachute?

Edit: added Blockchain, IOT, Cloud Computing, NoSQL, Hadoop. Hard to say what is "new" and what isn't.

u/cyanocobalamin · 36 pointsr/AskWomen

"Your Money Or Your Life" was the book that started the voluntary simplicity movement. Two New York financiers figured out that it cost them money ( suits, dry cleaning, transportation, high rents ) to work. They figured out what they really valued doing with their time and how much money they would need to live without working and do those things. They saved up a wad of cash, quit their jobs, lived life on the cheap, but happily.

It isn't for everyone, but I think this book is a must read for everyone.

I think of it as a "philosophy of money for modern Americans"

u/Alephone1 · 34 pointsr/MGTOW

Dude, hate to break it, but high school never ends.

Wait 'till you get in the workplace.

But MGTOW gives you power.

Also read 48 Laws of Power. Lots of good advice.

u/Secretsforsale · 33 pointsr/TopMindsOfReddit

4.5 stars.

Stop acting the victim, because people can easily look up that you are lying.

Edit: Honestly, 4.5 stars is astonishing to me. I feel like they aren't removing enough reviews, but I guess you are okay with that.

u/cosm0ctopus · 32 pointsr/Parenting

Former dog trainer here. I respect that you're taking your dog through training classes and involving your son in the process, that's really important.

I grew up in the age when the 'alpha roll' was a totally legitimate tactic to ensure 'dominance' over the dog and get compliance. However, times have changed, and it turns out the alpha/beta thing is a complete myth. What works a lot better is building trust and using positive reinforcement. I'm wondering if that's where your son is getting this idea of being physical with the dog to establish dominance.

I would suggest you find a trainer that deals with balanced approach that deals with operant conditioning. I would suggest looking into Karen Pryor's work, especially her book Don't Shoot the Dog. I also highly recommend the book How to Be Your Dog's Best Friend by the Monks of New Skete.

Positive reinforcement works on kids (and people in general, and most other animals including fish!) - When you see your son doing the behavior you like to see with the dog, praise him in the moment, on the spot. Don't Shoot the Dog will cover this, by the way. Karen Pryor uses a lot of clicker training in her work, and I have had great success in using it to jump-start the positive association with treats/praise/play (whatever motivates), and pretty soon I can phase the clicker out and save it for when we move on to advanced practices or new skills.

If this were my kid, I'd ask, "Would you want to do thinks I asked you to do if I kicked you in the head and was mean to you? Would you be more willing to do the right thing if I was kind?" He may need to have the situation reframed for him to really understand the empathy that goes in to raising a dog. If you were on an alien planet and only understood 1/10th of what your new overlords were saying, wouldn't that be kind of scary, and even make you mad? Well, when dogs get scared and angry, they bite. When a dog bites a person, the dog goes away. It's up to us as people to get dogs to trust us so they don't get angry or scared.

I'm not saying your dog would ever bite your kid, so I hope you don't think that's what I'm insinuating will come from this. I have a wonderful 11 year old lab mix who, by all accounts is a fantastic and well-behaved dude. He's still a dog though, and as patient as he is, his patience has limits and we have to respect his boundaries too. My kid's only 10 months, and everyone seems to think that she'll be riding our lab like a pony, and I correct them every time.

I'd be happy to clarify any information or answer questions if you like!

u/modelmonster · 30 pointsr/simpleliving

I think you might be viewing all work as the rat race, which isn't correct. The people who say 'this is just being a grown-up, deal with it' are making the same mistake. It's possible to set up your life to avoid this by finding enjoyable work and having low enough expenses that you can take risky or low-paid options. So:

Develop valuable skills that you enjoy using You need skills that you can exchange for things you need or care about such as money, schedule flexibility, short hours, or interesting work. You say you are not good at many things. You'll need to get good at at least one thing that other people will pay you for. The book So good they can't ignore you is the best resource on this topic. It's about building a satisfying career by developing valuable skills. Also check out this series of blog posts from the author.

Reduce your costs If you can avoid big expenses that other people spend on, then you have a lot more flexibility to pursue career options that are more enjoyable but are risky or low income. For example, move to a cheaper region of the world, live on a sofa, live in a van, don't have a car, don't have a partner who cares a lot about domestic comfort. I'm not sure what the best online resources are for this, but try googling things like: minimalism, frugal, early retirement, mrmoneymustache, vanlife, and digital nomad.

u/Remixer96 · 24 pointsr/getdisciplined

It sounds like fix #1 is more sleep.

Lame as it may sound, 8 hours of sleep is hugely different than 3 or even 5. Set the alarm for turning off the computer and just do it man. I'm sure there are auto-shutoff functions, but I say turn the computer off yourself. It's a sign of your own commitment to change. You can push one button to start a better life.

I find everything else seems easier if I get enough sleep. Without it, stuff seems difficult and unimportant and I drift back into a bad mindset. It took me a long time to recognize that those thoughts were a lie... just a lack of sleep in disguise.

From there, I'd probably recommend a simple calendar+task list system like Cal Newport recommends in the Straight A Student, though others like David Allen's more detailed Getting Things Done methodology.

But start with getting good sleep. Commit to it for a week and see how it goes.

u/justavault · 23 pointsr/rocketbeans

Rework - lies das Buch mal.

Hat uns bei der zweiten Gründung enorm geholfen.

u/DrexFactor · 22 pointsr/poi

If you're really truly interested in mastering this hobby and applying yourself to learning it, here's what I would recommend:

  1. Define short-term goals. Do you want to learn A, B, and C tricks? Do you want to work on body movement and dance? If you're having a hard time defining this for yourself, look to the spinners you respect and try to figure out what it is about their style you admire and would like to make a part of your own.

  2. Schedule a regular practice. Make an appointment with yourself that you would keep just like an appointment at work. Remember: this is something you're doing for you? Who is more important to keep your promises to in your life than yourself? Doing this will also help keep you from the dreaded "I can't find time to practice" conundrum so many of us wind up in...make times for the things that are important to you.

  3. Create a regular 20-30 minute warmup ritual before you practice. This could be your meditation or a dance warmup, a series of stretches, etc. Pick a piece of music you'll listen to whenever you sit down to do this or have a particular scent of incense you put on. For the spiritual out there, this ritual will help prepare you for the work you're about to do and focus your mind on the task at hand. For the scientific folk out there, this is classical conditioning: you're setting triggers to put your mind into a state of focus and eliminating outside distractions.

  4. Structure your practice around your goals. Want to integrate gunslingers into your flow? Try for one week to get ten spirals and ten meteor weaves every single day, then next week up the ante and practice the transitions between a flower and these moves ten times. Want to work on your dance/flow? Set aside 10-20 minutes to just spin to music and explore the space around you. Some days you'll be on and make lots of progress and some days it'll feel like you're backsliding or hitting your head against the wall. Both are important to the learning process.

  5. Define your overarching goals. What is it you want to do with poi? Do you want to have a fun physical hobby, perform with it, get into the tech world, etc? Figuring out what attracts you to the art will help you focus your energies on practicing those skills that are most in line with what you enjoy. Also be prepared that you may discover something in the course of your practice and experience that changes this dramatically. Reevaluate it every 4-6 months or so.

  6. Learn to love the plateau. We love getting new tricks. We love the excitement of novelty--and it's really bad for us. It teaches us to value the temporary over building in the long-term. Mastery is a lifelong journey where the goal becomes subsumed more and more by the experience of getting there as time goes on. Plateaus are important because they allow you to refine the things you've just learned and polish them into a more beautiful form. It is inevitable that you will spend the majority of your time in the flow arts on a plateau of some sort or another, so the more you make your peace with it early, the easier that journey will become.

  7. Become comfortable with solo practice. All the research we have on mastering skills at this point indicates that it takes thousands of hours of deliberate solo practice to become a virtuoso at a given skill. Spinning with people is fun and you will learn new things, but the majority of the progress you'll make will be on your own. This is harder for some people to adapt to than others, but it is an essential part of the journey (unless, of course, your goal is to become a virtuoso at partner poi ;)

  8. If possible, find a good teacher/coach. A good teacher will push you when you need to be pushed, challenge you in ways you never thought possible, and guide you to becoming the best possible poi spinner that you can become. Sadly, this tends to be a luxury as good teachers in the flow arts world are extremely hard to find, but if you're able to find a good one make every use of their services.

    Good luck with your journey! It's been one of the greatest I've embarked on in my adult life :)

    Here are some books I would recommend on the topic:

    Mastery by George Leonard (talks a lot about mindset and learning to love the plateau)

    Talent is Overrated by Geoffrey Colvin (gives a lot of pointers when it comes to deliberate practice)

    So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport (lots of counterintuitive but useful info on developing skills)

    The Talent Code by Daniel Coyle (lots of great info about what to look for in a good coach/teacher)
u/squidiron · 19 pointsr/TheRedPill

This is basically the point of So Good They Can't Ignore you. An MIT Comp Sci PhD researched and interviewed a bunch of folks to figure out how people have a good career. His conclusion was to get really good at something, and you will become passionate about it (he actually calls "following your passion" a trap).

edit: fixed link

u/thanksbastards · 19 pointsr/philadelphia

Turn off the computer

Turn off the tv

Read a book

u/TjPshine · 18 pointsr/changemyview

>he called Mexicans rapists

No he didn't. He said that Mexicans illegally crossing the border are rapists, referencing an Amnesty International study that said 80% of women crossing that border are raped.
Source: The direct quote you're attempting to talk about here
The amnesty study here, it's HuffPo but there are tons of other sources, including Fusion and Amnesty themselves.

So, that will be our first point, and also we will take a brief chalkmark on the 'media is misrepresenting/quoting Trump board.

>Judge Curiel was not qualified to do his job.

Yes, he did. As I'm sure you're aware, Judges, Police Officers, Doctors, and many other tradesmen are asked to remain impartial, and even at times removed from specific jobs because it is too personal for them.
While this is a Canadian Source, here is the Canadian Superior Courts Judges Association commenting on a Judges impartiality, I think we can agree the US courts probably hold to a similar standard?

Now, is the Trump case too personal for Curiel?
You and me, we both feel - currently at least - that it is probably not the case.
However, We are also both aware of the dreadful way the media has been twisting Trump to be against Mexico/ans. I showed you one point from it just now, and if you continue to look up Trump Mexican quotes you will find a lot of misrepresentation. And this is present in other subjects as well, as I am sure we will reach.
Is it not possible that Curiel is reading Trump the way anti-Trump people are? Reading journalism (which is always biased) that misrepresents rather than going to an actual source? (Video clips, interviews, etc).
I'm not suggesting here that Curiel did not do his job and study the school/listen, but that he may not have looked into who is making the complaint, and let his subconcious mind which has been absorbing all this "Trump is anti-Mexico/anti-immigrant" news and let it play in the decision, even if it wasn't a big part.

Now, back to the question, is he qualified to do his job (and by this, we mean this job. Not "being a judge"). Probably. But the court works by making objections.
You don't let an unfavourable answer go. Objections exist for a reason, and a lot of time they are used for show, to put ideas in the heads of the juries. Objecting to absolute facts, even thought you know you will be overruled.
Trump may believe that he is going to lose this. But he can't admit that. He has to place the objection, regardless of his belief in it. And this is all ignoring the fact that yeah, Maybe Curiel is largely affected by the way Trump is portrayed and made this a personal vendetta. If you'd like, we can speak more on why people of colour in positions of power react much stronger to immigrant laws and things of the like. But for now, it is enough that we just highlight that we cannot read Curiel's mind, and making the 'objection' (yeah, it wasn't in court, but, you know) was just as much a political move as it was a legal move.

>He's expressed approval for basically every two-bit dictator on the planet, and Putin's a big fan of him

I don't think we need to speak much on this one, improving Russian-US relations has been a good idea for the past century, and Politicians, for better or worse, are not bound to what they say in campaign. I think it is a great step that Trump is willing to be friendly to all World Leaders right now, even if we disagree with their policies. The President (while less so than our Prime Minister) is a figurehead. And must be friendly. This is why Justin Trudeau won the Canadian election.

>He called the Chinese government strong for butchering the protesters at the Tienanmen Square Massacre

Yeah, he did. He didn't say it was good. He said they were strong. Here is a direct quote: "The Chinese government almost blew it. Then they were vicious, they were horrible, but they put it down with strength." from Playboy, 1990.

He wasn't making a comment on massacring being good, he was saying that sticking to your promises is hard. And important. In the same manner that the US does not negotiate with terrorists. Sometimes people die. But you cannot give in, the government must be strong, and the people must have faith in it.

>He supports torture and murdering innocent people as a political tactic.

He has said he is in support of waterboarding, I assume this is what you're talking about, please correct me if I'm wrong. Waterboarding is proven to be ineffectual and brutal.
These are the two facts I will discuss briefly, and let's be clear, I agree with both.
Trump is an incredible business man. There is no denying that. Trump can sell things. Trump can make money.
Selling, is manipulating emotions. Have you ever met a really good salesman? They just feel dirty. Have you ever met a great salesmen? You just go broke.

Trump has seen the way the world is going right now with ISIS and other terror attacks. Trump has jumped on that, knowing it will buy him supporters. Let's face facts, the majority of voters are not in the majority of educated folks (This is basic bellcurve stuff).
Now, there is a number of votes that are not being cast. In 2012, your Presidential voter turnout was 45% (wiki). Do you think the educated are the ones not voting, or the undereducated?
Let me rephrase the question; do you think the people who are reading reports on waterboarding are the ones who are not voting?

Now, After I type this, I realize this may be what you mean by "as a political tactic"

Yes. It is. Yeah, lying and manipulating emotions probably isn't great. But that's what all politicians do. Let's again look at Justin Trudeau, current PM of Canada, just elected in recently (November?). He literally won the election with the exact same tactic. Talking about women, and all the 'problems' that women have. Promising to change entire cabinets, which he did, to meet quotas of women. He flaunted false statistics about rape, in order to achieve that youth vote turnout of educated women, and it's the margin he won by.

Is this sleazy? As fuck. But it's how to win. And, there is gold here. A politician should know what her or his people want. They should know not to necessarily give it to them, but a politician, especially the PM or President, should be able to read the nation, in order to work votes, in order to get things done.

So, I believe I've answered that complaint to both sides: whether you were attacking the political technique, or actually believed he would institute waterboarding. Oh, one final thing, about Trump being a business man, he wants headlines. He knows no press is bad press. He literally wrote a book about it.

>He hates free speech, and wants to be able to sue his enemies for libel.

Yeah, he should be suing. Look at all the misquotes you've already given me. The newspapers are quoting him, and giving sources that when checked out give an entirely different quote. That's bullshit. That is illegal. He isn't against Free Speech, he's against slander.

>He's got ties to both the Mafia and the Russians, and he's basically recruiting for the Nazis.

I'm not going to comment on that last clause, your paragraph seems to be becoming much less "actual criticisms" and much more "hyperbole based off of my feelings".

I can't even make sense of the last clause.

Yes, he is alluded to have ties to the Mafia, there seems to be a compelling case, that 30 years ago, when he built a casino (an industry rife with mobsters) he interacted with them. The same can be said for the Trump tower.

It is inevitable, when organized crime controls an entire discipline, to work without them. Every single person working construction in Montreal, Canada, has immense ties to the mob. Everyone involved in the mining industry, which is huge, has ties to the mob.
Now, if you have a source that says he is involved in killing people, et cetera, it's a concern. But your complaint is that he's interacted with them. That's not valid. It's just not a complaint, I can't justify it, there is nothing else to say here.

>He really hates Muslims, and has suggested all kinds of horrifying methods to "keep us safe"

Why does he hate Muslims? WHat are these "horrifying methods"? Why do you put "keep us safe" in quotes?
I can't really respond to this unless you start being more specific again, you were doing really well at the beginning of your post. Here is a source talking about Homeland Security and the FBI on the American Muslim communities, I know Trump takes some of his facts from them, so maybe it addresses your concerns? Again, I cannot know unless you are more specific.

> He has suggested pulling out of NATO and the WTO

u/Robswc · 18 pointsr/Daytrading

>$250 into $5k

Setting goals isn't a terrible idea, however I will say that a 2000% (non compounding) increase is something the best traders would give their arms and legs for lol.

For reference, this is something I was able to do after lots of learning and experience.

These were more done algorithmic than manually trading BUT point still stands.

With that said, you could hit 180% gain in one day with options.

The problem you'll find is that being consistently good is really really hard. What you're essentially setting out to do is consistently win an near random "coin toss".

That's going to take a psychological toll, its going to be grueling but not impossible.

>But I would like to learn the market. Any tips on how to start? What should I start researching? Can I even start trading with that little amount?

$250 is fine starting out. In fact its perfect as starting out there's a possibility you could lose it all, so starting with a small amount is fine.

Don't look at $, look at %. If you can make 1% you can make $100 or $1000. Once you consistently hit %'s, you can increase your position sizes. Keep risk in mind while doing this though.

I would start with paper trading first. Since you're 17 you're not legally allowed to trade. Also, with $250 you can't day trade (PDT rules). So paper trading would definitely be your best bet.

You could also give crypto a try, many exchanges don't really have KYC. A lot of the basics can carry over into any markets.

As far as stuff to learn, these are some of the best books I've read on the subject. You may notice they aren't technical or any "strategies" so to speak. I find those books never help, the mindset and thinking is going to be your biggest challenge.

Trading in the Zone, By Mark Douglas -

Fooled by Randomness, by Nassim Taleb -

Skin in the Game, by Nassim Taleb -

Algos to Live By, by Brian Christian -

A Short History of Financial Euphoria, by John Galbraith -

Also, if you're interested in algo or strategy creation at all, I have a youtube channel dedicated to helping beginners make their strategies and learn more. Its on a bit of a hiatus but I'll definitely be getting back to it soon.

DM me here or on twitter if you have any questions! Love to help, questions also keep me on my toes and make sure I'm learning too!

u/new__vision · 18 pointsr/asktrp

Search the main sub for "Red Pill Books Compilation V3"

>Millionaire Fastlane by MJ Demarco: (Mindset - P2) No this isn't some get rich quick scheme or ideas on how to make quick money. Demarco presents the idea in his book that there are different ways of thinking about money amongst people. The "Slowlane" way of thinking which is plagued by the ones who work paycheck to paycheck to survive, and the "Fastlane" way of thinking that breaks away from the norm of the typical "Go to school, get a job, save your money, retire at 65." mindset. Very interesting read on how to achieve wealth through changing your way of thinking.

I also like Ramit Sethi and his book "I Will Teach You to Be Rich". He also has a youtube channel.

u/theDaninDanger · 18 pointsr/programming

As someone with an MBA, I can tell you all the things that book mentions are first year, undergraduate business school material. Unfortunately, for those who have no desire to pursue analytical and empirical research techniques, the majority of an MBA is about office politics.

Your education primarily consists of learning how to best impress the professors without appearing as a sycophant to your colleagues. Albeit, that is exactly what one needs to get ahead in business.

I usually hate people recommending books, but if you want to know what an MBA is about, I wouldn't read "10 day MBA." I would read 48 Laws of Power. While your soul will die a little from reading it, this book will give you all the ammunition you need to move up in business.

Those of you considering an MBA, feel free to ask me any questions. I'd be happy to help if I am able!

u/Teheperoi · 17 pointsr/uwaterloo

>Routines can be weirdly helpful.

i recommend this book: How to Become a Straight-A Student by Cal Newport

u/throwawaycomedian95 · 16 pointsr/newzealand

I failed level one, two and three. Now I'm working on a Computer Science degree and have won 2 awards from my uni this year.

NCEA doesn't mean jack in the long run. You can just turn 20 and rock up. People start uni at 28, and they're not looked badly on at all.

Keep in mind there are so many options out there. The idea that college is the only way to success is increasingly becoming a myth. Skills will always come ahead in any field. Loving to learn inside or outside of school is important if you want to go far.

If you are looking at alternatives, look here.

Figure out why you failed. Figure out solutions to these problems, and demonstrate these solutions before you're at uni.

Find ways to discipline yourself to learn before university; a free course on Coursera or edX perhaps. This is a good book on study skills.

If you've done Level 1 and 2 though, you obviously have a fair few study skills.

Feel free to PM me if you have any more questions.

u/exiatron9 · 16 pointsr/entp

It's a good question - a lot of people just assume they can't ever be rich.

No you don't need to get a degree. You don't need to get a high-paying job. You don't need to be Elon Musk unless we're talking billionaire rich.

Making money is about delivering value at scale. Either deliver a little bit of value to a lot of people, or deliver a lot of value to a few people. Or do both to rake it in - but this is usually harder.

The most accessible way to deliver value at scale is by building a business.

You also need to figure out why you want to be rich and what kind of rich. Do you want to build a massive empire and make hundreds of millions or does making a couple of million a year and getting to travel whenever you want sound better?

The basic steps are pretty simple. You've got to start by reprogramming your brain a fair bit. Rich people - especially entrepreneurs, don't think about the world in the same way as most people do. More on how to do this later.

After that you'll want to start exploring the opportunities open to you at the moment. There are lots of business models you can replicate and do really well with - you don't need to start completely from scratch and build something the world has never seen before. You would not believe the ridiculously niched business models people make stupid money from. Example - I know a guy who built an online health and safety testing form for oil rig workers that was making $20,000 a month.

When you're starting out it's a good idea to keep things simple and use it as a way to build your skills. You don't want to be trying to build the next Facebook while trying to learn the basics of business. You're probably not as smart as Mark Zuckerberg.

The point is you have to keep learning and learning and learning. You know the business section of the book store you've probably never looked at? Pick the right books and you can pretty much learn anything.

You've been fed a lot of bullshit your whole life - so you need to read:


  • The 4-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss
    It's pretty incredible how many successful people I've spoken to in the last few years have said something along the lines of "well it all started when I read the 4-Hour Work Week...". This is a great book that will give you a huge mindset adjustment and also a bunch of practical ideas and case studies of what you can do.

  • The Millionaire Fastlane by MJ Demarco Yeah the book title sucks. But it's gold. MJ has quite a different approach to Tim Ferriss - so that's why I put it here. It's good to get multiple perspectives. The first hundred or so pages rip traditional thinking on wealth as well as guru advice to pieces - it's pretty funny.

  • The Richest Man in Babylon by George S. Clason This is a quick and easy read but it's got some great core lessons.

    Those will give you a good start. Once you've picked something to work on, you'll want to start reading up on learning sales, mindset, strategy, mindset, business management, mindset and some more mindset. If you jump in you'll quickly find the hardest thing about business is usually dealing with yourself.

    Hit me up if you take action on this and I'll be happy to recommend where to go next :)

u/RagingRaijin · 16 pointsr/aznidentity

Someone deleted their comment about wanting to leave the US in the near future.

I also share this sentiment and would like to offer a viewpoint I have been developing lately.

Yesterday was the first big meeting of the previously called One Belt, One Road Initiative, and now the Belt & Road Initiative. 110 countries are involved, from the coasts of Russia and China to the Middle East and Africa.

A first step in the restoration and revival of the ancient "circulation of blood" in Asia, Europe, and Africa.

President Xi Jinping of China starts his speech poetically for such a historic event in human progress. Be sure to check out him grilling the US at around the 34:50 mark.

So, why move out of the US?

I have three reasons so far.

  1. It is not where Asian talent and skill is respected and a country that is fraught with soon to be exposed crimes should not benefit from taxation of Asian talent and skill.

  2. In perhaps one generation, automation will render most jobs obsolete and hopefully governments will provide basic income and move away from capitalism's competition.

    To deal with climate change, poverty, and to develop all 110 countries of the B&R initiative, the President of Turkey stated at the meeting that "1.7 trillion Dollars every year until 2030" will be needed.

    He stressed "Cooperation over competition", something that is fundamental of countries in Asia.

    Climate change will test Asia and Africa, both having huge populations near the coasts and underdeveloped infrastructure.

    Inefficient Capitalism of America bullshit will not work. Hundreds of millions of lives and future lives are at stake.

    Anyway, there is thus a need for highly skilled labor and individuals that can master higher skills fast. I suggest you read this book on doing just that and freelance your skills as you live in Asia and help it prosper.

    \3. America's Potential Downfall, if it keeps dirtying their hands with petrodollars.

    Get woke on Putin with this 2 hour documentary and be sure to watch the English translations of his speeches and addresses exposing US meddling in other countries through funding terrorists.

    America's power and wealth source, control of the sea and maritime trade routes will be rendered obsolete once the 110 countries of the B&R Intiative have open routes on land and sea.

    In summary, America is losing its status and power everyday, as well as its prestige not only because of Trump, but how the American government is dealing with hiccups like Trump and how it exposes the dirty dark secrets of even Presidents who hold prestige around the world.
u/MarauderShields618 · 16 pointsr/ADHD

Try talking to your boss. One of the most important jobs of a manager is to make sure their employees are productive. Talk to your boss about how the interruptions are very challenging, and talk to them about this idea called deep work. Basically, you schedule time every day or every week where you insulate yourself from all interruptions. With this philosophy, you don't even need to mention the ADHD.

Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World

Podcast about deep work.

u/alucardus · 16 pointsr/Entrepreneur

First if there is enough potential profit in your idea you can always hire engineers, programmers etc. So keep that in mind and start keeping a list of every idea you have, I keep one in my phone that is gigantic now. Stop limiting your self to just what you can do and it will really open up your mind.

I would recommend the $!00 startup, it is full of case studies on what others have done. After reading this book it seemed like I just started thinking in an entrepenuerial way about almost everything and ideas came like a waterfall. I now have more solid ideas than I can possibly ever pursue, and get new ones daily.

Another great one is Lean startup. It has the most practical advice I've encountered on how to test and then go forward with an idea. After this book I was able to mentally test ideas and see profit or failure in them much easier. This book is also invaluable for once you actually start something.

u/elsewhereorbust · 15 pointsr/Entrepreneur

Calm down. Like you say, it was a learning experience and it seems a good one at that.
To everyone else's defence, when you can drop terms like "profit margin," "overhead" and "markup," it doesn't grant you business expertise. Or at the least, it doesn't impress this subreddit.
Instead it makes it sounds like you took a Business 101 class.
More telling was the new phone and business cards. These are, at best, things you need after a first client (proof you have a "business").
But when you started in on Class A shares and Class B non-voting shares, it made me re-read the first paragraph. I'm thinking "Is this guy doing landscaping, or is prep'ing a visit to a VC?"

You've got drive. That's great. And now you have experience -- from one try. Try again. You'll fail again, and that's cool. Especially cool if you try again.
Best to you and whoever you pair up with next. In the meantime, fill in time with a few books like Lean Startup and Rework.

u/bombeater · 15 pointsr/ZenHabits

If you aren't being facetious... start with these books:

  • The Compassionate Life, by Marc Ian Barasch

  • Never Eat Alone, by Keith Ferrazzi.

  • Anger, by Thich Nhat Hanh.

    These are all easy books to blow off. You can dismiss The Compassionate Life as a guidebook for letting other people take advantage of you. You can dismiss Never Eat Alone as the egotistical scrambling of a sleazy salesman. You can dismiss Anger as a hand-wavey tome of feel good nonsense. If you're tempted to do so, I urge you to suspend your judgment and pour yourself into them. Here's why:

    From Anger, I learned not to let my fear of feeling and sharing emotions prevent me from opening myself up to other people. The book is about anger, but it applies to everything: jealousy, fear, anxiety, confusion, even joy. It taught me to treat my negative feelings as a part of myself that deserved compassion and nurturing just like anything or anyone else I care about.

    From Never Eat Alone, I learned the value of trust and openness. The point of "networking" isn't to collect business cards and shine your teeth at people; it's to establish an extended family of people who you genuinely care about, and thus, through inevitable cause and effect, who genuinely care about you. You don't have to be married to someone or see them every day to love and care about them. You just have to treat them like a human being, and not hide the truth of your human-ness out of fear of being judged.

    Finally, from The Compassionate Life, I learned that I'm not the only one walking this path. It gave me the determination to continue walking, even in the face of judgment, ridicule, and skepticism from many people around me. It solidified my hunch that, in the right hands, compassion is a great strength, and not a weakness. It helped me learn to forgive myself and others, even for what felt like irrecoverable wounds or betrayals. More than that, it helped me learn from those wounds, and it helped me learn from the forgiveness. It gave me strength.

    That's all I've got for the moment!
u/PotRoastPotato · 15 pointsr/GilmoreGirls

Sorry for wall of text.

When /u/waytoomanychoices describes someone with model-level looks, who had prep school and Yale paid for by rich dad/grandparents, who dated a handsome billionaire heir seriously enough to receive a marriage proposal, as "average", you're feeding into the depression here.

The point is, the Rory character is a fairy tale fantasy that still screwed up every advantage she was given. She represents an unreasonable and unrealistic picture of life for 99% of the world, and still screws it up.

Any of us who got Yale paid in full by wealthy parents and grandparents would be in a better spot at 31 than Rory. And there are actual plot point you can point at as to why.

OP, you did not have Rory's advantages and your life is not written yet. You don't know if you'll like a job or not until you take it. Try it, and if you don't like it, look for another one.

To me, the danger in media isn't violence or sex, it's the setting of expectations of life being like TV or movies, your OP expressed it perfectly.

Number 4 is the opposite of real advice. I'm the child of immigrants in my late 30s and this attitude (it's not millennial, it's American) that some job out there can fill your soul with happiness and fulfillment... that you need to be overjoyed with your work and career... it sounds nice and that's why people keep repeating it. But it's not real life.

Seek contentment from work. Earn money to feed yourself and your family. Seek happiness in family and friends. Seeking literal joy from your job on a day to day basis is, frankly, unrealistic.

Now if you're genuinely unhappy with work, then start earnestly looking for what you can do to change your situation. In my very unpopular opinion, this does not mean quitting your job without another job/full time education lined up, nor does it mean turning down jobs you think are beneath you when you're unemployed. Working itself provides opportunities.

/u/copperboomcopperboom, you're not Rory. If you are in a rut, What Color Is My Parachute is almost a clichéd suggestion but it is a cliché for the right reasons. It's a good way to help focus you on your next steps in life.

It helped both me and my wife. Feel free to PM me.


tl;dr I'm a former high school vocational teacher who gave high school kids career and educational advice all the time. I think my advice is solid: you can work a job you don't like while looking for one you do. One reason is that you're much more confident when you have a job and you're more likely to hold out for a job that's a great fit if you're not desperate. Exuding confidence at job interviews is important and that's much easier if you have a job and aren't sitting on your ass in mom's basement all day every day. If you're really unhappy with your career situation, do something about it. Buying and working through What Color Is My Parachute might be a great start. Anyone reading this can feel free to PM me.

u/byrd_nick · 15 pointsr/GradSchool

I stopped working nights and weekends (with exceptions 2-3 times a year when a bunch of deadlines overlap). Working too much didn't help me get more done.

It just made the quality of my work worse. Once I got in the habit of taking time to rejuvenate, I realized that I could get just as much done in 8-9 hours a day for 5 days as I could working 10-12 hours a day 7 days a week.

This is only true when

  1. I sleep 8-10 hours a night and
  2. I exercise 5 days a week.

    When I do those, it is fairly easy to focus and work efficiently enough to get everything done in 40-45 hours a week.

    And I also recommend (listening to) Cal Newport's Deep Work. Pay close attention to how Newport thinks. His lessons apply more broadly than the examples he gives.
u/Themilie · 15 pointsr/BasicIncome

Yes and a bunch of people are doing it. It's called financial inpedendence and they're not all "rich." Many live very frugally to do it. Here are a few resources:


u/IWillBecomeChad · 15 pointsr/Braincels

I recently finished an excellent book called "Thank you for Arguing" (full-title: "Thank You for Arguing: What Aristotle, Lincoln, and Homer Simpson Can Teach Us About the Art of Persuasion").

From the book, I realized that women use high level rhetorical techniques to get what they want at a much higher rate than men.

Often times, they are full of sht, but they know how to play their cards right to get what they want by saying things like "Height doesn't matter!", "I don't like muscular men, gross!", "I wouldn't care if my boyfriend made less money than I did.". They say things like this all the time, but by and large, they don't really mean them and follow through on them irl.

Put on your [
They Live*]( glasses and realize that women are, as they say, full of shit, and they're very good at getting away with it. This also explains this post. Women with crap-tier genetics still pass them on because they manage to influence chads into impregnating them, then passing on their short height to their sons (interestingly, short women aren't considered as attractive in the Germanic / Nordic countries as they are here in the US, and that explains why they have significantly higher average heights than us in the US).

u/AllezCannes · 14 pointsr/canada

>Donald Trump literally wrote the book on negotiating.

He had a ghost writer that did the work for him, and he had some rather unkind words about his former boss.

u/WearsSensibleShoes · 14 pointsr/Weakpots

She's a puppy, she has to grow out of it-in all seriousness, if you know that she's too high energy, returning her to the shelter when she's still young will help her get placed with someone who wants a puppy, and you can adopt an adult dog. Adult dogs can be much lower energy, and their personality is more settled, so the shelter can tell you "hey this dog likes to sleep all day and cuddle". Plus adult dogs have a much harder time being adopted, and many are dogs whose owners have died or lost the ability to care for them, so they're house trained and family oriented.

If you want to keep her, you've got to spend lots of time exercising her body and her mind. Karen Pryor's Don't Shoot The Dog is a fantastic book to start with; it's based on scientific understanding of animal behavior and training, none of the 'be the alpha dog' bullshit. For exercise, long walks, playing fetch, tug of war, etc. She's a baby with baby energy, and she'll become destructive and annoying if she gets bored.

u/aPinkFloyd · 14 pointsr/exmormon

Lots of love for you, here are some thoughts of mine...

  • it is a mistake to believe that you should be asking the question "What is the purpose of my life?" it's not a question you ask, IT IS A QUESTION YOU ANSWER! and you answer it by living your life as ONLY you can, having the adventure that is your life experience, discovering the magical miracle that is ONLY YOU in all of this vast universe!

  • After losing Mormonism and the understanding of the universe that goes with it, I find myself an atheist, which has made this little journey of life INFINITELY more precious to me. It's all and everything we have! (as far as we know).

  • I have pulled in many helpful, empowering, peaceful ideas from Buddhism, Philosophy, Science that has helped me start to form a new, optimistic, and amazingly open minded new world-view. I no longer have to believe anything that doesn't make sense, I get to believe only sweet things now, and that is SO nice.

    Here are some resources that I have been really grateful for on my journey, which I am 12 months into...

    The Obstacle is the Way

    The Daily Stoic this is my new "daily bible" I read a page every morning

    Secular Buddhism podcast

    Waking Up podcast

    End of Faith

    The Demon Haunted World

    Philosophize This! podcast OR Partially Examined Life podcast

    I wish you the very best in your journey, be patient with yourself, you have EVERY reason to be! Start filling your mind with powerful positive ideas, keep the ones that help you find your way, set aside the ones that don't.

    And remember, you are young and free and the possibilities of what your life can become are boundless!
u/CynixCS · 13 pointsr/uncensorednews

>It's pretty funny that this same pattern can be seen in the other direction on the fringier ends of the right-wing subreddits, or even the comments in this one.

(((citation needed)))

>Accuse of violence: (check)

Oh you mean like the thousands of NRA people going around smacking people with bike locks AR15 stocks?

OF COURSE you have people resorting to violence on every side - given the enormous sample size it would be a legit miracle if there weren't any. However, the scale is very much tilted towards the left. You don't see Breitbart glorifying a Shakespear play where Barack Obama gets nailed to a cross and burned alive. However you DO see things - like - this from leftist sources.

Yeah that's not even close to comparable.

>Accuse of "(((parasitism)))": (all the checks)

We're getting there

>Dehumanize: (libtard, commie, shitskin, sweeping generalizations)

Never heard shitskin outside of legitimately racist circles. Citation needed.

Apart from that, those are insults. Not even close to being the same. This is a newspaper suggesting men should not be allowed to vote. Apples and oranges much?

Oh and look at that, Trump is a virus? Now we're 1:1, the NS people used that exact comparison (vermin, bacillus, virus et al) for the jews.

>Condone violence against them: /r/Physical_Removal

A 7000 sub subreddit about people hitting back? Well then I guess I'll concede, that's the overwhelming majority. Oh wait, Trump got some 63 million votes so those 7000 aren't even .012%. Even if I would accept your premise (which I don't), that's one out of 8350 people. Let's go to some leftist college campus like Berkeley and ask there how many of them would be okay with trump supporters getting beaten up - wanna bet it's slightly more than 1/8350?

>So what's the deal?

I guess that?

>Are we into some deep-level human nature victim mentality stuff, here?

No, we're in some "one side is salty they lost the election, now they're stirring up the exact kind of shit they're constantly accusing the other side of" stuff and here's the problem: this is not going to be the 1789 revolution where the glorious people win and drag the evil king to the guillotine, this is going to end up like 1832.

>humans have an affinity for underdog stories.

Bullets don't, and that's the issue.

>Maybe it's just a glitch in our pattern recognition. Law of Fives kinda stuff. The harder you look for something, the more likely you are to find it (even if it isn't, strictly speaking, true).

Or maybe we're slowly coming to the conclusion that intolerance must not be tolerated. The hilarious part being that those accusing of intolerance and those expressing intolerance are not as far apart as they'd like.

u/winksup · 13 pointsr/conspiracy

Someone posted a comment on the yahoo page that was a good main reason why this is an issue, at least in my opinion. Basically, troll reviews have been around forever, and a lot of times people want these reviews to be removed. Why do they only step in and take down the ones for Hillary? Why isn't this a site-wide policy of just immediately deleting negative reviews from people that haven't received the authorized purchaser logo or whatever? Yeah there's other places to bash her, but it's funny they just decide to enforce this for her.

For example, here is a link to Donald Trump's book, looking at 1-star reviews with verified purchaser only option turned off. Hmm, I could scroll through 40 pages of people that give it 1-star and haven't purchased the book. Then here's Clinton's book with the same search parameters. At the time I'm looking at it, there's literally 3 1-star reviews from people that don't have the verified purchase indicator. So 40 pages of 1-star reviews from non-buyers, versus 3 reviews. I'm not pro-Trump in the slightest, I just picked that as an example because it's very easy to bash him. Seems to me they're blatantly playing favorites...

u/jboyd88 · 13 pointsr/GetStudying

I'll share my reading list for the next 12 months as it's how I plan to become a better learner:



u/Aerthisprime · 13 pointsr/TrueReddit
u/pijjin · 13 pointsr/learnmachinelearning

Lose the swift programming course, it’s not really relevant to you, and you already have a lot to cover in a tight space of time.

Good luck with your studies. As others have already said in this thread getting a researcher position will be super hard. There aren’t all that many positions available, and there’s so much hype around ML that they’re all super over-subscribed. You might be right that you don’t need a PhD, but a PhD and research experience are useful and you will be up against those that have them. You should consider getting some industry experience as a data scientist or data engineer (which might be a bit easier to get hired as) to complement your self study if you’ve decided academia is not for you.

You’ve got a lot of reading to do already, but I found the book So Good They Can’t Ignore You a helpful read when faced with a tough career choice. It’s not super long, and has some interesting ideas (mostly based on anecdotal evidence but useful nonetheless).

u/Fedoranimus · 13 pointsr/AskMen

You're conflating "success" with "career". This is not what OP is talking about. They're merely suggesting that you have to try things; hobbies, jobs, etc, before you know what your passion is. Very often the thing you find that you're "good at" becomes your passion, rather than the other way around.

So Good They Can't Ignore You digs into this concept in greater detail.

u/ringingbells · 13 pointsr/AdviceAnimals

To further support Jonny1992, but in no way condoning this kind of evil behavior, a ton of big shots (50 Cent Co-wrote a book with the author) supposedly read and adhere to this book, 48 Rules of Power. Chapter 5: "Get others to do the Work for you, but Always Take the Credit."

BTW, I hate that people think they can just take credit and it's ok. It's not. You're evil. You're not just following a book of rules. You're an evil person.

u/quantifical · 13 pointsr/PersonalFinanceNZ

The numbers still aren't stacking up for me. I think it's clear that you have a spending problem. I'd really recommend reading Your Money or Your Life to help you work on your relationship with money.

> The medical insurance for me is worth a bit as I have a $17k surgery every couple of years.

I'm sorry to hear that.

u/Vagabond_B · 12 pointsr/Entrepreneur

I've got a few different unrelated comments.

  1. I am surprised people from Austin have not mentioned this... If you have any passion for food, you could join the ranks of the gourmet food trucks that are downtown. If you've not already tried them, you need to go to the gourmet donut truck downtown. I think it was called "Gourdo's Doughnuts".

  2. As others have mentioned though, successful entrepreneurs do not normally start as people who have money to burn and no ideas. Successful entrepreneurs come from people with no shortage of ideas bootstrapping themselves to success. This is what I am trying to do right now..

  3. A good place to start may be to read or listen to "The $100 Startup", by Chris Guillebeau. Here. This book uses lots of examples to explain how a lot different people started different types of businesses. It also points you toward a lot of good resources.

  4. It sounds like you have just enough money to file a patent.... Yes a full patent can cost about that much depending on lawyer fees. If you were working overseas, my first guess is that you were doing something engineering related... perhaps in manufacturing. Rather than trying to start a business, try to solve a problem. Have you ever wanted something that didn't exist? I found a good approach to generate products is to develop simple solutions to problems that you have. Other people have likely had the same problem and would kindly pay you for an elegant solution. File a provisional patent application (PPA), and then go look for investors. Well, build a prototype, file the PPA, and then go look for investors to get it off the ground. Your $20,000.00 should be more than enough to get through a few design-build phases, especially with resources like protomold, and protolabs

  5. "The $100 Startup" denounces franchises. The short version of their explanation is that they take a lot of your $, make you work for them, and only give you a modest return on your investment.

  6. Join and go to a entrepreneur event in Austin, TX. Occasionally,they will have weekend long events where people come together with ideas and money and try to put a business plan and product together. I am yet to attend an event, but I just signed up for Orlando and look forward to my first meet up. Success as an entrepreneur is not required to attend. I think you just have to go ready to work through the night and pitch your business in the morning.

  7. List at things you are remarkable at, and then look at how you can use your skills to help others.

    Hope this helps.

    FSMspeed on your journey.
u/constantcontact · 12 pointsr/dogs

I hate to tell you (and I mean I hate to tell you and I wish we didn't have to have this conversation. ever.) but you are doing absolutely everything wrong. Stop doing everything that you are doing.

Your animal is losing trust in you. And why should he trust you? Every time he wants to have fun you are a bully to him. Just imagine if every time he did something good you instantly gave him a treat and a belly rub. I bet he'd do those things more often. Now imagine if you ignored his bad behavior. I bet he'd stop doing it once he gets no satisfaction from it.

I've trained a few hundred dogs in my career including about 50 Spitzen and a few sled teams. I've seen this type of "training" dozens and dozens of times.

I'm sure you aren't a bad guy and you mean well...but these are vocal, emotional, and active animals. He needs more exercise, more love, and less "discipline".

Downhouse was a little nicer than I was, but it probably has something to do with the abused animals i've seen with nearly irreversible personality problems. You are heading down that road, quickly. (and i'm sure you'll dismiss that comment, or someone else will...but the alpha roll and restraint tactics are one method dogfighters use to get their dogs riled up. You don't wanna be like Vick, do you?)

Luckily your dog is young. He will forgive you. You can start over and attempt to understand him instead of just pushing him around. You need to build a bond, dude. He's man's best friend...NOT your bitch.

A good place to start?

  • - the videos on this site
  • - this book
  • - this book
  • - find a dog trainer here. maybe you'll end up with me!

    As an aside, I can never understand who the fuck these people are walking around telling people this is how you treat an animal. It LITERALLY never works. The animals that it does "work" on are walking lifeless zombies with no personality and no bond to their owner.

    Edit: I see you responded to DownHouse, and I missed that before I typed my response. I see you're willing to make a change and that's awesome. I truly wish you the best of luck.

    Edit2: Look. I maybe was a bit harsh but i'm not going to delete what I's probably something you (or someone else reading the post) needs to hear. I had a client last week who came in who had been stepping on his dogs back paws when he jumped up. He would also grab the front paws until the dog yelped. That dog bit a groomer who tried to cut his nails. Go fucking figure. These are the kinds of things that are difficult to correct and I don't want to see bad information make you have a bad relationship with your dog.
u/SouthernPanhandle · 12 pointsr/GetStudying helped my sister.

And the book "How to become a straight A Student" is what turned things around for me.

I went from always scrambling last minute, cramming, having 0 free time and still under achieving, to having enough free time to actually be involved in things I wanted to be involved with on and off campus. For the first time I was like "Oh! so this is what college can be like..".

Organization and time management is so important it's nuts.


Side note, stuff like depression and anxiety can be SUPER draining mentally and WILL affect the amount of willpower you have available for stuff like time management and staying organized so if you're dealing with anything like that getting it 100% under control is the absolute best thing you can do for your GPA.

u/dweissglass · 12 pointsr/Entrepreneur

I favor the craftsman mindset over the 4-hour workweek approach, so I (perhaps unsurprisingly) did not find much value in Ferris's work. I've read 4-hour-workweek, some of his blog posts, seem some TED talks, and flipped through 'Tribe of Mentors, all of which I found mediocre. The biggest advocate of the craftsman mindset that I know of is Cal Newport. I've read his blog (studyhacks) and his book (So good they can't ignore you). I think his work tends to be better researched and more substantive. I recommend both.

I suspect that the differences between the two has a lot to do with where they come from. In my view, Ferris is still the salesman he was when he started out. Many of his strategies are great for salepeople - 'firing' bad customers, offloading customer support tasks, etc. However, its worth thinking about what he is selling here - and I think the core idea in Ferris's work is that you can make an easy buck. I don't know that this idea is worth buying, nor that he offers anything more valuable than a few productivity tips. Newport is an academic, and so his work is oriented more as an attempt to answer a question: what choices result in happy and successful careers. He started out looking for general trends in career satisfaction and success, and his books are reports of what he's found. Of course, he is still selling something - but I think he is selling something more valuable: empirically driven insight into meaningful work (the key insight, by the way, is that you need to adopt the crafstman mindset).

u/wonder_er · 12 pointsr/digitalnomad

IMO, you are asking the wrong question. Saying
>what skills can I learn to support {lifestyle}

is putting your goals ahead of your employer's/client's goals.

Flip it on it's head:

>What are some skills I can learn that will make me invaluable in my job?

Whatever your next job is, ruthlessly innovate, experiment, and bring value to those you work with. Spend a year there building career capital and then cash that in for a job that includes the opportunities you want - like remote work.

Cal Newport wrote "So Good They Can't Ignore You" and I highly recommend you give it a read.

FWIW, I work remotely for my company, am well paid, and travel full-time, but in my conversations with them, my travel has never come up. All our interactions are about me bringing value to their business.

I recommend focusing on the same.

Good luck!

u/QuirkySpiceBush · 11 pointsr/cscareerquestions

OP needs to do some soul-searching, but I think What Color Is Your Parachute is probably a little more practical than Camus for their stated concerns. Coming to terms with the pain of existence is a tad. . . ambitious when all s/he's concerned about is a boring job!

u/LinuxStreetFighter · 11 pointsr/sysadmin

What?! NOTHING IT related that you would find interesting enough to learn about on your own time?

Did you do this for the money? That's insane.

No Chef? No Puppet? No Docker? No obscure language? No embedded systems? No Nutanix? No ESXi? No nano server? Nothing IT related tickles your pickle? What about vulnhub? Red teaming? Game development? TELL ME.

/u/ProfFrnswrth -- I can't relate with the sentiment of not having energy after 8 hours. Hell, there are times we were updating systems until 1 or 2 AM and I STILL went home and dicked around in a VM. Do I have an unhealthy passion for this stuff? Probably.

As a child, very awkward, you can imagine, I had a computer and I was trying to play Deus Ex. The colors were terrible and the game stuttered and spewed, eventually freezing on that terrible sound looping: "EEHN, EEHN, EEHN, EEHN, EEHN, EEHN, EEHN" -- being borderline retarded as a child, I didn't think to turn off the speakers, I just ran and told my Dad the computer is broken.

Being a good father, he assumed what all good fathers assume: porn. I was lectured and berated about not getting caught with my weasel in my hand, my dad unplugged the computer and turned it back on. I was defeated, never again to play this game my friend told me about.

The next day, whilst at school, I told my friend, the one in which of whom recommended the game, that my computer couldn't run it, I was doomed.

"What, ho?! Nay! Bringith thine tower to my domicile once within we leavith our studies!" -- Told you, fucking awkward.

So I bring this HP wanna be Blue Bubble Macintosh computer to my friend's house. My friend and his father ripped apart the internals of that poor HP tower, and replaced what looked like the internals to the backup for Johnny Five. Some brown circuit board and a lot of fans.

I was terrified. I was instructed by my friend to take my computer back home and try Deus Ex again. So, I get home and connect everything. Fearful of being sternly spoken to about pornography again, I left the speakers unplugged.

My God, man! It's beautiful! Normal colors, smooth textures, fast movement. But there wasn't any God damn sound! Oh, the speakers, right, so I plugged the speakers back in.

From there, I said "I want to be able to fix anything". It was very humbling and earth shattering to be honest.

I mean, if you think about it, as a preteen, you don't know what a computer is. You use it and you play on it, but you don't know what it is unless you're born into a family that teaches you or you're some Matilda freak that reads CPU and motherboard manuals in your free time.

But here... My friend, my peer, my ALLY! He knew exactly what it took. He took an impossible problem (can't play a video game), and not only made it a reality, he did it with spare parts in his closet LOL!

So, because of him, I am where I am today. Do I know how to fix everything? No, of course not. Don't be silly.

But! I have taken to using scheduled, distraction free time to learn something or get better at a skill. I go into that with a furious frenzy and get shit done. An hour? Half an hour? Five hours? I don't care, I'm going to tackle the living shit out of my objective.

Scheduled, distraction free time? What in the name of Almighty Christ on his Throne is this?!

First, I recommend a very subjective and biased book:

Deep Work

The concept of "Deep Work" is not foreign, but you may not have heard it called that before. It's a great book about finding time to get work done in a world of distractions.

Second, I recommend Earl Nightingale's "The Strangest Secret". You can find the audio on Amazon or Youtube, whichever you prefer. In YouTube he sounds cooler but speaks much quicker.

Earl Nightingale, again, came up with nothing new. This is some Oprah shit before Oprah was out. This broadcast changed my life. It builds off Napoleon Hill's Think and Grow Rich and takes concepts from Philosophy and Religion. The best "Power of Positive Thinking" speech I've heard. Listen to it, and see if it vibes with you.

Anyway, get your goals down, write them. Don't put them in your God damn phone, WRITE IT DOWN. Look it everyday. If you miss a day, you have to see it, you can't just delete it from your phone (yeah, you can rip the paper out of the notebook, but I'd like to think you're not a destructive person ;) ).

You like Podcasts? Yeah? YEAH?

Check out Entrepreneur on Fire. He doesn't talk about tech, sysadmin, hacking, NOTHING. But he's super positive, he is successful, and he loves sharing his tips for success. He markets his little notebook a lot (yeah, I bought one), so take it how you will.

This last part is what no one wants to hear. Everyone knows this and rolls their eyes:

Take care of yourself. Seriously. Drink coffee, that's fine, but don't drink 6 - 10 cups a day. If you have a desert, that's fine too, but don't rely on cakes, cookies, Starbucks, Monster, Redbull, etc. as your daily driver. Eat fruits and vegetables. No, not V8/Naked/Sunny D. Eat some celery and hummus, or a salad with lettuce, kale, and olives.

Short on time? Almond Milk + 1 Orange + 1 Cup of Kale + 1 Cup of Spinach + 1 Cup of mixed berries + 1 Banana + 1 scoop Sunwarrior Protein powder. Or whatever. Don't use whey or casein. Don't buy into this hype that you need 1 gram of protein per pound of body weight or any other dumb shit bro-science that's out there.

Exercise your body: go for long walks, brisk or light jog. Calisthenics, too. Burpees, push-ups, situps, squats. Don't be one of those bench press monkeys either, do real exercises. Deadlift, Squat, Overhead Press. Don't have barbells? DON'T CARE. Goblet Squat, Farmer's Walk, Lunges, Man-Makers (Push-up + Dumbbell row), Dumbbell swings, dumbbell snatches -- Get to work. Ton of programs on the internet, and you can YouTube the exercises.

If you want to study, learn, stay abreast of tech news you can make time to do it. Schedule time, write it down, and stick to it. Don't be afraid to unplug. Leave your phone and go for a walk without headphones. Go bike riding at a park or through the woods. Go sit at a beach or pool without anything. Just listen to the birds squawking and screeching. You'll enjoy it.

Well this escalated quickly:


Deep Work - Book

EoF - Podcast

The Strangest Secret - Earl Nightingale broadcast

Diet and Exercise

Git Gud

u/ImaNarwhal · 11 pointsr/The_Donald

His book The 50th Law with Robert Greene, author of The 48 Laws of Power is packed full of knowledge.

u/IAmScience · 11 pointsr/exmormon

Critical thinking is something that we stomp early, and that stays pretty well stamped out without some care and attention.

In his AMA earlier today, Neil Degrasse Tyson suggested that children are born scientists, who bring a sense of curiosity and wonder to everything they do. Adults are usually the ones whose minds slam shut.

Our schools, our churches, our upbringing in general teaches us precisely how to be accepting and uncritical. Those systems simply demand belief in what is being offered as though it were indicative of some capital-T "Truth".

So, your job needs to be to start thinking like a child again. Everything you encounter needs to be questioned and interrogated. Remember: You've been raised to do precisely the opposite, so this won't be easy. You need to continually remind yourself to look for the holes, the flaws, the shortcomings in the arguments that are put forward.

I would recommend the following things:

  1. Start by examining Op-Ed pieces in newspapers. Look for the biases of the author. Figure out which side they're on. I recommend the Wall Street Journal, and the New York Times op-ed pages. That's a fairly easy way to start looking at the arguments offered by the political left, and the political right in the US.
  2. Pick up the following two books: The Philosopher's Toolkit and Thank You for Arguing They're excellent books that will offer you a set of tools to evaluate arguments from a reasoned perspective. They demonstrate the tools of good argument, informal logical fallacies, and rhetorical tropes that are commonly used to persuade. They are very handy books that everybody should have on their shelf.
  3. If something seems off, then it demands further investigation. Evaluate the source of any and all information. Figure out where the data comes from, who funded the research, whether or not the numbers being presented are legitimate, etc. How to Lie With Statistics is a great tool for learning how people commonly fudge numbers to represent their positions. Knowing how it's done can help you see where people misrepresent data, whether maliciously or not.
  4. Recognize your own biases and preconceptions. Make sure you're clear on where your own privileges and understandings come from. Interrogate your own position thoroughly.
  5. Remember always that this will not be easy. Sometimes you will fall victim to the same biases and shortcomings as those with whom you are engaged in debate. Go easy on yourself, but remind yourself that you do not have all of the answers.

    The more you practice, the easier you'll find it to keep an open mind, and be willing to entertain evidence which challenges your beliefs and opinions. You'll even welcome those challenges, because they help you advance your knowledge and understanding.

    Do those things, and you'll find that all of the questions you pose here become much easier to deal with over time.
u/beat_attitudes · 11 pointsr/TEFL

Firstly, my sympathies. We've all been there. It's one of those things that really tests your mettle as a human being, not just as a teacher! I teach the same ages, and up.

The best long answer to your question I know of is a fairly short book: Don't Shoot the Dog by Karen Pryor

My short answers (related to the book because it was a real game changer for me):

  • Consistency is more important than degree. If you are able to consistently reward behaviour you want, and visa versa, your students will build solid expectations. Be predictable.

  • Find a way to respond to desired/undesired behaviours the moment they happen. We both know this is a lofty goal in a classroom, when you also don't want to disrupt the class. The focus here is on positive reinforcement though. Timeliness reinforces the connection between behaviour and outcome. Very occasionally I let positive reinforcement be disruptive. E.g. when a very problematic student randomly decided to show a big spark of ingenuity and effort recently, I immediately declared this was worth stopping the class midway for a five minute, whole-class game. The benefits in the self-esteem of this student way outweighed the costs.

  • Escalating voice syndrome is self defeating. The goal is to have students do what you say first time, when you say it in a normal voice. If you escalate volume and rage each time you ask a reluctant student, you send the message that you only mean what you say when you shout. I do occasionally raise my voice now, but in rare and specific situations.

  • Start with small things and stick with them. My students think I have a weird obsession with what is on and not on a desk. They're not wrong, but my unbending routine of what is out and away establishes a connection where following instructions is rewarded.

  • Is there anything about the room itself, or the time of the class, that's bringing out undesired behaviours? I had a room-move once that gave my 12 eight-year-olds swivel chairs. Worst. Lesson. Ever.
u/robottosama · 10 pointsr/slatestarcodex

It's late, and I kind of skimmed, but here are some thoughts.

  • If you are getting overwhelmed by a backlog, you need to either learn to ignore it (set a daily limit and consider it a success when you finish them), or prevent the backlog from happening by setting appropriate intervals or controlling how many "new" cards you start at a time.

  • I can't imagine typing in vocab items. It's probably slowing you down by a factor of 10, and just isn't worth it.

  • Anki is not ideal for learning facts for the first time, and is not designed for it. It might very well be better to start with paper flashcards or a two column list to familiarize yourself with new words, and only use Anki for getting them into long-term memory. Personally, I don't mind "failing" new cards repeatedly, so I skipped that step sometimes.

  • > Once you get to a certain point (around 100 cards), start filtering well-known, older cards into an "infrequent practice" deck which you only review every three days. Sooner or later the infrequent practice deck will probably spawn a "very infrequent practice" deck, but I haven't gotten to this point yet.

    This is spaced repetition. What Anki does is optimizing this process to minimize the number of repetitions per item over the long term, which becomes vital as the size of your deck grows.

  • > Anki ... its biggest advantage is in overcoming the organizational/logistic limits of 3x5s, and you can probably overcome that with sufficient organization.

    Nope, no way. You can't keep track of thousands of paper cards. You can't travel with them. You can't search for a card by its content. You can't label them and fish up a set of related cards instantly. You can't reformat them instantly.

    Basically, there are good and bad ways to use Anki, and these issues have been discussed to death on the internet. Not only that, but there are probably differences in preferences with things like language learning and SRS, and some things that work well for some people just won't for others. There's enough here to suggest that you are probably causing yourself unnecessary problems with Anki. I can speak from experience that I've had times when Anki worked extremely well for me and times when it didn't, and the distinguishing factor was that in the latter I was over-complicating things or overwhelming myself unnecessarily.

    Sidenote: a while back I had a little box from White Rabbit Press with colored dividers. The idea was to use it for simple spaced repetition of small batches of their Kanji flashcards. Another thing some people like are ring-bound mini vocab cards, though those are not good for spaced repetition.

    Personally, I'd keep using simple lists if that works for you. In fact, if you create your lists as a spreadsheet, you can print them to learn, and then export as a CSV file to get them into Anki. You can even shuffle and reprint them if you feel like you need an extra "learning" round.

    Final thought: I cannot take the paper notes vs laptop thing seriously. This requires a lot of explaining, but the gist of it is:

  1. The phenomenon seems to have to do with attention, so if you take notes in a mindful manner, processing and rewording rather than transcribing, etc., the effect should evaporate. Needless to say, this would be extraordinarily hard to test experimentally.
  2. Electronic notes have numerous advantages, not the least of which is that you can edit and reorganize them after the fact in a way that is completely impractical with paper notes. This alone negates any advantage that paper notes might have.
  3. Taking notes is not the end of the learning process; it's the beginning. For details, read Cal Newport's How to Become a Straight-A Student. If you are doing the things that you need to do to really learn something, whether you took notes on paper or on a computer is not going to matter.
u/evilish · 10 pointsr/gamedev

Ever heard of "The Dip"?

It basically describes what your going through. It's something that nearly everyone experiences no matter what project they're working on, and it's something to be aware off so you know when to push through.

Theres a book about it here and YouTube has a few videos explaining it.

Another quick tip. If you haven't already, break up what your work into small two week development sprints with the aim being something that you can be proud of, something that you can demo at the end of the two weeks.

It'll give you that feeling of having achieved something.

u/penguin_stratosphere · 10 pointsr/LifeProTips

There is a nice book about this. The present mantra of popular career advice is follow your passion. But this turns out to be not so good idea, becasue to actually have work that has the qualities of good work, you need to have something to give in exchange. That something is your unique skills.

u/llyev · 10 pointsr/getdisciplined

These two books by Cal Newport, one of the best authors on productivity and discipline.

Deep Work

So Good They Can't Ignore You

And also, The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg

Aaaand, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

For mindset, I also recommend The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson. It'll teach you to choose your battles carefully, although you can find most of that content in his site.

u/Jek_Tano_Porkins · 10 pointsr/AskHR

Good book to read if you want to navigate the corporate ladder is a book called “48 Laws of Power”. Lots of tricks and methods used for effectively building relationships and dealing with adversaries. Other than that, top comment is correct in that you should just do your job the best you can (without burning yourself out).

Link for the book: The 48 Laws of Power

u/Geckel · 9 pointsr/IWantToLearn

This is my own interpretation, with a little added psychology. There are two big factors I'd consider in this and they both fall under the description of "environment".

  1. The Social Group. Everyone plays a role in their social group. Each person exhibits "expected" behaviours. It makes social gatherings easy and "predictable". We are a species of comfort. Find out what role you play and change it. This is hard because it surprises and makes a lot of your friends uncomfortable. We are afraid of change.

  2. The Drinking Setting. The drinking environment plays a huge role. When people choose to drink, they are often aware of the drinking setting. Most people drink in a setting where they are able to experience new emotions. They're getting drunk and being vulnerable, guarded, happy, sad, etc. Many people go to bar exactly for the unpredictable nature of meeting new people, feeling attractive, flirting, etc. This kind of environment creates a feedback loop for people to try out a different persona and not be, for the most part, shunned by their social community. This environment is hard to reproduce.

    Now here's the thing about people. We are pre-disposed to certain behaviours as cultivated by our genetics and our environment but we are incredibly malleable. If you decide to be happy, you will be happy. Same with sad, confident, timid, outgoing, shy etc. Gain experience with new behaviours and then reproduce them. After enough reproduction you will no longer have to "choose" to be the fun guy. It will be natural. This is what people often call being "on".

    As an aside, be wary of narcissistic tendencies, particularly dishonesty. As soon as you begin lying to yourself, you're going to be in for a world full of hurt and disillusionment.

    Also bear in mind that not everything lasts, learn and grow. Like everything else, there's time for friendly banter and the "fun guy" but I wouldn't invite that guy to too many funerals or business meetings.

    If you're interested in doing a little background homework that expands on the ideas discussed, don't hesitate to consult the rules.
u/strolls · 9 pointsr/UKPersonalFinance

> "we need to live and deserve this"

This is a red flag to me.

That phrase makes me think of the book Your Money Or Your Life (some comments in this thread) - it's the sort of thing that people tell themselves to justify bad habits.

Rich Dad, Poor Dad is supposed to be good, too (I haven't read it) but both are self-help books and your partner needs to see his behaviour as a problem before he'll change it.

If he loses his job, you're going to be supporting him and I don't think he's made any provision for that - he might be saving a bit now, but he has no mental provision for his future. I used to be the same.

It's quite possible your partner could lose his job for no fault of his own (does he work in the city by any chance?) - I think a few months of unemployment would be a huge wake-up call for him.

u/recruz · 9 pointsr/financialindependence

There’s an excellent book on this that gives a way to actually track and calculate this. I haven’t fully finished the book yet, but it’s definitely a good one: “Your Money or Your Life by Vicki Robin”

Your Money or Your Life: 9 Steps to Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Achieving Financial Independence: Fully Revised and Updated for 2018

u/PetraLoseIt · 9 pointsr/financialindependence

I think automation is one of the answers. You put money away as soon as it comes in. That way, you hardly see it and you don't feel that you can spend it. (The paying yourself first principle, where you put money aside for your future self and see that as some kind of bill that just needs to be paid).

One easy way would be to put aside $6k/month into a savings account (you possibly already have the savings account, so you just need to create one or two automatic transfers per month, set to happen right after paychecks come in).

Maybe also easy (-ish): start overpaying on your mortgage. Put in an extra $2k/month. Your interest rate on the mortgage probably isn't extremely high (probably like 3 to 4%?), but hey, putting an extra $24k/year there surely beats spending the money on stupid stuff, right?

A bit harder would be to do some research into tax-friendly ways to save money. Put the maximum amount of money into the 401k at work, for example. And decide which investment options to choose. For your own company, you can also open a 401k for yourself, but there are also some other options for people who are entrepreneurs/own their own business; so you would need to research that as well.

So start with the savings account; and try to get the rest up and running by say the end of January.

I want to tell you that you may very well be able to change your attitude towards money. I come from a similar background, and it just took me a few years to change my attitude around money, when it finally came in. I also had a few years of spending everything (and then some). I have managed to change my ways and am happier for it. And I think you can do that, too. (Because I'm definitely no superhuman).

One book recommendation: "Your money or your life", by Vicki Robin and Joe Dominguez.

Also check out the FAQ at the subreddit /r/personalfinance, they have recommendations on how to use the 401k, what investments to choose, etc.

u/GiantGummyBear · 9 pointsr/GetStudying

Cool. Grab a hold of Cal Newport's book called How to Become a Straight-A Student if you haven't read it already. It's a classic. You could find a free copy online but of course I would never ever recommend that.

u/stonecipheco · 9 pointsr/Bitcoin

further reading: on basically all 4 bullets

further further reading on the last bullet, and the actual explanation of "black swan" that is starting to show up in crypto but totally incorrectly used

you could also dig into efficient market hypothesis.

also, if you're into technical analysis/charts, this could shake your views a little but it's good to be challenged

u/JurisMacto · 9 pointsr/The_Donald

Trumps timing is impeccable. He talks about the importance of timing
in his book The Art of the deal. Under budget and ahead of schedule!

u/srjenkins · 9 pointsr/librarians

I'm going to suggest the book: Don't Shoot the Dog. It's a dog training book, but it's really about effective communication and managing behaviors you don't like. There are many suggestions in this book. One of them would be to create situations where an undesired behavior becomes more difficult to do.

For example, you might use a community room as a "gaming room", "teen room", or whatever, and move a portion of computers there. Even if it is just a few computers, you are creating a space for noise that is unobtrusive. People get too loud, then direct them to the room. In this way, you'll be either isolating or splitting the group, which would make it less likely they will be disruptive in the main space.

The nature of games is to forget your surroundings. And, the reason these kids come to the library, probably, is they either don't have computers at home or they come because they want to game socially. If you are bumping into this problem, it means there's a need that's not being met, and you have to think harder about meeting it.

It's hard. I wish you the best of luck.

u/angryfistofgod · 9 pointsr/IWantToLearn

/u/frodojackson777 is correct that you can skip a lot of standard training if you can link mimicry study to train the action. To make the action consistent and done on command, I would recommend the following.

Don't shoot the dog is a training book that will allow you to understand "positive reinforcement training", works on cats, chickens, basically everything. It also trains with "negative reinforcement/disipline"which works on dogs, monkeys, and people beyond toddler age. It gives direction on how to properly set initial training hurdles and when to raise them. Training is an art and the more skill you build as a trainer the faster you will get rewards from your training subject.

Negative reinforcement reduces the chance the subject will do the action again. Positive reinforces the action to happen more often and past a certain point makes them do it more intensely or search for similar actions.

Negative done too much will end in resistance/acting out or inactivity from all action. Positive has the problem of only being possible if they already do a piece of the action to reward.

But before you buy the 200 picks and 20 locks you'll probably go through training, you should probably practice training things like series of actions linked to one command, like a dance, or complex handshake. Which is effectively the same as your goal but without having to break all those picks.

TL;DR buy the book

u/ledfox · 9 pointsr/youseeingthisshit

Punishment is typically considered the least effective method of modifying behavior. You should check out Karen Pryor's Don't Shoot The Dog! She studied directly under legendary behavioral scientist BF Skinner and will be able to answer your questions and more in that book.

u/lawz-lawz · 8 pointsr/LawSchool

Second best book to only the bible. Teaches you how to make great fantastic incredibly classy deals.

u/TheRealGentlefox · 8 pointsr/SSBM

Mindset is an incredibly difficult thing to master, but also incredibly important.

I'd recommend starting with a book called The Inner Game of Tennis. and when you finish it, there are some online resources I could send you. (Dr.PP has written a lot of good stuff)

u/est-la-lune · 8 pointsr/RedPillWomen

Don't use your phone to browse, especially while walking.

/u/teaandtalk Gave you good advice for how to behave on campus.

Classroom: Take notes by hand. Once, I started a conversation with someone because she had a gorgeous bujo (bullet journal). Good notes make you appear competent. Competence will encourage others to approach you and form study groups, which are easy ways to create a support network on campus. When you are unique (but not distracting) you stand out. Compliments are easy ice breakers in the classroom because they're quick but let you connect over a shared interest.

Transportation/Packing: This one is a big issue for me because my school has a behemoth of a campus. :) Always wear comfortable shoes. If you need to dress up, put heels in your bag for the meeting/event. Only carry the essentials. Invest in a tablet and download electronic copies of your books. Only bring your laptop when you need to use software that's not on a smaller device. Buy a good USB stick. Carry chapstick and water, and a travel-size deodorant and sunscreen. Baby wipes and bandaids are a good idea if you have space. I love JetPens because they have a lot of organizers and cases that are handy. You don't need more than 2 pens, 2 highlighters, a pencil, an eraser, and spare lead.

General: I don't know what year you are, but I recommend Cal Newport's book How To Become A Straight A Student no matter what point of your education you're at. Learn how to save time, because having leisure time means less stress which makes you appear more feminine to men and approachable in general. Practice good self-care and take care of your appearance. Never wear revealing/provocative, dirty, or weather-inappropriate clothes to school; they make you look unprofessional.

u/thirdfounder · 8 pointsr/TrueReddit

as a tool of power i think probably yes, actually, in a big way.

a lot of the Trump madness is perhaps in part a method articulated in several business/leadership/management books that owe quite a bit to Sun Tzu and Clausewitz. my favorite is Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power. no one is going to read it -- here's a synopsis -- but if you did you'd see Trump apparently keeps this on his bedstand (if he reads; maybe audiobook?)

one of the primary principles is the use of confusion and deception, which often manifests as the appearance of ineptitude.

admittedly, if you assume Trump is a moron, accepting this requires a major reframe -- a lot of his pablum as purposeful and practiced cant, for example. and it isn't a perfect match all the way down. but read through the synopsis and see if you aren't convinced by the time you get to Law 7.

for the purposes of this comment, Law 17:

>Keep others in suspended terror, cultivate an air of unpredictability


u/cxj · 8 pointsr/PurplePillDebate

TLDR: Your experience of musicians is shaped by their performance to you, which they know is necessary to get ahead. You are not truly an "insider" to their world, largely because its mostly a boys club. Rather, you are a resource who can only be utilized if musicians make you like them. This is why you are being told and shown the things you want to hear.

Having toured in many bands and occasionally rolled in some fairly high profile circles as well, this aligns a lot with my experiences. However, the key here is that I find your experience of these guys believable, but I am also aware there is a different reality you have not, will not, and are not supposed to experience. Touring music is largely a boys club, especially rock and hip hop. Even at the low level, musicians are performers, and part of that performance is appealing to the audience down to the micro level. That includes appealing to people like you, who would be appalled by a lot of the private conversations I'm sure the nice sweet alphas you meet have. The top musicians would not be where they are if they failed to follow one of the crucial 48 laws of Power: think as you like, but act like others. This book is massively popular within the hip hop community to the point where Roberte Greene even wrote a book about 50 cent. Greene's work, especially 48 laws, is the heart and soul of true redpill imo.

My point here is that a lot of what you are experiencing is a performance unto itself. As u/Atlas_B_Shruggin has said, artists and musicians are often "show ponies" lol.

>Again, this might be just my theory, but it seems like, if you don't HATE women, like TRP does, you don't feel threatened by feminity, you also don't mind women being independent and completely liberated.

No shit, who but a liberated, "independent" woman would fuck an unshowered, unshaven, broke ass dude who lives in a van 8 months out of the year, knowing full well this will only last one night because he is constantly on the road? Also, the feminism these dudes are often encountering is the "sex positive" kind that benefits them because like you said, they are attractive and cannot meaningfully offer commitment.

>All over the internet you read that "a rejection is not a rejection" and that you have to push a girl till she gives up.

Tons of band dudes have this mentality, but it doesn't mean pester an obviously uninterested girl or literally tear her clothes off. It means if you get a no, deescalate and build more comfort before trying again. Lost track of how many t imes I've had to explain this. It's really not a tough concept.

>I explained I'm not interested in sex outside of a relationship, it was met with a complete understanding (and it was one of the guys of the "smoking hot rock star" type too).

A) you got lucky, this could have gone much worse
B) this guy DGAF's because he knows there's other pussy out there, he may have even gotten laid that same day before or after you.

>Once you are really attractive, you don't have to use tricks to become a center of attention.

LOL performance is ALL tricks to become the center of attention. Great performers have simply internalized them one way or the other. You think a good puppeteer lets you see the strings?

>As for said partners, often they are really pretty girls, but - an interesting fact - some musicians pick girls/women who are by no means considered physically attractive, but have certain achievements in their (usually artistic) field.

This happens sometimes, but those girls are almost always getting cheated on with the type of girl you think they don't want for some mind blowing reason. Their gfs are often even aware of it and don't care. Some of them even have another sidepiece, often for weird reasons like not liking to have to sleep alone while their man is on the road, which he usually is. Musicians have unspoken "open" relationships sometimes, with the dude cheating for variety of ONS and the girl having one consistent back burner dude for emotional intimacy/companionship/sex while he's gone.

>I suppose once you have a confidence of a rock star, you don't feel the need to show off that you are able to get a super hot teen babe, huh?

Once again, I am truly mind blown about female projection here. Women simply cannot accept that the motivation for fucking/dating teen babes is almost purely physical pleasure and showing off is a secondary benefit if at all. Women date men to show off status, men date women to fuck a good looking body.

I've known all types of musicians. Ultimately, band dudes are the scum of the earth and should be avoided by women looking for long term commitment and a family. Yes there are exceptions, but chances are you are just enjoying the performance ;)

EDIT: One last example I'll add is the recent wave of outrage at Warped Tour pop punk bands over the last few years. A huge amount of their fan base comes from tumblr, which of course has the unspoken assumption of feminism being a part of their bands views, so of course the bands champion this cause. Then, inevitably, almost every band has a scandal of some girl leaking screen shots of some band member scamming on 15 year old smokin hot jailbait, and the scene goes berzerk as though this hasn't been par for the course on Warped Tour since its inception. The difference is the audience now has evidence of it that can spread in a viral manner, and are mad that their perception of the band was obviously inaccurate.

u/acepincter · 8 pointsr/sysadmin

Sorry buddy. I really feel for you. I do. If I were in your position I would feel like I had been so completely betrayed. And, you have.

Get yourself a copy of Robert Greene's The 48 Laws of Power so you can see firsthand how he manipulated the powers that be in to a sleepy acceptance of safety over hard fact.

Then, decide just how much of this political game you wish to play. You've been outmaneuvered. But it's not checkmate for you, no, just a check. You've learned enough IT to handle a complex task, and now you need to learn how to handle the people who might try to maneuver you out so they can take the credit.

Personally, I don't like this part of our business at all, I wish it would go away, but that expectation would require all humans to be rational. You would be wise to learn your opponent's tactics so you can employ them while simultaneously providing a value to your employer.

Sucks, but it's the reality until we have some guaranteed safety net for displaced talented workers. I encourage you to support a basic income, so that technicians wouldn't have to feel so threatened that they need to engage in political maneuvering.

u/vtjohnhurt · 8 pointsr/news

CS? If you're a programming savant or even moderately gifted and self-disciplined, then college is optional. To try it, first get a programming or IT job for a gap year, but plan to return to school if the self-education route does not pan out. You can tell if it is working, if you are happy and if your programming skills and knowledge improve dramatically, and your salary goes up dramatically. Do not work any less hard outside of school and be sure to have a serious programming project (however small) outside of your job.

Join a club or two to maintain a social life.

Read 'Your Money or Your Life' and see how you can have a better life on a lower salary. A key step may be to avoid crushing student debt.

As a transition, you might try to get an IT job on campus. Some of those jobs include free tuition for one course a semester and you retain some of the perks of being a student.

u/Rootlx · 8 pointsr/financaspessoaispt

Em português não conheço grande coisa sem ser este do Pedro Queiroga Carrilho mas se quiseres ler em inglês, as recomendações do r/personalfinance são excelentes.

Alguns dos que recomendo:

  • Everyday Millionaires - este é do género do "The Millionaire Next Door" que é recomendado na lista deles mas é mais actual. É escrito pelo Chris Hogan e foi publicado este ano (ou o ano passado, não me recordo bem). É bom numa perspectiva motivacional e comportamental, não tanto um guia de dicas práticas.
  • Dave Ramsey's Complete Guide to Money - recomendo para as bases de como fazer um orçamento mensal, poupar e pagar dívidas (se tiveres).
  • Your Money, Your Life - este é mais de lifestyle e de fazer repensar a nossa relação com o dinheiro. É tido como o livro que, sem querer, originou o movimento FIRE.
  • The Motley Fool Guide to Investment - sobre investimento em acções (visão mais a longo prazo, buy and hold).

    Desses 4, eu apostaria nos dois primeiros. Um porque te vai deixar motivado e o outro porque te vai forçar a mudar comportamentos. Eu cresci a ler estes livros. Li o Rich Dad Poor Dad com 11 anos, o investment guide for teens do Motley Fool também na adolescência e pouco fiz com isso porque, como diz o Dave Ramsey, finanças pessoais é 20% conhecimento, 80% comportamento. Só anos mais tarde quando fiz o programa dele (Financial Peace University) é que realmente mudei alguma coisa e arrependo-me de não ter começado mais cedo.
u/beast-freak · 8 pointsr/personalfinance

This forms the basis of the book [Your Money or Your Life: 9 Steps to Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Achieving Financial Independence] (

u/FairEnough · 7 pointsr/Entrepreneur

The $100 Startup by Chris Guillebeau

u/yoooooohoooooooooooo · 7 pointsr/smallbusiness

This book: The $100 startup is insanely motivating and outlines all the things you need to make it happen.

u/tricep6 · 7 pointsr/AskThe_Donald

Apologies for the length in advance. I feel like your question can be answered best by pulling some excerpts from Donald Trump's book The Art of the Deal He talks about his experiences with the press, his strategy, and how he deals with them.

>One thing I’ve learned about the press is that they’re always hungry for a good story, and the more sensational the better. It’s in the nature of the job, and I understand that. The point is that if you are a little different, or a little outrageous, or if you do things that are bold or controversial, the press is going to write about you. I’ve always done things a little differently, I don’t mind controversy, and my deals tend to be somewhat ambitious. Also, I achieved a lot when I was very young, and I chose to live in a certain style. The result is that the press has always wanted to write about me.

>I’m not saying that [journalists] necessarily like me. Sometimes they write positively, and sometimes they write negatively. But from a pure business point of view, the benefits of being written about have far outweighed the drawbacks. It’s really quite simple. If I take a full-page ad in the New York Times to publicize a project, it might cost $40,000, and in any case, people tend to be skeptical about advertising. But if the New York Times writes even a moderately positive one-column story about one of my deals, it doesn’t cost me anything, and it’s worth a lot more than $40,000.

>The other thing I do when I talk with reporters is to be straight. I try not to deceive them or to be defensive, because those are precisely the ways most people get themselves into trouble with the press. Instead, when a reporter asks me a tough question, I try to frame a positive answer, even if that means shifting the ground. For example, if someone asks me what negative effects the world’s tallest building might have on the West Side, I turn the tables and talk about how New Yorkers deserve the world’s tallest building, and what a boost it will give the city to have that honor again. When a reporter asks why I build only for the rich, I note that the rich aren’t the only ones who benefit from my buildings. I explain that I put thousands of people to work who might otherwise be collecting unemployment, and that I add to the city’s tax base every time I build a new project. I also point out that buildings like Trump Tower have helped spark New York’s renaissance.

>Contrary to what a lot of people think, I don’t enjoy doing press. I’ve been asked the same questions a million times now, and I don’t particularly like talking about my personal life. Nonetheless, I understand that getting press can be very helpful in making deals, and I don’t mind talking about them. . . . Also, when I do give an interview, I always keep it short. This reporter is in and out in less than twenty minutes. If I didn’t limit myself, I could spend my life talking to the press.

u/mykart · 7 pointsr/seduction

The basics for guy friendships are the same for relationship building in general: Do things that puts you in close proximity of other people, approach by sparking up random conversations (sports, girls, whatever), and add value to their lives in some way.

If you want something more in depth then I can recommend the following books which have helped me immensely on having more friendships and connections:

Never Eat Alone

How to Win Friends & Influence People

u/Tangurena · 7 pointsr/AskReddit

There are a number of books that I think you ought to read to get a better understanding of office politics and how to cope/deal with them. All offices have politicking going on, and any company that claims otherwise is lying to you. Any time more than 2 people get together, there will be some sort of jostling for power and attention. When that happens at work, we call it "office politics".

Your library may have these, and if you get them, read them at home. Don't ever bring them into the office.

Corporate Confidential. HR is your enemy, not your friend. Gives a number of examples of what will destroy your career with companies, many of which you (and I) probably do without realizing the consequences.

The Passionate Programmer. The first edition of this book was called "my job went to India". While aimed at programmers, the points are to keep your mind and skills up to date as technology and business move too rapidly to let things get rusty.

To Be or Not to Be Intimidated.
Looking out for number one.
Million Dollar Habits. I feel that these 3 by Robert Ringer are very important. If you think his first book was about to intimidate others, you only read the press coverage. If you think his books are about real estate, then you only skimmed them. There are a lot of people in the world who will try to intimidate you into giving up what is yours, and he shows you what some of them are like, and what countermeasures you can use.

The Art of Deception. Bad title - it is about arguments, how to make them, win them and tell if you're hearing a bad one. Used to be called "rhetoric" when Plato and Aristotle taught the subject.

Snakes in Suits. There are some evil people out there. You'll work for some of them. You will be stabbed in the back by some of them.

Bullies, Tyrants, and Impossible People. One book on office politics and dealing with some of the worse sort.

The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense at Work. Some folks are very good with verbal manipulation, this book and the others in the series, cover how to deal with such people.

Winning with People. Most of the books this author writes are about managers and leadership. This book is more about people skills. It will be focused more at managers, but I think it is a good one.

The 48 Laws of Power. They have it. You want some. Light read with anecdotes. I like his other books as well.

Games At Work. Office politics.

It's All Politics. Yes it is.

Moral Politics. Liberals and conservatives, why do they think that way? You'll work with some of the opposite persuasion some day, so understanding where they come from is a reasonable idea. Most books on this subject are insulting and degrading, but I think this one is pretty much judgement-free.

> When I walk by him going to the bathroom, he will stop talking until I walk by.

Do the same. When they come to your desk, always brush them aside with "I'm sorry, I can't talk now, I'm busy working".

u/favours_of_the_moon · 7 pointsr/asktrp

48 Laws of Power. Or as I call it, "The Pedantic Sociopath." lol

Short version:

Full version:

I think this might be the full version in PDF, but I'm not sure:

u/-Tyler_Durden- · 7 pointsr/asktrp

Read the 48 Laws of Power.

This is your work place; you shouldn't be looking for plates there. Think how you can use this guy to accomplish your goals. Ask him for favors you don't really need. Get him bogged down with your busy work. And whatever you do, don't get angry.

u/dJe781 · 7 pointsr/everymanshouldknow

The 48 Laws of Power because everyone will, at some point, be involved in power-centered relationships, would it be personal or professional.

I work in a high-conflict-prone environment and this is the single most useful peace of literature that I own.

It's very easy to read, it's based on historical anecdotes (that always come in handy when you need to tell a story), and it's self-critical.

u/SevenGlass · 7 pointsr/NoStupidQuestions

That says more about you than it does about him. It's a pretty well known technique. It's even mentioned in this book. I'm pretty sure he knows the author.

u/donaldfisk · 7 pointsr/unitedkingdom

Ahem, The Art of the Deal.

I haven't read it, but can't imagine it's worse than Mein Kampf. I tried to read that once. It was a struggle.

u/turinturambar81 · 7 pointsr/politics

Trump: The Art of the Deal in stock at Amazon.

u/noitamroftuo · 7 pointsr/Meditation
u/delysia · 7 pointsr/tennis

Hit against the wall until you hit forearm muscle failure. Concentrate on hitting as many as you can in a row without stopping. (It's easier to do this if you go closer to the wall and hit softly). If you get bored and want to hit with your brother, play mini tennis. Try to play within the service boxes only and just rally back and forth, trying to get the longest rallies possible. Proper footwork and watching the ball are important to keep in mind.

Watch some videos on how to hit topsin and proper backhand form too. It will be hard for your body to produce it consistently before getting used to using the muscles required for tennis, so keep things slow. At the very beginning I wouldn't worry too much about hitting things with too much spin. Just try to get a feel for how the ball bounces on the court, where you need to be standing to hit it, and which way your racquet is facing when you make contact. Make small adjustments to these things until you start to feel more comfortable moving around and at least being able to rally a little.

It might also be a good idea to try practicing serving. Watch some videos on proper form, but don't try to do anything fancy. Your body hasn't really gotten the muscle memory for tennis yet.

I don't mention playing matches with your brother because I know how miserable it can be when no ones serves are going in and no rallies are happening. You're pretty much just walking around the court calling out the score. If you want to do some kind of competition with him do who can hit the ball more times in a row or who can hit a certain spot the most times, stuff like that. You could also play points in mini tennis just feeding the ball as a serve and going back and forth like that, using normal scoring or playing to 21 something like that.

If you want some reading, I'd recommend The inner game of tennis ( He talks a lot about intuitive tennis. He gives examples of how he applied it to his coaching. I think it is a good resource if you are wondering how to learn. Not a lot of technical instruction, but if you want that you can get it from videos or by taking some lessons.

Another good book is Winning Ugly ( I'd say save this for when you start playing matches in tournament or league play though. It doesn't really have a lot to do with learning tennis, but it is an interesting insight on what to think about when you are playing a match to increase your chances of winning.

The best thing to do for your tennis though is to make tennis friends. Everything above are things you can do on your own or with your brother. Try to find a club with weekly tennis events or just talk to people you see around the court. Some places have group lessons that aren't too expensive. Once you can serve without double faulting too much and are able to have short rallies, you can also join a 2.5 league or sign up for a tournament. Some clubs even have ball machines you can rent for free or for a small fee once you are a member. Ball machines are great for trying to practice a specific stroke or shot because you will get consistent feeds and can see where your ball is going on the other side of the court.

u/mcilroyisold · 7 pointsr/squash

First off, welcome.

Welcome to one of the last pure sports on Earth.

Yeah, you lost. It happens a lot. One of the Sport's all time greats, Ramy Ashour, speaks fondly of losing 0-27 in the first tournament he ever entered as a junior.

Losing is a part of sport and a part of life.

To answer your question, you should absolutely continue in our Sport. Squash is brilliant at building resolve, it's not a sport of passing shots but of perseverance and endurance. It's about digging in and overcoming the voices telling you to quit and just keep getting the ball back.

I can tell you now, with very solid experience that kids all develop their game at different rates. The best players I've seen are often the ones at 14 & 15 who couldn't keep up with their peers, they just hadn't developed as much. Work hard, set those players as your target and never stop getting the ball back.

They say you can't put an old head on young shoulders but this old head wants to try for a moment. Go pick up a used copy of The Inner Game of Tennis and start working on your mental game. It's never to early to teach yourself how to mentally compete, to support yourself and hone the muscle between your ears.

In closing, stay in the sport, be gracious when you make Varsity next year and don't delete your post. You'll smile next year when you look back on these doubts.

u/youreallmeatanyway · 7 pointsr/TrueOffMyChest

> I am sorry that I have been such a mess the last few years.

Find a beginners book to the philosophy of Stoicism. Here is my favorite introduction to the subject.

I know that a philosophy book might not be what you want right now, but its clear your head is a mess; and its also clear that you want to improve.

Click the "Look Inside" button and see if what you read resonates with parts of you. Then buy it.

u/burst200 · 7 pointsr/peyups

I abided by these two books, and had a satisfactory result:

How to be a Straight A Student by Cal Newport. It's not free, so I had to get creative in getting access.

10 Steps to Earning Awesome Grades (While Studying Less). It's a free book by the productivity/college blogger and YouTuber Thomas Frank.

It's just a shame that I discovered this later in college. They would have helped tone down the anxiety associated with wanting to earn good grades. Now I send this to everyone I know who is starting with college.

u/mrplow2000 · 7 pointsr/investing

Check out 'Fooled by Randomness' by Taleb

I am not saying technical analysis doesn't work, but pointing to individuals for whom is has worked outstandingly for is flawed.

Could argue the same for old Warren.

u/ginger_beer_m · 7 pointsr/IWantOut

Education is your way out. The typical way to get out for young Indonesian is through education, but that means you need to be either rich (to pay for outrageous tuition fee / living cost abroad) or smart (to qualify for scholarships). Are you?

An alternative way out is through working on in-demands jobs. For instance, you can gain several years of working experience in IT in indo and then try to apply for openings abroad (Singapore is often the first step). However at the moment, the UK is a closed doors for non-EU people who want to come here to work in hope of a residency, so don't bother... Other countries in Europe that you can consider is Germany, where it's still possible to get a sponsored job visa if you're good.

A final point is: indo is actually isn't that bad. True there are shits going on with a small group of religious extremism, but things are actually getting better, with changes since the reformasi in 98 and people like jokowi+ahok on the lead. Indonedians are largely friendly everywhere, the society is relaxed, the weather is nice nearly everyday of the year, food is good, a lot of nature places to visit in the country alone (and can easily fly to south east Asia and the rest of Asia too), we have a decent economic growth (compared to the stagnant West) .. I guess my point is, if you fail to get out, it's actually quite a good place to be stuck in for now (especially if you can write in English and post on reddit, that usually assumes you come from middle-to-upper socioeconomic background, alongside its associated conveniences in life that you might have to give up when you get out).

Of course don't just take my words for it. For most people you actually have to get out first to realise how good we have it in Indonesia. So by all means, try to get out but don't be surprised that eventually you'd want to return. That's what I plan to do after being away for more than half of my life now. Plus maybe it's my idealism speaking but the country needs people like us, the smartest anak bangsa who leave due to the brain drain. It's only lately I'm seeing more and more people around me who reverses this trend and actually go back to indo after spending years abroad. I think it'd a positive sign that the country is doing something right.

Edit: for a more concrete advice on how to prepare to get out, basically read this book: Get really good in something that is in demands, and you can usually move anywhere you want in the world. For me, it's computer science. For you, it might be something else.

Edit2: you might also find that as you get older, you can compromise on the atheism vs religious bit. A lot of people put their religions on KTP only, but doesn't mean they actually have to practice that. Or you can simply move to the right neighbourhood in Jakarta where nobody gives a fuck what your religion is.

u/V_varius · 7 pointsr/HelloInternet
u/TheBigCalm · 6 pointsr/careerguidance

Read this book before you do anything rash- he offers a framework/perspective you might find helpful.

It's always hard to tell whether we are thinking "this is hard I want to stop because it's hard even though its making me grow" VS. "this path is legitimately pointless and not going to lead me to where I want to go with my life".

Pretty sure everyone deals with this kind of doubt- especially when you're really challenging yourself. Which is OFTEN a good sign, it means you're outside of your comfort zone which is where growth happens.

I'm just saying step 1 is figure out if this is just edginess due to perfectly normal feelings of inferiority (I'm not good enough/this is easy to everyone else) The first sentence of your post makes it pretty clear you're AT THE VERY LEAST adequate. "3rd year PHd student at a large research university..." I would bet on you being fairly capable, hardworking/intelligent. just a hunch. :)

The idea of "quitting" is seductive because there's no reality there- it's a pure concept that exists in our heads, a fantasy we construct when facing a difficult reality. This is a normal human reaction- you are normal.

TLDR; It's super healthy and normal for these kinds of doubts to come up. Also, even the most meaningful work is often difficult, boring, demanding and stressful- that's true in any field. But if you hate yoga and believe it's useless you shouldn't be working in a yoga studio. And if you have some other ability/skill that will meaningfully contribute to the world (WHILE GETTING YOU PAID) then it might be worth exploring that option first- before throwing away all your hard work.

Sounds like your attitude towards work has taken a hit and you need to realign yourself with YOUR purpose and motivation that doesn't involve rewards such as the approval of a parent.

u/rocks95 · 6 pointsr/GetStudying

Yeah, it's really liberating to know that you can do anything you set your mind to... And that it's ok not to know your passion immediately!

My favorite books on this topic:

So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport
Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell

For online business, I love these peoples' sites:

u/pigs_have_fl0wn · 6 pointsr/edmproduction

I would check out most of Cal Newport's recent writings. He received his PhD in Computer Science from MIT, and is now teaching at Georgetown.

His main thesis is deliberate practice consists of lots of different facets, most of which aren't necessarily thought about. While his work focuses a lot on improving work in "knowledge fields" it is drawn mostly from creative pursuits. He argues that thinking about your habits for practicing and learning (meta-habits) are just as important as sitting down to practice or learn. For example, knowing how to build a clear path of improvement and success in learning the piano is as important as sitting down and working through the hard parts. Sometimes the hardest part is simply figuring out where it is wisest to invest your time.

His article "The Deliberate Creative" I found to be particularly enlightening, among others. He's also been published in the New York Times, The Economist, and has five bestselling books.

On a side note, I originally found him looking for ways to improve my study habits, which is what he originally wrote about as an undergraduate. Any current high school or college students would benefit GREATLY (IMO) from his blog and first three books. Seriously, the guy has some great stuff.

u/Amator · 6 pointsr/IntellectualDarkWeb

Submission statement: Cal is an academic and bestselling author of many books on productivity, focus, and effective study. This post talks about the effectiveness of "Indie Social Media" to achieve a completely different objective than other alternative social media failures that try to be the next Facebook or Twitter. The IDW is name checked as well.

> If you’re deeply committed to the Intellectual Dark Web, for example, then Thinkspot will probably return you much more value than Instagram or Twitter, even though its audience size is a minuscule fraction of these giants.

If you're not familiar with the author, I highly recommend his books Deep Work and Digital Minimalism.

u/ddd333ggg · 6 pointsr/The_Donald

Please start your education early with the books that they will never introduce you to!! Here's a good start:

u/Black6x · 6 pointsr/AskTrumpSupporters

Morning Joe spells it out. Their job is to report the news, right? And that's cool. And I get it, there's going to be some slant somewhere. That's just human nature, and EVERY organization has some slant. (I'd very quickly like to plug as a great resource).

But what good is a new organization to the people when it lets its slant allow it to misreport information? A news organization becomes the enemy when it stops reporting the news and starts reporting what they want you to think. I mean, it wasn't until after the election that someone made a gif of where Trump campaigned for the last 10 weeks. No one talks about ow he was working the map? No one looked at his strategy? No one tried to break it down until AFTER?

I like how the election turned out, although I would have liked t to have been Sanders vs Trump. I expected Trump to win, but at the same time, I was telling my democrat friends that they needed to watch out for Trump since the first debate, and that if they didn't take him seriously, he would win. And they laughed. And they shouted me down. And I'm black, but anm did the SJW's liek to flex on this issue.

NYT played him as a joke. Constantly. Hell, they're probably seeing a spike in readership right now because of this "fued." He secretely wants you to read the times, and he wants the Times to talk about him, so you are reading about him. And if you think the YT doesn't like it, you should look into their bottom line. NYT stock is up 50% since Trump won.

The funniest thing is, if you read the Art of the Deal this type of thing is exactly what Trump wants. It's exactly how he got the Wollman rink contract. Manipulating the media to play out public feuds. People on the left don't want to read that book, but if you want to "know your enemy" like any good tactician would, you need to read that book.

It's a book from 1987 where he says he hates Reagan, likes to manipulate the media, and hates the one sided trade deals the US is in. Trump has been the same for 30 years. No change. Even NPR pointed this out.

u/Gertex · 6 pointsr/technology

Almost 50 here as well. What really helped me was to do some reading on Stoicism. Reading this book ever morning after getting up really helped bring perspective into my life.

u/AnonJian · 6 pointsr/marketing

You can find a lot of free information on the internet. At free, it's overpriced.

>What do you guys think? Do you have to spend money when you are just starting out?

A lot of people don't think so, from the freemium to open source to the unpaid internship the consensus would seem to be free is the way to go.

So I'll say the only time this is false is when when you use free to make up for ignorance about marketing. Because it takes exponentially more savvy to monetize free -- the epic fail of most small business.

The people using free seem to think free killed marketing. It didn't. Free made marketing smarts critical for survival.

I think if you can sell it, then you can give it away. If you couldn't sell it, don't give it away. A bitch slap of truth right there.

Because when you understand what I just said, you don't have to stop at Free.

Getting Real is marketing material 37signals sells to potential customers. The cost to buy 37signals latest marketing materials is $13.85.

Having potential customers pay for content marketing is better than free. That is the principle content marketers can't comprehend. If you couldn't sell it, don't give it away.

Seth Godin understands this. Another way to see this: The money you're paying for marketing and advertising and for SEO is a tax on mediocrity. Want to spend zero, or less? Don't come to market with an unremarkable product.

37signals can give stuff away free. So can Seth Godin. Others ... not so much. They are overcharging.

u/ChuckEye · 6 pointsr/Guitar

Very much in the same style as Effortless Mastery, Free Play: Improvisation in Life and Art by Stephen Nachmanovitch and The Inner Game of Music by Tim Galloway and Barry Green.

If you start to sort them, those three together probably go with Wooten's "Music Lesson", "Zen Guitar", and "The Musician's Way".

u/abintra · 6 pointsr/ZenHabits
u/Empiricist_or_not · 6 pointsr/HPMOR

Read the 48 laws of power and the Art of seduction

Long term take Harry's Advice about lying, but never make you motivations clear, and rember the rule of never doing anything for only one reason.

u/johnsmithindustries · 6 pointsr/personalfinance

The Millionaire Next Door changed my entire perspective on money and life. If you read no other PF book, read that one - it's an eye opener. Along the same lines, I'd recommend Your Money or Your Life. If you don't want to be really hands-on with your finances (I have a lot of friends like this) I usually recommend The Automatic Millionaire. It's got a infomercial-esque title, but in reality it's an easy read with really good ideas, particularly for the uninterested/inattentive.

As for investing, try The Boglehead's Guide to Investing. A lot of the info is free at the Boglehead Wiki.

For FREE reading, head over to The Simple Dollar and Get Rich Slowly. Both are incredibly useful websites with extensive archives on investing, frugality, debt, and all things personal finance. I read both every day!

(as an example, here's an article on the 25 Best Books About Money over at GRS.)

A lot of people like Dave Ramsey, but I don't recommend him very much. He's got good advice in there, but his books contain religious references that I feel are particularly useless in a personal finance guide.

u/periphrazein · 6 pointsr/explainlikeimfive

Definitely this. Check out for a useful explanation.

It's a really old/ancient technique, and pretty easy to refute.

If you really want a fun read, check out Thank You For Arguing by Jay Heinrichs.

u/Michel_Foucat · 6 pointsr/Rhetoric

Aristotle's Rhetoric can be a really bad read, especially early in your rhetorical education, mainly because it's just lecture notes. I'd start with something like Thank You for Arguing. It's not perfect, but it's a fun book and teaches a lot of the missing vocab. If you enjoy it, then you're more than ready to take a stab at Aristotle.

u/joeycloud · 6 pointsr/web_design

'Appealing' depends on your target audience. The only advice I can think of without further context is to change the font of everything in the navigation section (including 'recent posts') to the same one as your site title. It will leave a better first impression.

To increase user traffic, read Google's guide to search engine optimization. Otherwise just share it on sharing sites like this one, or Facebook, or Digg, or physically mail your neighbours the URL.

Also read this book

u/waaayne · 6 pointsr/financialindependence

Unfortunately, yes. You can open a taxable brokerage if you really want to get into the market.

However, the best thing to do right now is focusing on graduating and building skills that will set you apart from others. Cal Newport's So Good They Can't Ignore You is a good read.

u/acamu5x · 5 pointsr/Entrepreneur

The Millionaire Fastlane is the only business book I ever read up until the last year or two. It got me into entrepreneurship when I was in highschool, and I couldn't possibly recommend it more.

The reviews speak for themselves.

u/acamu5 · 5 pointsr/Entrepreneur

The Millionaire Fastlane. The ebook version is a few bucks, though the book is golden. It got me into business, and kept me successful. Must read.

u/Firefly-ssa · 5 pointsr/findapath

Dude. You're doing well. Keep experimenting. Also. I just found the book and ordered it today:
You might be facing what I faced, jumping from job because the job didn't seem fulfilling enough. Could that be the case?

u/ibopm · 5 pointsr/getdisciplined

I'm going to recommend you a book here: Cal Newport's So Good They Can't Ignore You. If it's too expensive to buy, go check it out at your local library for free.

It's a short read and it'll put you on the right direction to a much better life. If you are REALLY lazy and don't want to read a book at all, I'll tell you what you need to know in one sentence:

> Keep developing rare and valuable skills and you will never go hungry.

Here's a good detailed summary and review from entrepreneur Derek Sivers:

u/dataphysicist · 5 pointsr/datascience

Nope it's not. Analytics is a huge field, even if many of the blog posts and the coverage focuses on advanced machine learning and AI.

It's actually really wise to have a lifestyle in mind that you want to get to. This book - - provides a really good framework for thinking about how to get to your life style in any career / skill category. You can tour the author's blog to get a preview of some of the ideas -

His book and framework is especially great because it helps you cut through the noise (there's TONS of noise around how data science / analytics is covered, ironically) and will help you figure out the specific things you should focus on, etc. It's just a 3 hour read, but very helpful.

u/afunnyfunnyman · 5 pointsr/startups

Test your ideas. The one thing that you can know for sure is that you are wrong... about something. It may be small and unimportant but you need to be able to adjust and the quicker you can the better results you can get.
Good books to read:
The lean startup (
Rework (

Failure is the road to success, Fail often and fail fast, Learn, Grow, Change....

and good luck!

u/lifeisworthlosing · 5 pointsr/The_Donald
u/TheSojourner · 5 pointsr/sysadmin

There is no "right way". Our field isn't a trade (yet), but because it changes so often, it's hard to teach in school.

He should be networking and meeting people in the industry. Read the book Never Eat Alone.

While he's building a network, he should be studying for certs. A good way to get some real-world experience and network at the same time is to volunteer at a nonprofit to do IT stuff. NPO directors and board members are typically well-connected. People in high places love to help other people they see potential in.

A saw a few studies a while back that found that 80% of people got their jobs through networking of some sort, while only 20% found them through a job posting. That means there's a whole lot of jobs that are unlisted and the only way to get them is to build a network.

u/onestojan · 5 pointsr/slatestarcodex

Some books that come to mind:

u/Chris_Misterek · 5 pointsr/Frontend

Sorry for the troubles. I think surgery can play a number on you emotionally sometimes.

Have you read Cal Newport’s Deep Work? Great book on staying focused and getting more done in less time.

u/SirDigger13 · 5 pointsr/de

das ist nun mal The Art of the Deal /s

u/evolsno1 · 5 pointsr/videos
u/BonchiFox · 5 pointsr/Hounds

I recommend Don't Shoot the Dog! by Karen Pryor--Karen Pryor is click-training advocate who specialized in behavioral psychology and marine mammal biology ( also has a website, hosts clicker-expos around the states, and dog trainer academy.)

The second book I recommend is The Other End of the Leash: Why We do What we Do Around Dogs by Patricia B. McConnell. Patricia McConnel is a University professor of Zooology, trained ethologist, and CAAB ( Certified Applied Animal Behaviorist)

These two wonderful ladies are extremely insightful and break down different types of training. :) Good luck!

u/tennis4lyfe · 5 pointsr/tennis

It's called 'The Inner Game of Tennis' by Tim Gallwey.

u/housefromtn · 5 pointsr/SSBM

Squid and Dr. PP both recommend the art of learning, and the inner game of tennis and they're both godlike so I'd take their advice. Flow is really good too.

Something cool you could do is get into chess. I only played chess seriously for a few months really, but I feel like it gave me another angle to think about tactics and strategy in. Chess is really fun and it'll give you that same competitive brain feeling melee does without killing your hands.

/r/chess has lots of guides about how to get into the game and stuff. There's lots of cool websites now like where you can do tons of tactics training puzzles that are really fun and make the learning curve for beginners a lot less steep than it was back in the day when chess books were the only option(which are great, but it's really hard as an absolute beginner to sit down with a chess book and actually make it through it).

If you're already like 2100 fide rated or some shit then just ignore this lol.

u/S0phon · 5 pointsr/soccer

I even remember a rumor when Tuchel recommended Miky to read this book.

u/xx99 · 5 pointsr/smashbros

Don’t just practice and watch competitive videos. Those are both really important, but you also need to learn the core concepts of the game and how to have a mindset focused on learning/improving. Additionally, playing in your local competitive scene will help a ton (even though you will be utterly demolished at first).

You don’t have to watch/read my recommendations specifically, but you should seek out content like this.

  1. Izaw’s Art of Smash video series (definitely the first four in the playlist, which are general—the rest are character-specific). Although these vids are meant for Smash 4, most of the concepts and techniques apply to Ultimate.

  2. Other Smash channels that have videos about techniques and concepts. For example, Beefy Smash Doods and My Smash Corner.

  3. David Sirlin’s Playing to Win. It’s free to read in your browser. It’s largely about Street Fighter, but its concepts apply to all competitive games, especially Smash.

  4. Use /r/CrazyHand (subreddit focuses on improving at competitive Smash. Its resource compilation is a great place to start.

  5. The Inner Game of Tennis. It’s a book about tennis, but really it’s about how a learning/competitive mindset and how to learn better. I saw it recommended on this subreddit once and I loved it.
u/omaolligain · 5 pointsr/Fencing

1st what did your read; Both manuals? I don't know what that means. Ignore everything you read on medieval swordplay, it's not relevant to sport fencing. Although, I'm sure it's very interesting.

The books you read are pretty good. Nothing to outlandish about either Czajkowski book or Epee 2.5. If you want a syllabus, try:

  1. Elaine Cheris' Fencing: Steps to Success - which is a good book on basic beginner technique
  2. Aldo Nadi's On Fencing - technical manual/autobiography; is a classic fencing read although very dated.
  3. Sergei Golobitsky's Fencing is My Life - which like Nadi's is more autobiography but of the most winning fencer in contemporary fencing

    Many, many people here on reddit will also recommend, "The Inner Game of Tennis" as a good read for fencing -- it's essentially a self help book. I personally did not find it even remotely helpful but if you find yourself generally inclined towards similar self-help, pop-psychology books then you might like it.

    As far as workout plans go (and you'll hate to hear this): don't work on lunges and fleches and such, yet. Wait till you have a coach to correct your form. You may wind up further ingraining some bad habits which you aren't aware of by working on them alone before you start. But, kudos on trying to get ahead of the game.

    What I recommend is that you just work on conditioning, the longer you stay sharp at practice the faster you'll improve. Run/Cycle a bunch get your body used to the stress. Optionally do weightlifting-style lunges with some free weights and kettlebell swings (don't over do it). I think even a brisk yoga routine which is heavy on the core-strength exercises and light on the mystical-bullshit is pretty good for fencing training.
u/Alcmaeonidae · 5 pointsr/ultimate

If you're into improving the consistency of your play, then I would recommend checking The Inner Game of Tennis by Timothy Gallway.

It is a pretty quick read, but it gives good insights to better managing the inner mental game that we all play when we are on the field.

u/elint · 5 pointsr/billiards

It's a good book. The Inner Game of Tennis is better.

u/boptom · 5 pointsr/DotA2

I found The Daily Stoic to be a very easy introduction to Stoicism. Much more so than the classic texts.

It’s format is a daily quote eg from Marcus Aurelius and text explaining the quote.

I found the classic texts hard to read mainly due to the writing style. This book really helps with that.

u/theyareNuts · 5 pointsr/aftergifted

First off, grade equivalent scores are crap and don't work the way most people think.

>The Grade-Equivalent score compares your child’s performance on grade-level material against the average performance of students at other grade levels on that same material and is reported in terms of grade level and months. If your 5th-grade child obtains a grade-equivalent of 10.5 on a standardized math or reading test, it does not mean that your child is solving math problems or reading at the mid-10th grade level. It means that she or he can solve 5th grade math problems and read 5th grade material as well as the average 10th grade student can read and solve 5th grade math problems. Your child is performing much better than the average 5th grader but most likely would not perform as well if tested using 10th grade material as they have not yet been exposed to 10th grade material. Caution should always be used when interpreting grade equivalents, especially when attempting to use grade equivalents as the basis for a grade placement discussion.

So don't feel bad about where you are now versus where you thought you were back then.

What can you do to keep from falling behind?

  1. Check to see if you might have a learning disability. Many people who are very intelligent are not diagnosed in their early school years because the work comes so easy to them. As they progress and are ask to do higher-level work, they hit a wall.

  2. Learn to study.
    This site has some useful links; some of which are aimed at younger children, but if you have never learned to study there might still be useful information there.

    I also recommend ”How to Become a Straight-A Student: The Unconventional Strategies Real College Students Use to Score High While Studying Less”

    A lot of studying comes down to being organized, efficient, knowing when and where to get help. Remember that forming new habits takes time and you have to remain persistent.

    If you have a friend, teacher, or parent who is willing to help, it can be useful to be accountable to another person. Have a once a week check-in on what you have done in the last week and what you need to do in the following week.

  3. When you are having a problem with a concept, find online resources that can help you review. Khan Academy is a wonderful resource. Wolfram Alpha is a great way to check answers for specific Math problems.

  4. Turn in all assignments! (And on time.) Zeros can quickly bring down your overall grade. A late paper that drops your score by a grade by 10 pts. each day can also hurt you.

  5. Figure out why you are learning something. Sometimes its because you find the subject matter interesting. Other times, you are only doing it because it's a requirement for the next step in life. As you struggle through something, remember what the end goal is and that you are choosing to pursue it. Thinking about it as something you choose to do, instead of as something you are forced to do, can give you a sense of control in your life.

  6. Remember, even if you are in the top 0.1% in intelligence, there are still approximately 327,000 people in the US who are as smart or smarter than you. If you go to a competitive college, you will most likely have to deal with becoming ”only average” in that environment.

    I'm sure people in this group could come up with a book full of thoughts on this topic, but hopefully, this gives you some things to think about.
u/too_clever_username · 5 pointsr/books

Starting Strength, 3rd Edition by Mark Rippetoe.

Drink, Play, F@#k

Mindfulness in Plain English

The 48 Laws of Power

u/Supervisor194 · 5 pointsr/exjw

I felt exactly the same way and I think I even composed a post that read exactly like this one.

Now, 18 years out, I look at the whole world through this sort of lens. All religion is crazy in one way or another. Politics is crazy in the US mostly because of religious people.

If you haven't read them already, I have a couple of books to recommend. The Demon Haunted World by Carl Sagan and The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene. The former will help you be a healthy skeptic. The latter will help you not let the world take advantage of you.


u/wothy · 5 pointsr/consulting

Personally I've found there to be few helpful books which directly relate to management consulting / business strategy. The only one that I've found really helpful is:

  • Winning - an overall look on business strategies and philosophies used by Jack Welch (former CEO of GE)

    But here are some books that are very helpful in developing people / soft skills essential to effective consultants:

  • Getting to Yes - an incredible book on negotating skills.
  • How to Argue and Win Every Time - not as argumentative as it sounds, this is a great book which is hugely helpful on how to present your positions and how to get the best outcome for everyone in a situation.
  • Influence - brilliant book on the ways in which we are influenced to do things.
  • The 48 Laws of Power - a very Machiavellian put pragmatic look on the ways in which personal power is gained / lost.
  • Vital Lies, Simple Truths - how to recognise self deception that we're all prone to and how to overcome its limitations
  • The Blank Slate - a mindblowing book on human psychology and what we're naturally predisposed to be. Helps you to better understand people and their motivations in not just business but all aspects of life. Read from Part 2 onwards.
u/Bennu2017 · 5 pointsr/TheRedPill

I really like your point about everything having to be about you. I'm almost half way through Rules for Radicals and I can't support it enough. I think OP may be having issues with preconceptions about certain words or ideas. A word from Alinsky.

> "Even the word politics itself, which Webster says is "the science and art of government," is generally viewed in a context of corruption. Ironically, the dictionary synonyms are "discreet; providing, diplomatic, wise."

> "The same discolorations attach to other words prevalent in the language of politics, words like power, self-interest, compromise, and conflict. They become twisted and warped, viewed as evil. Nowhere is the prevailing political illiteracy more clearly revealed than in these typical interpretations of words. "

He goes on to shed those words in a positive light and I can't recommend his book enough. I really like when OP said

> "Its all fucking fake."

He's slowly realize life's a game and most people don't even realize they're playing. We have the rules now just do it

u/jone7007 · 5 pointsr/financialindependence

I got the Richest Man in Babylon! by George S. Clason out of college It was published in 1926 and is still great advice. There is also a free audio version here!. The book is written very differently than most personal finance books. The author uses parables to teach financial lessons. This makes it a great introduction for the financial newbie. The part that most stuck with me is:

"“A part of all you earn is yours to keep. It should be not less than a tenth no matter how little you earn. It can be as much more as you can afford. Pay yourself first. Do not buy from the clothes-maker and the sandal-maker more than you can pay out of the rest and still have enough for food and charity and penance to the gods."

I joined the Peace Corps after college so I didn't get around to implementing Mr. Clason's advice. For some reason, over the three year period I was out of the US, his advice changed in my memory to three-tenths. So since I got my first full-time professional job at 27, I have been aiming to save 30% of income. I haven't always met this goal but I have averaged saving at least 20% of my gross income.

This past May, I read Your Money or Your Life: 9 Steps to Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Achieving Financial Independence! which introduced me to FIRE. While I'm a little sad about the 6 years, I wasn't saving for FIRE, the savings I accumulated is a great start. The approach in this book has been very useful in figuring out what I am willing to give up in order to increase my SR and achieve FIRE sooner.

Edit: fixed hyperlink

u/windchilladvisory · 5 pointsr/financialindependence

Sometimes you can use books as "mentors." I'd recommend:

Your Money or Your Life - This motivated me to get my savings rate up to 70%+

The 4-Hour Workweek - Currently reading this and it definitely seems like a good read to get motivated to start a business, run a business more efficiently and reclaim your time.

Check out Library Genesis for a possible free download of the epub/mobi/pdf...if that's your thing.

u/Kaioatey · 5 pointsr/suggestmeabook
u/Hooblar · 4 pointsr/everymanshouldknow

Really feel that 48 Laws of Power should be on here.

u/rolyhammond · 4 pointsr/financialindependence

So I’ve just started out also, and in not too much of a dissimilar scenario.

I heard a podcast, read a blog and I was hooked! So like you it started to spiral even further but the 1st real stop for me was this book.

Your Money or Your Life , 9 Steps to Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Achieving Financial Independence - Vicki Robbin

There are plenty more out there but this basically gave me a good starting point, leading down a path of more and more resources.

Good Luck.

u/IronColumn · 4 pointsr/simpleliving

Extremely classic book about this exactly

MMM before there was an MMM.

u/KendrickCorp · 4 pointsr/IWantToLearn

The Book Thank you for arguing is a good start.

But if you would like to focus more on clearly articulating your thoughts, rather than comparing your thoughts with others (i.e debate), I would suggest reading up on the following topics:

  • Khan Academy: Focus on the "logic" lessons under the mathematics category.
  • Understand the differences between converse, inverse, and contrapositive; Then, practice using them.
  • Read up on Logical Fallacies.
  • Study the differences between subjectivity and objectivity under as many contexts as possible.
  • Practice swapping the context of a conversation in such a way that the previous dialogue is still consistent with the new, unrelated context.
  • Keep posting on reddit and continue to facilitate a platform for rigorous intellectual discourse.
u/PM_ME_BOOBPIX · 4 pointsr/SecurityAnalysis

A few pointers for you:

  • any type of consulting involves a lot of selling, especially at the beginning. As you progress you'll notice that the most successful of your peers are the ones who have the best selling skills and not technical skills; in large consulting firm these are called "Rainmakers" and... they don't do any consulting but they are out there "selling" as their full-time job, and their name is often on the company name.

  • read this book:

  • write a book, a good book on your space, something that demonstrates your competence and how good you are; have it printed the old-fashion way, ink on paper, use it as a marketing tool
u/betti_naught · 4 pointsr/GradSchool

I would highly recommend reading Deep Work by Cal Newport. The book has really helped me in balancing working full time for a silicon valley startup, writing a master's thesis, and having a family.

u/currentaccount123 · 4 pointsr/getdisciplined

and Deep work

Both of these books are in sync with what you said in your post, and what you wrote is true.

u/funnymatt · 4 pointsr/Standup

I think every creative person should read this book.

u/Phiwise_ · 4 pointsr/Steam

>Also just to be fair, look at where this hero-based FPS style got Quake into, there is a reason why Blizzard made the most successful game in the genre, while others suffer from lack of development and direction.

Overwatch and Quake are NOT in the same genre. AT ALL. Overwatch is just as much an arena shooter as, say, Counter-Strike or Call of Duty are; which is to say not at all. You're making the same mistake everyone else is making in starting with incredibly superficial aspects of each game, namely that they have classes, and creating "genres" based on that rather than the actually significant gameplay differences between them (And they must be based on gameplay, since none of these games have any significant story elements in their actual runtime).

Overwatch is so far removed from traditional objective shooters, namely in how efficient use of abilities plays a much larger role in success than raw shooting skill than in virtually any other first person objective game that comes to mind. A large number of the classes don't even require any "FPS" skills, and instead have analogues in asymmetric strategy games and the like.

Quake Champions may be small, yes, but it IS attracting more people than just the quake crowd. On a technical level, it's an excellent blend between an archetypal arena shooter, the sort of game design Quake invented, while reducing complexity and convolution to make it much more approachable for those with more modern shooter habits. Lawbreakers, too, hardly suffers from any "lack of direction" in the design department. It's packed to the brim with great ideas and unique takes on the "high-skill FPS" concept, and had my jaw hitting the floor with respect for its elegant gameplay several times when I started playing it.

Success has far more to do with randomness and luck than most people in this thread seem willing to admit. Quake, Overwatch, and Lawbreakers AREN'T significantly better or worse than each other. No hypothetical backfit narrative properly explains why one would have hypothetically failed or succeeded without luck. We just live in a works where the big take the whole pie and the small get nothing; in a world of bandwagoning and herd mentality caused by popularity coming from whatever just happens to gain traction early on in its lifetime.

I bought in relatively early to all of these games because I'm a shooter fan and a nut for unique game design ideas. I will admit that I like Quake the most, Lawberakers second, and Ovwerwatch third, so I do have a little voice in the back of my head that gets irritated whenever others disagree with that assessment, but we all need to learn to come away form making simple judgements between them and other games in the same boat. All of them break the mould in different and unique ways, all of them have good ideas, and all of them could have been popular, in a world where luck happened to favor someone else.

u/Sanderrankonk · 4 pointsr/BitcoinMarkets

Please stop everything you are doing (in life) and read this book.

u/tombusby · 4 pointsr/CryptoCurrency

You completely missed the point.

I suggest reading this book. The guy who wrote it is very likely a better trader than you.

u/willis77 · 4 pointsr/AskReddit

Index funds. Buy and hold them. Don't move money around, don't try to time your entry and exit. Take money you wont need for the next 5 years, put it in an index fund, and forget about it.

Read this

This is a great book on the subject

u/RoMo37 · 4 pointsr/AdviceAnimals

For further reading, I recommend Fooled By Randomness by Nassim Nicholas Taleb. It's primarily a critique of economic theories, and it can be snarky in some parts, but the concepts are mind-opening. By book's end, you'll wonder why more people don't acknowledge that their past, present, and future is entirely circumstantial.

u/karmazon · 4 pointsr/Entrepreneur

The Millionaire Fastlane

Really gets you in the habit of looking for unfulfilled needs rather than building a business out of your selfish desires.

u/deepthrill · 4 pointsr/TheRedPill

To add to your list, The Millionaire Fastlane is a great book which discusses more of the mindset rather than the logistics of wealth creation.

u/adhi- · 4 pointsr/cscareerquestions

ok dude, i really feel for you and see that you're struggling in this thread. i personally understand the lesson /u/csp256 is trying to teach you, because i learned it the hard way myself. but because it's just reddit comments its hard to put it eloquently.

everything about all of your comments and your post just absolutely screams to me that you are due for a mindset shift like i had 2 years ago. in a few words, stop focusing on what you want or what's right for you, and start focusing on what you can bring to the table. you NEED (i seriously mean NEED) to read this book. i absolutely implore you to please for the love of god read this book. in fact, i'm going to message you in 2 weeks to see if you have and i want to hear your thoughts on it. capische?

u/loggerheader · 4 pointsr/brisbane

Thats a tough one dude and I sympathise. TBH most people probably dislike their job.

I'd be identifying whether its the profession or the job itself. A career counsellor might work, but I'd be trying to find a mentor within your sector. Is there anyone you can reach out to?

I'd also recommend reading this if you can:

u/SparkyMcSparks_ · 4 pointsr/gamedesign

These books are more theoretical and about self growth as a well-rounded designer, if you want game theory others listed some great ones like Rules of Play and Book of Lenses. That said, here's my list:

  • Level Design For Games: Creating Compelling Game Experiences by Phil Co (Valve)

    It's more of a broad game design book since it talks about all the pipelines / processes of all departments coming together, with an emphasis on scripting / level design for crafting experiences. Portion of the book uses Unreal Engine 2 as a reference, but you can probably use UE4 or something else to follow along the actual game design lessons he's teaching and not have the take away be a technical tutorial.

  • Creativity, Inc.: Overcoming the Unseen Forces That Stand in the Way of True Inspiration by Ed Catmull (Pixar)

    I cannot describe how invaluable this book is, if you're only to get one from the list it'd be this one. While it does covers Pixar's history as a frame of reference for a lot of stuff, it's also more importantly about their ideology for fostering creativity, productivity and work/ life balance -- all of which are important and can be applied to Game Design.

  • Peopleware by Tom DeMarco and Tim Lister.

    I read this one after Gabe Newell recommended it one of his interviews and it was at a time in my career when I was working at a AAA studio struggling with the corporate forces that got in the way of creativity / productivity. It was one of those that changed me as a developer. It's more from a management point of view, but seriously applicable if you are collaborating with other people in game development, either on the same level as you or those who rely on your work to do theirs. Or if you are going to work at studio, AAA or indie, it's also an insightful book to evaluate whether the culture cultivated by management is in your best interest so that you have the tools to do your best work without burning out.

  • Rework by Jason Fried & David Heinemeier Hansson (Basecamp / Ruby on Rails)

    This one is like Peopleware but not as exhaustive, it's an easier read since it's a compilation and edit of blog posts the authors wrote on their old website 37signals. It's more or less about getting stuff done and filtering out noise, simplifying things to make results better -- this one is relatable for planning game project milestones. A lot of it will sound like common sense that a lot of people may say they already know, but it's surprising how many don't actually practice it.
u/juliantheguy · 4 pointsr/marketing

I think I've read like 1 book on "marketing" so I'm not your best help, but I love the 37 signals guys so "ReWork" was a quick enjoyable read. Made me feel like I wasn't crazy.

I guess upon further investigation, it might be more about running a business. Which for me is the hope to run an ad agency so it all sort of went together.

u/oishiiiii · 4 pointsr/smallbusiness

I've read a lot of business books in the past year. These include:

7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Rich Dad Poor Dad

Think and Grow Rich

How to Win Friends & Influence People

Secrets of Closing the Sale

How to Master the Art of Selling

The E-Myth Revisited

The Compound Effect

The Slight Edge

The $100 Startup

The Toilet Paper Entrepreneur

I have 4HWW waiting to be read, in addition to about 15 other books that are sitting there, waiting to be read.

The $100 Startup is very inspiring, especially for people who have no chance at securing a "normal" job (I dropped out of college). The Toilet Paper Entrepreneur is also very informative. But out of this list, by far, my two favorite books are The Compound Effect and The Slight Edge. #1 going to The Slight Edge. Read this book. Maybe it won't apply to everyone as much as it did to me, but it totally changed my attitude towards life.

u/Ginfly · 4 pointsr/smallbusiness

You have some ideas that remind me of this PDF (48 Low-Cost Business Ideas).

Take a look at Chris Gullibeau's $100 Startup for inspiration, too.

u/MeanCleanSheen · 4 pointsr/EntrepreneurRideAlong
u/qlqrlk · 4 pointsr/TheRedPill

He literally wrote a book about it.

Crippled America

He also wrote a book on his battle plan.

Art of the Deal

You would do well to read both.

u/vizakenjack · 4 pointsr/TheRedPill

Coincidentally, you should try reading "The Art of the Deal", it's an easy and very useful read that'll help you in life.

u/Zenny_Lucidez · 4 pointsr/Guitar

As /u/ChuckEye mentioned, The Inner Game of Music By Tim Galloway and Barry Green is a good read. I've personally found it incredibly helpful so far.

u/oh_just_stuff · 4 pointsr/classicalmusic

Wow, playing Carnegie Hall is quite the accomplishment!

> On a side note, OP, can you talk a bit about how you got through your perf. anxiety?

Sure! The first thing I did was read The Inner Game of Music by Barry Green. The whole book is great and he gives a lot of exercises you can practice in and out of performing that really help.

I would say the biggest thing that helped me besides all of the great exercises I learned from the book was the preparation routine I created for leading up to performances. The routine I'll go into below really helps me feel secure in my knowledge of the music, as well as helps to eliminate any unknowns I have, which seem to be a big part of what slips me up and makes me nervous.

If I'm giving a solo recital, for example, my first step is to give myself deadlines for 1) having my music learned, 2) having my music memorized, and 3) having my entire program ready to perform. It's different for everyone of course, but I typically want to have my music memorized a month before the performance and have my program ready to perform 2 weeks before.

In the weeks leading up to the performance, I do several things. 3 weeks before the performance, I start visualization. I go into a quiet room, close my eyes, and visualize the entire performance - how I feel 10 minutes beforehand in the Green Room, walking out on stage, what the stage looks like, what the audience sounds like, sitting down and tuning, starting the first piece, etc. Even if I don't really know what the stage looks like, it helps for me to visualize and truly feel myself getting amped up before and during my imaginary performance. I naturally find that, over time, I'm less anxious with each visualization.

2 weeks before, I play through my entire program every day. I cut an hour off of my practice time to do this so I don't tire myself out, but at that point, I should be prepared enough that I'm just hitting spots. One of the absolute biggest triggers for a memory slip or disaster performance is not being able to recover from a mistake, so when I run my program, I always play through my mistakes and then look at them later. A lot of the mistakes are just flukes - when you're playing for an hour, it'll happen. But, in my opinion, being able to recover from them is one of the most important skills a performing musician can have.

On performance day, I have my little routine I like to do. I go for a run in the morning, make my favorite breakfast, listen to some music for an hour or so, and then practice for a couple of hours throughout the day. Some people like to take the whole day off, but I like to keep busy.

About 30 minutes before, I'll go into a quiet space and meditate for 5-10 minutes. When I start to get anxious, I use the techniques I learned in The Inner Game - one of my favorites is, when my palms inevitably start to sweat, I observe that it's happening and remind myself, "Yes my palms are sweaty, and that's okay because it won't cause my hands to slip or play the wrong notes." They usually stop sweating at that point, but if they don't, I'm okay with it.

I've been doing this routine for years and, coupled with the techniques in the Inner Game, I have no anxiety on stage, just excitement and what I consider normal nerves. It's also worth noting that I perform a lot, so while I absolutely believe in this routine and it has helped me with every single one of my performances, I think a lot of it also has to do with me getting more seasoned as a performer.

This became a lot longer than I intended it to be! I hope it was helpful. If you have any questions, don't hesitate to PM me. :)

u/TheBeneGesseritWitch · 4 pointsr/navy

Aw! <3

Like, what books I'd recommend, or just....stuff to do underway that would be in the self-improvement area? The big two that jump out as underway activities are always "save money, and work out."

What platform are you floating on?

So the first thing I do with all my proteges is I hand them the grading sheet for Sailor of the Year/Quarter and a blank evaluation, and I ask them to grade themselves. Not everyone wants to be, or needs to be, Sailor of the Year or a 5.0 sailor, but if that's the standard the Navy has set as "the best," then at least we have a guideline of what we should be working toward, right?

One thing that was pretty big at my last command was the Military Outstanding Volunteer Service Medal. Instruction here. One thing that is a really easy way to gain community service hours while underway is to make blankets for the Navy Marine Corps Relief Society's "Budgeting For Baby" class. You can crochet (that's incredibly easy, I promise) or you can google one of the thousand DIY no-sew blanket tutorials. If you belong to a Bluejacket Association or Enlisted Association or whatever, you may be able to get them to fund the cost of buying the material...or even ask the FCPOA if they'll give $50 to the cause. You can head over to Jo-Ann's or and check out their discount sections too. NMCRS offers 30 hours per blanket. Taking an hour out of your Holiday Routine for the entire float.....most of the DIY no-sew blankets only take an hour or two to make, sooooo. Collect those hours. Add in a COMREL or two, and there's no reason you can't end a float with over a hundred hours of community service. This is particularly great if you have a friend or two to make blankets with you....snag one of the TVs on the messdecks and watch a movie while you crochet. You can also contact a local homeless shelter and see if they need hats and crochet hats for them. Obviously not a good suggestion if you're stuck underway on a submarine with no space, but if you're surface side--good to go.

Books I'd suggest, well, hm, this could get out of control pretty fast, but off the top of my head:

  • Personality Plus by Florence Littauer or her work specific version

  • Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg

  • It's Your Ship by Capt Abrashoff

  • Starship Troopers

  • Ender's Game (Ender and Starship are obviously straight scifi but there are some really awesome leadership principles/concepts/ideas that are worth mulling over. They've both been on past CNO's recommended reading lists too....and they're just fun to read.)

  • For money, while, like, 99% of his stuff is "Duh!" I can't discount the practical steps he outlines, so Dave Ramsey's books, particularly Financial Peace is worth reading. His whole book is basically the wiki in r/personalfinance, but if you're wondering how to get your finances straight I recommend picking up this book. Just, in general. Good basic information and a starting point. Not saying you need it, but "saving money" just happens underway by virtue being trapped out on the ocean =)

  • Leaders Eat Last
u/elle_reve · 4 pointsr/ABCDesis

Yes, I can so relate to this. Good post. I was raised to be that way too-- speak only when spoken to, don't argue or talk back, be flexible and accommodating, keep private matters private. I would go so far as to say that my lack of assertiveness, guilt in wanting simple things (like respect) for myself, and questioning my instincts made my marriage/divorce drag on much longer than it should have; years beyond when I knew that it wasn't going to work out. Part of it was being very young but I would say I could have moved on and moved forward much faster if I had stood up for myself and had more confidence in my decisions (and if my family had supported me-- but that's another topic). Hopefully others won't have that extreme an experience.

In the workplace, practicing and faking it till you make it works for me, maybe it could work for you. You might feel like an impostor, but trust me, everyone feels like that to some extent. Try to figure out what it is that will make you more confident in those situations and work on that. For me, it's usually knowing about something inside and out so that I can speak confidently about it. True Desi nerd style! I still struggle with asking for things I want sometimes. It still feels really selfish, which I don't think will ever go away completely.

Some books that helped me: Quiet and of course Lean In. As others mentioned, therapy can work too in finding practical solutions to specific problems you might have. It's not just you :)

u/smergus_surgus · 4 pointsr/AskWomen

I'm on the job hunt right now. Had an interview on Monday, another one scheduled for Thursday. Two different jobs, more excited about Thursday.

The Monday company offered me job that day, but with a vague position description and vague title, and at a low pay. I asked for more detailed information and for time to decide. The recuiter pushed me for a verbal acceptance. I felt really pushed when they don't even know what they want from me, other than for me to start, analyze their operations and tell them how to fix it. All for a new VP of Operations who doesn't seem to know what he's doing, but he's been with the company from the beginning and is friends with the owner. Yeah that sounds like a great time! (Actually a total recipe for disaster.)

Since then the recruiter has blown up my phone, even texted me, asking me to call back. Yet no email with position details nor formal offer. I really need a job but this?

Yet despite the wisdom in my folly, it's scares the heck out of me to "play hard ball" like this. I need a job, why not humble myself to do the VP's job for the pay of an administrative assistant? What they offered me is less than the pay for entry level service position, a detail the VP told me iny interview. I'd be insane to accept.

Not much advice here, sorry. Many commenters said research the comparables salaries in your area, and I'll add know what deliverables are asked of you. If it's a position you're already doing, know what you've done already.

And go for it, know the number that is more than fair for the job and start by asking for more than fair (start high) as this is a basic mechanic of negotiations.

Go get 'em!

(Also I was at a women's networking event last night and the book Lean In was recommended, I'm excited to read it!)

u/sikosmurf · 4 pointsr/programming

Glad to help :-) And yes, a picture of yourself is very important. It doesn't have to be a super high quality professionally taken headshot. Just go somewhere outside while wearing a polo and have a friend take a picture, then crop to just your head. It will be good enough.

If you are interested in improving your general networking skills, I'd recommend the book Never Eat Alone. It's not perfect, but there are a lot of good ideas and general tips.

u/friendlyhuman · 4 pointsr/AskReddit

Wow, I wish I would have had your insight to ask this question 9 years ago. Spend your first week reading three books (four if you come from an upper-middle-class or wealthier family).

  • How to Win Friends and Influence People
  • How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less. (Not gonna lie, this has a lot of bull shit in it, but the good parts are really practical.)
  • Never Eat Alone
  • The Millionaire Next Door (optional. Read it when I was your age, and it got my ass in gear.)

    Once you finish Never Eat Alone, start reaching out to people. Start spending your money on having conversations over coffee. Yes, some call this "networking," but don't think of it that way. You're making friends. For the next 5 months, you don't have any needs, so now is the perfect time to put others first. My life is currently full of awesome friends, and it's all because I took the time to give a shit about them. Be sure to take notes and have some sort of contact list (highrise is free). It's not romantic, but if you genuinely want to make friends, it's the way to do it. The more people you meet, the easier time you'll have of helping them by making introductions.

    I've been doing this for a couple years now, and it has literally changed my life. I'm friends with people I never even dreamed of knowing. I'm a freelancer, and I literally have more work than I know what to do with. I'm throwing a big party in a couple weeks for all my friends, and I'm shocked at who all has said "yes."

    tl;dr Meet all the people you can, think of others first, and someday they'll likely return the favor.
u/Galuda · 4 pointsr/The_Donald

Most politicians, including Trump's Art of the Deal, don't write their own books. They use ghost writers who compose their general ideas. It really should be no surprise that a book published by the holder of the most powerful political position in the US would be an instant best seller, regardless of content. There is no likely corruption.

u/G01denW01f11 · 4 pointsr/asoiaf
u/solidh2o · 4 pointsr/martialarts

glad you like it! ( /u/T3chnopsycho and /u/paksaochuyie too!)

I like it for developing combinations because it helps people to be able to get away from " I need to do x, in y situation" and lets them focus more on movement, both continuous striking and sidestepping / turning the opponent in a fluid manor and not freezing when something doesn't go your way. Plus you can start shadow boxing those types of combinations and work them independently. it's very clear, very fast where my weaknesses are - I hurt my knee when I was 16, so I favor my left foot forward. So any chance I get to spar lower belt students, I spar right foot forward and work the point combinations.

If you look at anyone in high level competition, across all sports ( baseball, football, golf, tennis, etc), it's clear they did something akin to a form many MANY times over, and that the "form" they did helped shape them, but the form was only part of the answer. Like a Rolodex of answers to questions you have on your journey. Baseball is a great example! If you are a professional baseball player, you stand out in the field and you play catch for hours and hours. Then you go to to the batting cages and hit thousands of balls a month and then get together and practice. Then you have people hit balls at you day in and day out in the off season ( this like sparring for us). When the players step on the field though, it looks nothing like practice because its' been refined, reworked, and perfected to a pro level that's nothing like the game kids play in the parks on the weekend.

Success is like pregnancy - everyone sees the result, they don't see the thousands of times you got screwed to get there. I think a lot of people get so caught up in ego about "my martial art is better" that they forget it's just a body mechanic exercise and lots of repetition. There's a limited amount of answers to any question in our sport. Sure there's a lot of possible strikes ( just like in chess or go, hundreds of possible moves) but only a couple of them are really viable in any situation. You can arrive at the same destination from any direction, it's all about finding the right way that suits you.

I highly recommend this book The inner game of tennis - while not directly applicable being as its' a different sport, it has many parallels and some direct comparisons.

If you ever want to chat about any of this, I've been both training and coaching a long time and love to have friendly conversations and have my opinions challenged!

Happy training!

u/NRMusicProject · 4 pointsr/Tuba

First of all, for technique/practice, consistency in the woodshed is key. My daily routine is very repetitive, to the point that it is incredibly boring. But the improvement is so amazing, that I'm still excited to do it every day. I also kill the monotony with something to occupy my mind, usually either a sitcom or reading material, once I had the routine down.

[This is my daily routine], which takes about 90 minutes if you go nonstop, at the tempos marked (which will take some time to work up).

Secondly, your performance anxiety should be addressed. My professor in college had a required course for the whole tuba/euphonium studio called "Performance Anxiety: Understanding and Coping."

I had some mild anxiety then, but the class helped. The class was almost 20 years ago, but here's the largest takeaways:

  • Perform as often as you can in front of an audience. If you have a weekly student recital class like larger schools of music do, sign up as often as you can prepare something. Start with easier solos, and work your way up.

  • Read these books, which were the required reading of the class:
    • Zen in the Art of Archery (Very short read, can be done in the same day)

      Two of the three texts are not music books, but are read by students of just about every single discipline and apply it to their area of study. They will take years to understand on new levels, but you should be able to get some immediate results and understanding of your situation.

      As I got older, I've found the best way to quiet those nerves is to overprepare for anything. My teachers used to say "an amatuer practices 'til he gets it right; a professional practices 'til he can't get it wrong." When I'm in a position where I know I cannot screw something up, I actually enjoy the performance, butterflies and all. And I've been in some very high stress situations, with fewer train wrecks each year. This takes some massive time management, but it definitely helps. I usually set a goal to be "performance ready" a few weeks out, so I can do some very picky polishing of the performance.

      This is a lot more than I thought I'd say on the matter, but there should be a lot here to help. Happy shedding!

      Edit: After perusing the other comments, it looks like you might have a difficult professor. Sounds like you should sit down and decide if he's helping or hindering your progress. To be candid, I never really think of a trombone player being very good for tuba students. Maybe some pedagogy, but there's enough differences in the two instruments to warrant a specialist at the collegiate level. Great euphonium players can teach tuba, just as my best teacher was a tuba player, but they both doubled strongly on the other instrument. Unless your professor can be considered a professional tuba player to some extent, you might need to find a different school to finish your education.
u/stoicmettle · 4 pointsr/Stoicism

The Daily Stoic sounds like what you're looking for but its not just Meditations it has things from Seneca, Marcus and Epictetus primarily.
I like the translations in it, very easy to comprehend.

u/guitarjt · 4 pointsr/Stoicism

you're gonna bitch about someone possibly stealing karma on a stoicism subreddit? you need to spend a lot more time here, maybe pick this up

u/DummyDepression · 4 pointsr/DecidingToBeBetter

Yep, Visualization did jack shit for me too. I've read many self-help books, and so far the only ones that have helped me were those written by scientists who have researched their field for a long time, and people recommend them, that also had practical exercises in them. Very specific, but that's the truth. Here's a list:

u/howagain · 4 pointsr/getdisciplined

Boy... those are some big, daunting questions.

But one at a time.

For better study habits, it sounds like procrastination is the problem. Make a big event out of studying, bring whatever materials you need to work on to a little hole-in-the-wall coffee shop or library and just get that one thing done while you're there. Don't bring all of your work just the one most important thing. It may seem a bit overdramatic to make a big deal out of studying by isolating yourself in a study bunker but it makes the work you're about to do feel mission critical. Also if you can do it early in the day, because by night you're going to be tired and just want to relax with TV or hanging out with friends, and stop kidding yourself, life's about those moments not the work that you have to get done for school. So respect yourself and let yourself have some fun when everyone else is, by keeping your nights mostly open and keeping your mornings booked with work. Finally, if it's something like an essay that will take a long time, don't you dare work on it for more than an hour without taking a break.

As far as being a better person in general... I don't really know... Have you tried the golden rule? Do to others what you want them to do to you. I hear it's a good one!

If you want a fantastic book all about best study pratices check out Cal Newport's Straight A Student

u/breakbeats573 · 3 pointsr/worldnews

Ghost writers never take credit, so when Mr. Schwartz claims he did most of the work, he's readily admitting he was not a ghostwriter. Besides the fact Tony Schwartz's name appears right on the cover, so he's not a ghostwriter at all.

u/SerialBrain2 · 3 pointsr/u_SerialBrain2

This is good. You are thinking. Now take it a little further, expand your thinking and ask yourself how many offers did she have to make before he accepted the one he wanted? link.

u/knight222 · 3 pointsr/btc

He is indeed bargaining. However he terribly sucks at bargaining. He should take a few hints here and there


u/LabRatArmsCo · 3 pointsr/Boxer

for a general training book i can not recomend anything but "Dont shoot the dog" ISBN-13: 978-0553380392

it is great for general trainingand really gets into the reasoning behind all the things it tells you to do.

as far as a boxer goes. keep that dog thinking, they are very smart and tend to get bored and when they get bored they entertain themselves.and they tend to do things that are nor welcome to entertain themselves.

they also are very enthusiastic learners, they are quick to want to please, however they can be stubborn just to see what you do. think of a smart little 4 year old. they will push your buttons.

best of luck and i hope you have a great journey with your new kid, because that's what they are kids.

u/ProbablyNotPoisonous · 3 pointsr/childfree

He is awfully cute, though ;)

Don't Shoot the Dog

I recommend this book every chance I get. It's useful AND entertaining!

u/ConfoundedThoughts · 3 pointsr/greatdanes

This does not sound like a training book based on recent scientific evidence. If you learn well from reading, Don't Shoot the Dog! by Karen Pryor would be a good place to start. As others mentioned, it sounds like you need to teach a reliable "drop it" (drop something already in their mouth) and "leave it" (stop giving attention to the object, e.g. a person or dog across the street or something they're about to pick up).

If you learn better visually/hands on, it might be a good idea to sign up for a puppy class somewhere. This will provide your pup with good socialization with other people and dogs too. I would recommend someplace that teaches using positive reinforcement, whether that be a local place or a chain like PetSmart.

Here are some videos for "leave it" [1] and [2]. The first is very short, while the second is a little more in depth. They are both basically the same concept. Both of these channels would be good resources for teaching other behaviors as well.

I was unable to find videos that I liked as much for "drop it," but these still might be helpful [1] and [2]. I'm not sure I'm personally as big of a fan of the method in the second video here, but you may find it to your liking.

u/fruuste · 3 pointsr/Foodforthought

Wow thanks. This book looks very interesting.

"for overcoming the self-doubt, nervousness, and lapses of concentration that can keep a player from winning"


u/llimllib · 3 pointsr/ultimate

I've never read it but The Inner Game of Tennis is a classic that's supposed to be about this problem (and not specifically about tennis), and has been recommended by many.

u/Nachodolphin · 3 pointsr/sports

You seem to have the problem many athletes have were "I'm my worst enemy". I'd try giving this book a read

It has very little to do with the game of tennis and more of what goes on in your mind. It starts off by dividing your mind into two parts (1 and 2). Part 1 is your consciousness. Its that steady stream of thoughts that go through your mind in a game, for example ok I need to keep onside, now I need to see where I can run into space, now I need to see where my teamates are, now should I pass or shoot Part 2 is of course your unconsciousness. This is quicker than Part 1 because it doesn't think it just does. What the book goes into detail is how to quiet Part 1 and let Part 2 take over. Instead of focusing on making a layup you just do it. Instead of thinking how you should catch the ball you just catch it. Now just letting Part 2 take over isn't everything. This is where practice really helps. Doing skill drills and repeating technique prepares you for when you let go of your thoughts. Your body has muscle memory of doing the movement, catching a football, making a layup, taking a shoot on net, and now it can just do it.
As a final note good coaching helps too as my old rugby coach used to repeat to me when I was scared of messing up "If you're going to make a mistake make an offensive mistake"

u/sboles66 · 3 pointsr/Bass

> my brain knows how to play but for some reason it can't translate that to my hands

I'd reccommend a book called The Inner Game of Tennis. It's in the context of tennis, but really it's about how to build muscle memory and confidence in performance. I used it to help me play competitive smash bros, and honestly I use this pretty much anytime I'm learning something new.

u/eviloverlord88 · 3 pointsr/Trombone

Play more in public. Volunteer to play at church, or for a nursing home. Perform for your family, your friends, your classmates.

The thing is, performance anxiety and nerves don't just go away. As you get more experience performing, you get more used to them, to the point where I've heard (and read) professionals talking about how nerves are that extra little spark that makes a performance more special than a rehearsal - in other words, their anxiety doesn't disappear, it becomes a part of how they perform.

Now, all that said, there are things you can do to help you cope with the side effects of nerves on your playing. If this is something you're serious about tackling head-on, I highly, highly recommend tracking down either Performance Success or Audition Success by Don Greene. Perhaps see if your local public or college library has a copy or can borrow one via interlibrary loan before buying either one yourself. Two other books I see recommended a lot (that might be easier to find at your local library) are Zen in the Art of Archery and The Inner Game of Tennis, both of which have valuable insights that can be applied to performing. (The is even an adaptation of the latter called The Inner Game of Music, but I don't feel it adds much to the original.)

But yeah, the best thing you can do overall is to find and create more opportunities to play for more people. Force yourself to step outside of your comfort zone often enough, and you'll find it soon becomes comfortable. We've all been there to some extent!

u/DaaCoach · 3 pointsr/RocketLeague

You should read (or listen to the audiobook of) The Inner Game of Tennis.

Trust me, it's about more than just tennis. It's how to perform at your peak in anything competitive and it's incredibly good.

u/GreenWizard2 · 3 pointsr/Stoicism

Difficult to beat u/runeaway will all the resources in his response. A lot of helpful stuff in there.

Perhaps some anecdotal examples from my personal practices will give you some insight. I started a journal a few months ago and keep it pretty simple.

Every morning I read a section from a classic Stoic text such as Meditations, The Enchiridion, Seneca's letter's, etc... and try to write out what the text is saying in my own words along with any additional notes I feel are important, usually in bullet point format. The Daily Stoic is helpful for this since it has a quote for every day of the year.

I then follow up by asking myself "What did I do well yesterday? What did I do poorly?" and write out my responses. This allows me to reflect on the day before to see if I am acting in line with my ideals.
Usually only takes me about 15 - 20 minutes to complete this exercise so it is not difficult to keep up with.

Also, it is not necessarily a Stoic practice, but a few individuals here including myself like to engage in some form of mindfulness meditation. I personally do 5 - 10 minutes of mindfulness meditation sitting in a chair after writing in my journal.

After that I like to do about 10 minutes of quick exercises (a form of practicing discomfort).

Then it is off to work. On the commute I typically do some form of negative visualization of the day ahead.

Hope you found that somewhat insightful. Best of luck to you in your everyday practices!

u/dat_db_doe · 3 pointsr/DeadBedrooms

/u/db_helper you have been summoned! I'll bet a $1 he's super excited to reply to this post! ;-)

Edit: I actually have a recommendation that is unlikely to be given by others. The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living. It's not a typical book that you sit down a read cover to cover. Instead you get one little nugget of each wisdom each day to read and consider. As someone that sometimes finds my available time each day lacking, I really like it.

u/once_profane · 3 pointsr/Stoicism

I'm glad it was helpful. I can't take all the credit, its my rendition from today's Daily Stoic Meditation which you can buy here

u/irunthemile · 3 pointsr/Stoicism

I have seen incredible change. I started using Ryan Holiday's The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance and the Art of Living as a journal prompt. Not everyday is relevant, but it has become an important part of my nightly ritual. I have recently added Deng Ming-Dao's 365 Tao: Daily Meditations to my routine.

Soon after getting involved with stoic thought, I made a New Year's resolution to stop swearing. I did it because I realized a lot of my negative traits were tied up with how I spoke to the world. My swearing worsened my agitation and led to poor interactions. Swearing cheapened me, and I can see now my anger was often directed at things I cannot change. I was angry at things I could not change, and that only made me more angry.

I have a simple example from this month. My town sewer line backed up and flooded my basement with sewage. It sucked. But I didn't get angry. I dealt with it. I called the town and they fixed the issue. The insurance company paid me. It has been a lot of work, but some good has come of it, too. I have discarded many things I do not need. My life is simpler now. And I have seen what good friends I have who came to help.

u/whosemoralsarelastix · 3 pointsr/Divorce

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living

u/ChrisChatter · 3 pointsr/Stoicism

Ryan Holiday has a book, The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living. Not really calendar, but still does it by day, so "book-calender".

Here are some excerpts from "today" *(Not sure where you live, so...)***:

>“November 28th
>“If someone is slipping up, kindly correct them and point out what they missed. But if you can’t, blame yourself—or no one.”
>A good teacher knows that when a student is failing, the blame falls on the instructor, not the pupil. How much more generous and tolerant would we be if we could extend this understanding to other spheres in our life? To be able to see that if a friend is unreliable, maybe it’s because they don’t know what’s wrong or because we haven’t tried to help them fix their flaw. If an employee is underperforming, just talk to them or figure out if they’re lacking in support. If someone is being annoying, try talking to them about the problem with their behavior, or ask yourself: Why am I being so sensitive?
>And if this doesn’t work, try letting it go. It might be an isolated incident anyway.”


>“November 29th
>“Don’t lament this and don’t get agitated.”
>There’s that feeling we get when something happens: It’s all over now. All is lost. What follows are complaints and pity and misery—the impotent struggle against something that’s already occurred.
>Why bother? We have no idea what the future holds. We have no idea what’s coming up around the bend. It could be more problems, or this could be the darkness before the dawn.
>If we’re Stoic, there is one thing we can be sure of: whatever happens, we’re going to be OK.”

You can check out u/Stoic_MOTD — no means a calendar either, but trying to do a quote a day. Here is a link to today's [HERE]

u/frowning-at-you · 3 pointsr/getdisciplined

Have you heard of Cal Newport? He talks a lot about what organizational skills and study habits you need to develop (and how to develop them) to succeed in college. Read his book "How to be a straight a student". You should be able to get it free from the library. His blog also contains a lot of the same material. Check out the posts linked at the bottom of this page. I recommend the book, since it's a concise way to absorb all the information.

Treat this as a learning experience. What can you do differently now that'll help you succeed? Does your school has a student success center that focuses on teaching students study skills? What about a tutoring center? A writing center? Make appointments at these places and gather resources to get yourself back on track.

u/theecakee · 3 pointsr/college

How good are your study skills?

Doing things like...

  • Planning your time effectively
  • Taking good notes on lectures and readings
  • Not procrastinating
  • Practicing problems for more technical courses "math, chemistry, physics, technology"
  • Using memory and recall/retrieval for more liberal arts courses "social studies, english, biology"

    etc etc.

    I think this book really helps to learn better studying skills, where I learned most of what I know.

    For actually getting help, check your schools library (if they have one at CC) or just use the internet. Especially with programming classes, there are many tutorials on Youtube and subreddits like /r/learnprogramming
u/bellamardia · 3 pointsr/ADHD

No problem! You don't come off as a brat at all. You're asking for help, and that's a step most people won't even do. They just sit in their little, sad situations and struggle for no reason. You're not like that. Chin up.

College is the first time I'm getting a support group offline. My parents refuse to acknowledge any and all kind of "mental illness", as they call it. So I definitely had to deal with a lot of coping growing up.

I started scheduling because I read this book. I know it might not apply to you now, but if you're curious THAT book was the one that changed the course of my college career- mostly because of its explanation of scheduling. If I had never read it I would undoubtedly not have so much work done ahead of time. But anyway, I am currently a college student so everything here is from a college student's perspective:

I understand what it's like to not want to confine to a schedule, really. In fact, I don't think I've ever done everything I schedule in a single day. See:

Boxed in red is my schedule for the day, circled in green is stuff I didn't finish-- and it's okay, because my life deserves some flexibility. Because sometimes, I don't want to do math at that particular moment.

So I don't do it.

ADHD doesn't always let me sit still and do work. However, I make an effort to do something else productive, like some other assignment or drawing or reading. Something that's not Reddit. My rule is that I work 5 days a week, from 8 am to 8 pm. This is how I get ahead. I know 12 hours seems like a lot but I set aside an hour for lunch usually and I try to give myself 15 minute breaks every 45 minutes of work, Pomodoro style.

Sometimes I'm not even able to make myself productive. I Reddit or navel-gaze or sleep for a couple hours. It happens. It's okay. I'm usually ahead anyway. Let myself have a break.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, scheduling doesn't have to be this completely restrictive thing. It is actually very freeing. I am much kinder to myself now than I was before without scheduling-- because back when I didn't schedule, I ended up with a lot of backlog, which meant that I often was forced to work for hours on end. It sucked.

tl;dr: Scheduling, and doing work when I feel like doing work, allows me to make free time later that I can mess around with. It's like karma! Do good now, and you can reap the benefits at a later time. And what I do:

  1. Look at stuff that's due soon

  2. Schedule that stuff for your day, with time ranges (2:00 - 3:30 pm - Classics reading)

  3. Do stuff when it's that time.

  4. If unable to do #3, do something else productive.

  5. Relax if you can't finish everything because you've probably done plenty today anyway.
u/clawedjird · 3 pointsr/IWantToLearn

>when I move onto the next chunk either the next day or the next hour as I'm learning the new content the old fades away

It's important to apply different learning techniques to different types of material. You can't effectively study literature in the same way you study math. Figuring out which strategies work best for different topics, specifically for you, is a trial-and-error process. Others might be able to provide more specific insights, but I would also suggest trying to integrate new material into your existing knowledge. Rote memorization is sometimes necessary, but you'll never retain information learned through that method unless you find a way to add significance to it.

In some subjects, this process might occur almost effortlessly. When studying history, for example, learning new information that (perhaps subtly) changes the way you view the world allows you to apply your knowledge without much conscious effort. Other subjects, like math, may require more deliberate effort (i.e. consistent practice) before new knowledge is fully integrated into your existing understanding of the subject. You'll need to figure out what specific efforts you need to make in order to successfully apply and integrate new knowledge in different subjects.

You won't remember things that aren't significant to you, for the most part, so figuring out how to make information matter, at some level, is helpful. I don't mean that everything you learn has to be life-changing, but you should try to find a way to make new material seem at least mildly interesting (this often occurs naturally as you start to really understand the material). It's even better if you can make it useful in some way. Rote memorization might work for a test the next day, but you won't remember that material in the long run unless you're able to integrate it into your existing knowledge and apply it in some way.

>And on the topic of developing my comfort of less "immediately-rewarding tasks" how would I even do that?

As someone else mentioned, part of the challenge here may be (at least superficially) dopamine-related. I'm not diagnosing you with ADHD - what I'm referring to is our modern (technological) world of instant gratification. Video games, reddit, TV (news channels, commercials, short video clips in general), and even food (fast food + pre-made microwavable meals) help to condition us away from tasks that require sustained effort (like studying) without providing immediate and rewarding feedback.

To become more comfortable performing tasks like those, you have to both make the tasks easier (i.e. take regular breaks, use the most efficient methods for each specific task, etc.) and decrease your need for instant gratification. In regard to the latter recommendation, I would suggest limiting instantly-gratifying activity, in general, and confining it to specific places and times. You need to make instant gratification the exception, not the rule. You don't need to give up video games, but plan time for playing video games like you plan study sessions. A big part of doing that successfully lies in reducing temptation, examples of which could include not studying next to where you game or keeping your phone (and reddit) out of site while studying.

Hope that helps. There's a lot of information on learning strategies out there, but it can be hard to find and dissect. I've heard good things about Cal Newport's book on studying, so that's an additional resource you could check out if it interests you.

u/History_Nerd · 3 pointsr/AskReddit

Have you considered nursing? I'm not sure on your sex, but if you're male the stigma has greatly gone down. It's not as well paying as a doctor but still pays well and sorta sounds like what you want to do.

For studying check out Cal Newport's book How to Become a Straight A Student. The best book I've read on study habits and learning how to study. It's not one of those books that about "well you need to study 23242 hours in one week to get a C" or some bullshit. It is a quick and fun read and it has helped me out a lot in college.

u/IAmDude · 3 pointsr/LifeProTips
  • Anki.
    It's a flashcard program structured around spaced repetition. Repetition is the only way to memorize things that aren't traumatic and spaced repetition is the most efficient repetition for us.

  • Another reliable memory technique is to make a "memory palace."
    You basically pick an area you're very familiar with (your house, your favorite running route, etc), then put stuff you want to remember on different parts of the path. The more senses you can apply, the easier it'll be to remember them.
    Check out this TED talk when you can.

  • Summarize what you want to learn, and read over this list right before you go to bed and right when you wake up. We do a lot of memory consolidation when we sleep.

  • I've heard good things about ice baths, if you ever really need to memorize something really quick. Even just putting your arm in ice would help. It'll be uncomfortable, but you'll remember the experience.

  • Check out this blog for some general good study tips and philosophies. For really good strategies, I can't recommend his book enough.

  • I got a lot out of this ebook too.

    Hope it helps man!
u/relativisticmind · 3 pointsr/GetSmarter

Two books to read are Cal Newport's How to Win at College and How to Become a Straight A-Student.

After reading his books, check out his blog, Study Hacks.

u/raptorgirl · 3 pointsr/needadvice

I don't think you made a wrong decision. Your GPA is good and computer science is a valuable degree to have this days. If you get a couple of internships on the way you'll be set. Just try not to let your GPA slide.

I can give you some hints I've tried myself to streamline workload. Everyone needs a system. I use Things, which is a Get Things Done software for project and priority management. You deplete time and resources worrying about things, if you empty them somewhere in a way you can visualize it it's way less daunting. There are books on GTD, it works.

I like this book on getting better grades.

Does your college has a counseling service you can go to?

u/justintimetoreddit · 3 pointsr/NiceHash
u/pschie1 · 3 pointsr/personalfinance

Hey now, you're 18 years old. There's no shame in not knowing what an ETF is, and you're probably getting a head-start on 90% of your peers by investing this young.

ETFs are Exchange Traded Funds. ETFs are bundles of securities (stocks if you'd like) and they trade like regular stocks. Vanguard's VOO follows the S&P 500 index step for step. So, when you see on the news that the S&P 500 closed 1.25% higher, you can rest assured that your VOO investments gained 1.25% -ish also. The S&P 500 index is based on market caps from 500 of the largest companies. So (for simplicity's sake) when you buy one share of VOO... you're actually buying fractional pieces 500 companies. This allows for instant diversification! Woo! Let's say you invested $1000 33% in Cisco, 33% in Nike, and 33% in Coke. Then we find out that Coke has been draining clean water from 3rd world countries in order to sell their product ~~~ Huge PR issue and legal problems! Coke drops 15% over the course of a week. Now your entire $1000 portfolio is down 5%. That sucks. If you had VOO, your portfolio would barely be affected by Coke's bad news.

Since you have a few years before you can start investing, I recommend reading these two books: Winning the Losers Game by Charles Ellis and Fooled by Randomness by Nassim Taleb. I read one of these while getting my Undergrad in Business, and I read the other while getting my MBA.

u/throw-it-out · 3 pointsr/investing

> prove me wrong.

Well, how about A Non-Random Walk Down Wall St, by Andrew Lo & A. Craig MacKinlay?

However, I think the form of TA that you are complaining about is several tiers of effort below that, to which my response is, of course people are Fooled by Randomness. We're hard-wired to consider skill in our successes, luck in our failures and only research winners, never the losers, to see what they have in common as fuel for our aspirational emulation.

u/Gusfoo · 3 pointsr/skeptic

It's by Nassim Nicholas Taleb, and it refers to the mistakes made by the designers of financial derivative with respect to the probabilty distribution function of certain components within the equations that govern the liability and pay-out. (Yes, really).

The book itself "Fooled By Randomness" is superb and very highly regarded within the financial community. It helps that he (while coming across as a bit pompous sometimes) is a good writer and explains a lot of pretty specialist knowledge that plays a key part in the financial world; and -by extension- the real world.

u/mikesteane · 3 pointsr/MensRights

The book Fooled By Randomness by Nassim Taleb describes the illusion of random events appearing to be meaningful in retrospect. He focusses on stock trading and shows how in periods of growth people with minimal trading skills appear to be experts in investment.

I suspect Jess Phillips is the sort of person he would be talking about. Having achieved a modicum of success through chance and female privilege, she thinks she knows far more than she actually does. A change in the wind will bring the her whole bandwagon down like a market crash.

u/namedvictory · 3 pointsr/ADHD

Hey OP, sorry you feel this way. At your age I was doing really bad and severely depressed too. I'm going to give you the advice I wish I could tell my 18 year old self. First, go to a doctor and get on some meds. I found that with the ADHD meds, as my life started righting itself the depression and anxiety went away.

If you feel like your life sucks, anyone, ADHD or not would feel depressed and anxious. So your first step is work on your ADHD. Second, read this book:

Don't let the title fool you, it is not gimmicky at all. Out of all the self-help books on finance and wealth I've ever had, I threw all of them out except for this one. If you can't afford it, I'm sure there are free copies out there on the internet. Just find any copy and read it. They have a message board too, filled with people just like you who didn't get good grades and didn't fit the mold of graduate and get a job. Guess what? A lot of them are rich now, and probably laughing at those teachers who thought they were stupid.

Step 3, start your own business and prove everybody wrong. You won't have to get a job, and can avoid most things that are hard for your ADHD. When you're successful, you won't have to live off your parents, and will probably be able to support them instead of the other way around. You'll give yourself something to be proud of. Not saying it will be easy, but it has been done and can be done again.

I still have a job right now but I'm actively working on my own business. I've met so many great and helpful people on the TMF board that inspired me. TBH working on my own business is the most rewarding thing I've ever done. It's been progressing steadily and I will be able to quit working for someone else forever very soon. As someone with ADHD, you can actually use your hyperfocus to your advantage. Lots of famous entrepreneurs have ADHD. I think it's something where people with ADHD actually have an edge over non-ADHD people.

Lastly, please take it easy on yourself. Life can already be hard without your subconscious knocking you down everyday on top of it. Forget about what other people's expectations are for you. The only person you should compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday. That sounds cheesy as hell, but if you start developing yourself seriously in any area (like skills, etc), you'll find that it's true. Good luck OP, you got your whole life in front of you. If you give up now it's all over, but if you don't you have until the day you die to make something of yourself.

u/howtoaddict · 3 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

This book looks really well reviewed:

u/ChrisF79 · 3 pointsr/Entrepreneur

The Millionaire Fastlane. I hate the title because it is not one of those get rich quick books. Instead, it teaches you to think in a different way about how you spend your time, the types of businesses you run, etc. It does sound cliche but it made me change the way I looked at business.

Plus, his forum is phenomenal and he responds directly to reader's questions.

u/owensbla · 3 pointsr/Entrepreneur

I was a fan of The Millionaire Fastlane and The 4-Hour Workweek. They're more lifestyle than how-to.

I'd imagine some people find them hokey, but if you just take some fundamentals from them and don't treat them as literal at every page they'll give anyone an interesting perspective on entrepreneurship.

u/Daleth2 · 3 pointsr/nonprofit

> Grad school is not a place to jump ship and figure things out. It's expensive, and may not be worth your time.

This, a thousand times! Don't use grad school as a solution to a "my life sucks, I'm working 80 hours/week for no money" hair-on-fire crisis. Grad school in the US is pretty much the most EXPENSIVE possible way that you could solve such a crisis, and it's not even a guaranteed solution! As for the expense, you have to factor in not only the tuition and books but also the opportunity cost (i.e. the salary you miss out on because instead of having a job, you're in school). If tuition and books is $25,000 and your current salary is $30,000, then a two-year masters is actually costing you $55,000/year, for a total of $110,000.

OP, how about you take all the free time that you would have to spend on getting into grad school (deciding on a degree, researching schools, studying for the GRE, writing essays for your applications, etc.) and instead spend it getting yourself a job with a more normal schedule? Research possible jobs and employers, get help with your resume, practice your interview skills, apply and go to interviews, etc. etc.

Then start your new job. When things settle down a few months in, i.e. after you've gotten the hang of it and have adjusted to your new, more reasonable schedule, then start soul-searching again.

Read this book (best career book I've ever read, and I've read a ton of them):

Read this book (best book for those in nonprofit/save the world and/or arts jobs):

With a better job, you would have time to read those books. To figure out what you really want to do in life. To figure out what the best path to that goal is. And it would NOT cost you $110,000. It would cost you $0. It might even pay YOU, if you happen to find a job with a higher salary or better benefits than what you're getting now.

So first things first: find a way to take your time figuring out what you want to do with your life. If your everyday life isn't an unmanageable crisis anymore, because you have a more normal job and therefore reasonable amount of time to sleep and eat and have a life, then you can take your time to really figure out what you want and what's the best way you can serve.

u/thisfunnieguy · 3 pointsr/jobs

I had similar thoughts when I left the Corps.

Hard to give advice on what to study, because at some point it has to interest you, or you have be ok learning a lot about it.

The easier thing to say is don't study business/management as an undergrad. It's pointless. There's a reason why the fancy schools don't even offer those degrees. Learn skills.

Start taking classes and then chase where you excel. If you like numbers, go into math or some science program. Or if you're good at writing/talking, chase that.

The key is to keep thinking about how what you're learning becomes a useful skill set for someone who needs to hire people.

Let me suggest two books, both are likely in your public library.

The first book makes the great point that you shouldn't worry about long term goals. Get better at things, take opportunities when they come up, and put your effort into the work. My life got so much better when I finally started living that advice.

u/airandfingers · 3 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

Thank you for sharing these thoughts; I imagine that wasn't easy.

> My parents placed an emphasis on sports, and on winning. However, I have come to realize that this mindset breeds hedonism. When my purpose in life was to win and seek the most benefits for myself, this attitude ultimately led to mental weakness and a lack of willpower when it came to pleasureful activities. In my opinion, even the goal of being happy leads to a hedonistic lifestyle.

The way I see it, feelings of happiness fall on a spectrum between pleasure (short-lived, visceral, shallow) and joy (long-lasting, subtle, deep), and while seeking pleasure is hedonism, seeking joy is not. Helping others brings (most of) us joy, and altruism is pretty near the opposite of hedonism.

The trick, I think, is balancing our desires for pleasure and joy, as each provides its own stability. Not experiencing pleasure leaves us irritable and unpleasant, while lacking joy leaves us purposeless and depressed. Neither state is ideal for accomplishing anything.

> And now, here I am. I am utterly confused now, when it comes to my life's goals. Should my goal be to make contributions in order to improve human civilization? Or something else? Idk.

One approach I suggest you try is this:

  • set aside this philosophical question (for now)
  • find something tangible that you care about doing—that is, something that brings you joy
  • focus your time and energy on becoming better at that activity.

    This advice is based on the "craftsman mindset" advocated by Cal Newport's So Good They Can't Ignore You, which he presents in opposition to the "passion mindset" that focuses on the question, "What should I do with my life?"

    While this doesn't directly address your philosophical questions, following this approach may provide you with a mental clarity that could help. Think of it as a bottom-up kind of philosophy that generalizes from your actions and experiences, rather than the top-down kind that seeks to impose abstract ideas onto concrete reality.

    > Apologies for the rant.

    No need to apologize, as this is the kind of thought we BettermentBookClub subs like to discuss. I'll tag /u/PeaceH, /u/Skaifola, and /u/TheZenMasterReturns, who may want to respond to you with their own perspectives. They know much more about Stoicism than I do, so they may even answer your questions, unlike me. :)
u/shazam9 · 3 pointsr/pakistan

You cannot possibly like both equally. If you do, then maybe you don't understand what each field has for you.

Also, passion is not everything either but its a good start IMO. I would highly recommend taking your time and reading this book as well

u/droppedthengraduated · 3 pointsr/UIUC

As a counterpoint to the "switch majors" camp, Cal Newport wrote a great book So good they can't ignore you that I read after I got dropped and was questioning pretty much every decision I made in college, and life, thus far. Unless someone literally wrote your application and didn't tell you what your major was going to be, there has to be at least something about it you like.

Newport argues that, rather than passion or gut feeling guiding your academic and career decisions, one should simply embrace the struggle of whatever they're pursuing and endeavor to become the best they can. Through this struggle, they learn to appreciate their craft, rather than beginning with an appreciation and then balking at the inevitable wall that everyone hits when doing something worthwhile. What this all boils down to: the more you learn and expose yourself to the intricacies of your major, the better you'll do, the more you'll end up appreciating it, and the better you'll want to do as a result.

What I recommend is to take a semester to knock out a bunch of geneds (Soc 100 is great for this) and do some independent study on topics in your major to find a niche that you are somewhat interested in. Try and delve as deep as you can into this niche. If you find that you truly can't find anything interesting, then you should probably reconsider majors.

u/gentleViking · 3 pointsr/asktrp

I'm currently in Monk Mode myself. I'm probably only going for at most a 3mo. term at this (Started Dec. 1st). It sounds like you have a good plan. I'm focusing on the following things:

  • Meditating: the best way to re-program your brain IMO ("Wherever you go there you are")
  • Teaching myself Jazz piano
  • Diet (Here's my diet)
  • Fitness (Here's my fitness bible)
  • Career Development (This)
  • Productivity & Time Management (too many books to mention, OP PM me if you want this list)
  • Not watching Porn & Masturbating less frequently (Highly recommended /r/NoFap)
  • No Alcohol

    For learning to cook I highly recommend this book.

    For addressing approach anxiety I recommend The Rules of the Game.

    This is an excellent book on habit change. (OP this is how you start to break down those "masturbatory" habits)

    Also, Monk Mode is basically an exercise in stoicism. This book is awesome.

    Since you'll have plenty of time to read here are some other Books I recommend:
    "No More Mr. Nice Guy"
    "Models: Attracting Women Through Honesty"
    "The Talent Code"
    "Man's Search for Meaning"

    Final thoughts OP. 6 months is definitely a worthy goal however studies show that 90 days is usually what it takes to create new habits and routines. You have to be consistent though. Just food for thought.

    (Edit: I suck at formatting)

u/ericxfresh · 3 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

off the top of my head:

Meditations, with The Inner Citadel as a reader

Letters from a Stoic

A Guide to the Good Life by Irvine

Do The Work by Pressfield as well as The War of Art by Pressfield

Managing Oneself by Ducker

Man's Search for Meaning by Frankl

What Predicts Divorce by Gottman

Nicomachean Ethics

Models by Manson seems to be popular on reddit

So Good They Can't Ignore You by Newport, as well

I'm currently reading Triumphs of Experience by Vaillant and find it insightful.

u/jediknight · 3 pointsr/Romania

Ce strategie ai abordat pentru a te imbunatati ca si programator?

Ce limbaje de programare ai folosit intr-un mod semnificativ pana acum?

Care-i contul tau de github? In ce proiecte Open Source esti implicat?

De la ce suma ai putea sa declari ca nu mai duci grija banilor?

Ca si sfat, iti recomand sa citesti 2 carti: The Adventures of Johnny Bunko si So good they can't ignore you. Daca intelegi mesajele din astea 2 carti, o sa fii ok, chiar super ok.

u/zipiddydooda · 3 pointsr/Entrepreneur

48 Laws of Power would be a great starting point.

You may also find some value in the likes of The Game for learning charisma and attractiveness. There's also a [pretty incredible TV series]( about the same topic. This scene is/was full of douchebags of course, but there are lessons here to be learned.

What Every Body is Saying for mastery of body language. This WILL change the way you interact with others, as you start to read what they are doing as they do it and respond accordingly.

The granddaddy of persuasion is Influence. I am reading this for the third time right now and it is just packed with powerful tools you can use in business and in life.

Oh it should go without saying that How To Win Friends and Influence People is essential reading for any entrepreneur. I use lessons I learned from this book every time I deal with an unhappy client or contractor.

u/Jesus_on_pcp · 3 pointsr/atheism

Sounds like you need to consult the atheist bible . I was in a similar situation until I decided to grab life by the balls.

u/Whiskeybuck · 3 pointsr/everymanshouldknow

I've spent half my life in enterprise and although all these comments have some validity, the truth is, it's important to know when to take shit and from whom. I didn't play the politics game at first and paid dearly. Long story short, when you enter your next job, it is entirely important to be needed and forget liked. That may or may not happen. And for the love of all things, read this:

It changed my career path.

u/ste5ers · 3 pointsr/sysadmin

48 laws of power

spy the lie

Both have helped primarily in dealing with management and cutting through the bullshit.

u/thisisbecomingabsurd · 3 pointsr/singularity

A lot of people consciously/subconsciously want an excuse to exploit other people, and the easiest way is often to think of them as objects not people.

For sex:

For power:

For conquest:

For meaning:

For varying personal reasons:

u/Chump_No_More · 3 pointsr/askMRP

I'm going to give you an alternative perspective.

The 'Stay Plan' is the same as the 'Go Plan'. Regardless as whether you're with her or not, you must work on you. Having her as the 'sharpening stone' to hone your Frame and MPoO does add a measure of value to your path and your mission. This woman WILL continue to test your Frame, she's doing it now with all the strong emotion. Use her as the metric to your progress.

Contrary to the other voices, there's no urgency here and you have the better hand. Do what it takes to make your hand better. If that means going to another state for a brief, measured period to 'sweeten to pot', then do not lightly take that off the table.

Get your head on straight, retainer a lawyer, and build your plan.

Given your circumstances, the next book you should be reading is The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene. Like right now!

u/haydenn156 · 3 pointsr/CCW

It's a phenomenal book by Robert Greene on how those in positions of power/authority act to gain/keep power, and get others to do what you want.

Very interesting if nothing else, really enjoyed reading it.

Would definitely recommend.

u/aknalid · 3 pointsr/suggestmeabook

I am a few years older than you and I have been going hard with books lately. It's not amazing, but I am on track to finishing about ~400 books by the time I am 30. I am also going for quality more than quantity. As in, if I feel like I didn't digest a particular book, I will keep at it and put other books on hold.

In any case, here are my top 3 recommendations:

1.) The Essential Writings of Ralph Waldo Emerson

2.) The 48 Laws of Power

3.) The Autobiography of Malcolm X

Also, Influence by Robert Cialdini is excellent. One of my favorites.

A little cautionary warning about asking people for recommendations though: Be careful about following other people's lists because those book won't vibe with you the same way. Each of us had our own unique life experiences, so you should be ideally choosing your own books. Lists are good for clues/inspiration though. Frequently, books choose me, not the other way around.

Also, try to keep track of the books (and knowledge) you read. I keep a single page HTML page with all the books I read along with a short note in reverse chronological order. I also have the option of putting this list online in the future if I need to.

u/bbmc7gm6fm · 3 pointsr/TheRedPill

Frame is dynamic rather than static. You may enter as guest and still be comfortable, receive all the attention and people would want to follow you around.

The 48 Laws of Power is a great book about frame.

Sometimes you need to burn your own house down in order to maintain your frame!

u/sun_tzuber · 3 pointsr/suggestmeabook

First and foremost, 48 Laws of Power. It will show you 100+ ways other people have tried and where they failed and succeeded. It's a great introduction. Get this first.

A lot for these are free on

Meditations - On being ethical and virtuous in a position of power.

33 strategies of war - A great companion to the 48 laws.

Art of war - Ancient Chinese text on war and power. All but covered in 48 laws.

Hagakure - Japanese text on war and power. All but covered in 48 laws.

On war - Military strategy from Napoleonic era. All but covered in 48 laws.

Rise of Theodore Roosevelt - Amazing book.

Seeking Wisdom from Darwin to Munger - Abstract thought models and logic patterns of highly successful people.

The Obstacle is the Way - Not labeled a book on power, more like thriving during struggle, which is important to a leader.

Machiavelli: The Prince - Pretty much the opposite of meditations. All but covered in 48 laws.

Also, here's a good TED talk on why power/civics is important to study:

If you've gone over these and want something more specialized, I can probably help.

Are you planning on taking us over with force or charm?

u/Cdresden · 3 pointsr/suggestmeabook

The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene.

u/person_ergo · 3 pointsr/consulting

This book has been instrumental for me
Useful to understand scenarios where people acted differently than you would expect and position yourself well

u/Voerendaalse · 3 pointsr/financialindependence

Your $7k in credit card debt is a big warning signal to me too. Your debt is part of your total financial picture. So while you may have put 20% of your income away last year for retirement, clearly you didn't manage very well living off of the other 80%, because you went into debt.

If you would put away $1k towards retirement in a month, but you would also go $1k further into debt that same month, you did not come out ahead, you actually stalled or may even have gotten worse (if the interest rate on the debt is higher than the profits in the retirement account).

Maybe a kick-in-the-butt helps, and I'll use MrMoneyMustache for that, since he's funny.

Maybe reading "Your money or your life" by Vicki Robin and Joe Dominquez might help you to see "money" in a different light, and thus makes you more careful in how you spend it?

Maybe it helps to write down your reasons to get a better grip on your finances - for example: if you would pay off that credit card debt this year, then next year you'd probably have roughly $8k more to spend than this year, and if you keep being smart about your money, that $8k could go to something that you really care about... (I don't know what that is, but you perhaps do? What would you buy if you had an extra 8k? Or $16k? Or $24K?).

u/110_115_120 · 3 pointsr/personalfinance

It sounds like you could really benefit from reading "Your Money Or Your Life". I was in the same place in my late 20s, and it really helped change my attitude toward money and become more focused on achieving my goals.

Here's an interview with one of the authors.

u/iluv2sled · 3 pointsr/Frugal

A few years back, I was unhappy at my position. When I told my boss I was resigning, he asked me why and I expressed my concerns, particularly with many of the tasks I was spending my time on. He suggested that if I didn't like doing them, then to stop and spend my time on the tasks that truly interested me. He also pointed out that the worst thing that could happen was that my employer would fire me and I was already prepared to quit.

While this advise wouldn't work for many situations, it was very timely for me, because I had been spending much of my time addressing areas that others in the organization should have been responsible for. With this advise, I completely changed my focus and began to enjoy my job. I ended up staying with the company for an additional 3 years and consider that time some of the most successful part of my career.

I know that it sounds cliche, but my big learning was that sometimes we make our own happiness and that happiness can be found right where we're at. In my case, I wasn't properly establishing boundaries and employees are always happy to move their work to someone else. Of course, sometimes we're just in a bad situation (or the wrong job) and need to move on.

My advise is to decide why you're unhappy and act accordingly. Is it because of the job? Or because your social life is lacking? If you decide it's work related, I would suggest having a conversation with your boss to discuss your concerns and put together a plan to make it better. Sometimes this works, and sometimes it doesn't. Again, the worst that can happen is that you decide it's time to move on.

And lastly, I would recommend reading Your Money or Your Life by Joe Dominquez ( Not only is it a great book on frugality, but it also does a great job of putting work into context of our overall lives.

u/escapeartist · 3 pointsr/Frugal

This is one of the things I liked about Your Money or Your Life. It advocates identifying where you can cut expenses that are less of a priority but reminds the frugal person that life is also to be enjoyed, and you shouldn't deprive yourself of the things that give you joy just because they cost more.

u/HyperApples · 3 pointsr/japanlife

u/GravityTxT, geekguy has the best advice on this thread. "will, fortitude, and action".

I never earned much money and retired at 35 to travel full-time. It's not about how much you earn, but how much you spend.

If all my investments magically disappeared and I had to start again, I would get a job in rural Japan, doing something I like, where housing is essentially free, and there's a labor shortage. That's an immediate strong economic position from which to rebuild capital.

Do what you love, avoid lifestyle inflation, enjoy life.

And as a former software industry worker, I say the industry is awful for quality of living, and emotional fulfillment. IT, too.

You need to get concrete on what you want out of life. Read Your Money or your Life by Dominguez/Robin.

If you're a numbers guy read, if you're a heart guy read Even if you want to work to 75, these are great resources for living a examined life, rather than just floating along.

u/barnefri · 3 pointsr/childfree

Basically you must work on paying off your debts and still save as much as you can every month until you reach the point where you have saved so much money that you can live on the interests/dividends/passive income (such as renting out a room or an apartment), for the rest of your life, without working.

How long it will take you to get to that point depends on your annual spending, how much debt you have, and how much of your income you are able to save. Some people have done it in 5 years by living extremely frugally, even while raising a family. The point is not how much money you make, but what % of your monthly income you are able to save.

I highly recommend the book "Your Money or Your Life", but you can start by watching some YouTube videos and read online blogs.

u/RDMXGD · 3 pointsr/personalfinance

There is a very good chance it is possible. The keys are to (a) spend very little money, and (b) make a decent bit of money.

A potential reading list includes

  • /r/leanfire/
  • /r/financialindependence/

    If you don't track your spending, start. Be deliberate as you change it in the future. A lot of people don't even understand where their money goes.

    > I am still renting my living space ($650/month)

    Sounds like a likely-good decision.

    > hope to have a the future (hopefully before retirement).

    Raising kids has a lot of cost, but also varies a ton by how you do it.

    If your partner is of one mind about living frugally and retiring early, you can cut costs by sharing things and can encourage each other. Most people aren't of that mind, so this is a common struggle.

    > hope to...own a home in the future (hopefully before retirement).

    I would encourage you to rethink this as an end unto itself. Owning a home makes sense sometimes for some people in some places. Other times, renting makes more sense. To the extent that owning a home is a sign of being a responsible, stable, grownup, it's just a status symbol. Don't chase status symbols.

    Try to analyze the decision to buy a house rather than renting in terms of whether it actually makes sense for your situation.

    > My question is, how much money does someone like me need to have in order to completely retire at 40-45 and still live comfortably?

    The common rules of thumb range from 20x-50x your annual expenditures for whatever 'live comfortably' means to you. The online community of early retirees and (more often) hopeful early retirees tends to push 25x your annual expenditures. plugs in some assumptions and computes, with tons of assumptions, the target savings rate to let yourself retire by a certain age.

    Any such rule of thumb has tons of variability based on risk tolerance, the unpredictable future, details to tax, details to pensions, tax-deferred savings, social security, etc., but these things can be approached by some pencil-sharpening when you're closer in. The main things are (a) make a lot of money, and (b) don't spend much money.
u/carbidegriffen · 3 pointsr/seduction

I first read this book in a college course about persuasion, it's a great read not just for PUA but most of it will apply for that.

I'm going from memory but there is a chapter in there about perceived value. Raise the price and people will want it more. PUA equivalent, confidence increases perceived value.

If people really want to geek out on this kind of stuff pick up:

Our schools need to teach more ethics and rhetoric.

u/shane0mack · 3 pointsr/everymanshouldknow

Thank You for Arguing -- It's sort of a Cliff's Notes for rhetoric. Really interesting stuff.

The Definitive Book of Body Language -- If you practice a bit, these tells can really come in handy

u/Vanthian · 3 pointsr/argentina

Te dejo un link a un libro que trata de este tema: So Good They Can't Ignore You, de Cal Newport.

u/ottomanbob · 3 pointsr/Narcolepsy

To be honest, I've never really participated in a traditional hiring process, so I don't know. I'm confident enough in my general competence that applying for jobs in the future doesn't really scare me. It seems your career philosophy is fairly traditional, which isn't a bad thing, but I do think "committing" less to one specific track can save you a lot of stress.

I would check out So Good They Can't Ignore You, by Cal Newport. If you can learn to work around your ailments and hone a special skillset, I believe you'll be respected and desirable as an employee! I don't know about outdoorsy stuff, but I am confident you can pave a way for yourself to do something at least park ranger-esque. Though you'll need to play the long game. Keep learning after college and consider everything research for eventual perfect job- one that caters to your interests + skills while accommodating your illness.

I know it sounds out there, but this sort of strategy could really be the way of the future. It's a risk worth taking, given that a traditional path (e.g. climbing a corporate ladder) is excessively difficult for PWN.

u/mogigoma · 3 pointsr/Winnipeg

Another thing to consider is how to cope in an existing job or career, instead of looking for another one. It's not always possible, but sometimes you can alter yourself or your job to make things better.

The book So Good They Can't Ignore You has some good insights, but is long-winded about them.

u/smitty-the-kitty · 3 pointsr/opensourcesociety

Degrees mean less than people think. Just ask any of the hordes of recent grads with generic liberal arts degrees about their job search. Unless you lay the groundwork in college and have a plan (e.g. doing internships to get you real world experience), or you have a very practical and technical major like engineering, a degree's not going to be much help getting you a job. Most people I know in that situation are settling for jobs that have nothing to do with their major and don't really make use of their education at all. I'm basing this on personal experience and various things I've read, but I'm sure you can find articles and evidence of this to show your detractors if you do some googling.

Why is this the case? Because in the real world, companies hire people to solve actual problems they're having - they're looking for someone with skills that will help their business. With the trend toward people changing companies (and even career paths) more and more frequently, companies are also getting less and less willing to develop people on the job, and it's more important to have useful skills you can provide out of the gate.

What does this mean? When planning your career, you need to think about what skills are valuable in the economy and develop your career capital accordingly. Some professions have strict credentialing systems, and you'll need to have the certificates to get into them (like medicine, law, and teaching). These are special cases, though - most jobs that companies are hiring for require skills and experience, not certificates.

Ok, how does this relate to OSSU? Learning software engineering and computer science is a solid career strategy that provides flexible and valuable career capital. The U.S. Bureau of Labor projects the Software Developer jobs will grow much faster than average over the next 10 years. The prevalence of coding bootcamps proves that it's possible to learn software development skills and get a high paying job with no relevant "official" certification or college degree. (I went through a coding bootcamp and went from no programming experience to a 6 figure job in Silicon Valley in less than a year).

If you're going to learn on your own without getting a degree, it's important that you have something to show for it that employers can look at to see the skills you've developed. That's why it's important to do projects and have an online portfolio where you can showcase them. If you can demonstrate that you have a useful skill, then you'll be a more attractive candidate than someone who just has some random degree.

I'd recommend the book So Good They Can't Ignore You and the website 80,000 Hours for further reading on career strategy. Hopefully some of that is helpful for you. I think you have a great plan and will be miles ahead of your peers if you follow through on it. All of that's not to say that you definitely shouldn't get a degree, but you'll probably have the luxury of passing on it if you work to develop employable skills on your own time.

u/patrickisgreat · 3 pointsr/ADHD

Diagnosed ADHD-PI, professional software developer here; working on an agile team building SaaS apps for large retailers.

It's been 4 years since my bachelor's and I have no professional experience; nothing to show for that time really, except a failed grad school project. Is there anything I can do so this doesn't look so bad to recruiters?

  • Start putting all the code you're most proud of on your GitHub in public repositories, and try to finish at least one open source thing.

  • Start answering questions on Stack Overflow.

  • Hiring managers just want to see how you solve problems and work with other developers -- so contributing to open source is a huge one.

    What skills could I work on now that would prepare me for professional work? I hear people gripe about recent grads having no experience with version control, continuous integration, etc. I'm familiar with most of these

  • Getting really familiar with Github, and some kind of workflow like git-flow is a huge one, but also read up on Agile because many companies are using that method to organize coding tasks -- see if you can learn a tracker like Jira or Pivotal in demo mode (would be a bonus)

  • Try to get really checked out and well versed in at least one framework...(Angular, React, Vue, Laravel, Rails, etc) you can kind of pick one you're already pretty familiar with and there will be jobs out there for it.

  • Again look for open issues on open source projects written in langs and frameworks you're familiar with, fork them, fix them, and submit PRs -- this will give you rep on GitHub and prove you can collaborate effectively.

    Should I mention my ADHD diagnosis and the difficulties I had, or just say that I took a year off for personal reasons and leave it at that?

  • Our team lead talked openly about his ADHD during his interview and he still got hired. I have not mentioned mine as I got my formal diagnosis after already being at this company for a while but it's pretty common in the industry

    Do you ever have any doubts about whether you like programming enough? Like I said, sometimes I'm super enthusiastic about my projects. Other times I can't get started, so it makes me doubt myself.

  • Absolutely. It really helps to work for a company that you KNOW supports learning and doing things the right way.... and a company that is working on apps that you have some interest in. If you can drink the kool-aid so-to-speak it helps keep you interested. I've worked for companies that made me question the career altogether, and now I work at one I really love and I'm glad I didn't change course. (they fly us to conferences, we do pair programming, there's lots of time for research and refactoring etc.)

    Do you have a particular workflow that works well for you and the people you work with? (pomodoro, break the day into 2-hour chunks, etc)

  • I use the methods in this book to the best of my ability: which is essentially find the time of day (or night) that you are sharpest and go into an increasingly long period of very focused work where you've created an environment free from all distractions (no phone, no browser tabs with reddit etc..) The rest of my day I break up into 30-40 minute chunks with walks and stretching in between. Nobody can write clean code for 9 hours straight. I also use WunderList religiously. I have categories in WunderList for every aspect of my life and I organize my days from start to finish as a "Today," list. I try to follow the list. Obviously life throws you curve balls but it's been a huge help.

    Do you ever lack perseverance when you hit a snag? If so, what do you do about it? I like programming recreationally, because if there's a bug I can't figure out I'll step away (sometimes for hours), and then see it with fresh eyes. In a professional environment this feels like I'm goofing off.

  • This is a tough one.... the answer for me is yes....but I also tend to get so frustrated that I try to push through and solve the problem for too long past my ability to be effective. I continually prove this to myself because I eventually have to step away if it's really difficult -- and when I come back refreshed the solution comes pretty quickly.. (usually)... I often quit for the day having not solved something, do my evening tasks, sleep, and then wake up immediately knowing the answer.

    Any other relevant/interesting details you can share about your experiences will be super-appreciated.

  • Stick with it -- it is very challenging for anyone to become a good dev -- and even moreso for us... but there are some aspects of the way our brains work that makes this the perfect career. Most ADHD people love a challenge when something sparks their interest, and the hyper focus bouts allow us to often come up with very clever solutions. Let us know how it goes and good luck.

    edit: I am prescribed 30mg IR adderall. I don't take it every day but I do use it often

u/pickaxeprogrammer · 3 pointsr/webdev

I had this problem. I read a book by a computer science professor, Cal Newport. He has some Ted talks on the subject too if you can't make it through a book.

He talks about why this is happening to a lot of people who need a high degree of concentration to do hard work. He cites brain studies that show how gadgets and social media and such are literally changing the way our brains work.. it's becoming more difficult for everyone to concentrate, not just programmers.

He also gives direct, practical advice for retraining your brain to do deep work like programming.

I really liked the book, and his techniques were very effective for me. Here's a link Deep Work by Cal Newport

u/purhitta · 3 pointsr/productivity

Hey friend, I'm in the same boat (graphic design.) I need to build my portfolio to change jobs & move this year, but I've been severely lacking in all forms of motivation & discipline. While design is my career & passion and I truly do love it, I never learned the self-discipline tactics to stay on a schedule. Any schedule I've made for myself in the past falls apart almost immediately. And when I do get into the right mindset to work, it's hard for me to focus for long periods of time. The work that I usually love becomes dull and the sweet siren songs of Youtube & reddit beckon me away.


I've been procrastinating on this for two years now. I know. It's bad.


A few months ago I realized I'm almost always inadvertently waiting for a "breakthrough" in my mental state. I'm essentially closing my eyes and hoping that a gush of motivation will wash over me. That all my previous excuses will suddenly stop making sense & my brain will eagerly jump forward with all the energy and ambition I'm missing. I've become somewhat addicted to self-improvement tactics, testing every new theory in hopes that it'll be my "big break." It feels like something is off in my clockwork, and if only I could find the one widget or gear to fix it, all my internal hangups, procrastination, fear, and demotivation will be solved.


Well, it's been two years. A breakthrough hasn't arrived yet. I've realized it's not coming.


I've exhausted so much self-help that I'm exhausted by all the self-help. I'm tired of tricks and quick-fixes to getting work done. Because they don't work in the long term (a quick-fix, by definition, is temporary.) It's becoming abundantly clear that I cannot manipulate myself into doing work that I don't want to do. I just have to do it.


So I'm retraining my brain's habits. When I sit down at my desk, I almost physically crave distraction. I don't want to be faced with my work and all its failures (actual & potential.) I literally grit my teeth and visualize the new neural pathways forming in my brain (or at the very least, the old ones breaking.) The only way to solidify new habits is to DO THEM, because they get easier with time. And it's worth it to remind yourself that if it's difficult today- if everything in your body revolts at the thought of putting pen to paper- this is the worst it's going to feel, and you CAN push past the resistance. Repetition breeds ease.


I'm a perfectionist and a procrastinator. Creating stuff scares me to death. Putting it into a portfolio for the world scares me to death. Also it's just hard work. You know as well as I do that art is just as much a job as anything else. It takes effort- effort that we often don't have or want to conjure. So I'm relearning how to fall in love with the boredom, and how to crave a flow state, and how to sit down and focus instead of throwing an attention-span tantrum about how I don't want to do this.


Because there will never be a perfect day, or a perfect mood, or a perfect time. You will never feel insanely motivated and inspired to do your work (I mean, you might, but give up that vision as a solution. It's not reliable.) People romanticize dedication to a habit (have you seen the fans of fitness gurus on Instagram?) but you can't romanticize the work. It's dirty and frustrating, painful and exhausting. But it's meaningful, and that's why you resist it- because it's important to you, and maybe you're scared it won't live up to your expectations or that your goals are unattainable. It's okay to feel afraid. It's okay to feel uninspired, or bored, or tired, or hungry, or grumpy. It's okay to feel like you want to do anything but the work.

Do it anyway.


- - -

Despite my earlier claim that all my self-improvement research has been more stifling than helpful, there ARE some resources that have helped me:


- Drive by Daniel Pink - on why intrinsic motivation is essential for getting anything meaningful done

- Deep Work by Cal Newport - how to slow down and focus

- Talk to other artists. Seriously. Like, in-person. I'm the most introverted hermit you'll ever meet but when I'm struggling creatively, just TALKING to another designer pumps up my spirits. I hate small talk and I hate social interaction (hello, social anxiety) but its benefits are exponential

- Therapy & medication - 'cause you can't muscle through a neurological or psychological problem (without help at least)

- Just start. Draw one line.

- Accountability- if you're good with client deadlines but not your own (raises hand,) get someone to check in on you. Sometimes we just need someone else nagging us to get our lives in line

- Downsize your responsibilities- human beings are very very bad at multitasking & juggling a lot of things at once. For something to take priority, other things need to take a backseat

- Sleep! I was diagnosed with sleep apnea in February. Got a CPAP and who knew I could feel so awake and energetic in the mornings?! It's nuts. But even if you don't have a sleep disorder, sleep is way WAY more important than people realize.

-Red Lemon Club- this is a site/blog/group of people (we have a Slack group) started by this guy named Alex who just gets it. The instagram is worth following alone

u/krimsen · 3 pointsr/getdisciplined

Give a quick read to Seth Godin's "The Dip" it might help you find what you're looking for! (And I do mean "quick read" -- it's only 96 pages.

Amazon Link

Wikipedia Page

u/czth · 3 pointsr/cscareerquestions

If you're coming to me to ask for more money, I want to know why—how are you making me (my department, the company) this money (including by retaining you, so comps are certainly effective)? We're not a charity. Ditto for being a "senior": presuming your company doesn't have an official set of requirements (and many don't), what have you done to be considered "senior"?

When you walk into a negotiation, have a concrete list of what you've done over the past year or review period, and address any concerns from the previous review solidly (did you had a high opened defect count relative to others? Show that it's halved…). If you had goals, point out where you achieved and exceeded them.

You may need to make this a "baseline" review and do as /u/ericswc suggested and agree on a goal which will get you the raise/promotion on meeting it. Ramit Sethi has some great posts in this area, such as this one. Not everything will apply, but watching the videos is a good way to get techniques into memory. I would also recommend Seth Godin's books Linchpin and perhaps The Dip.

u/msupr · 3 pointsr/Entrepreneur

Had this list together from a blog post I wrote a few months ago. Not sure what exactly you're looking for, but these are my favorite books and I'd recommend everybody read them all. There are other great books out there, but this is a pretty well rounded list that touches everything a company needs.

The Lean Startup

Business Model Generation

Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products

Talking to Humans

Predictable Revenue

To Sell is Human


Delivering Happiness

u/RossDCurrie · 3 pointsr/Entrepreneur

I'd suggest reading one of these:

u/unnovator · 3 pointsr/Entrepreneur

If you are looking for a deeper understanding of how to build and start a business at lower cost and risk, I would recommend reading: "The $100 Startup" or "Side Hustle". Resources like these advocate finding markets through low cost, low risk attempts to find customer interest and build entrepreneurship skill.

While the furniture business may be viable, your lack of experience and the initial capital investment may make that a better business after you have more confidence in how you can build and develop.

u/drhomeboy · 3 pointsr/motivation

After some searching, looks like it's from "The $100 Startup" by Chris Guillebeau.

u/Medic5780 · 3 pointsr/Entrepreneur

Chris Guillebeau wrote two great books:

The Side Hustle

$100 Start-Up

Check them out and let me know what you think.


u/monolithburger · 3 pointsr/Entrepreneur

It infuriates me that there are so many people that NEED "capital" in this thread.
You need virtually ZERO cash to start a business in this day and age.




u/polakfury · 3 pointsr/Calgary

> Trump literally praises putin

No he doesnt

" If that is the type of "nation building" you aspire for Canada or any other nation, leave me out.'
If it means having peaceful relations with other nations count me and all the sane people in as well!
Total opposite of Hillary and her WW3 plans

"Hillary has years of negotiating experience in the State Department."

Worst ever at the State Department

Even if Hillary was half guilty in everything she is accused of, that would just be another thing she has excelled at over Trump.
What drugs are you on? Fentanyl?

Trump has a track record of operating as a Executive for over 30 + years with over 400 successful entities to his name. And he wrote a Best Seller on Business Management. People know he is amazing at decision making which would translate well as President.

"The fact that some 20-40% of the USA is thinking of voting for him speaks volumes to the state of American education systems.'
Smart folk who have done the research will vote for him.

u/court12b · 3 pointsr/politics

Hell. He wrote the book on it.

u/TheCrazyRed · 3 pointsr/guitarlessons

Look very closely at your picking technique. To go faster you may have to generate the picking motion from other muscles. The picking motion can come from several places, i.e., rotation at the elbow, rotation of the wrist, pronation/supination of the forearm, or moving the fingers that hold the pick. Research all of these different sources of picking motion, try them and find what works for you at the speed you are targeting. It's very important to find the technique that works for that speed. For some people different speed = different technique.

For your fretting hand, I don't have a lot of advice except practice, build up the coordination. Also, don't hold your fingers too far from the fret board. What I mean is, when you release a note, that is remove a finger from the fret board, make sure you're not lifting it up too high.

Overall, to play fast you have to learn to minimize the amount of energy you're expending for each note for both the picking hand and the fretting hand. Hands have a maximum amount of energy they can put out. You can increase that amount of energy with practice but for everybody there is a ceiling.

Also, check out this book: The Inner Game of Music. It will help you with execution. If you've been playing this long the hangups could be mental, that is, what your mindset is when you're playing. This book can help you find the right mindset.

u/EsqRhapsody · 3 pointsr/Clarinet

So, back in college I botched a spot in an orchestra concert and was really beating myself up about it. One of my sectionmates bought me a book that she loved called The Inner Game of Music. It didn’t keep me from screwing up on occasion, but it absolutely helped me get out of my head and over my mental blocks and focus on the music. Definitely worth a read.

u/Bradfords_ACL · 3 pointsr/marchingband

Current Band Director, I would highly recommend this book. Helped me get through my nerves as a freshman music major in college.

u/Next_Flow1 · 3 pointsr/MensRights

In 2013, Facebook Chief Operating Officer Sheryl Sandberg urged women to “lean in” to their power and break through that pesky glass ceiling. Predictably — and correctly — feminists argued that “leaning in” not only left male-dominated corporate culture intact but also depended on underpaid female domestic workers to clean and care for children. Both Sandberg’s book and the critiques of it left actual men out of the analysis, as if leaning in (and sorting out the limits of this proposed solution) was yet more women’s work.

I’m reminded of that omission as we head into the Democratic primary season. More women are seeking the party’s presidential nomination than ever before. And yet a few white men sit at the top of the polls and rake in big fundraising hauls. As candidates such as Sens. Kamala D. Harris, Elizabeth Warren, Kirsten Gillibrand and Amy Klobuchar lean in, maybe it’s time for some of their male competitors to find ways to lean out.

Early media coverage of the campaign demonstrates why merely leaning in can’t dismantle the double standards and deep structural misogyny women face. Studies by FiveThirtyEight and my colleagues at Northeastern University found both fewer “media mentions” of female candidates and also more negative coverage than of their male counterparts. Meanwhile, Beto O’Rourke apparently merits multiple profiles, an HBO documentary about his failed Senate run and an Annie Leibovitz photo shoot in Vanity Fair — while Pete Buttigieg got a literally glowing New York magazine cover profile.

The candidates themselves do not demonstrate much more awareness of these dynamics. O’Rourke acknowledged having “privileges that others could not depend on or take for granted,” and then, well, continued to make the case for his candidacy. I suppose he deserves a tip of the hat, if only by comparison to Bernie Sanders, who, when asked if Americans really need another white man as president, replied: “Well, I think you need this one.”

A real reckoning with privilege goes beyond acknowledgment and into action. Given the unbroken record of male presidents and what we know about the double standards under which female candidates run — including obsessive attention to their voices, their bodies, their clothes — it is worth asking what steps male candidates of good faith can take to even the playing field.

First, they could do more than give the notion of privilege a cursory nod.

They could refuse to give interviews to news organizations that have practiced gender discrimination in their coverage of the campaigns and say “no thanks” to the magazine covers that curiously feature only them. They could call out the disproportionate attention they receive, as well as the presumption that they are more electable by virtue of their gender, and instead point out the fact that the women running have already won multiple races, written many books, and have deep executive and policy experience — claims that could not be universally made of their male counterparts.

Male candidates should definitely stop offering a patronizing nod to women through the “offer” of a vice presidential spot on the ticket just so they keep on benefiting from the massive affirmative action plan that is male privilege. Naming Stacey Abrams his running mate wouldn’t actually fix Joe Biden’s problems with women — especially if, as Abrams said, that’s not actually a role she wants. Telling women we can play second fiddle is not proof of a commitment to equality.

Of course, some candidates don’t even offer women that much power. Rep. Seth Moulton of Massachusetts has as his main credential an unsuccessful effort to topple Nancy Pelosi as speaker of the House.

The really radical thing for a male candidate to do in 2020 would be to step down and step away, realizing that real gender equity is achieved only when men actively refuse the benefits they receive simply for being born male.

Gender and racial equity are not zero-sum games: Everyone is a winner when we have a more diverse and representative government. But we can’t achieve that vision without men taking responsibility for the inordinate space they take up in the media and the candidate field.

There’s only one president and only so many seats in Congress or on corporate boards or as chief executives or union bosses. If we want to get even a rough version of parity, men will need to take less, have less, make less and, in so doing, recognize that the more they always got was at the expense of those who got less, courtesy of sexism.

Women are leaning in like mad, leading the resistance, voting in higher numbers and signing up to be candidates for office. But men have a responsibility — if they really do want a more gender-equitable world — to lean out, work actively to disavow their privilege and pitch in to get a woman elected president.

There are several highly qualified female candidates running for president. Every single man currently running or thinking of running should drop out and support one of these women. Now that would be real leadership.

u/batfish55 · 3 pointsr/MGTOW

I love it! The hamster is strong in this one.

>Often times you would hear men complain and vent that the women of today are too demanding and that everything revolves around them.

Wait...that's not true? Where are these unicorns you speak of?

>We don’t date certain guys because we’re afraid they aren’t our type, and their usual question following this statement is: but how do you know what your type is before you’ve even been on a real date?

Sure, decent premise. But, first, you can get a feel for types of people without dating them. Second, the author conflates 'dating' with 'fucking as many dudes as she wants without thinking about the consequences.'

>As a teenager I guess it was acceptable to make a list of the traits that your ideal guy should have, but now as an adult women, we must learn to be less judgmental and more objective...

Ah, Lean In.

>When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner.

Translation from PC to man: Get all the Chad cock you can when you're young and hot, then when you've lost your beauty, reign in a 32 year old virgin with a great career and retirement fund.

u/m_c_escherichia · 3 pointsr/infertility

Looks like you've already got lots of great advice to keep it private; I'll add my vote to that.

I'll also add that a female engineer friend of mine recommended this book:

I haven't read it yet (on my long list!), but apparently a major point is that women often withdraw from leadership/jobs/etc earlier than when they have to (i.e. volunteering that they are trying for kids, etc) and hence end up unintentionally sacrificing career advancement.

Anyways, good luck tomorrow!

u/niton · 3 pointsr/AskReddit

Alright. This is going to be hard for you but with a little initiative and courage, you can become the individual you want to be. Here are a few resources to get you started:

  • TED Talk: The power of vulnerability - Don't be afraid to make yourself look bad. You will only learn societal conventions and form your own responses to them by expanding your comfort zone.

  • Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway! by Susan Jeffers - A book based on the same principle of "put yourself out there!" Doing crazy things also means you get stories to tell when talking to others.

  • Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazi - All about networking and building relationships.

    I used to be very shy and pretty awful at partying, interacting with women or just basically having a life. I now work at a job where my ability to communicate (and generally be interesting) is my chief marketable skill (no small feat for someone who was shy and boring). All the resources I suggested above were integral in helping me translate my desires into action. You already know what you want to achieve. It's just a matter of actually getting out of your comfort zone.

    Good luck!
u/BridgetteBane · 3 pointsr/jobs

If you haven't yet, try reading "What Color is your Parachute". It offers lots of career changing advice, guidance on finding out what sort of work you'd really like to do, and also tons of great resources that you can pursue, including some lesser known job hunting sources like job search groups, which I'd never heard of before. It also just sorta gets you into a more optimistic mindset, I think.

Another one I would recommend would be "Never Eat Alone", which is about meeting and cultivating a great network. As we all know, an awesome network can be a huge asset.

u/xasper8 · 3 pointsr/Frugal

I'm with you - If I'm eating alone, I'm eating on the cheap... but then again I view eating as either; a mandatory, physiological need (an annoying interruption to my current task at hand) or 2. a networking opportunity.

In my experience, if you can arrange most of your meals around option 2 - the value of the relationship (business or otherwise) will far out weigh the cost of the meal.

I am not endorsing this book - I have never read it - however, "judging the book by it's cover" I subscribe to the philosophy.

Never Eat Alone
*edited for speln

u/ApfelFarFromTree · 3 pointsr/Columbus

If you're having trouble finding a person, two books may help you start the process: Do What You Are and What Color is Your Parachute. I know how frustrating it is to be "stuck" and then find a dream job. Unfortunately, I don't have much advice to share as I fell backwards into the profession by just taking every job opportunity that came my way that sounded remotely interesting. Best of luck to you!!!

u/AdorinoraZ · 3 pointsr/Gifts

What Color Is Your Parachute? 2017: A Practical Manual for Job-Hunters and Career-Changers

It's a classic book that the author comes out with a new edition every year. If they haven't started there already it's a nice thoughtful gift.

u/MemeyMcKek · 3 pointsr/The_Donald

They actually did find a highly secretive book.

u/softservepoobutt · 2 pointsr/TrueAskReddit

Honestly - through rigor. I would suggest studying logic, some philosophy (this is about the structure of arguments, and deduction in a general sense) and then something applied, like policy analysis or program evaluation. <- those last two are just related to my field so I know about them, plenty of others around.

Some suggested books that could be interesting for you:

Intro to Logic by Tarski

The Practice of Philosophy by Rosenberg

Thank you for Arguing by Heinrichs

Policy Analysis is instructive in that you have to define a problem, define its characteristics, identify the situation it exists in, plot possible solutions (alternatives), and create criteria for selecting the alternative you like most.

Program Evaluation is really just tons of fun and will teach a bunch about how to appraise things. Eval can get pretty muddy into social research but honestly you can skip a lot of that and just learn the principles.

The key to this is that you're either very smart and can learn this stuff through your own brains and force of will, or, more likely, you'll need people to help beat it into you WELCOME TO GRADSCHOOL.

u/ifauve · 2 pointsr/AskSocialScience

I am not aware of any works that will give you a "checklist" of deception tactics (and I feel like any such work would be inevitably incomplete/unreliable/boring to read). But if you want to read great great works on the subject, how about Walter Lippmann's Public Opinion, Jacques Ellul's Propaganda and, in a slightly different vein but very useful to identify how the media forms its agenda, Chomsky and Herman's Manufacturing Consent (if you read them in this order, you'll find the phrase "manufacturing consent" on Lippmann's book, that's where Chomsky and Herman got it from!)?

Ninja edit: of course, propaganda is more than just deceiving people. But these books are pretty fantastic if you want to study/understand deception.

another edit: Here is a general-audience book that you may find slightly useful. It's been a few years since I read this and honestly, this book was so unremarkable that I couldn't even remember it when typing out my response. But maybe it's your cup of tea, OP!

u/The_Shwassassin · 2 pointsr/Advice

I see what’s going on here.

First and foremost if you want to persuade people you need to stop leaning so much on logically fallacies. Telling people that they should listen to you because you’re smart or because your beliefs aren’t mainstream is not a reason to believe anything. Anyone can say they’re smart and have non-mainstream beleifs. Who cares? You’re talking about the merits of the argument, you’re partaking in mental masturbation. Who gives a shit?

If you want to convince anyone, cut that shit out. Get to the point, let the merits of your arguments stand for themselves.
No one cares about you, they care about the solution you claim to have.

Also, you need to backup your claims with evidence. The person making the claim has the burden of proof. To convince people of anything you need to back your shut up with good evidence. You need how to get lots of YouTube views? Great, how many views do you get and how does that compare to other methods? What specific results have you personally achieved? People won’t care unless you can back your shit up with real data.

Otherwise check out this book :

You should be able to find it at your library. If you can’t find that one, get another book about rhetoric. You can be right all you want but unless you know to argue effectively you’ll just spin your tires. Emotion and logic are vital in persuasion

You want proof? Go buy a cell phone from a guy and hear how often he talks about how mainstream he isn’t and how smart he is. He won’t.

u/CSMastermind · 2 pointsr/AskComputerScience

Senior Level Software Engineer Reading List

Read This First

  1. Mastery: The Keys to Success and Long-Term Fulfillment


  2. Patterns of Enterprise Application Architecture
  3. Enterprise Integration Patterns: Designing, Building, and Deploying Messaging Solutions
  4. Enterprise Patterns and MDA: Building Better Software with Archetype Patterns and UML
  5. Systemantics: How Systems Work and Especially How They Fail
  6. Rework
  7. Writing Secure Code
  8. Framework Design Guidelines: Conventions, Idioms, and Patterns for Reusable .NET Libraries

    Development Theory

  9. Growing Object-Oriented Software, Guided by Tests
  10. Object-Oriented Analysis and Design with Applications
  11. Introduction to Functional Programming
  12. Design Concepts in Programming Languages
  13. Code Reading: The Open Source Perspective
  14. Modern Operating Systems
  15. Extreme Programming Explained: Embrace Change
  16. The Elements of Computing Systems: Building a Modern Computer from First Principles
  17. Code: The Hidden Language of Computer Hardware and Software

    Philosophy of Programming

  18. Making Software: What Really Works, and Why We Believe It
  19. Beautiful Code: Leading Programmers Explain How They Think
  20. The Elements of Programming Style
  21. A Discipline of Programming
  22. The Practice of Programming
  23. Computer Systems: A Programmer's Perspective
  24. Object Thinking
  25. How to Solve It by Computer
  26. 97 Things Every Programmer Should Know: Collective Wisdom from the Experts


  27. Hackers and Painters: Big Ideas from the Computer Age
  28. The Intentional Stance
  29. Things That Make Us Smart: Defending Human Attributes In The Age Of The Machine
  30. The Back of the Napkin: Solving Problems and Selling Ideas with Pictures
  31. The Timeless Way of Building
  32. The Soul Of A New Machine
  34. YOUTH
  35. Understanding Comics: The Invisible Art

    Software Engineering Skill Sets

  36. Software Tools
  37. UML Distilled: A Brief Guide to the Standard Object Modeling Language
  38. Applying UML and Patterns: An Introduction to Object-Oriented Analysis and Design and Iterative Development
  39. Practical Parallel Programming
  40. Past, Present, Parallel: A Survey of Available Parallel Computer Systems
  41. Mastering Regular Expressions
  42. Compilers: Principles, Techniques, and Tools
  43. Computer Graphics: Principles and Practice in C
  44. Michael Abrash's Graphics Programming Black Book
  45. The Art of Deception: Controlling the Human Element of Security
  46. SOA in Practice: The Art of Distributed System Design
  47. Data Mining: Practical Machine Learning Tools and Techniques
  48. Data Crunching: Solve Everyday Problems Using Java, Python, and more.


  49. The Psychology Of Everyday Things
  50. About Face 3: The Essentials of Interaction Design
  51. Design for Hackers: Reverse Engineering Beauty
  52. The Non-Designer's Design Book


  53. Micro-ISV: From Vision to Reality
  54. Death March
  55. Showstopper! the Breakneck Race to Create Windows NT and the Next Generation at Microsoft
  56. The PayPal Wars: Battles with eBay, the Media, the Mafia, and the Rest of Planet Earth
  57. The Business of Software: What Every Manager, Programmer, and Entrepreneur Must Know to Thrive and Survive in Good Times and Bad
  58. In the Beginning...was the Command Line

    Specialist Skills

  59. The Art of UNIX Programming
  60. Advanced Programming in the UNIX Environment
  61. Programming Windows
  62. Cocoa Programming for Mac OS X
  63. Starting Forth: An Introduction to the Forth Language and Operating System for Beginners and Professionals
  64. lex & yacc
  65. The TCP/IP Guide: A Comprehensive, Illustrated Internet Protocols Reference
  66. C Programming Language
  67. No Bugs!: Delivering Error Free Code in C and C++
  68. Modern C++ Design: Generic Programming and Design Patterns Applied
  69. Agile Principles, Patterns, and Practices in C#
  70. Pragmatic Unit Testing in C# with NUnit

    DevOps Reading List

  71. Time Management for System Administrators: Stop Working Late and Start Working Smart
  72. The Practice of Cloud System Administration: DevOps and SRE Practices for Web Services
  73. The Practice of System and Network Administration: DevOps and other Best Practices for Enterprise IT
  74. Effective DevOps: Building a Culture of Collaboration, Affinity, and Tooling at Scale
  75. DevOps: A Software Architect's Perspective
  76. The DevOps Handbook: How to Create World-Class Agility, Reliability, and Security in Technology Organizations
  77. Site Reliability Engineering: How Google Runs Production Systems
  78. Cloud Native Java: Designing Resilient Systems with Spring Boot, Spring Cloud, and Cloud Foundry
  79. Continuous Delivery: Reliable Software Releases through Build, Test, and Deployment Automation
  80. Migrating Large-Scale Services to the Cloud
u/jesuisauxchiottes · 2 pointsr/worldnews

That's not the right attitude. Companies need to stop removing all pauses from the workplace.

You block all websites, time the smoke pauses, time the toilet use, then what, you hide the windows?

Voluntary distractions are a part of work. Managers should stop measuring performance on apparent time spent, and more on the results. They don't because it's much easier to do this way.

Also, if they want their employees to be less distracted, they should start by stopping to distract them with useless meetings and non-urgent calls.

Read the short and excellent Rework by 37signals on the subject. It gives an excellent perspective. Their talks about management are good as well.

u/TheSpoom · 2 pointsr/ExperiencedDevs

The Clean Coder is pretty great as it talks about being a professional developer and all that that entails. Very opinionated though (as all of Uncle Bob's books are). "If you don't do TDD, fuck you" is a fairly accurate paraphrasing of one chapter. Still, I found a lot of value there.

I recently read Rework which is a very quick read, but very dense with information on how Basecamp runs their business and many ideas of things that you should or should not do. If you do any freelancing or are thinking of starting your own business at some point, I'd recommend it.

Probably going to read Remote next as I'm working with remote business partners myself.

u/SQLSavant · 2 pointsr/learnprogramming

Some of these are directly related to programming and some are not but are additional reading that touch on skills that most every programmer should have some concept or idea of.

I've read all of these at some point throughout my career and can attest to their usefulness. Here's my personal list:

u/smcguinness · 2 pointsr/Entrepreneur

I'm 31 and just started my own company. When I turned 16, I had a profound epiphany about what I wanted to do "when I grew up". That epiphany was I wanted to own my own business. The why, came from the experiences I had since I was 14.

I worked as a delivery guy for two guys who owned a bounce house company. At 15, I was employee 1 at an advertising company. I started in the mailroom stuffing envelopes and I continued to work for that company through college and even a few months after graduating college. I didn't stay in the mailroom though. As I taught myself programming and a little design, I was growing within the company, as they themselves grew in revenue and size. I was getting a front row seat to what it was like to be an entrepreneur and I loved every minute of it; the long hours, the struggles, the doing whatever it takes, carving your own path, etc.

Even though I knew being an entrepreneur was part of my path in life, it has taken me 16 yrs to make that a reality. I have no regrets as I've been able to gain knowledge and experience the entire time. Everything you experience in life can help you in some way on your path to becoming an entrepreneur.

Remember, you can do a lot of good by being an employee too. You have not failed if you don't start a company.

  1. Get a job right now if you don't already have one. Work and understand what work is and build a work ethic. Even better, find a job at a small company, no matter what it is. At most small companies, no matter your role, you get exposed to the entire business.

  2. Meet and speak with entrepreneurs. Check out for events which are going on. You might be limited to not attending the events that are bars, but I've seen plenty of kids your age attending events.

  3. Find a skill and learn it. You might not think it now, but as /u/douglasjdarroch stated, you have a ton more free time to devote to that skill than when you get a full time job. I'm partial to it, but any amount of technology skills will help you with your pursuit.

  4. Culture is huge when it comes to creating a successful company it can be a differentiator.

    Suggested Reading

u/GalacticInquisitor · 2 pointsr/oculus

Hey, I recommend reading rework!

u/BroCube · 2 pointsr/Entrepreneur

Rework was not on that list. That is not a very good list.

u/organizedfellow · 2 pointsr/Entrepreneur

Here are all the books with amazon links, Alphabetical order :)


u/mruck05 · 2 pointsr/Entrepreneur

You don't need to have a lot of money to start your business. What you need as was already mentioned is the right mindset and a solution to a problem that people are willing to pay for. I love some of these websites and books and recommend giving them a look.

Smart Passive Income

Tropical MBA

The Lean Startup

Tim Ferriss' 4-hour Work Week

The Suitcase Entrepreneur

$100 Startup

u/rbegirliegirl · 2 pointsr/financialindependence

In response to your second two points, have you read The $100 Startup?

u/CaseyGerald · 2 pointsr/IAmA

Yes. Read 3 books: "The $100 Startup" and "The Hard Thing About Hard Things" and "The Art of the Start." And do what they say.

u/SirGallantLionheart · 2 pointsr/PoliticalDiscussion

Basically this is the game plan lets use his first ad as an example;

  1. Trump shows ad of people going over Moroccan border

  2. Media discovers this and says 'I gotchu, I will finally stump the Trump'

  3. Media plays Trumps ad for free 25,346 times

  4. Trump left enough plausible deniability to say "We'll end up big losers like them. I intentionally used that footage as an example of a darker path"

  5. Congratulations you just stumped yourself

    This Russian vet thing will play out the same except he'll use it as a way to praise Putin perhaps so the Russophile vote goes even more to him as well.

    Pretty much everything he's doing was outlined in The Art of the Deal. That's not to say a lot of the media isn't aware of his game by now. But they mostly care about ratings and the ones who want to stop Trump will take any opportunity to do so even though they always backfire. It really is amazing how Trump is playing them especially when something like a throwaway SNL line to a fairly reasonable comment ruined Palin.

u/folkov · 2 pointsr/AskThe_Donald
u/CaduceusRex · 2 pointsr/violinist

The Inner Game of Music was recommended to me by my director way back when. Great for the mental aspect of things (e.g. nerves, concentration, etc.).

u/LocRas · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

As a professional musician and teacher, I've been (and seen my students) in that situation many, many times and learned the hard way...First of all, you need to really learn about this "nervousness" , since this is perhaps a manifestation of something happening internally (lack of preparation, personality trait, etc.). One of the things that you gotta know is that everyone--in the performing world-- (no exception) experiences nervousness (fear response) at some extent (regardless of what they tell you or you think). Mr. "he looks so relaxed when he plays" learned how to manage his nerves and embrace them as a positive force. I know it sounds esoteric but it's not....Once you accept is gonna happen, you need to define why it's happening. Does this situation mimicks your everyday personality? is it lack of preparation? are the stakes to high (competitions, job audition, etc.)? Are the odds against you? etc., so you can start looking at the real source of the problem and hopefully, finding some answers...Next, find (specifically) how this "nervousness" manifests. Is it physical? (Sweaty hands? dry mouth? shaky arms? stiff neck, etc.) or mental? (voices in your head, inability to stay focused, overreacting at small mistakes?. If it's physical, you might want to ask your doctor if he can prescribe you some propanolol, a beta-blocker used widely by performing artists (I'm not gonna tell you how it works, look it up) please talk to your doctor first (DON'T GET ONE FROM YOU FRIENDS!!), since he can evaluate your health and tell you if it's right for you. I know the musicians community is divided about using beta-blockers but I can tell you from my own experience that it helped me a lot with sweaty hands (I play a string instrument).
The mental aspect is a little bit more difficult to tackle but not impossible. Chances are that you are trying to micro-manage every aspect of your performance (don't mess up that fingering, exaggerate dynamics here, release the tension in your elbow to get a smoother legato) and this stuff gets in the way of artistry. Here is where you have to make a big difference between practicing and performing (two complete different things). Leave that micro-managing stuff for the practice room (but don't do it too much either, it will drive you nuts). Finally, performing is a skill that you need to practice!!! you need to put yourself into "performing mode" often so you can learn how to "embrace your fear". Play for your peers, friends, parents, bf/gf, etc. No one around? use your imagination. I have a colleague that used to put (he probably still does) a lettuce head with a baseball cap and glasses in front of him to simulate an audience. You need to practice performing so you get to understand your own fears and insecurities...
Some books that might help:

A soprano on her head:

The inner game of music:

-Performance success (or anything by Don Greene):

I could write a lot more about this topic, but I have rehearsal; pm if you have more questions.

u/808estate · 2 pointsr/piano

Coincidentally enough, I just ordered a copy of The Inner Game of Music which might help you out too

u/CaringRichBitch · 2 pointsr/TwoXChromosomes

Everyone else here has mentioned great things to talk about body image issues.

I would also add that talking about women who are successful without judging them for their bodies is a huge thing. I'm in the middle of Lean In, and as woman about to complete her masters, I realized that there was so much information about why I felt crappy growing up put into words there. So, talk about women in politics. The four women astronauts in space. Talk about women who are changing the world because she isn't just a pretty face.

Also, studies have shown that just seeing pictures of people of all different types of bodies creates better body image.

u/Comrade_Soomie · 2 pointsr/GradSchool

I have an undergraduate degree in Economics and plan to pursue a PhD in it. Economics has the worst gender disparity. It even surpasses the STEM fields. it has a huge sexism problem that the discipline is grappling with. I remember reading an article by a female economist who talked about a professor at UChicago being quoted as saying to his male economics students that “The day they admit a woman into the economics program at UChicago is the day that I will put in my resignation.” Granted that was the 70s/80s and things have come a long way but there is covert and overt sexism that still lingers. I think it’s helpful to find a female mentor in your field who you can talk to and work with. It can feel increasingly lonely without one because you’re surrounded by males and many of them still express traditional subconscious ideas that women are inferior in STEM. My female professors in my Econ program expressed their experiences as women in quantificar fields. They’ve given lectures and had adult men without PhDs try to mansplain them about their own research. One professor said in grad school her and a male student had the same female advisor. The advisor told the male student that regardless of whether he was married or not he should always wear a ring on his marriage finger into job interviews. She told my professor that regardless of whether she was married or not she should always remove hers for job interviews. The reason is because a married man is seen as stable with a family. He isn’t going to job hop as easily. A married woman on the other hand is seen as a flight risk. She may decide to have children and leave the workforce or not put in as many hours as a man would due to family obligations. Employers don’t consciously decide to discriminate against women. These are biases that happen without us realizing it. But we have to acknowledge that they happen and try to work against them.

I haven’t read this book yet but have had it recommended to me and it’s on my list. I will recommend it to you as well:

Here is the authors ted talk on the subject:

u/zawsze_uczyc · 2 pointsr/askwomenadvice

I'm not sure I can answer your question, but I feel like reading Lean In is a good start to figuring out what approach works for you.

A Goodreads search for books similar to Lean In led to this list, which may also be helpful.

The Imposter Syndrome is real, and has damaging consequences...boosting confidence is one way to move past it, and one thing you can do right now is watch Amy Cuddy's TED talk. It's powerful (and based on a lot of research).

u/crvcio · 2 pointsr/LadiesofScience

I highly recommend reading this book as it talks extensively about this very question thoroughly in a way I cannot

I listened to the audiobook since I'm such a multitasker these days but however you can ingest it, I think it may help to get advise from someone who did the work/raising kids balance (very) successfully. IMO, don't put your career on the backburner since research shows this will help with long term happiness and even marriage success. This goes without saying, but your career is just as important as his

By the way, employers are not allowed to hold it against you for being a mother, this is a form of discrimination you are (legally) protected from (but may still encounter). Look up Family Responsibilities Descrimination

u/Kressious · 2 pointsr/freelance

If you can't tell from the responses, networking (building relationships) is very important.

Being social, helping others, and letting others know specifically what you do and for whom is very beneficial. I've gotten a lot of referrals from my network.

You never know when someone that's a relatively weak tie in your network has an opportunity to refer business to you or send you introductions to others. If you can stay top of mind with those people, then you'll have access to more opportunities.

Here are some books worth reading if you haven't read them before:

u/lazyant · 2 pointsr/kitchener

some random advice:

u/troyfawkes · 2 pointsr/askseddit

Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi and I wish I had started with it. Seduction is soooo much easier to learn when you have tons of people to practice on without having to cold approach 3 nights/week.

Combine this book with some of the advice from the short articles you're reading and you'll be a better gamer than 90% of the guys here - and you'll have friends, fame and fortune to boot.

Oh and if you remember me once you're done, send me a message with how it worked out for you.

u/creatineboss · 2 pointsr/asktrp

although I haven't read it, its on my booklist and its pretty highly recommended

u/likebuttermilk · 2 pointsr/IWantToLearn

Specific to professional events and conferences, this is a pretty decent article:

If you're at events that are specifically for networking like a professional mixer, I would not hesitate to approach people even more liberally. Everyone is there to meet people. They will appreciate you breaking the ice.

In general, you may want to check out Never Eat Alone. Detailed review/summary here.

u/Allan53 · 2 pointsr/EffectiveAltruism

Further to /u/UmamiSalami 's suggestion, you may want to think about reading What Color Is Your Parachute. It does a good job of giving you a guide to how to apply for jobs, even at big firms (although they do recommend going for smaller ones).

On that note: how big is the wage difference at, say, Google/Facebook vs a smaller company, in the same role? A quick Google (heh) said that a software engineer makes ~$100,000 a year there, which is more or less on par for the average? Plus, long-term, even if you start out on say $70 - 80,000 a year, that's still a lot, and it's likely to go up as you gain experience and skills. So within five years, you could easily be pulling down $100,000 if you work hard, even if not at Google.

I wouldn't get too hung up on the big firms, just do as well as you can in your current situation and aim for the job you want, taking 80,000 Hours suggestions as a suggestion.

u/bananajr6000 · 2 pointsr/exmormon

First, relax and take a breath. A job is not a career and doesn't lock you in for life. You may start in one field and later end up doing something completely different.

Second, you may want to look into books like What Color is Your Parachute or similar.

You may also want to look into books about finding a career you are passionate about, although I would caution that passion doesn't always a good career make, and to ignore religious concepts some of these types of books use:

You may also want to consider creating your own career as a consultant or contractor. Although some specialization or mastery/expertise may be necessary to carve out a niche.

Good life to you!

u/joannawoo · 2 pointsr/uwaterloo

I'm an HR professional and have been giving career advice for years. Have you read What Color Is Your Parachute? It might help you figure things out.

You can probably find a copy in the library. :)

u/Saugs · 2 pointsr/findapath

Hi there,

With a sociology degree, you can do more than just be a professor or work in social services. Check out here and here for some ideas. The good news is that a sociology degree is very flexible, and gives you good transferable skills (the ability to do research, synthesize complex ideas, write reports, etc.).

You say you're "average" at everything, but don't forget that there are many different types of strengths out there! For example, look at this list. You're probably really good at some of these things - the key is to recognize both your strengths and weaknesses. You should promote your strengths and work on your weaknesses.

I know I've mentioned it a million times on this sub, but What Color is Your Parachute is really useful - your local library will likely have a copy. Your library should also have a careers section with other useful books.

Best of luck!

u/macjoven · 2 pointsr/Meditation

There are many many great books out there full of exercises for discerning what you might like to do professionally. Probably the most comprehensive is What Color Is Your Parachute by Dick Bolles. One geared to "calling" specifically is Finding Your Element by Ken Robinson. But again there are many out there.

Meditation can be helpful. One of the things meditation does is help you see things more clearly. It helps you take a step back and look at your life without getting caught so much in the emotional drama about who you believe you are and who you believe you should be and who other people believe you should be. This is really helpful when you are deciding how to spend most of your day and taking on a social and economic identity.

You can also just ask yourself "What do I feel I need to do?" and then be quiet and see what comes up.

u/madcity314 · 2 pointsr/jobs

Me too since September. It has been a terrible experience. It is a bit comforting to know that I'm not the only one. I found What color is your parachute? to be a reassuring source. Good luck with the search if you haven't found anything yet.

u/Arzod · 2 pointsr/gaybrosgonemild

There is a book called "What Color is Your Parachute" that is designed to help you find answers to the very questions you're asking.

u/dasblog · 2 pointsr/jobs

Get a piece of paper, write down every job you've had. Beside each job write down the things you hated about that job.

Eg. "I hated working with kids."

This can inform your future job. If you hate working with kids, don't get a job working with kids. (Duh!)

Next write down the things you enjoyed:

Eg. "I enjoyed working on a team."

This will help you to see things you enjoy doing. If you like working on teams, get a job that involves working on teams.

If you've got no idea what you enjoy, it pays to sit down and do this exercise and get it clear in your mind.

Another thing you can do is similar. Write every skills / duties you did in each of your jobs or even in your life.

Eg. "I wrote reports. I analysed statistical data. I repaired my car. etc"

You can then put these duties and skills into order of which you enjoy most to least. The ones you enjoy most can inform what job you apply for. If you really enjoy writing reports - look for jobs where that's listed in the person specification.

There's a book named What Color Is My Parachute which has a number of these exercises with the overall result of a sheet of paper with your preferred job on it. Worth checking out if you have no clue.

u/ST0NETEAR · 2 pointsr/The_Donald

Who am I kidding, Trump could have written his entire campaign strategy in a book and the fucking idiots wouldn't have even read it.

Oh wait, he did

u/Phillypede · 2 pointsr/philadelphia
u/sternvern · 2 pointsr/news

Would also recommend the 48 Laws of Power. There are parallels with the Laws and how Trump operates:

  • LAW 2) Never put too much trust in friends, learn how to use enemies

  • LAW 3) Conceal your intentions

  • LAW 4) Always say less than necessary

  • LAW 6) Court attention at all cost

  • LAW 7) Get others to do the work for you, but always take the credit!

  • LAW 12) Use selective honesty and generosity to disarm your victim

  • LAW 15) Crush your enemy totally!

  • LAW 17) Keep others in suspended terror --- cultivate an air of unpredictability!

  • LAW 27) Play on people's need to believe, to create a cultlike following

  • LAW 28) Enter action with boldness

  • LAW 29) Plan all the way to the end

  • LAW 32) Play to people's fantasies

  • LAW 34) Be royal in your own fashion --- act like a king or queen to be treated like one!

  • LAW 36) Disdain things you cannot have --- ignoring them is the best revenge!

  • LAW 37) Create compelling spectacles

  • LAW 43) Work on the hearts and minds of others!

  • LAW 45) Preach the need for change, but never reform too much at once!

  • LAW 48) Assume formlessness!

u/thesylo · 2 pointsr/jobs

48 Laws of Power may be worth a read. I feel like I handle the office politics better after reading it.

u/z2727 · 2 pointsr/intj
u/double_snap · 2 pointsr/cscareerquestions

No, I mean if you have to apply that means that nobody knows you. The vice president of the division where I work was the first person that I spoke to, not somebody in HR. He put me through directly to the developers and I set up a technical interview. Had I gone through the regular application process with HR though I probably wouldn't have gotten an interview at all.

I got my offer letter and an application at the same time. They just needed to have one on file, but I already had the job.

Some of the best books that I read in college had nothing to do with data structures or Java or Machine Learning.

The 48 Laws of Power

How to Win Friends and Influence People

Purple Cow

Read them.

u/MinervaDreaming · 2 pointsr/booksuggestions

The 48 Laws of Power

I greatly enjoyed the historical anecdotes.

>"Amoral, cunning, ruthless, and instructive, this piercing work distills three thousand years of the history of power in to forty-eight well explicated laws. As attention-grabbing in its design as it is in its content, this bold volume outlines the laws of power in their unvarnished essence, synthesizing the philosophies of Machiavelli, Sun-tzu, Carl von Clausewitz, and other great thinkers.

>Some laws teach the need for prudence ("Law 1: Never Outshine the Master"), the virtue of stealth ("Law 3: Conceal Your Intentions"), and many demand the total absence of mercy ("Law 15: Crush Your Enemy Totally"), but like it or not, all have applications in real life.

>Illustrated through the tactics of Queen Elizabeth I, Henry Kissinger, P. T. Barnum, and other famous figures who have wielded--or been victimized by--power, these laws will fascinate any reader interested in gaining, observing, or defending against ultimate control."

u/pickup_sticks · 2 pointsr/PurplePillDebate

Eh, it goes beyond sexual strategy. You can use it to get better insight into how such imminent people as Bill Gates, Steve Jobs and Barack Obama reached the commanding heights. They all did it differently, but some of the principles they used are universal. They chose to leverage their respective strengths differently.

Not just males either. Oprah Winfrey, Martha Stuart, Madonna - they all use various principles of persuasion to their advantage. The 48 Laws of Power is good exploration of these principles in a historical context.

u/jacksrdtt · 2 pointsr/everymanshouldknow

48 laws of power
By Robert Greene

I wouldn't be where I am today with out it. It teaches you how to deal with power and how it works. It's also an amazingly interesting read. I read it twice a a few years ago and I still flip through it once in a while. It's on sale now at Amazon I believe I bought it for 25$ back then.

u/threeliters · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

It seems to me that you are really looking to change how you are perceived by those around you. The one suggestion I would make is to read the following book. Follow it in everything you do.

u/Buddhamama42 · 2 pointsr/relationships

Do your job. You sound like someone who works hard and who tries hard.

At the risk of sounding cynical, your co-worker sounds completely uninterested in working in a team with you. He also sounds slack and sloppy.

Ignore him and his opinions, just do your job. Send that email, crack the whip and get people working, and if he doesn't like it, tough titties. He obviously feels being popular is more important than doing his job.

I also suggest reading The 48 Laws of Power - its an exercise in cynicism, but for someone in your position, it might be very valuable.

Last but not least, you've already been in a job in which you were well liked and got on with everyone. That tells you that its your current workplace arrangement which is the problem, not you. I've made myself ill doing jobs which stressed me out. I know the job market is tough, but give it another month, or two months or whatever, and if it hasn't improved, start applying for work elsewhere.


Sorry to shout, but you get the idea :)

u/linkfoo · 2 pointsr/TheRedPill

The point of this whole sequence of threads is to discuss The 48 Laws of Power.

u/-voteforPepe- · 2 pointsr/TheRedPill

I'm a (now reformed) felon and I spent most of my criminal days trying to look like I wasn't up to anything. To not arouse suspicion. Most felons/"thugs" have a drug problem and only really attract women who also have a drug problem which carries a lack of commitment with it usually. I think you're misunderstanding some things. A man can (and should) demand respect through his demeanor, by being a "closed book," by making the right choices, by being assertive, etc. One of the 48 Laws of Power is to always obey the law. You cannot be a powerful individual and also a criminal because the rest of society automatically has power over you when you are breaking laws. Based on your posts I think you'd like to read that book, and mighty clarify the difference between a thug (who is alpha in his circle of convicts and trashy women) and a true Alpha Male who commands respect from everyone around him.

u/TenserTensor · 2 pointsr/booksuggestions

I don't much appreciate self-improvement books. I kinda hate the preachy attitude.

That said, I would recommend Mastery. It's not your typical self-help book but I found it really motivating.

Also, this other book by the author seems interesting; though I haven't read it yet.

u/chanyourmind · 2 pointsr/seduction

Robert Greene has a good series of books that probably help you out. Art of seduction / Laws of Power / Mastery. You can always check out the always helpful How to Win Friends and Influence People.

u/Frenchbulldog716 · 2 pointsr/AskWomen

You are Are The One You've Been Waiting For. Made me look at my childhood with different eyes and realize I don't need my husband to "complete" me.

Oh, also Your Money or Your Life.

u/InnocentManWasBenned · 2 pointsr/LegalAdviceUK

Don't let it loom over you.

Unless you're going to blow all the money you inherit, it probably shouldn't change your life plans much.

I'd expect you're going to finish school and maybe go to uni. You've probably always expected to get a job and, in about 10 years time, think about buying a house.

Given the value of the estate, your third is enough to buy a flat or a house, but it's not enough for you to be able to quit working (well, if you do you'll run out of money in 10 or 20 years, at most).

This money gives you a little security and flexibility, but it doesn't fundamentally change your life plans, I don't think. If you leave it invested for the next 40 years, with compounded returns, then it'll probably ensure a comfortable retirement (but you should probably still top it up, anyway, to make sure and to cultivate good financial habits).

I think you should try to be as grown up as possible about managing the probate period - a solicitor, for example, would help you ensure that your uncle and grandfather are fairly assessing the value of his share of the business. For all you know he owns a 50% share of a £10,000,000 business - how do you know they're not fobbing you off with just a fraction of it? My solicitor was a godsend - very helpful and insightful and she filled me with confidence at a very difficult time; I encourage your mum to call her if you haven't yet decided upon one.

Having got that side of things out of the way, just chill about the money and don't let it worry you too much. You can't afford to blow it, so you'll need to stick it somewhere safe and leave it for a long time.

Subscribe to /r/UKPersonalFinance and try to read a post or two there every day - ask questions there about anything you don't understand. Buy a copy of Tim Hale's Smarter Investing and Vicki Robin's Your Money or Your Life. You don't need to read them all at once, but they're pretty easy reading and you can dip in to them from time to time.

I think you should be planning to learn more about finance over the next year or two, so that you know the best way to save (well, invest, really) this money.

u/jazybp · 2 pointsr/personalfinance

Taking on the advice that everyone else here has shared like consolidating credit cards into a 0% one for 12 - 18 months and trying to negotiate a payment plan for your hospital bills is a good idea.

As others have mentioned, you need to have a budget and be able to stick to it. Have you taken the time to go through your last 3 months of bank statements and work out where your money is going? That's the only way to identify areas that you can cut back. I'd categories them as:

  1. Must have: Without these, you really would be in a bad place... (e.g. rent, critical bills, groceries and basic clothes)
  2. Should have: Without these, you lose some key comforts but you can get them elsewhere for free but more effort (e.g. broadband [you could go to a public library], running a car)
  3. Nice to have: Without these, you'll sacrifice a nicer lifestyle (e.g. going out for lunch, nice clothes, new gadgets, gym membership, Spotify subscription)

    Then look really hard at each item in those categories, even the must-have (e.g. are you living in a bigger apartment than you need? Do you shop at a fancy grocery store as opposed to a more affordable one?) to see where you can make cutbacks. The only way to get out of debt is to spend less than you earn, use what remains to clear it.

    There are plenty of tools out there to help you, like Every Dollar and YNAB. Also worth checking out podcasts by the likes of The Minimalists and reading Your Money or Your Life, which offer very practical advice.

    In terms of tackling the debt, you have 2 options:

  • The mathematically smart way: Start paying off as much as you can on the debt with the highest amount of interest
  • The rewarding way: Pay off the smallest debt you have (e.g. your $1,000 credit card), then work on the next smallest, adding on your previous payments so they snowball into bigger ones. This is more rewarding, as you see debt disappear and you feel a sense of progress.

    All the best with your situation. You can do it, your debt is definitely not insurmountable, you just need to be disciplined and make some sacrifices to clear it.
u/Independent · 2 pointsr/Frugal

I don't know why you're getting downvoted. Your question is both interesting and nuanced. It's a disgusting sign of the times that people just assume that if you're not a trust fund brat that the only other option is to be a wage slave. A third option is self employment, working whatever part of the time you personally feel you require to meet your needs.

The career trap can have both benefits and huge drawbacks. Everybody concentrates on the wages and benefits, but having been stuck in a career rut for 30+ years, it's worth pointing out some of the drawbacks.

u/Future_Eater · 2 pointsr/TheRedPill

Just to add a real good resource for figuring out how to live frugally and get the most out of your money, [Your Money or Your Life] ( this book helped me figure out my internal yardstick for happiness, which turned out to be quite minimal, and got me on a budget that allowed me to live a life of simplicity and minimalism. Here's an excerpt.

> Did I receive fulfillment, satisfaction, and value in proportion to life energy spent?

> Answering this question helps you develop an internal yardstick for fulfillment and in the process kick any unhealthy shopping habits. You maky discover that you’ve been measuring your fulfillment, or lack of it, by what those around you have or by what advertising says you should want. Being fulfilled is having just enough. Think about it. Whether it’s food or money or things, if you don’t know, from an internal standard, what is enough, then you will pass directly from “not enough” to “too much,” with “enough” being like a little whistle-stop town. You blink and you’ve missed it. You will rarely have an experience of fulfillment. By diligently working with this question, you will begin to identify, for yourself, an internal yardstick that you can use to measure how much is enough

> The primary tool for developing this internal yardstick is awareness. The affluence that surrounds us has been called the American Dream and with good reason: we’ve been asleep. We wake up by questioning the dream. Asking yourself, month in, month out, whether you actually got fulfillment in proportion to life energy spent in each subcategory awakens that natural sense of knowing when enough is enough.

u/splorf · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

has anyone here read your money or your life?

i haven't read it, but i understand that it teaches you to save and invest until your investments pay for your bills/lifestyle. apparently some people take it to the extreme and use the book's model to retire in a few years.

would love to hear anyone's experience with this book. i guess i should read it, too.

u/intirb · 2 pointsr/TwoXChromosomes

I'd recommend reading the book Your Money Or Your Life, if a copy is available at your local library. I think it does a good job of helping you to change the way you think about spending and money and to reorient yourself towards longer-term financial stability.

u/elpoco · 2 pointsr/AdviceAnimals

Not a bad read, if a little clunkier to read than the first edition.

u/USCEngineer · 2 pointsr/personalfinance

Do yourself a favor and read your money or your life

u/vorak · 2 pointsr/Frugal

For me, the short answer is I spend less money.

The long answer, though, has to do with the YNAB method, reading some key financial books and ultimately changing the way I view money. Earlier this year my soon-to-be father-in-law gifted me The Millionaire Next Door. Then I read Your Money or Your Life. Those two books, combined with being so exhausted from living paycheck to paycheck, got me started down the path of actually really caring how I handled my money.

I had been using a basic spreadsheet to track income and expense but after finding YNAB, via Reddit of course, things just started to change. I stopped buying stupid shit I didn't need. I eliminated impulse buying. I stopped buying coffee and going out to eat a few times a week. Those little things add up. I saved for things I wanted instead of putting them on credit and paying for them later.

It sounds like you've got a lot of that under control already though. Like /u/ASK_IF_IM_PENGUIN said, it's the method. The four rules. You can absolutely incorporate those four rules into your existing spreadsheet and not pay a dime for the software. But the software they've developed is so goddamn good it just makes doing it myself so unappealing.

The other thing that helps is their support system. There is so much content available on YouTube. The podcast is awesome. You can even take their online courses for free.

Give the trial a go. You can use it fully featured for 34 days I think. There's a good chance it'll drop to $15 whenever the steam sale happens in a week or two. Pick it up then if you like it. If not, no harm!

u/SpicedApple · 2 pointsr/personalfinance

> I want a nice car - think BMW or Corvette.

Read this and this.

Cars aren't indicators of success. They are oftentimes indicators of poverty or middle class wealth bleeds. You need an emergency fund, need to max out your 401(k) / IRA, and be responsible. Don't throw good money after bad because you're emotional right now.

u/sub_zero23 · 2 pointsr/personalfinance

that's exactly what we are thinking of doing, just not to Maine. We really love the outdoors so california is great, but it's $300k for a decent house way out in the desert now.

if we want to live in a decent area, it's $500-700k for a 40 year old home. With that much money, we could live somewhere nice, pay off our home early and then invest the rest. that's why we are thinking of moving somewhere like Galveston Texas. It's a beach city, lots to do, close to Houston to get our city fix, and the COL is pretty low.

I righly recommend the book 'Your money or your life' by Vicki Robin. It talks exactly about what you are referring to and has examples of people doing that.

seriously, buy it now, it's great

u/sylvan · 2 pointsr/ZenHabits

See books like Your Money or Your Life.

The story he references at the beginning gives examples of what you can do with that money. Invest in your own business(es), real estate, or a portfolio.

By choosing to live frugally, you can build up assets that generate income, until your comfortable living expenses are lower than your investments generate. At that point, you're financially independent, and can just keep investing a growing portion of the returns back into more investments.

u/jburkert · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

I'm gonna throw some book titles at you.

u/Rhameolution · 2 pointsr/personalfinance

> Not all of job satisfaction is from pay, the way I see it.

I completely agree with this. I try to recommend Your Money Or Your Life to as many people as I can.
Edit: formatting

u/ludwigvonmises · 2 pointsr/financialindependence

Depends on your interests. I would consider these important for any human, though:

u/used-books · 2 pointsr/personalfinance

So you already know that your household spending is out of control, it should not be hard to live within your means at 15K per month. It's great that you are already using YNAB, so you know exactly where you stand. It would be a totally reasonable goal to pay off the credit card debt by the end of the year. As a high income houshold you are in a very good position to start planning for financial independence. This book is a classic:
Your Money or Your Life

It sounds like your family could benefit from financial relationship consuling. I just googled it, it is a real thing and it sounds like exactly what your family needs to turn things around.

Sometime when you are in a hotel room with time to kill, read this blog:
Mr. Money Mustasche
Read the whole thing. He is hilarious, very little fluff in the articles. It will change the way you think about money.

I'll offer a reality check for food budget. I am also in the NE US, and spend about $400 a month on groceries for a family of 4. Resturants sub $20. Eating largely local and organic (can't afford OG dairy all the time).
The three keys to how we do this:

  1. Buy grass fed meat in bulk from a local farmer once a year. A $200 chest freezer was one of the best purchases we have ever made.
  2. Join a CSA for vegetables. Ours is $25 a week for more organic, local veggies than we can handle. It runs in winter too. There is also a fruit option. At the very least, you can eat more seasonally , and stop paying $5 for a tiny container of berries.
  3. Cut out all processed and packaged food.

    Good luck!
u/Trichonowhat · 2 pointsr/YouShouldKnow

See, the thing is, repeating what I say doesn't do anything. Learning to argue will make you a much more interesting person. I strongly suggest Thank You for Arguing and This gem of a book.

The latter requires a good deal of reading comprehension to truly gain anything from it, so good luck.

u/SicKilla · 2 pointsr/atheism

Thank You For Arguing is a good rounded book on rhetoric. I like the modern practical examples used throughout this book. Books on logic and rhetoric are notorious for being dry and boring, but this one is actually enjoyable and I've read it several times. For an introduction/intermediate book on rhetoric that hits all the basics then throws in some more advanced tricks and is fun to read... a solid 4.5 stars.

u/wiltscores · 2 pointsr/books

Weston's A Rulebook for Arguments is clear and concise.

Heinrichs' Thank You for Arguing is more informal with lots of pop culture references.

Sagan's Demon Haunted World is a paean to science & critical thinking and Whyte's Crimes Against Logic is good as well

u/attorneyriffic · 2 pointsr/The_Donald
u/MASTER_OF_MOISTURE · 2 pointsr/deadbydaylight

i've been studying his bible for a LONG time, i'll link this sacred text here, it was written by one of ace's apostles, Donald

u/Bobrossfan · 2 pointsr/politics
u/dragonfox · 2 pointsr/socialwork

I have a bad habit of reading multiple books at once, so I'm currently on Women Behind Bars: The Crisis of Women in the US Prison System, Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center, and one day I'll finish Rules for Radicals. Women Behind Bars is a really great, easy read that has a lot of good information in it. The other two are a bit slower, but still good and I recommend them all.

Other than these books, I read a lot about previously I've read Don't Shoot the Dog and On Talking Terms with Dogs: Calming Signals. If anyone is interested in positive reinforcement, Don't Shoot the Dog is really applicable to every situation - you can apply it to dogs, clients, spouses, children, any relationship really. I thought it was a good read as a social worker and dog...understander.... :)

u/Lupercalia · 2 pointsr/dogs

Don't Shoot the Dog, while not specifically about dog training is a pretty good start to learning about shaping behavior. The lady who gave me my copy of the book trains tigers and other large cats.

u/BatSquirrel · 2 pointsr/AcademicPsychology

Maybe not what you are looking for, but a great primer, that goes into pretty good detail with numerous examples is Don't Shoot the Dog It covers a lot of conditioning techniques and is as accurate in its descriptions as any textbook I have used. I know it covers the basics, differential reinforcement and I THINK counter conditioning.

One thing to keep in mind with behavioral psych, semantics are very important when you describe any contingency. So you may want to think of Extinction as passively reducing a behavior by ending the reinforcement of behavior. Counter conditioning is more in line with Differential Reinforcement of an Incomparable (or Other) behavior. So in the case of something like a panicking fear response, you would instead reward opposite behaviors like calmly sitting. This is often done gradually.

u/khafra · 2 pointsr/Parenting

What do you think of legally requiring all parents to read Don't Shoot The Dog before they're allowed to read popularized articles about neuroscience?

> There are eight methods of getting rid of a behavior. Only eight. The eight methods are:

> Method 1 "Shoot the animal." (This definitely works. You will never have to deal with that particular behavior in that particular subject again.)

> Method 2: Punishment. (Everybody's favorite, in spite of the fact that it almost never really works.)

> Method 3: Negative reinforcement.

> Method 4: Extinction; letting the behavior go away by itself.

> Method 5: Train an incompatible behavior. (This method is especially useful for athletes and pet owners.)

> Method 6: Put the behavior on cue. (Then you never give the cue. This is the porpoise trainer's most elegant method of getting rid of unwanted behavior.)

> Method 7: "Shape the absence;" reinforce anything and everything that is not the undesired behavior. (A kindly way to turn disagreeable relatives into agreeable relatives.)

> Method 8: Change the motivation. (This is the fundamental and most kindly method of all.)

u/Mule2go · 2 pointsr/todayilearned

If you love your kids, you will go buy Don't Shoot the Dog by Karen Pryor right now. here it is on Amazon

u/cradled · 2 pointsr/Nightshift

Absolutely it can be. When a dog hates its crate and is biting to get out, yeah. But when it goes in there whenever it is tired or scared or bored, it is home. I had a wolf hybrid that woild hate to have the door closed to the point it bent the bars, but if I left the door open and told him to go inside he wouldn't budge until I came back, even if my roommates would try and play with him. Crate training is a good thing, in my opinion, and dogs have that instinctual need to have a den, otherwise they run the house and their owner.

There is a great book, "Don't shoot the dog!" That I used a lot of information from when training my dogs. Maybe look it up and get some advice?

Link to book:

u/R1150gsguy · 2 pointsr/aww

At it's most basic , If you do not have the ability to recall your dog ( your request has to be honored without thought. They need to look to you for direction as their default action) then should not be off leash in a situation where they could harm or be harmed)

Do you think that if a squirrel ran across the yard and then went into the street , these dogs would pay any attention to their handlers?

Do you think that if this play escalated to the point that one dog was uncomfortable with the others actions , either one could be recalled ?

By letting this type of behavior continue you are condoning it, enforcing it , and letting you dog know this is the way to meet others. They cannot distinguish this meeting from say Grandma's 90th birthday party and will act the same way , whether socially acceptable or not.
Then the dog gets blamed and maybe retuned to a shelter.

If you are looking for sound training advice ,I highly suggest Karen Pryor ..

u/huffpost · 2 pointsr/IAmA

Boy, if you could teach parents and kids basic things about the function of emotions (communicate to self and others, motivate behavior), and reinforcement and validation principles - that would be huge.
Check out DBT in Schools for ideas. Also, Don't Shoot the Dog for reinforcement principles.



u/sduncan91 · 2 pointsr/Dogtraining

> every now and then she has some dominance trip

Something I would strongly recommend before you address the problems your dog is having is to research the concept of "dominance" in dogs and the role it plays in their behaviour. The idea that common misbehaviour among dogs arises as a result of their desire to be "dominant" over you has been widely discredited by modern behavioural science and research into dog psychology. Here are some links to get you started:

For further information, these books are excellent:
Don't Shoot The Dog by Karen Pryor

Culture Clash by Jean Donaldson

It is unlikely to be a dominance issue with your dog. As for your problems, it is hard to say exactly what is happening without watching your dog's interactions. You say when she bites at the other dog's neck when she is running/playing with them as a way of "correcting" their behaviour. Are you sure this isn't simply an instance of overenthusiastic mouthing as a result of excitement/lack of boundaries? For example, if you watch this video from the 11:20 mark, you will see the dog exhibiting biting/mouthing behaviour as a result of excitement:

The trainer uses vocal interruption and the removal of stimulus (stopping play) to indicate to the dog that mouthing/biting is not acceptable behaviour for play. Perhaps you could apply similar methods to your dog by using a long leash and controlling her play with other dogs, interrupting play when poor behaviour is demonstrated. But as I said, I can't tell exactly how your dog is acting, and would strongly recommend getting in touch with a local positive-method trainer if she is exhibiting signs of unchecked aggression.

As to her guarding you, this is again unlikely a "dominance" issue. Her desire to protect you more likely stems from feelings of fear/insecurity, and could be addressed in the same way that food or toy resource guarding would be addressed. You need to guide your dog into realising that other dog pose no threat to you or her and she does not have to exhibit aggressiveness. You can do this through desensitisation and counterconditioning. Information on these methods can be found in the sidebar and in the training books I linked to above.

u/accioveritaserum · 2 pointsr/reactiongifs
u/Kaze79 · 2 pointsr/Brawlhalla

Being nervous is fine, nerves impeding performance is not. If you want to read about this topic and address the problems in-depth, these two books are best-sellers in their respective fields and the methods apply to everything:

u/EtDM · 2 pointsr/billiards

I second this, especially if you find you're rushing your later shots.

Stand up, chalk up, and take a trip around the table. Look at the way everything's laid out, and give yourself a chance to relax before you shoot. Unless you're taking a really long time between each shot, nobody should give you any grief.

If you're looking for some great reads about this, check out Zen in the Art of Archery and The Inner Game of Tennis. I've also heard good things about the Pleasures of Small Motions, but I've yet to read it myself.

u/skeevjobs · 2 pointsr/rollerderby

Read “the Inner Game of Tennis” to turn off the over-analytical part of your brain and just keep skating. :) The more you skate, the better you get, which means less penalties. Reading that book for me was a great help in getting me out of my own way. I’m also a big believer in one jam at a time. If something happened in a previous jam, let it go and focus on the next one. Mistakes are good to help us see how to improve - we shouldn’t beat ourselves up over them!

u/Pathetic_One · 2 pointsr/tf2

There's probably no substitute for just grinding and grinding tr_walkway until the spots dance in front of your eyes. Probably you should make it easy at first - level the surface and just shoot damaged Engineers running straight ahead at standard speed, maybe - until you can hit with some consistency from various angles, then begin to increase the difficulty. Unfortunately you can't make Walkway bots evade truly realistically, but it should be a while before that becomes a progress-blocker. In the case of the GL, try predamaging the bots so they will die from one direct pill to encourage careful aim - 'one shot, one kill'. I also find it helps to take your hand off the keyboard completely and just aim and shoot with the mouse while standing still. Finally, "trust your feelings, Luke". You do need to notice and make a change if you find yourself consistently making a particular error when aiming, but in the end of the day, the part of your brain that puts things into words and tells you how rubbish you are isn't the part of your brain that actually knows, and can learn, how to shoot deflection. You need to let Yappy Brain go quiet and just watch and shoot, watch and shoot.

(One other way to get fairly concentrated aiming practice without a human training partner is to go 1v1 against a tf_bot in itemtest. Use nav_generate to make bots mostly-work there, though their behaviour will still be glitchy. Lock the bot to one class, turn off respawn time, and if you're dying too much give yourself extra health using hurtme.)

Switching to something like crosshair5 might help, even for ballistic weapons like the GL and needlegun, if you haven't done that already.

DISCLAIMER: I am not a good player, but I became perceptibly less useless with the GL thanks to Walkway, and I'm looking forward to grinding Walkway some more.

u/ShamwowTseDung · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

You have the power of intense focus, and think of it as a curse.


>It seems like if I ever break concentration on a task, I find it incredibly hard to return to what I was doing

Funny, I'm reading a book relating to this. "The Inner Game of Tennis". It's about calming your mind to be able to remain focused. Strangely, the body will act in a correct manner without the assistance of your thoughts. Thinking does not help you improve your situation, when it is time to act. Just do.

In relation to that quote, I'd say the book would advise that because you started thinking after breaking concentration, you lost focus and by continuing in your thoughts- were unable to return to that state.

Like others may have said, you probably just need practice. I have a friend just like you...I also do this from time to time. Learn to prioritize what's important (test) and what's not (fingernails), then focus on the important things.

I've read an article suggesting every hour you stop and think about what you've done in the past hour, analyzing whether you've made progress in your situation or not. Sounds hard to do, but just remind yourself to keep tabs on yourself as soon as possible whenever you get lost in the moment...unless you're doing what you're supposed to...keep the action flowing in those moments.

u/DoctorKynes · 2 pointsr/OverwatchUniversity

If you haven't read it, The Inner Game of Tennis by W. Timothy Gallwey is an excellent and easy read that goes into this exact concept. It's principals are applicable to any situation -- tennis, golf, Overwatch, relationships, or whatever.

I highly, highly recommend it.

u/Sassinak · 2 pointsr/IWantToLearn

Someone wrote a book for you. It's not specific to just tennis -- its principles are applicable to all sorts of athletics and sports.

u/CmonTim · 2 pointsr/tennis

I've heard good things about this book:

It's 40 years old but the mental game hasn't really changed in that time.

u/soapCLEANS · 2 pointsr/howtonotgiveafuck

I recommend reading The Inner Game of Tennis.

It helped me a lot!!

u/ashkon91 · 2 pointsr/SSBM

Please read the Inner game of Tennis. It will help you with everything you talk about struggling with. It's an amzing read that has been recommended by a ton of good smashers.

u/Muse123456 · 2 pointsr/tennis

If you're having problems with your swing, trying constantly keeping your eyes on the ball. And then observe your body. Where is your shoulder when you wind up to swing? Where are your feet? When do you swing? You don't need to correct it. Your body will naturally correct itself.

Read The Inner Game of Tennis by Tim Gallway. It's a short read and it will help you bring your game to the next level.

Edit: link for the lazy

u/aceh40 · 2 pointsr/10s

Not sure if this will help short term... Being mentally strong is a skill, and you can gradually learn it, just like you can learn to hit a serve.

Subscribe to the Essential Tennis podcast and listen to their old podcasts on the mental side of the game. They are not available on the website, but if you use a podcast app, you will find them. The casts are really good and will give you a very clear idea what you are battling with.

Also, there is a vast number of blogs, articles, books on the mental side of tennis. Here are three of them:

u/LiquidAlb · 2 pointsr/CrazyHand

They're not about Smash but they will help improve your mentality for competitive Smash.

List below:


Playing To Win: Becoming the Champion

by David Sirlin


This is a book on how competition in gaming works and having a "play to win" mentality. This means taking responsibility and accountability for everything you do and not putting excuses that only hold you back. Very helpful for your mindset. You can find a free audio version that covers most of the book here:


The Will to Keep Winning



Written by one of the world's best Street Fighter players, Daigo, this book talks a lot about consistent growth, the benefits of staying humble, innovating, taking risks, and how to play with the mentality of learning and growing rather than focusing on just the win. Despite having the word 'Winning" right in the title, the book teaches the value of focusing less on the results and more on the process.


The Inner Game of Tennis

by W. Timothy Gallwey et al.


Don’t be deterred by the title. Yes, this is a book on tennis, but it has been highly recommended by many good Smashers and It helped me out immensely. It talks about the inner workings of your mind and how to get the best out of competitive performance and practice. You can listen to a summary of the book for free here:


The Way of the Bow

by Paulo Coelho


I haven't read this one yet. i'll be honest. But I've heard many trustworthy Smashers recommend it. It is said to be about "how to overcome difficulties, steadfastness, courage to take risky decisions."

u/TsaristMustache · 2 pointsr/suggestmeabook

I’ll assume you read Holidays Daily Stoic
If not, i would suggest that. If you have read it, try reading the actual Stoic philosophers. Maybe Seneca specifically.

u/a_dev_has_no_name · 2 pointsr/IWantToLearn

" I want to stop showing my emotions to others. "
That's not what being a stoic is about. ( as others have suggested )


"The Daily Stoic" is my current favorite book of lessons to be learned from the stoics and it's super easy to read.

u/cleanthes_conscious · 2 pointsr/marriedredpill

>is this a book or an email gig?

It's a book

u/VirgoStarcluster · 2 pointsr/NoFap

It's a book with quotes from Stoic philosophers and commentary, in the form of a daily devotional. It's excellent material for addicts.

The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living

u/caversluis · 2 pointsr/Stoicism

I am currently reading the book below ...

The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living

I can highly recommend it.

u/CodeNewfie · 2 pointsr/malementalhealth

I'll also suggest books on Stoicism and Philosophy. However, before you jump right into the ancient/classical wisdom I'd recommend a modern introduction to introduce and help digest the principles.

A Guide to the Good Life: The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy by William Irvine.

Then - Move onto Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, and the rest. A great way to embrace stoic ideas daily is The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday

Also, strong recommendations for:

u/suckmywakelol · 2 pointsr/howtonotgiveafuck

I'm currently going through this book which features both of them. Check it out if you haven't already.

u/Meloman0001 · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

If I could give my 17 year old self advice about college, I would say read these books:

Book 1
Book 2

Key to college is knowing what you want to take (not what your parents tell you you should major in) and working smart (i.e. avoid cramming, unnecessary hard-work)

u/m2n037 · 2 pointsr/EngineeringStudents

Read this book

u/LLR · 2 pointsr/chemistry

Get this book and follow it's advice seriously, as it helps you work more efficiently:

Do research every summer.

Don't be afraid to change your major.

Take only GER classes freshman year. Most people change their major and have wasted credits. Some chemistry classes may give GER credits, if so take those your freshman year! You will know for sure whether you will stay a chemistry major or not, after your first year of summer research.

Get some exercise.

Don't get complacent, and go "oh I have plenty of time I'll do this later". It's okay to do that, but write down all your assignments and start them so you know how much work you ACTUALLY have to do.

Take full advantage of office hours.

Make sure you have the number of at least one person in every class. It always comes in handy.

u/sam923 · 2 pointsr/collegeinfogeek

What subject? What type of information? Are you talking about using your time and blocking distractions or just how to learn/review material?

If it's math/procedural/engineering material, do problems. Sit down with a blank problem and see if you can do it without looking at your notes. Or go over your homework problems and do them from scratch. The only way you'll know the material is by practicing.

If the material is a lot of memorization, MAKE FLASHCARDS. Use Anki or some other software to make them and study them from scratch. Look up something called 'active recall.' It's the idea of pulling information from your brain from scratch, not just by recognizing the answer in a multiple-choice list of answers.

For time scheduling/blocking distraction or procrastination, go buy Cold Turkey (only $20, will be the best $20 you ever spend) and block off any websites that might keep you from staying focused on studying. (I should be blocking Reddit right, lol) Put all your deadlines into your calendar so you can see what's coming up and which things to prioritize. Personally I use Wunderlist (smart due dates and week view features) and Zapier to copy to my Google Calendar so I can see my deadlines on my calendar too.

Also, choose a good location. Go to the quietest corner of the library and hunker down. It's the best way to focus. You'll never stay focused when you're around other people who are talking all the time.

Hope this helps! These are what have helped me. They're pretty basic, but super powerful. You don't need fancy apps, you just need to manage distraction and procrastination and be organized about when your deadlines are.

I would also highly recommend Cal Newport's book on studying. I got a lot of good ideas from that book.

u/chthonicutie · 2 pointsr/SJSU

I don't study "hard," I study smart. Get organized and focused, and studying will be a breeze. By using my calendar (on Google) and sticking to my schedule of practice and studying, I have gotten straight As while making time for friends, family, relationships, and personal time. I study about an hour to two hours every day, with about 5-15 other hours through the week for practice. I'm taking 16 units.

Here is a short book with a lot of excellent advice for succeeding academically. I was already a good student when I read it, but it helped me immensely.

u/TiNeSiFeTeNiSeFi · 2 pointsr/INTP

How to Become a Straight-A Student is a great probably the best resource for learning how to study efficiently.

One of the author's key insights is to put an emphasis on studying for real understanding. Here's a blog post by the author about it. It almost feels like this method of studying is tailor-made for INTPs due to our strong Ti being all about proper understanding of concepts. If you do it right you can end up spending less time studying than your peers and getting better grades.

If you experience a similar level of painstaking boredom with other tasks you feel you should do but don't want to do--and if you more often than not don't do them due to this boredom--you might want to do some research in to ADHD. It's one of the key symptoms.

u/andreeeeee- · 2 pointsr/GetStudying

> A little bit of discipline will go a long way. Focus for 1 hour a day. Just 1 single hour a day. Your ability to focus is a mental muscle. It gets stronger the more you practice.

I agree. Specially in your case, OP. You need a smooth start, establishing realistic studying goals until you make it a habit to study for longer hours.

Besides that, I'd recommend you to read this book:

> I have no faith that I can study at high levels, especially that I'm planing to start studying to become an engineer

Don't think like this. I know that it might sound cliché, but you need to believe in yourself. This type of mindset is crucial:

Try creating an study habit and, along the way, look for study techniques that will help you with your struggle. Searching for topics about "spaced repetition" and "active recall" in this subreddit is a good start.

Good luck!

u/baez0r · 2 pointsr/collegeinfogeek

These are my advices that helped me to replace bad habits (Also I read the book)

1. Solve one habit at time. Don't try to resolver everything in a day. Start small but start.

2. Schedule everything. Example:
5:00 am - Wake up, glass of water, put my running shoes.
5:05 am - Running
5:40 am - Take shower
5:50 am - etc
. Schedule Its going to help you to visualize all your day.

I can recommend you this book: How to become a straight A student..

Don't be hard with yourself. Eliminate a bad habit is hard work, but it's possible.

u/beingisdoing · 2 pointsr/findapath

Your brother probably has your best interest in mind. To me, it sounds like you are a bit dependent on him. I might be wrong.

Anyway, here's what you can do:

  • Move in with your parents in AZ

  • Enroll in community college

  • Get a part-time job that won't interfere with school

  • Get straight fucking As. Do not fuck around. You can have fun and get perfect grades. It is completely doable. I did it despite being a shit high school student. Start with a two classes your first term, and then add a third class your next term. Go full time as soon as you are ready. Focus on getting those perfect scores on everything you do. I recommend you read this book.

  • Get fit and healthy.

  • In 2 years, which will go by quickly if you are locked in and focus, you can transfer to your choice of college in Washington -- U of W, Whitman, Gonzaga, whatever. If your grades are high enough, you might get your pick and maybe some money thrown your way. All it takes is discipline and patience.

  • Once you're in Washington, don't slack off because if you fail out, your ass will be back living with your parents in AZ. Kick ass in college and you can get a job in Washington and stay there permanently if you'd like. All it takes is discipline and consistency. You will have to transform yourself.
u/FTFYcent · 2 pointsr/college

Get off reddit. Read books. My suggestion: How to Become a Straight-A Student by Cal Newport. Grab a copy from your library (or buy it--it's only $10) and read it, in addition to helping with your attention span it'll give you good guidance on maintaining a top GPA when you start school. Start things off on a good note, you don't want to have any regrets later.

u/nickkoch · 2 pointsr/selfimprovement

Just by making this post you have already taken the first step. I wish I could have recognized everything you posted at your age. I was pretty much the same, playing halo 3 and cod 4 and never really studying for tests. I got a decent grade on my SAT and got into an okay state school. But if I had the habits I have now when I was a sophomore I honestly could have gotten into an ivy or a top tier school. It's no use looking to the past in regret, because if I didn't do so poorly early on, I might have never decided to change my life for the better.

So you have this desire to improve yourself but you have to make this a burning desire. You have to really, really want to be the best version of yourself. Otherwise you will dabble in changing your life for a week but end up going back to your old habits. Close your eyes and visualize yourself being ranked in the top ten of your class academically. Visualize your self getting into an ivy, reading the classics, and becoming a great programmer. Really feel how good this things will be. See your parents proud of you and your friends awestruck. It's important to do this as it makes you release those feel good endorphin's. These endorphin's will override your feelings of apathy and laziness.

So now moving on to practical things in no specific order:

  • Watch these series of lectures: harvard positive psychology

  • Get a journal and write down your specific goals. BY HAND. Don't type this up.

  • Read up on mindfulness

  • Workout

  • Sleep 9 hours a night. Don't be up playing video games all night, don't use your tv, laptop, or cell phone 2 hours before bed. Take this time to read. When you regularly sleep 9 hours a night your mind becomes clear and your body fresh.

  • For video games, limit the time you spend on them to no more than an hour a day. If it doesn't work then try cutting them out completely. It is often easier to remove a negative habit than attempt to moderate it. When you get the urge to play them do another pleasurable activity. Workout, talk to girls, read a book.. etc

    *I read this article: read to lead and have devoured books ever since. I usually read a 2:1 nonfiction to fiction ratio. Start with harry potter and work your way up lol.

  • School wise nothing helped more than cal new ports book

  • A lot of the things in the book may seem really obvious to a person who already has good habits. But I wasn't one of those guys. Once I applied his organizational strategies, my GPA went from a 2.9 to a 3.7 a semester later.

  • For programming head over to r/learnprogramming and they'll help you out. It's important not to get paralyzed with all the information. Don't get caught up with all the different options. Just pick a language (i'd go python) and start learning it.

    Keep in mind that all the resources are out there waiting for you to use them. This is actually the easy part. The knowledge has always been out there. Applying this knowledge daily is what will change your life. View your mind as a muscle and every time you don't play videogames, you are strengthening it. Every time you finish and entire book you are strengthening it.
u/kaizer_pi · 2 pointsr/Advice

Highly recommend [](How to Become a Straight-A Student: The Unconventional Strategies Real College Students Use to Score High While Studying Less

u/ewiggle · 2 pointsr/getdisciplined

I don't really think this is the right sub for this but I'm glad you asked lol.

Here are some resources which can probably help you out in understanding the math. The first one on the list is my favorite.

  • [Reading] Resource that explains things in plain/old English: Calculus Made Easy by Silvanus P. Thompson - 2nd edition 1914 - free full text on project gutenberg

    > Prologue

    > Considering how many fools can calculate, it is surprising that it should be thought either a difficult or a tedious task for any other fool to learn how to master the same tricks.

    > Some calculus-tricks are quite easy. Some are enormously difficult. The fools who write the textbooks of advanced mathematics—and they are mostly clever fools—seldom take the trouble to show you how easy the easy calculations are. On the contrary, they seem to desire to impress you with their tremendous cleverness by going about it in the most difficult way.

    > Being myself a remarkably stupid fellow, I have had to unteach myself the difficulties, and now beg to present to my fellow fools the parts that are not hard. Master these thoroughly, and the rest will follow. What one fool can do, another can.

    > Chapter 1

    > The preliminary terror, which chokes off most fifth-form boys from even attempting to learn how to calculate, can be abolished once for all by simply stating what is the meaning—in common-sense terms—of the two principal symbols that are used in calculating.

    > These dreadful symbols are:

    > (1) d which merely means “a little bit of.”

    > Thus dx means a little bit of x; or du means a little bit of u. Ordinary mathematicians think it more polite to say “an element of,” instead of “a little bit of.” Just as you please. But you will find that these little bits (or elements) may be considered to be indefinitely small.

    > (2) [Integral symbol] which is merely a long S, and may be called (if you like) “the
    sum of.”

    > Thus [Integral symbol]dx means the sum of all the little bits of x; or [Integral symbol]dt means the sum of all the little bits of t. Ordinary mathematicians call this symbol “the integral of.” Now any fool can see that if x is considered as made up of a lot of little bits, each of which is called dx, if you add them all up together you get the sum of all the dx’s, (which is the same thing as the whole of x). The word “integral” simply means “the whole.” If you think of the duration of time for one hour, you may (if you like) think of it as cut up into 3600 little bits called seconds. The whole of the 3600 little bits added up together make one hour. When you see an expression that begins with this terrifying symbol, you will henceforth know that it is put there merely to give you instructions that you are now to perform the operation (if you can) of totalling up all the little bits that are indicated by the symbols that follow.

    > That’s all.

  • [Reading] This site called "betterexplained" also provides explinations for math concepts in a way that's easier to understand. I haven't used this so I can't really vouch for it like the others but I do have it bookmarked:
  • [Watching] This resource explains how to do all the math, here's the direct link to the differential calculus part:
  • [Watching] Additional, but less popular/funded, resource that explains how to do all the math:

    Here's some information which might help you practice the math better, after you understand it

  • [Reading: short] This is a Guest post by Scott Young on Cal Newports page on practicing math.

  • [Watching: short] But the real juice of the idea is "the feynman technique". The idea isn't new but Scott does an excellent job in explaining it. It's linked in the article but I'll link it here too:

  • [Reading: short] Here's Cal Newports experience with acing his math class:

  • [Reading: medium] Also, you might find benefit in Chapter 2 of Cal Newports book called How to become a straight A student

    edit: formatting and stuff. Also, for the record, it took me FOREVER to finally find a book (the first one on this list) which explained things in plain english. It's just hilarious that the thing (er, the 1st edition) was written back in 1910.
u/Krypto_74 · 2 pointsr/ADHD

As I mentioned before: pills aren't skills. You still have to put it the work even when you don't feel like it. THIS IS KEY. You won't always feel like following through. But the difference between failing and passing is putting in the work.

Here are a couple guides that I heartedly recommend: A Mind for Numbers by Barbara Oakley. This book will give you the basis for effective learning, and not just for science or math students.

How to Become a Straight A Student by Cal Newport This book defines the genre of what an effective student guide really is. Study tips abound, but the real lesson here is about effective time management and scheduling.

u/quix117 · 2 pointsr/self

first of all, you are more than capable of doing well. if you plan well and work hard in a college environment, you will find success.

buy and read this book. take it seriously. it has some great advice.

go to class. no excuses. you will end up spending exponentially more time covering the material on your own than if you just went to class.

about the phone thing: i have trouble with it, too. you need to stay out of your room as much as possible and study in a public place, preferably a place where other students are studying (like a library). i can't stress this enough. every time you go into your room, you're going to end up wasting at least a half an hour on the internet (like i'm doing right now).

if at all possible, don't bring your phone or laptop or any internet-capable device with you to class or to the library. you can't get distracted by the internet if you don't have access to it. i'm twice as productive when i don't have my laptop with me. if you can afford it, buy hard copies of your textbooks.

u/YoYouMadMadmike · 2 pointsr/iastate

Definitely doable. I would recommend this book by Cal Newport to help you through college career. It helped me substantially.

College is all about how you manage your time. I personally know a guy that got a 4.0 in High School and got a 35 on his ACT's and flunked out of college because he spent all of his time partying and playing video games. I also know a guy where I'm constantly thinking "how is this guy an engineer?"

I personally flunked out of Engineering my first semester, but it's 100% because I didn't try and I focused on beating GTA V when it came out instead of focusing on my classes. I transferred from a community college where I thought all the classes would be like that and boy was I wrong. And while I'm not in engineering anymore, I'm 100% certain that I could do engineering now and this is coming from a guy that graduated high school with a 2.53 GPA and a 26 ACT. There are tons of resources like tutoring, SI, and recitations that help you understand the concept and develop into a better student.

I hope you make the right choice and come to Iowa State. And if you want a job as a bus driver in the future, hit me up!

u/numbverguba · 2 pointsr/getdisciplined

This Reddit post and this book helped me tremendously. Of course, this would be for future semesters in your case.

I recommend you speak with your professors as soon as possible, and tell them about what's going on. The worst that can happen is they'll tell you that you can't make up assignments, which is already going to happen even if you don't talk with them. If you get lucky, some may give you a little leeway. Take this chance to get some work done to the best of your ability by applying some of the steps discussed in the post I linked.

If nothing can be done with assignments, just do your best to finish off strong with finals. Even if you fail, you can use this as a learning opportunity if you retake the classes, so you know what to expect the next time those exams come around.

If shit hits the fan and things don't go well, it's just a semester. The important thing here is not to beat yourself up, and do research on how you can be a better, more disciplined student in the remainder of your schooling. If you're anything like me, this will take a lot of work.

Also, does your school offer counseling/therapy? I know some do, and it's typically included in tuition. Might be worth looking into.

u/moment-source · 2 pointsr/sad

Don't be certain that things will get better. They might not.

I say the above at the risk of being massively downvoted, of course. But I say it for two good reasons: (1) It's true and (2) Few things are more crushing than believing that things are absolutely bound to get better, only to find that they don't, in fact, get better. Such cases tend to make people feel even more confused, isolated, depressed, and unsure of themselves than if they simply acknowledged the possibility that there is no strange, magical law ensuring that one's circumstances will become happier over time.

Your description of your high school and early college experiences reminds me of my own, in a way. If you're curious, I had a great deal of trouble making friends in college. Throughout my four years at college, despite many genuine attempts, I never did manage to become close to anyone, except maybe for a few professors. But I learned to become more self-sufficient, which was very important. Lacking close friends is sad, but sometimes it's simply the outcome of having an uncommon level of intelligence, maturity, and sincerity.

For whatever it's worth, this was a book that helped me become more efficient at studying. Perhaps it could help you... at the very least, having your academic side more developed would probably make the college experience as a whole be less hellish. Ayway, good luck.

u/gmanley · 2 pointsr/EngineeringStudents

Recent ChE graduate here. I made it out alive so you can too. Here's my list:

  1. Read this book by Cal Newport. I can't highly recommend his work enough. In the interest of full transparency I finished my degree before I was introduced to Cal, so I only got to take advantage of his methodology during my last semester. However, it worked fantastically and I can only imagine how much better my other 7 semesters would have been if I found it sooner.
  2. Use chrome extensions like Chrome Nanny and Stayfocusd to help yourself keep on task. If you don't use chrome, get on it.
  3. Talk to upperclassmen. This may seem kind of odd, but they learn so much over the years being there that they can prove to be one of your best resources. Do you think most of the answers on /r/engineeringstudents come from freshmen? Go and talk to them. They can give you hyperspecific examples of how to excel because they've done the exact same classes you have.
  4. Go to office hours. I've had plenty of professor's that outright admitted to me that they are biased towards students that actually attend their office hours and are that much more willing to help you out. Instead of being like the other students who are bitching and moaning saying "that's not fair, they shouldn't play favorites blah blah blah!!" do the smart thing and take advantage of it. Think about it, he/she is setting aside time SPECIFICALLY for you. Take advantage of it. Work on the assignment before you go and have specific questions. This could be the most important part of office hours. Don't just show up expecting it to be handed to you. At least make an attempt and they will shower you with help.
  5. This may be the most important one so listen up. DO! THE! WORK!! Don't get caught up in that "just one more" mentality. There will never be one single lifehacker article, lifestyle design blog, or reddit post that will change your life (this one included). There are no shortcuts to the things that matter most in life. If you really want it, then go out and get it. No "Top Ten Tips For Beating Procrastination" blog post will magically turn you into a straight A student. If it was that easy everyone would do it. Engineering is difficult. That's why we do it. Plain and simple. At the end of the day every little "tip" and "trick" is just that... a trick. If you don't really want it, it's not for you. It's probably not what you want to hear and I might get downvoted for it, but it's what you need to hear. Spring semester junior year I got an average of 4.77 hours of sleep a night (including weekends and spring break). I've spent 10 hours in a room staring at a problem, only to walk away with three lines done and having to come back the next day for more. There is no substitue for just plain hard work and determination and you've got to be willing to do it.

    tl;dr: Seriously? You want a two sentence summary? GTFO! If you are so lazy you can't be bothered to read something this short, drop out now. There are no shortcuts for the things that matter in life.
u/brouwjon · 2 pointsr/UIUC

I recommend this book

It's been very helpful for me.

The author ran a great blog over the years with related material, here's the archives. I would search in the category tags for items relevant to you.

u/Foric · 2 pointsr/EngineeringStudents

Great post. After a subpar performance in my first term of engineering, I knew something had to change so I picked up this book the other day to hopefully give me some insight on improving my second term. Some of the OPs points that came up were definitely in the book. The book simply helped some light bulbs switch on in my head and hopefully it can do the same for you.

Anyway if you have some free time, the book is relatively short and I suggest you check it out if you need help with being organized and studying.

The book is called

How To Become a Straight-A Student

The Unconventional Strategies Real College Students Use to Score High While Studying Less

u/Chocoaff · 2 pointsr/college

I'd recommend taking a look at Cal Newport's book How to Become a Straight A Student. It offers some really good advice on how to become a better student, particularly in terms of how to schedule and use your time effectively.

u/Transfer_27 · 2 pointsr/CollegeTransfer

You'll absolutely be able to turn it around, make sure you take this time to really perfect time management. I overloaded myself one semester and had a pretty subpar semester, but the following semester, I took only two courses (one being an intermediate math course I had failed) in order to really figure out how to manage the coursework. Surprisingly, switching from a part time job to a full time job that had a set schedule made it so much easier to manage my time and I've been getting A's ever since (though I've kept it at 9 units with full time work).

Some tips that helped me:

-YouTube channel: thomas frank
-This book:

-I started writing down my assignment due dates in my phone calendar as well as the tasks I needed to work on daily. This way if I didnt complete everything I needed to do, it would go on the next days list. This prevented procrastination and kept me consciously thinking about my assignments with less stress. (I.e for my poli sci class I knew I needed to read one chapter by the end of the week, but I'd break it up by reading a few pages a day)
-tutoring, but only once I had tried to work through the problems myself

I turned in my UC applications, and my TAG to Davis has already been accepted. The UC process is holistic and so as long as you improve from now on you'll be able to explain the bad grades and how you improved them. You've recognized you need to make a change and taken accountability and that's the first step in the right direction!

u/Lionsault · 2 pointsr/college

Here's a quick synopsis of the first book, although I recommend reading the whole thing:

u/Chaosqueued · 2 pointsr/DebateAnAtheist

There is a great book called "Fooled by Randomness" by Nassim Nicholas Taleb that you might be interested in reading.

As humans we have a horrible sense of what is random and what events might be extremely unlikely. Something that has a 1 in 1 million chance of happening usually occurs once a month. When we experience this, we usually think, "Wow, what are the odds?" Confirmation bias and pattern recognition focuses our attention to put more significance into these events than they should have.

For something to occur that is very unlikely it just takes time. As a weather process, it will snow in the Sahara, it will not snow on the moon.

u/ArbitrageGarage · 2 pointsr/nfl

What do we do now? Now we realize that we need to think probabilistically, forgo our results orientation, and accept the enormous role chance plays in our lives.

Also, we get over our smooth brain obsession with using team achievements to evaluate individual players.

Here's a primer.

u/D74248 · 2 pointsr/investing

I suggest this book

There are over 9,000 mutual funds. Some are going to get lucky. View that luck with the benefit of hindsight and they look brilliant.

u/karyhead · 2 pointsr/networking

Join a pre-IPO startup. Get equity. Hope they get acquired or go public. There are lots of millionaire tech guys, including network engineering types that have become millionaires this way. It's still a lot like playing the lottery though.

And the people saying get a high salary (100k-200k) and live like you make 30k and save all you can? Sorry, that's just not really realistic anymore. Cutting back on $3 coffees isn't going to make yourself wealthy. What kind of life is that?

My recommendation? Stop relying on someone else for your success. Check out The Millionaire Fastlane and Choose Yourself

I realize that advice isn't for everyone but I believe that the 401k, save-all-you-can route just isn't going to work for wealth anymore.

u/neurorgasm · 2 pointsr/juststart

Ok so like others I applaud the fact that you are at least setting ANY goal and have decided to get out of being in the standard paycheck-to-paycheck until 65 or later lane.

However I think your goal is laughably bad. I hope you'll reconsider your approach to goal-setting, as having only one large goal you will never achieve (and sorry to say, this is not doubt or 'hating', but simple reality, you will never achieve $1b) is only going to hurt you as if you had no goal at all.

Set milestones. Right now your biggest goal could maybe be to replace your income from your job. But you also need goals along the way. How about your first dollar made online? Or, I like the idea the Income School guys have - pizza day (when you earn enough to buy yourself a pizza). Then set some GRADUAL milestones from there based on something measurable and actionable. $100/mo, $1000 total, $250/mo, whatever. Or, 50 posts written; 10,000 total users; and so on.

Right now you have one big goal that will only demoralize you. You're trying to fill an olympic swimming pool by pissing in it. There is optimism and setting high goals, and then there is self-deception and delusions of grandeur. And setting goals of the latter nature is only another symptom of the same problem that got you here in the first place. You're not being real with yourself. You're pretending. You're playing make believe and acting like something will come along and future you will magically figure it out. And I get it because I think most people start out there. However, you need to recognize that if you fail to address this flaw, you might as well go back to coasting through life. It would at least be more fun.

If I could, I'd recommend you to check these 3 ideas out:

  • SMART Goal Setting: With heavy emphasis on the R.

  • The Millionaire Fastlane: You need a reality check on how money is made, in the same vein as the Quora answer /u/Me_you_who posted. Ignore the shady title, this is a good book and will show you how you can approach huge goals like this.

  • /r/fatfire: These folks are living high on the hog and on much less than a billion. Don't demoralize yourself with a silly goal just because you don't know the reality of having, say, $10m in the bank.

    Good luck and hope to see your case studies in the future.
u/FelipeAngeles · 2 pointsr/mexico

Leete este libro.

Vale mucho la pena, te dará perspectiva sobre esta decisión.

u/Scott-B · 2 pointsr/IWantToLearn

Not sure if it will answer you questions, but you might be interested in this book. I have yet to read it but I've heard good things.

u/Catnip_Fatty · 2 pointsr/sysadmin

I'd highly recommend the book "So Good They Can't Ignore You: Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love". I was feeling pretty burnt out in my job, and while this book didn't completely take that away, it helped me to see that a great option for finding more meaning/autonomy/enjoyment in work is to accumulate "career capital" and exchange it for desirable outcomes for yourself. Since reading this, I've started taking classes, I'm going for my Master's, and I'm going to work my way to more autonomy in a few years' time (hopefully). Now, my days feel less like a drag, because I've got a goal I'm working towards.

Good luck!

u/atomhunter · 2 pointsr/Chefit

I had the same thing as you haooen to myself, love bartending and cooking and its definitly my passion but as a software engineer I have a higher chance of doing things I really want to.

I would suggest reading:

u/SupurSAP · 2 pointsr/personalfinance

Do you have an undergraduate degree already? If not, I was under the impression that GI Bill only helps you with one degree. Considering an MBA requires you have an undergrad degree to apply and be accepted.. if you don't have that undergrad degree now, don't expect the government to pay. I could be talking out my ass on that though.

"Survive comfortable" will depend largely on the school and location. Private school vs public school, city vs college town. Further thoughts I have here... The price tag on your education does not entirely translate to value. Look at the school's brand and student/faculty base. The education is important, but you are paying largely to be a part of the 'network'. Some networks are more respected than others, and some are more helpful and readily willing to offer jobs to one another.

I don't know what your living situation has been like while you've been in but if it has been the barracks life with restrictive rules be weary of once you come out and get that freedom to do as you please back. While I don't mean you deny yourself certain pleasures, just don't go crazy. I'm sure you know how it is to be on leave with all that pay sitting in the bank... just waiting for you to get home and play with it.

What was your job in the military? What did you think of that job? Is it something you could see yourself doing for a career? You stand in a strong position if it is something more technically oriented, or science based. You've got something a lot of college students around you won't have. EXPERIENCE! If you can expand on to the educational part of the field you stand to be in a great position out of school. And on that note, look at getting a degree in a STEM (science, technology, engineering, mathematics) field. This as an undergrad and later augmented with an MBA would give you a strong bridge to the business side if it something you'd desire later on.

And here's a book I wish would've came out before I went college, hah. So Good They Can't Ignore You - Cal Newport TLDR - Find your passion is bad advice and potentially detrimental. People love what they do when they're good at it.

Hope this was helpful and sorry if it sounds more like a ramble. Just two cents from a 23 year old that has been out of school for a year

Edit: Continue to stay away from debt.

u/musiqueman22 · 2 pointsr/edmproduction

The product has to be outstanding before that becomes a real issue, in my opinion.

Don't agree with everything in this book by any stretch, but the core idea is a powerful one.

u/iserane · 2 pointsr/photography

I'm fortunate to be in the position I'm a now. I manage a camera shop as my 9-5 and then shoot on side, both for fun and for clients. The job gives me a steady income, and some of the best networking you could ask for. It gives me access to brand reps to borrow and try out new gear, and of course employee gear purchases. Sometimes I now think I'm more into cameras than I am necessarily into photography, kind of like how people are so into cars but not necessarily like racing, or building computers but not necessarily really competitive with gaming.

I shot on the side as pretty much my sole income when I was in college (for a mostly unrelated degree). I do miss some of that lifestyle, but greatly prefer the stability and relative lack of stress I have now.

>1. A Part-Time Job Gives You a Guaranteed Regular Income

Definitely a huge thing I like.

>2. You'll Be Able to Filter the Bad Clients... 3. You'll Be Able to Demand Higher Rates of Pay

Definitely true for me, mainly because that first point. I don't have to worry about making ends meet, I can simply take on jobs that I want to, or at least are worth it financially.

>4. Having Less Time Actually Makes You More Productive

This one is totally dependent on the person. In my case, I totally agree. I've always been someone that performed better, and more focused, on a time crunch.

>5. Working in a Completely Different Industry to Photography Will Enhance Your Practice

Can't speak to this personally, but knowing how cameras / photography has changed me with respect to other hobbies / endeavors, I'd have to imagine it's certainly the case. My (limited) experience in other industries definitely does come up in photography from time to time. Being in a non-related field gives you tons of opportunities to advertise yourself as the person to go to if pictures are needed.

One of my favorite books on workplace / career happiness goes into this quite a lot (there's a lot of cool studies in it about happiness). A lot of people that make the jump to full time do so without proper experience or support and subsequently fail. It basically advocates that "follow your passion" is bad advice and that you should instead "follow what you're good at". That in many cases, you're better off doing what you're good at as a job, and keeping your passions as hobbies. But of course, once you get to the point where your skill and passion is for the same thing, do make the jump.

u/AimeeWood · 2 pointsr/intj

"So Good They Can't Ignore You"
"In this eye-opening account, Cal Newport debunks the long-held belief that "follow your passion" is good advice. Not only is the cliché flawed-preexisting passions are rare and have little to do with how most people end up loving their work-but it can also be dangerous, leading to anxiety and chronic job hopping."

u/mkss89 · 2 pointsr/Anxiety
u/miraclebob · 2 pointsr/cscareerquestions

Hey OP, nice name. I am going to throw a book out there for you to read instead of spending time on social media. You'll have it done in a few days and some great ideas under your belt to give you positive energy going forward. I replaced toilet/down time on my phone with the book and that helped blast through it ;)

For example I like this bit:
"you don't need a rarified job, you instead need a rarified approach to your work."

Wisdom from Mr cal Newport. Self help author who tackles the conundrum of whether passion should drive your career or not.

Just so happens that Mr cal newport is a CS Doctorate.

Excellent, excellent, knowledge lies within. First book is
"so good they can't ignore you"
Now if that title doesn't spark your interest I dunno what will.

About 15 dollars
So Good They Can't Ignore You: Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love

If you can't afford it, please DM me, would happily purchase it for you.

Remember in order for good stuff to come out of you, good stuff needs to get in there. Keep on keepin on my man.

(I am a recent grad, beginner in the enterprise, very familiar with ideas like imposter syndrome and the like, but very determined to make my way in the world)

u/huherto · 2 pointsr/mexico

Consigue este libro.

Te va a aclarar algunas cosas básicas que necesitas saber para elegir una profesión. Yo llevo mas de 20 años que salí de la escuela y cuando leí el libro me hizo muchisimo sentido con lo que he aprendido el camino y que me ha ayudado en lo personal.

No le tengas miedo a las matemáticas. Mucha gente les huye pero tienen un gran impacto en tu comprensión del mundo. A mucha gente les parecen difíciles pero regularmente es por que tenemos algunos huecos en nuestra educación. Tipicamente lo que sucede es que el día que explicaron integrales te volteaste a ver a la guerita que se sienta al lado y cuando regresaste tu atención al pizarrón ya no entendías nada. Esos huecos se van haciendo mas grandes por que los conceptos se construyen unos arriba de otros. Ahorita es el momento de cerrar esos huecos, hacer eso te va a poner por encima de la mayoría de los profesionistas.

u/hodorhodor11 · 2 pointsr/findapath

When you become and adult with a family in 10-15 years, the thing that motivates you go to work will not be your "passion" for whatever field you are in. It will be your desire to help provide for you family, pay bills, pay for vacations, and generally earn a comfortable enough living so that you don't stress about paying loans, etc. It is a difficult thing to convey to younger people - you may think that you are busy now but you are not - having a career and dealing with a family is a lot of work (but with lots of rewards too). Having to worry about money at the same time because you chose something that you thought was your passion instead of compromising is a mistake that I see lots of people make. It is almost always better to choose a career that doesn't work you to death but also affords you a comfortable living. Note that in the end, what ever line of work you choose will end up feeling like a job - management bullshit, deadlines, etc - you can't escape it so you might as well get paid well for it.

Read this book by a CS professor about why it's simple poor advice to "follow your passion":
He is a realistic and correct.

Some details

  1. PHD programs are generally free when you do research or teach at the same time, plus you are provided a stipend to live off of. If you have to pay for a PhD program, that is an indication that you will not make it in academia (if that's your desired path) or the program isn't worth shit, generally speaking.

  2. Do not do PhD programs for the hell of it. Only do it if you want and have a realistic chance of getting a research job. Otherwise, just go to work. I did a phd from the top institution in my technical field and seen most of my collegues go on to do something completely unrelated.

  3. Don't stress about finding what you want to do with your life. Most people don't when they start college. You need to explore stuff outside the classroom. Get a book on careers and talk to lots of people. Don't hesitate to cold-email/call people in the professions you are interested in. Worst case scenario, they don't answer you. If you still don't know what you want to do when you start college, sit in on lots of classes, even classes that you don't think interest you. You will never have such an incredible time to explore.

u/urbworld_dweller · 2 pointsr/JordanPeterson

Cal Newport saved my ass. Read “So Good They Can’t Ignore You” before choosing your major.

TL:DR; “Follow your passion” is BS advice. Most people have no built in passion. The people who found their careers most meaningful picked something that was hard and valuable, and then they got really good at their craft. I wish I had this book and JP’s advice on personality + career when I was 18.

u/trngoon · 2 pointsr/careerguidance

Please look into this book:

Here is a quote from the description:

"In this eye-opening account, Cal Newport debunks the long-held belief that "follow your passion" is good advice. Not only is the cliché flawed - preexisting passions are rare and have little to do with how most people end up loving their work - but it can also be dangerous, leading to anxiety and chronic job hopping.

After making his case against passion, Newport sets out on a quest to discover the reality of how people end up loving what they do. "

Have a great day.

u/diet_napalm · 2 pointsr/MGTOW2

You seem to be focusing mostly on your external environment, but I don't think that's where your issues are. When we are unhappy we look outside of ourselves for the reasons and we can always find something to blame, but it's happening inside. Get your emotional state in order and everything else will fall into place. As to how to do that, it's not the same for everyone. But it's possible. Find what works for you. Therapy, meditation, self-help books, etc. If you are determined to find your way you will. It may take some time but it will happen. There is no need for anyone to feel like they're just killing time in life and basically waiting to die.

> I have no passion for the field of study I pursued.

I recommend the book So Good They Can't Ignore You for this.

u/installation_04 · 2 pointsr/rant

So long as you make yourself aware of your own short comings and act on them, what you've described is mostly avoidable. Might I suggest So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport?

u/DavidJohnsonORD · 2 pointsr/expertinayear

Thank you for sharing this! I mainly do it to hold myself accountable, but it is great to hear it is helping others in their projects as well. To be honest, this is the first time I have consistently worked on a project for more than a few weeks. Usually, I hit week 5 or so and stop. The thing that made me put together a good strategy for this project was reading the one thing by Gary Keller, Deep Work by Cal Newport Scott Young's Website and Scott had a top performer and rapid learning program that gave me a great roadmap for this challenge. My suggestion to you as you start your project again is to keep things as simple as possible so it will develop into an easy habit. That is why I started doing video updates, it was easier for me to do a minute video then type up an update. Do not fall victim to the rules that you create. I would also just focus on French or algorithms, evaluate which is more important to you, this was the hardest thing for me. I'm sure you have great aspirations to accomplish both, but you need to say No to everything else to successfully say yes to your #1 project. Good luck finishing :).

u/mc1r_variant · 2 pointsr/femalefashionadvice

I'm a huge fan of Cal Newport! I definitely recommend So Good They Can't Ignore You and Deep Work. I'm also about halfway through How to Have a Good Day by Caroline Webb and really enjoying it so far!

u/dynamicballs · 2 pointsr/digitalnomad

Sorry about this. I should have worded the post better. nero147 is correct and defines what I mean by deep work. If you're interested, here's a link to the book.

Put differently, I was just curious if you were going to spend a few months working on a new project where you would go.

u/ardeur · 2 pointsr/entj

Discipline is a muscle that you need to work on. Start small, but continuously practice it and build up your ability to concentrate. Take breaks (look up the pomodoro method). Read some books about this topic (Deep Work is my favorite), search around on the Internet for strategies to overcome procrastination, identify the situations that cause you to procrastinate and build systems and routines for dealing with it.

No other way about it. The tendency to procrastination is human and has nothing to do with ENTP, ENTJ, whatever. It's up to you to find a way to manage it.

Do the work. Be the prize.

u/Secreteus · 2 pointsr/nosurf

Reading books of course, it will greatly improve your ability to focus which has been really harmed by internet surfing. You may also work on improving some marketable skills, like programming, graphics design, etc., whatever you choose. To dive more into those topics I recommend you to read Cal Newport's books, especially Deep Work and Digital Minimalism, he also has interesting blog:, old posts touch this topic in more depth. Another book that I would like to recommend you is The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains which will show you how damaging internet can be.

u/dwitman · 2 pointsr/simpleliving

Well, leave your phone in the car or your locker or something when you go to the library, and stay off the computers if you can. If you can't, DO NOT OPEN A FACEBOOK OR REDDIT TAB. No social media, no phone, no email, and no tabs open to sites that are outside your goal for those four hours. For a break, take a walk to clear your head, again without your phone.

Oh, and check out a copy of Deep Work, or better yet grab it free on an audible trial.

u/jezreeljay · 2 pointsr/graphic_design

> Say that I really enjoy working with music, and doing things like designing album/single covers and designing all promotional material for an artist is something I really want to do.

The work is few and far between. Also, everyone's trying to get into that industry. Ostensibly, it's shiny, fun, and hip. I can't blame you for wanting to work in it. But unless you have a network and/or have people seeking you out, then you're going to have to grind like the rest of us. Actually, regardless of what industry you want to focus on, you ARE going to grind like the rest of us haha.

But yeah, here's some general advice:

  • Being a generalist will put food on the table, your long term prospects are more stable and it's easier to get your foot in the door. It'l also allow you to transition between different disciplines. With the ebb and flow of the industry, you never know what skills will be in demand at the time.

  • Being an expert will get you the big pay checks and notoriety. But, in the event that your niche falls out of demand, you'll have a harder time transitioning to something else. With the big paychecks however, you might've put yourself in a position to go without work for a while while.

    Of course it's not as cut and dry as that, and the two aren't mutually exclusive, but that's just my experience and observation.

    I tell all new designers to learn how to layout long form documents and hone your typography skills. And about typography, don't relegate yourself to only display type (eg. posters with a simple headline or names). Working with dense copy will force you to actually design it, rather then rely on clever effects and techniques.

    Other than that, don't quit on your dream. Just temper your short term expectations. Also, read The Dip. It'l only take you an hour and will save you many more.

u/mjdubs · 2 pointsr/GetMotivated

This is a very apt illustration of how the creative process works, IMO...however, there is a lot to be said for knowing when aspects of your persistence should be ditched in favor of concentrating on other parts of your project...Seth Godin wrote a neat little book on this idea, called The Dip. Worth a read/listen.

u/MechAngel · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

I wish I'd read The Dip in college.

u/Rot-Orkan · 2 pointsr/javahelp

Don't give up. I'm assuming you're new to programming. It's very hard and will be very discouraging.

Here's some things that helped me:

u/jalybeck · 2 pointsr/GetMotivated

Sounds like you're going through a bout of entrepreneurial depression. It happens to the best of us! First, accept that what you're going through is totally normal. Second, know that it's difficult to do anything when you're in the "dip". Here are some reads / videos I've found helpful when I'm down ...

Seth Godin - The Dip

Ted Talk about happiness & entrepreneurship -

The Not Knowing Path of Being an Entrepreneur (This whole website is gold)

u/thehouen · 2 pointsr/cscareerquestions

30-something software dev here. I would recommend you read the books The Dip and Winning Without Losing.
The Dip is about when it is worth it to "buckle down". Learn when to recognize if it is worth it or not. WWL is simply about being happy in work/life balance.

The Dip:

u/sba92 · 1 pointr/Romania

Ca să-ţi răspund la întrebare, eu aş alege informatica. Dacă te pregăteşti pentru o carieră în informatică, eu zic să te concetrezi pe ea. Înţeleg că tu vrei să fii pragmatic şi să alegi disciplina care îţi va asigura o notă mai mare fără prea mult efort, dar cred că atitudinea asta nu e întotdeauna benefică. Informatica e un domeniu dificil şi ca atare eu m-aş folosi de BAC ca de o unealtă prin care îmi pot evalua în mod onest cunoştinţele. Cine ştie, poate descoperi că informatica nu e pentru tine. Nu vreau să te descurajez, din contră eu sunt genul de om care nu crede în "talent". Cred în disciplină, sacrificiu şi efort. Ce rost are să dai BAC-ul la fizică, să intri în facultate cu o medie mare şi apoi să realizezi că nu te descurci sau că e prea greu şi nu eşti dispus să depui efortul necesar?
(side note: Învaţă algoritmică şi structuri de date, orice programator pe jumătate decent poate să înveţe un limbaj de programare)

Asta nu are legătură cu BAC-ul, dar din moment ce te pregăteşti de o carieră în IT (plec de la asumpţia ca vrei să faci programare), mă gândeam că nu ţi-ar strica câteva sfaturi:
(feel free to disregard everything I say, it's your life, don't let a guy on the Internet tell you how you should live).

  • Trebuie să fii onest cu tine. De ce vrei să faci asta? Bani? Pasiune?
  • Dacă o faci pentru bani: Eu nu sunt aici ca să te judec, e ok să o faci pentru bani. Nimeni nu lucrează pentru altcineva şi o face 100% din pasiune. Un lucru pe care ar trebui să-l ţii în minte: dacă vrei mulţi bani, va trebui să înveţi să te "vinzi bine". E trist, dar să cunoşti persoanele potrivite, să zâmbeşti frumos la interviuri şi să le spui exact ceea ce vor să audă o să-ţi aducă mai multă apreciere decât să fii cu adevărat bun la ceea ce faci. Warning: dacă nu eşti foarte pasionat de programare, o să fugi destul de repede către poziţii de management.
  • Dacă o faci din pasiune: Când decizi că vrei să trăieşti din pasiunea ta, o să observi că totul devine mai puţin amuzant. Ca atare, pentru a fi fericit ai nevoie să simţi că deţii control asupra vieţii tale profesionale. Ai nevoie să simţi că expertiza ta e recunoscută şi respectată. Ai nevoie să simţi ca munca ta contează, că ce faci tu are efecte vizibile. Ai nevoie de o oarecare autonomie, de o oarecare libertate. Oricum, dacă vrei să obţii astea, trebuie să devii bun la ceea ce faci. You have to be so good they can't ignore you.
  • Indiferent de ce te motivează, trebuie să fii capabil să faci sacrificii. A lucra în informatică cere dedicare. Trebuie să înveţi constant. Asta o să aibă ceva efecte asupra vieţii tale sociale. Depinde şi de tine; tu decizi cât de bun vrei să fii.
  • Un lucru bun la meseria de programator e că spre deosebire de alte poziţii din companie, tu eşti ceva mai greu de înlocuit. Dacă o secretară pleacă din companie, ei pot să aducă o alta care va putea să-i preia responsabilităţile într-o zi sau două. Dacă un programator pleacă din companie şi ei aduc un altul, acel nou programator va avea nevoie cam de o lună până să poată aduce contribuţii reale la proiect.
  • Legat de facultate: dacă eşti pasionat de informatică, s-ar putea să fii dezamăgit de facultate. Sfatul meu, înconjoară-te de oameni care gândesc similar cu tine (aici vorbesc de money vs passion). Ar trebui să tratezi facultatea ca pe un real life reddit. O sa vezi link-uri peste tot, urmează-le pe cele care iţi par interesante şi învaţă de unul singur. Încearcă să nu fugi de matematică. Ai nevoie de ea dacă vrei să poţi face lucruri cu adevărat interesante (dacă simţi că eşti un pic "în urmă" la matematică, o resursă pe care eu am găsit-o utilă e KhanAcademy). Warning: facultatea o să vină cu nopţi nedormite şi nervi.
  • Ultimul lucru: în drumul tău o să ai parte de o grămada de îndoieli, poate că o să renunţi la informatică pentru o perioadă, poate o să renunţi complet. E în regulă, nu eşti obligat să faci acelaşi lucru pentru tot restul vieţii.

    Scuze că m-am întins atât, sper să ajute.
u/whereismytinfoilhat · 1 pointr/personalfinance

I highly recommend reading (or listening with audible) to a couple books that I listened to when I was questioning my job and career choices earlier this year. They aren’t silver bullets, but they’ll definitely offer sound advice on how to actively work to improve your situation.

If you don’t have much free time to read, like me, try listening to the audiobook on your commute or at lunch. Just find a time and place that makes sense for you.

I hope those books help you as much as they did me.

u/HoldYourStipulations · 1 pointr/Existentialism

Link to Cal Newport's latest book: Also, his blog "Study Hacks" is pretty good.

u/blastanova · 1 pointr/AskMen

Cal Newport wrote an excellent book on the subject of finding rewarding work.

Nearly all lucrative careers involve doing something that is considered "crappy" or "hard" by most people. The reason that technical jobs pay so well is that few people are willing to slog it out to the end. There's a scarcity of engineers, so they get to command a hefty salary.

Some of the people who stuck it out to the end of a technical program are there because what other people see as a hardship, they see as something genuinely enjoyable. While some people look at a textbook and see a boring slog, others can look at a textbook and see a collection of interesting mental exercises and puzzles. But some of the people who made it through are people who have a high tolerance for discomfort, and were willing to frontload their stress: these people decided they'd rather tolerate 4 years of academic stress instead of have to cope with potentially decades of economic and career stress struggling to get a job in a less-lucrative field.

The best of all worlds is when you can find that job that nobody wants because it "sucks" but you actually think it's awesome because you're in some way abnormal. For example, a lot of people are terrified by public speaking, but I personally love it and find it energizing, which has led me into a lot of jobs that surprisingly had little competition. (A lot of this took the form of sales "jobs" working as a one-man sales force for my own entrepreneurial exploits.)

P.S. - I ended up going through college to get an engineering degree and decided to go my own way (start my own business) after college. But personally, I'm actually happy that I got the degree. For one thing, it gave me a good deal of peace of mind, knowing that if my business ever failed, I had the option of going into the workforce as a junior engineer and having a relatively safe shot at a reasonable living. For another thing, it helped for me to reinforce that my entrepreneurship was something I was doing because I wanted to do it, not because I had to do it. But for some people, spending 4 years and tens of thousands of dollars on a safety net might not be the best move.

Oh, and BTW, academic probation isn't a huge deal in and of itself if you aren't looking to go into a graduate program. Sometimes, it's a symptom of a real problem, and it might be a wake-up call if your approach to academics just isn't working, but like any mistake it's something that you can learn from, and hopefully not repeat.

u/EchtStahlmann · 1 pointr/MechanicalEngineer

Thanks for the reply :)

I think you misunderstood me in some aspects so I'll make my points again.

I think one of the best career advices I found here:

So I'm trying apply it in real life. I (think I) know what my weak/strong sides are. I don't have GF, don't plan to have kid, I won't be healthy forever.

If we speak about "rough" people - I mean I'm shy INTP, so I have moral objections before I kill mosquito :lol: Being some kind of "pusher"/"older friend"/manager (it all depends how you define managing/delegating tasks or what kind school of management you support) could be problem for me. I don't feel better than them - most of blue collars were smarter than me, because they entered job market earlier :lol:

u/lamson12 · 1 pointr/EffectiveAltruism

I should have mentioned that I was optimizing for environmental impact and health, not just money and time. Also, I thought I worded things with enough caveats to prevent point-by-point refutations, but since I seem to have failed, I will make some general comments about your reply.

When it comes to EA, there are two options: either work for/found an EA org, or donate money. I would consider volunteering for events to be a relatively minor activity. Most people won't have the skills to directly contribute yet, so while they're building up those skills with that "second job" I mentioned, they'll be working a normal job and donating money. In this case, it would make sense to pick the job with the highest earning potential. Assuming a suitable amount of grit, humanities majors can go to a boot-camp and go into web development and STEM majors can go through a few programming textbooks and work for a major tech company. The major bottleneck comes from being able to actually program versus being able to pass tests in a CS class. As Cal Newport says, taking the time to get good at a skill is the differentiating factor between having your pick of jobs and hoping you get a job at all. Luckily, according to the BLS, software developers and web developers will see greater than average job growth, so even if you aren't in the top 1% of your field, you will still be able to land a job. And yes, as I stated earlier, not everyone is going to become a programmer, but it's definitely worth a hard look.

I agree that getting a used car makes sense for some people, but given that most trips don't consist of a trunk full of groceries and filled passenger seats, I would seriously consider the alternative. Also, fast food and delivered food is vastly inferior to Soylent and other meal replacements, in terms of time-efficiency as well as health. Also, I'm slightly horrified that you mentioned the two options that run counter to the EA values of concern for the environment and concern for animals.

The video I linked to earlier talks about the tax benefits of real estate. Given that the real estate market is highly illiquid, this also means that it's not an efficient market at all. That's why you have house flippers and companies like Fundrise. The other main investment vehicle people think of besides real estate is stocks, but leveraged ETFs only allow you to leverage your money 2-3x , which is a far cry from the nearly 30x from real estate. Given that real estate appreciates in pace with inflation and the fact that you have greater leverage, this beats out the 7% average growth of stocks. I would argue that the reason why people choose other types of investments is a lack of knowledge. If you didn't know, for instance, that there is a process to landlording, you would deem the task of renting out and managing properties to be unfeasible. So, far from being tied down to one place, if another job opportunity comes up, you can just rent out your current residence and get a mortgage for a house in that new location. Now, I would not consider real estate to be a "hugely leveraged bet." You are buying and holding an asset that pays for itself in 30 years. That's it. Seems straightforward to me. If you're worried about illiquidity, HELOCs completely mitigate that concern. Of course, this whole real estate thing seems risky if you're bad at managing your money, but if you can do that, then the numbers check out.

Now, even though donating now has long run effects, the compounding returns of real estate dictate that it would be prudent that allocate a nonzero amount of disposable income towards real estate. Fermi estimate. How big that amount is will depend on how confident you are in the potential for future EA opportunities that have a greater impact than the options available today. Given that we have just started founding high-impact charities within the past few years, I would argue that the number of higher-impact-than-AMF charities will only grow.

u/wtgserpant · 1 pointr/findapath

Its arguable that we are all confused about where we truly wanna go as often what we want and what we do are in contradiction. So you are not alone.

I would recommend three things for you:

  1. Read this
  2. Follow Calnewports blog, he gives some awesome advice.
  3. Finally read Stephen kings take on his writing and other stuff, as his ideas can easily be used by anyone going into the fields of creativity.

    Finally, use school and exams as way to measure you performance and focus on learning by yourself as that is the beat way to grow
u/dtwoprod · 1 pointr/GetMotivated

Read the books Choose Yourself and So Good They Can't Ignore You for your answer. Trust me, it'll be well worth it. :)

I'm 30 and back in South Korea doing YouTube videos while teaching. I had my chance in 2012 to do this but I screwed up due to a shite mindset. Now that i'm older and wiser, i'm doing things EVERY DAY.

u/ivanezzz · 1 pointr/suggestmeabook

deep work, currently half way through and it's already helped me a lot, a web developer in training over here

u/saltylife11 · 1 pointr/ADHD

Tricky the way that I project you asked this question, but personally I do believe that.

However, the way I hear your question is with the 'just' re-arranged is:

"Do you think that just practicing mindfulness solves this(add) entirely?"

The way you have it written even I project as, "adding this ingredient fixes this." Just add sugar to make it sweeter?

My personal belief, based on observation, is that one who has deeply developed his or her mindfulness will not suffer any forms of add - like at all. However, that in itself is a serious undertaking that one does not 'just' sit down and do (even thought that's kinda exactly how you do it). I am talking about someone who has had a consistent mindfulness practice for the last 20 or 30 years.

I meditate every morning for 20 minutes and it helps a TON, but I still struggle with adhd and executive functions. I have worked with very very experienced meditation practitioners - Bhuddist monks who have lived on a monastery in the wilderness for 30+ years - and they very very well may have been individuals who once suffered from ADHD but definitely no longer do so.

So if one becomes like an NBA level mindfulness practitioner, then yes, I personally do not believe one would suffer from ADHD, but then again, one doesn't just get in the NBA without a LOT of dedication.

Having said that every bit of practice up to that point has a benefit. So there are benefits all along the way.

This book helped me:

As well as this text, but it's a bit more esoteric.

Don't actually recommend the second text until one has conquered distractions. Otherwise it can just be demoralizing.

Biggest recommendation I have regarding mindfulness and intention is beware of the effect distractions have on re-wiring your brain. The content of distractions are innocent, but the process of being distracted attacks the adhd mind in multiple ways. There is no such thing as a harmless distraction.

Waiting in a line and bored? Not being comfortable with that boredom and instead checking facebook on your phone is literally re-wiring your brain so it will be intolerant of boredom. When you have to write a paper or something that is boring it will be difficult. This comes from the work of Cal Newport in Deepwork, which has been extremely helpful for me personally.

u/aacook · 1 pointr/u_kn0thing

It's interesting to see so many of the top comments are news related. Seems like a big opportunity for Reddit. Is Reddit doing a daily email for curated news? Is the Upvoted newsletter still going?

I like to make things. At one point I thought about building a simple side project to connect your Reddit account and get a daily email with the top news items. I'd probably exclude hobby-related subreddits. I love Reddit and I think the app is great (reading comments could be a bit easier, I always accidentally click into a user's profile) but it's not exactly a good way to improve my productivity. I practice Deep Work and on good days I'm completely offline until 2-3pm. So I was thinking of taking this side project idea a step further for myself, bypassing email and just printing a 1-pager to my laser printer each morning. Or, maybe a simple Raspberry Pi setup in my kitchen.

u/_lordgrey · 1 pointr/minimalism

It's actually "essential" that I eliminate my smartphone & social media. The more I learn about the brain science of app developers stimulating the reward centers of the brain over and over (dopamine), making us chemically addicted to likes, tweets, invites, etc -- that is NOT essential.

An iphone for minimalists is a flip phone that only has SMS.

Being chemically addicted to a cute, slightly radioactive screen is not essential - it's getting your brain hijacked. (sources here and here and especially here if you're interested.)

My tech EDC right now is an iphone SE and a macbook air. I use an internet blocker as much as possible and I'm still tweaking RescueTime to optimize how much time I'm wasting on the net. I killed twitter last month, the detox was a bitch and I'm giving myself until the end of this weekend to kill reddit.

u/not_my_nsfw_acct · 1 pointr/GradSchool

This is a pretty curt way of saying it, but I agree. There's probably people here that are a lot better than me at focusing on their research or getting back on track after getting distracted, but it's something I have struggled with throughout grad school. I've recently started getting my political news from 1-2 podcasts I listen to on the weekends; if anything HUGE happens it will find its way to me - I don't need to follow the news constantly.

I'm probably not among the smartest of my peers and colleagues, so I have to stay vigilant to not fall behind.

I find the argument that news/social media/TV/etc. are training our brains to want continuous hits of dopamine pretty convincing and have recently become a convert to Cal Newport's Deep Work philosophy that getting continual streams of information out of your life is a way to be happier and more productive. He is a CS professor at Georgetown, so he's not just some self-help guru; he practices what he preaches. He has a pretty good podcast interview with Ezra Klein (former WaPo reporter and cofounder of on his "philosophy" that's worth a listen if you're interested.

This is a long comment, but the parent made a good point that was worth expanding upon.

EDIT: And if you're wondering "why the hell are you on Reddit then?" - I do my "browsing/social media" stuff between 5-7pm every day to try and limit my exposure.

u/Liam-f · 1 pointr/sysadmin

Right now, you have your new monitoring system stood up. This is a great time to go deeper and integrate it with more of the systems your team manages and customise it to each systems purpose. Going through this process will help you understand how everything in the company communicates with each other and what dependencies each system has on other systems.


Your boss is pushing for you to be involved in a new project. He's looking to expose you to more technologies the company uses. You've mentioned nginx, MySQL, PHP and Python above. A lot of these are individual tools which can enhance one system. I would advise at this point you're better off looking at the fundamentals of how everything works in your organisation. DNS, DHCP, general server configuration, virtualisation, certificates, storage etc.

Config management is an interesting area, but if you have gaps in the fundamentals you are back to copying config files you do not understand, creating automation based on assumptions of the requirements.


Regarding the "always going too deep" comment, this is why it's good to have long medium and short term goals. Long term you want to have a deep understanding of x y and z for a future job role. Medium term you focus on X and have a project to implement it. Short term you have some smaller issues you want to resolve within your environment mainly relating to X with some hints of other skills you're interested in.


This all said, you really need to sit down and go through what you want to be doing in a number of years time. Keep an eye on what you need for other jobs in the market. Right now you may not want to move on but you should be staying at the company because you want to work there, and not get trapped there because you don't have the right skills to get a job at another company at the same or above pay. And most importantly you don't want to spend time learning a skill that will be irrelevant to your career path as you become more specialised.

I'd recommend giving "Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World" a read as it helped me gain focus:

u/Satellite0fLove · 1 pointr/GradSchool

Exercise - I was a total skeptic when it came to this one. Exercise made me feel worse, not better, and I felt as though I didn't have enough time for it. But now that I have consistently worked it into my schedule, it has done wonders to help lower stress and anxiety levels, increase my confidence, and now I actually want to jog.

Physical appearance - This is just a personal thing and varies in importance from person to person, but dressing professionally and taking some time to do hair, make up, buy a new outfit, etc. make me feel more confident when at school. So I basically never dress at school how I would at home.

Don't be too stressed if your research isn't working out, and don't be afraid to share progress - I am in the humanities, so this may be different for other fields, but I had a research paper to work on last semester and it took me nearly the whole semester to finally come up with a concise and definite argument and pull it together. But rather than compromise or give up, I have a good argument and publishable idea. I also decided to present my fairly underdeveloped paper to a conference. I told them that it was an active work in progress and that I was hoping for feedback - and I got just that!

I would also recommend reading Deep Work by Cal Newport. I don't usually take much away from these types of books, but the tips and strategies for time management and productivity really make sense to me and I have been actively working to incorporate them into my academic life.

If possible (I know this isn't always something grad students can do), have a vacation planned far in advance, even if it is just a day or two where you plan to go get out of the house and do something fun. That way you have something to look forward to in the long-term.

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u/c3rbutt · 1 pointr/Reformed

Cal Newport says we all need to learn how to do "deep work."

u/Manitcor · 1 pointr/developer

Transition is your biggest cost maker (there are others).

If you want to understand more I recommend starting with this solid article by Paul Graham. to understand more and get a an angle on why caring about a developers deep work is valuable and its in your best interest to let them work there is a fantastic book Deep Work

u/BigTLo8008 · 1 pointr/neoliberal
u/RafaGarciaS · 1 pointr/productivity

One is often frustrated, or at least I was, when you receive a lot of advice and it doesn't immediately work. This can lead you down a rabbit hole, "maybe this isn't the right technique" or "If I had that I would be more productive". In other words it can lead you to procrastinate about productivity.

To avoid this I have this recommendation, don't focus on the tools focus on the work. More specifically Focus on lead measures. Count the amount of distraction free time you spend devoted to your craft or work (this means but isn't limited to leave your phone in another room and focus). If you put in the work results will follow. Good Luck my friend for a more detailed explanation on this tip and others I leave you these recommendations

Cal Newport's Book Deep Work --
Active studying (This is in regard to how to spend your time efficiently in a knowledge based work, not my tip but may be helpful)

u/zfdsdacdcwr · 1 pointr/AskMen

This book saved me. Get it from Amazon or a library, and read the whole thing, and implement it.

u/langhorne_sam · 1 pointr/CGPGrey

Have you read Cal Newport's latest, Deep Work? Thoughts?

u/pastapuck · 1 pointr/Entrepreneur

You may be interested in The Dip, a book by Seth Godin. Link:

u/gooseus · 1 pointr/web_design

Seth Godin would disagree, and quite persuasively (if not somewhat repetitively) - The Dip

u/TotallyNotIT · 1 pointr/sysadmin

First, you have to accept that shit happens sometimes. Everyone hits a slump from time to time.

A lot of my job is rebuilding shitshows, frequently from the ground up. I didn't jump into this, I got involved slowly as I proved that I was capable of doing the work. You've worked your way into the position you have now by proving that you're capable and resourceful.

You will never know everything. A big part of what makes people successful is knowing what they don't know and then figuring out how to get that information. The timeline on learning those things gets longer as the concepts get more advanced. You haven't peaked, you've hit The Dip. You're still seeing challenges so you still have opportunities to learn a lot. Once you push through that, almost the entire IT universe opens up in front of you.

Now that I've said that, you're probably at a point in your career where you can think about what interests you long-term. Keep sucking out every bit of knowledge and experience possible while you figure that out. And relax, you're doing fine.

u/luluwutz · 1 pointr/asktrp

Hi there, don't do it. suicide is a permanent solution for a temporary problem.

I have once heard about a book that might be able to give you some motivation here:

i have to admit that i didn't found the time by now to read it but i will definitely give it a try. Also engineering student here, also 22, also virgin, horribly low t-level etc etc etc. I think every human needs some meaning in life. If you haven't found yours yet, give this article a try:

and by the way: don't do it ;). This might be your only chance to enjoy the existence in these dimensions or whatever.
and here i want to spam you with one more link:

good luck on your journey that is called life!

u/fudsworth · 1 pointr/GetMotivated

Seth Godin wrote a book on this exact thing called The Dip

u/ZSR5 · 1 pointr/Entrepreneur

There's a good book called The Dip by Seth Godin.

It talks about a few important factors such as why competition helps increase marketshare, but also most importantly about why being #1 can be important and to pick your battles wisely.

I feel the article definitely made some good points and I'll just avoid the "fluff" controversy that's brewing in here by saying it's always good to see an idea from multiple angles.

Hope this helps!

u/andrew_depompa · 1 pointr/personalfinance
  • Sign up for
  • Go to college
  • Major in something that gets you paid internships; this is nearly always a good indicator that the skills you're learning will be useful in the job market
  • If the previous point doesn't seem easy or fun, read The Dip.
u/chefhj · 1 pointr/worldnews

Yes. Like how he did the first two times through the use of ghost writers like nigh on every politician in the last 100 years...

u/wagnerdc01 · 1 pointr/politics

If Trump hasn't divested from these businesses every dollar spent at a foreign establishment can be considered a bride. It's a matter for debate but until he proves he's divested it seems like a huge conflict of interest. But when has trump ever used a position of power for his own personal gain.

u/lawless68 · 1 pointr/POLITIC

JUNE 6th 2017-

Ford to import Focus small car from China in 2019

Ford's president of global operations Joe Hinrichs says the move will save Ford $1 billion.

SEPTEMBER 4, 2018-

Ford Kills US-Bound Focus Active Crossover Due to Tariffs

Read a book lol, here you go kiddo - Trump: The Art of the Deal

u/guuguuguu · 1 pointr/The_Donald
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u/thehalfdimeshow · 1 pointr/neoliberal

> waiting for good suggestions from our IR folks

The only book needed to make a country leader of the free world*


*Note that the country is France, not the country of the reader

u/Wannabe2good · 1 pointr/smallbusiness

> How would I go about determining the value?

I wouldn't. I would listen to their offer, then refuse because regardless of their offer, it's not their best offer. negotiate from there. I would also read this book now

u/scsibusfault · 1 pointr/politics
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u/Rodney_Copperbottom · 1 pointr/The_Donald

Or you could always get him a copy of The Art of the Deal, if he doesn't already have one.

u/illbzo1 · 1 pointr/Entrepreneur

> Where are you getting this master deal maker shit?

From Trump himself. He even claims to have written a book about it:

u/redditacct · 1 pointr/
u/crispynachos · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Here's a method I used on someone who wouldn't stop making racist comments.

I read a book (below) that talks about dog training methods that work on people too. Basically, you want to reward your coworker for positive inputs to the conversation (should they ever occur) and hold back rewards for negative inputs. Even if none of her comments are helpful, make sure you never reward her for them. You mentioned that everyone has been ignoring her, but remember that a reward can be as small as eye contact. If this doesn't work and she still persists, move on to punishment. When she comes over to join the conversation, walk away. Sounds sick, but everyone can be trained :)

Good luck! If you're interested, check out the book "Don't Shoot the Dog" by Karen Pryor for more info.

u/Sarosa281 · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Don't Shoot the Dog!: The New Art of Teaching and Training:

u/lynn · 1 pointr/Parenting

I have that book. You're right. I remember having some difficulty finding it on amazon because the author has a common name, I think, or one easily confused with someone else who does similar work? Not sure.

Here's the link:

u/boxingmantis · 1 pointr/Pets
u/gregbaugues · 1 pointr/javascript

I've found the book Don't Shoot the Dog to be a great guide on dog training. Especially the chapter on clicker training.

u/ActiveNerd · 1 pointr/BelgianMalinois

Certainly having a good professional trainer is the best (note: not everyone you could pay for training has an idea what they are doing). Without that, I'd say you should invest in some training materials. I always recommend Don't Shoot the Dog as an intro to training because it will help get you in the right perspective for various ways to train dogs. There are also various online training groups which may be able to help you. The three biggest differences between you and a professional training are 1) ability to read body language (you may be able to, idk) 2) knowledge of various training techniques (can be learned though having a teacher for some is best) 3) practice rewarding at exactly the right time and frequency (this is actually the trickiest and takes lots of practice).

For 3, I'd recommend getting a clicker (even if you don't use a clicker with your dog, this is about understanding what behaviors you are rewarding) and playing a game with your friend/family where, without saying any words, you guide them to doing something. Any progress toward the goal gets a click. Anything that is not helpful gets no response. (eg. Turning on the light. They step toward the light, click for that. Take another step closer, click for that. Touching the wall the switch is on gets a click). This exercise gets you practice to see what you are rewarding and, when your friend is trying to get you to do something, shows you how much a mistimed reinforcement screws everything up.

To address distraction issues, you'll want to put the dog in a situation where you are 95% confident it will do the right thing. Your dog likely won't react to distractions when they are 100 yards away. When they are right next to your dog, it may react. Figure out where your dog will be successful and then very very slowly (inches or a foot at a time), up the difficulty. The technique is called shaping and is a great tool for training difficult behaviors and behaviors at a distance.

u/Chauncy-the-Aged · 1 pointr/Dogtraining

Huh, I clearly haven't done my research on that place. We're specifically opposed to that kind of training, and have only been training her with positive reinforcement and clicker training.

We were going to go visit them in person and make sure their methods were okay with us, but it sounds like you got the information from their site.

Thank you for calling that out! I'll think I will take a different approach to her training. I'm currently reading Don't Shoot the Dog - is this a good reference? Any other good reading material you can point me at?

Thank you!

u/ssatva · 1 pointr/AskReddit

... tough one! There is a method of training outlined in the book 'Don't Shoot The Dog' that can be used to train cats to do complex things, and is good for behavioral problems, but it involves a fair bit of diligence. Love makes it worth the effort. It's a hell of a book anyway.

u/Commod0re · 1 pointr/Homebrewing

The bigger problem, I think, is downvoting a post because they "did it wrong" without ever telling the user what the right thing to do would have been means they'll never learn, and that doesn't solve the problem at all.

(P.S. I too am a sysadmin. I'd suggest reading up on some basic learning theory and operant conditioning. Your users can be trained to do the right thing! Put in a little effort up front and it'll save you a ton of time down the road! Read this book! I didn't write it!)

u/sctthghs · 1 pointr/Fitness

Also: The Inner Game of Tennis is excellent. Not strictly about tennis, and not really strictly about fitness either. Some great lessons on concentration, self-improvement, and maintaining the proper attitude.

u/kowsosoft · 1 pointr/leagueoflegends

> You're trying to say that having a good atmosphere is more important than playing to win

Where in the fuck are you getting this from?

> There is nothing more important in a competitive game than winning, nothing. Certainly not how cordial you are with your fucking team.

Actually that's a really myopic and simplistic approach to something that's a lot more complicated than you think. The most important thing in a competitive environment such as LoL, which is the subject of this thread, is that you enjoy it enough that you continue learning and improving. There is tons of research and literature that talks about this. I'd recommend starting with this one.

In a singular competitive setting like a tournament, then yes, you play to win. The tribunal and other community moderation initiatives however are not focused on tournaments or the LCS. The vast bulk of what they do is focused on moderating the overall community.

> If some one wants to communicate in a abrasive way i'll take that if their play is better than the nicest guy on the planet who is only ever so slightly the lesser player.

Again this is really short-sighted. You will enjoy playing more with the nicer person, and you yourself will find that you improve at a faster rate and you are less likely to go on tilt or get emotional, which is the #1 thing that interferes with the learning process.

u/real_tayzonday · 1 pointr/howtonotgiveafuck

This is basically the advice of the famous self-help book "The Inner Game of Tennis"

u/Zysnarch · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Cool, I learned this from The Inner Game of Tennis.

u/Boots_And_Cats_And · 1 pointr/percussion

Try reading this book. I was dealing with performance anxiety and difficulty focusing in my first few years of college, and this helped me get my head in the right place. I've been able to take huge steps in my focus and consistency after understanding how to get out of my head.

u/Br0h · 1 pointr/smashbros

Watch this:

Read this:

Also what game do you play and what character?

u/Ikerp14 · 1 pointr/Bowling

During competition, less thinking is better. You want to pay attention to things happening on your lanes, and you want to be aware of yourself while you're bowling. But, you don't want to be up there trying to make your body do different things. That is what practice is for.

However. Most people only bowl once a week and practice time is hard to come by. If you have time to practice once or more a week great. Isolate what you want to work on for the day and do that. But, if league night is your only time you get to bowl during the season, you will have to decide how much you are willing to let your average dip. The goal being to bring it up higher later.

Also, I would get rid of the wrist device, unless you medically need it. The inner game of tennis is also a good read. Different ways to practice, improve, and clear your mind.

u/omfgcookies · 1 pointr/GlobalOffensive

Sounds like he needs to work on his mental game. Have him check out this book:

It is a short read and you can find a pdf of it online. It uses tennis as an example to talk about mental fortitude in competition in general.

u/onwee · 1 pointr/Basketball

“The inner game of tennis” is probaby the best book I’ve ever read on sports psychology. Give it a shot!

u/a-r-c · 1 pointr/LearnCSGO
u/bwcall · 1 pointr/tennis

I'll suggest a book titled "The Inner Game of Tennis" by W. Gallwey. It's a good short read, and actually helps. You can skip the parts regarding technique, etc. if you're interested in improving your mental approach to the game (the ideas span across tennis as well).

u/HitchHikr · 1 pointr/CrazyHand

The Inner Game of Tennis: The Classic Guide to the Mental Side of Peak Performance

Read this

u/lilolmilkjug · 1 pointr/bootroom

Read up on sports psychology. Being mentally prepared is just as important as being physically prepared. Professional athletes also go through this quite often and teams spend a lot of money on specialists in order to help them get through things such as anxiety. A good starting point is this book.

You can probably find it on a torrent somewhere also. It was written for tennis but is applicable across pretty much anything that requires focus and concentration. Its a deep subject, but if you can read up a bit (not even the whole book, its entire length is only about 75 pages anyways) you'd be surprised at how much you can learn and improve.

u/cty_hntr · 1 pointr/billiards

Since he thinks its mostly mental, has he offered any insight? If you play league, perhaps take a break from teams and play as individual, so you take the pressure off.

Here are some books covering the mental aspect of the game.

u/lonniebiz · 1 pointr/chess

Carlson should read The Inner Game of Tennis, which isn't just for Tennis players and addresses how to overcome such difficulties.

u/Joedang100 · 1 pointr/death

I found this and this to be extremely relevant. I don't know if there is a general solution to being happy, and I'm not entirely sure how I went from depressed to reasonably happy. However, I do think some particular solutions exist.

Because of past experiences, I really don't like the medication approach and I'm glad I could avoid it. But, I'm only a sample of 1 and I can't make generalizations about whether or not professional/medical help is a good idea for someone. I tend to think it's an impermanent solution and that it's more valuable to learn how to make those internal changes on your own. Maybe though, it's more dependent on brain chemistry than I realize and I'm just lucky. It could be that my happiness is a fluke and I don't actually have very much control over how I feel.

The things you want may indeed be unattainable. Some of the things I want may be unattainable. Some of them definitely are.

This is a bit of a tangent, but it's necessary for dealing with seemingly unattainable things. It's useful to think of your self as two parts: a teller and a doer. Long story short, the teller is stupid and needs to shut its mouth. The doer can handle things just fine. This book (full pdf here) elaborates on this idea really well. It's not actually about tennis, of course. Basically, the teller is the one saying things are unattainable or that a social situation has gone to shit, and it's wrong a lot of the time. Even when it's right, stuff is meaningless anyways, so it doesn't cost much to try.

I don't blame you for not wanting to talk about work/family. That stuff might be interesting to the person doing it, but it's kind of lame to hear about. Hobbies work really well for the socialization front. Granted, getting into a hobby requires that you want to do it. I don't really have any extra advice on that. Once you have hobbies though, they're great. My main thing that I do now is really just a hobby taken to the extreme. Talking to people who share the hobby is fun because you can get that "I know, right?!" feeling.

Wanting to do stuff in the first place is the hardest part, or at least it was for me. I can't really give any concrete advice on it. One thing I did was find channels on Youtube where someone uploads on a daily or bi-daily basis and pretend they were my friend. It's kind of pitiful, but I felt better after a while. It probably won't be your cup of tea, but I really like this guy. I found web comics and blogs to also be good in that regard, but they're some special sauce to human faces and voices. The closer it is to an actual conversation the better. I think setting comically low goals and slowly working up to bigger ones also helps.

u/CryptoHiRoller · 1 pointr/Petioles

i feel you. weed, fap, munchies, video games - in that order, is my favorite thing to do. it's amazing, but you gotta have it under control. limit yourself to what you feel is acceptable. i think this book will help you: the daily stoic by ryan holiday

The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living

u/grayson_gregory · 1 pointr/Coachella

Right on! Glad you like it. I really enjoy Aubrey Marcus's podcast and I take away a lot of life lessons from him and his guests. I have not heard the Shane Mauss episode yet, but I have now downloaded it and will check it out tomorrow.
Knowing that you liked that podcast... I would definitely recommend his podcast(s) with Ryan Holliday. He's written such books as Ego is the Enemy and the Daily Stoic and he is a really knowledgeable guy.
You should also check out the live DTFH podcast with Aubrey and Duncan that they did in NY back in January.
Lastly, if you've never checked out Aubrey on JRE, I'd go back and listen to all of those. He's probably been on there 6 or 7 times, and 90% of those are after he's returned from Peru and is essentially giving trip reports after spending days in the jungle doing Ayahuasca, Huachuma, Ibogaine etc...
I haven't listened to the Burning Man episode since it was first released, so I'm not sure about the "wind up toy" but I was planning on re-listening to it this week. So if it rings any bells, I'll definitely let you know.
Hope these recommendations help!

u/Sarzan · 1 pointr/TheRedPill

The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday is also a great resource on stoicism and life lessons. I listen to it often for all the great material within.

u/world_citizen7 · 1 pointr/Advice

First of all, love the you that you are. This is how you are currently wired, accept that and accept yourself. This doesnt mean you dont make an effort to improve, it just means dont think you are 'broken' right now. Based on your description, it sounds like you could benefit from learning and practicing Stoicism. Look at this book and read the excerpts on amazon:


I want you to really focus on self love/self respect (the core of what it means to be confident and secure with yourself). We must understand that as humans we can NEVER be perfect, so therefore perfection should never be the benchmark for our worthiness. Learning from mistakes is the only way that we can evolve our souls. Feeling a lack of worthiness will only result in self sabotage. While feeling worthy and deserving will attract good circumstances and happiness.

You can do this because your life is sooooo with it :)

u/needz · 1 pointr/Mindfulness

If you enjoyed that book, you should look into more books on Stoicism. I really enjoyed this one and this one

u/laowik · 1 pointr/NoFap

Already on a 5-day streak and don't plan on stopping at all. Probably the next time I'll fap is maybe in 10-20 years for fun. But anyway, a little bit of myself and why I'm doing this.

A while ago I purchased a book called The Daily Stoic which gives daily quotes on how to live life in accordance to Stoicism philosophy. I've always wanted to become a Stoic and so I quickly picked up this book with almost no hesitation.

Every page begins with a quote from a Stoic philosopher e.g. Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus, Seneca, etc.

It wasn't until I came to the quote of February 13th, Pleasure Can Become Punishment, when I was really struck:

"Whenever you get an impression of some pleasure, as with any impression, guard yourself from being carried away by it, let it await your action, give yourself a pause. After that, bring to mind both times, first when you have enjoyed the pleasure and later when you will regret it and hate yourself. Then compare to those the joy and satisfaction you’d feel for abstaining altogether. However, if a seemingly appropriate time arises to act on it, don’t be overcome by its comfort, pleasantness and allure - but against all of this, how much better the consciousness of conquering it.

~Epictetus, Enchiridion, 34

After reading this particular quote, I suddenly reflected back on the days I would jack off and realised that I was not a very energetic person. I also came to realise that I was not reaching my full potential as a student and I could not get in the university that I truly wanted. Then I suddenly thought of another thing: there's a subreddit called NoFap.

I went on my computer and read about as much as I could on NoFap. Once I began to find out about the benefits of NoFap was when I soon started to see how all of this made sense. I was drained of energy, tired all the time, had trouble getting up in the morning, had minor social awkwardness, barely studied eventhough I knew I had to, received sort of mediocre grades, among many other things that I felt was wrong with me. I decided at that point that fapping was the main culprit of most if not all of my life's problems and decided to abstain from PMO altogether.

Note that everything I've said above was during my holidays. Later towards the end of this month, I'll be joining a new college with another chance to enter the university of my choice which I previously failed to. I'm gonna have a better social life there and I'll have much more energy to study and become a better person in general.

I've relapsed twice so far and 5 days ago was the last one for as long as I live.

That's why I'm here.

u/martybell · 1 pointr/GetMotivated

This is a wonderful and relevant book by Ryan Holiday: The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living

u/RV_Camping_Nightmare · 1 pointr/Stoicism

I agree with /u/emof - get a modern book that gives context. I like:

The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living

u/PaladinXT · 1 pointr/GetStudying

Although it probably won't help you this term, but in the book How to Become a Straight-A Student: The Unconventional Strategies Real College Students Use to Score High While Studying Less top students typically study in the mornings when their brain is freshest.

u/dleacock · 1 pointr/GetMotivated

I failed my 2nd year of physics and a lot of it was due to poor school habits. This book changed my academic life. I highly recommend.

u/PrettyJokes · 1 pointr/self

Yoooo dawg during my time I struggled too but this book helped alot idk if it'll help u but it certainly made it much more easier to go through n I really can't thank this book enough

u/flipmosquad · 1 pointr/GetMotivated

I challenge you to also do this...

read.. "How to become a Straight A Student"

I wish I did during my undergrad.

u/minamonster · 1 pointr/college

My first two quarters after transferring to my new school went AWFUL. I took 18 units each quarter and ended up with a 2.01 GPA. I realized I needed a change and was pretty desperate to try anything. I looked up how to do well in school and found this book and it had pretty good reviews: How to Become a Straight-A Student: The Unconventional Strategies Real College Students Use to Score High While Studying Less

I thought it would be a gimmick and waste my money. But a lot of the tips helped a lot. This quarter I'm not struggling as much and my grades are above a 3.0.

u/chendricksclone · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Get this and obey. It will help you study efficiently and have free time for fun.

u/Qumbo · 1 pointr/LifeProTips

I found this book invaluable:

It focuses on time management and general strategies for maximizing the value of your study time.

u/bumfluff69420 · 1 pointr/Dublin

I’m guessing you’ll be in the Arts block which means cavernous lecture theatres full of nervous first years. Their biggest fear is the lecturer asking them a question, so they will tend to avoid the first few rows. If you try to initiate a conversation with one of them, even if you just want to ask them what the lecturer said, they are likely to immediately internally combust. Honestly, it’s easier making friends on public transport in London.

Anyway, don’t take your classmates’ paranoia personally. It’s definitely them. People chill out when they get older. In any case, you’ll have smaller classes and tutorials where it’s easier to talk to people. You’ll naturally gravitate towards the people who have more in common with you.

For one of your electives, take a first year course in descriptive statistics. Mean, standard deviation, probability distributions etc. I'm gonna guess that this is not your cup of tea, but the ability to understand basic (but fundamental) statistics is depressingly rare. Statistics is the practice of making inferences where exact knowledge is not possible. It's a life skill. Isn't that what we do every day? It is effectively the maths of philosophy, if that's more palatable.

If you want some practical study / research tips, there’s a good book by Cal Newport that scorns the generic study advice tropes. If you like it, I recommend you read Deep Work too.

Finally, there’s a super (!) blog that attempts to answer your exact question. It’s aimed at finance students, but I think you’ll find it useful :)

Aaaaand that's enough for now!

u/fountainpenguy · 1 pointr/Advice

Read this book. How to Become a Straight A Student by Cal Newport. I linked to a PDF of the book, but you can purchase it here:

u/pizzzahero · 1 pointr/GetStudying

Hey. I'm Canadian so I can't comment in depth on your SAT/ACT situation, I'm sorry. BUT. I do have some words of advice for you.

Have you heard about fixed vs growth mindsets? People with fixed mindsets believe in things like innate talent and giftedness. They say things like "I'm not a math person, and I never will be." If they fail at something, it's because they aren't good enough and they won't be - so it's time to pack up and go home. On the other hand, people with growth mindsets acknowledge the value of hard work. There is no such thing as innate talent or giftedness, and you can learn anything or become good at anything if you put in enough effort. "I don't have a solid foundation in math right now, but with enough practice I can eventually learn differential equations." Here is a link for you about changing your mindset.

Here is a link I found regarding the ACT/SAT thing. You might not go to Harvard right away, but it might be in your best interests to start at a community college and transfer to a big 4 year uni after a year or two. You'll save money and probably benefit from smaller class sizes, which will help your GPA. As far as I understand, once you have so many college credits under your belt, your high school isn't taken into account anymore. I think, anyways. Do some research on that.

Ok. Look. You are very young. Your life is not over or far from salvageable. You can fix this, and achieve the things you want, but it is going to take some discipline. Pick a date when you are going to write your exams, and create a study schedule going backwards. IE. You want to write in May, you have X amount of topics to cover, figure out how long you can spend on each topic if you start next week and leave time at the end for practice exams.

First, in order to do well, you need a really good foundation. Develop good sleep hygiene, eat well, exercise once in a while, drink enough water. Meditation can help with focus. There are lots of guided meditation videos or apps available.

Other things that really helped me study are Cal Newport's blog and his red book. You want to avoid "pseudo-working" (blankly reading over your notes for long periods of time) and instead focus really, really intensely on solving problems or mapping out concepts for a short amount of time. It's hard to do which is why a lot of students shy away from it. Cal talks about this everywhere, definitely worth a read.

You're gonna be fine! Best of luck!

u/SpecialistFact1 · 1 pointr/intj

I break it down to three types of test, and adapt different strategies to approach them.

  1. Multiple choices (mostly social science subjects, psychology, economics, etc). It usually involves a lot of reading and memorization. I read the chapters, take notes, then try to explain the concepts to myself as if I am teaching it to someone else. For memorization, nothing you can really do. There are strategies to help you memorize things easier, like acronyms. Picturing yourself going through the process to link the concepts together.
  2. Short answers (Natural science subjects: Maths, Stats, etc). My personal favorite topic. There is always a right answer. OMG! What a concept. I usually go through the practice questions. For the ones I did incorrectly, I will figure out which exact step I did wrong. I will note why I did it incorrectly and review them over and over, and redo the questions. Basically a iterative process until I can solve all of the problems correctly.
  3. Essays (I was Business Major, I did not take English Literature, creative writing. Personally I hate wishy washy subjects. Like what value are you really adding to the society, so I can't speak to that) For business admin, my exams are all four hour case studies. You really can't study for it. I basically develop a framework on all the potential analysis I need to conduct and derive a conclusion, and subsequent recommendation and contingency.

    General study tips: Planning. I can't get enough of it. I start the reviews two weeks before the exam, allocate the study time into small chunks through out the day, before the exam, I just review the notes and the questions I did wrong during practice and call it a day. One last thing, I don't know if other INTJs can relate to. I always ask myself when studying. What question would the professor ask if I am the professor, and I would ask myself a hypothetical questions, and try to solve it. Sometimes I would contemplate so much on a particular problem and waste a lot of time.

    I read a book called How to become a straight A student, and it helped me a lot during undergrad and masters.

u/Anterai · 1 pointr/books

Good book which i want to get for myself.

But i need something simpler propably.

I was looking at this (sales link warning)

Or something like it

u/not_charles_grodin · 1 pointr/atheism

This is the book you want. Easy to read, easily understood and gives you more than enough strategy to combat any ridiculous argument. Also, any book that can use Simpsons' references to explain classical argumentation in a way anyone can understand gets an unpaid public nod from me - Random Internet User Posting Under a Fake Name

u/yonkeltron · 1 pointr/IAmA

Have you read any of the more recent books on rhetoric and debate? I am referring to books such as Thank You for Arguing and How to Win Every Argument. What do you think of such books? Do you have any texts which you would recommend?

u/Tinytouchtales · 1 pointr/gamedev

Rework absolutly the best book about making a product when not actually about game dev.

u/Elynole · 1 pointr/nfl

I'll throw out some of my favorite books from my book shelf when it comes to Computer Science, User Experience, and Mathematics - all will be essential as you begin your journey into app development:

Universal Principles of Design

Dieter Rams: As Little Design as Possible

Rework by 37signals

Clean Code

The Art of Programming

The Mythical Man-Month

The Pragmatic Programmer

Design Patterns - "Gang of Four"

Programming Language Pragmatics

Compilers - "The Dragon Book"

The Language of Mathematics

A Mathematician's Lament

The Joy of x

Mathematics: Its Content, Methods, and Meaning

Introduction to Algorithms (MIT)

If time isn't a factor, and you're not needing to steamroll into this to make money, then I'd highly encourage you to start by using a lower-level programming language like C first - or, start from the database side of things and begin learning SQL and playing around with database development.

I feel like truly understanding data structures from the lowest level is one of the most important things you can do as a budding developer.

u/dave250 · 1 pointr/startups

A few books that I absolutely love are; Good to Great, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (this isn't exactly a business book, but a lot of the principles in it help you be a better leader/person which is extremely important when running a business) and Rework

u/mybizz · 1 pointr/NewBusinessOwners

If you haven't read Reworked you should check it out. Jason never took investment money for 37 signals and built a business making millions a year. I highly recommend his book.

u/BravoMath · 1 pointr/Entrepreneur

I'd say start with Steve Blank and Rework.

I'd also suggest you share more about your business idea so we can give more specific help.

Don't worry - the chance of somebody dropping their entire career and life to steal your idea is negligible; the expected value of specific advice massively outweighs this risk. :)

u/valerogg · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Absolutely This
Read it

u/RPeed · 1 pointr/askMRP

Oh I typed all this for you my dude but these dastardly bullies caused you to delete it.


Hope it benefits you or another ENTP stoner:


What caught my eye was the Myers-Briggs test: I also (usually) test ENTP. Just wanted to say I think the Reddit subs seem to do it a serious disservice:


A) It is a management tool. It is not meant to enable some rando's life as a lovable eccentric. You should be shoring up the weaknesses it shows, not jerking off to how creative you think you are (not that you can stop yourself amirite? Ha!), and

B) It is not a tarot card reading of your soul. I get profiled regularly, by professionals, using whatever method is in vogue at that moment and while I absolutely see the value in the tests, it is limited, it is contextual and it will vary over time.


It is not so much "revealing" your personality as a prediction of how your behavior will manifest in a given context. MB being particularly general. For example, all my ENTP result tells me is that RIGHT NOW, I likely have too many projects going on and/or am managing my time poorly.


So based on your results, I would recommend you get out of your comfort zone and focus on active productivity exercises. Far from being something unsuited to you: they are likely just what you need. Anytime I dial this in tight, my life has a night and day improvement.


7 Habits is the granddaddy of course.

Unchained Man has a great time management system. Actually he refers back to Covey's 7 habits and explains why and how he updated the principle for a digital era. The rest isn't "bad" but its pretty standard 4HWW/TRP/Digital nomad type stuff. You could literally read Chapters 8-11 and get a great deal of benefit.


4HWW fuck I hate this book. And it's probably dangerous for lazy fucks. But Ferriss has nuggets of good advice on productivity and time management.


More conceptual reading:

Do the Work;

The War of Art;

The Power of Habit;


On Form - some tips, although heavily weighted to glorify salaryman life;

One Minute Manager;

Extreme Ownership has helped a lot of dudes here. Personally I despise wading through the military waffle for two or three pages of content but the message of owning every aspect of your life and not accepting low standards from yourself or others is good (Hint: that means after you quit weed, (after a reasonable interval) you can and should expect your lazy wife to too).


Corporations have invested a great deal of time and money in training me but honestly most of the valuable things I implement are on that list.


Atomic Habits is on my current reading list. Check out this post (and comments) with some concepts from it.

u/dat_ninja · 1 pointr/mentors

One of the least expensive, and possibly most valuable, items you can own for your business. I can't recommend it highly enough.

u/princeoprinces · 1 pointr/Entrepreneur

Also, their book Rework is amazing. Definitely a must read.

u/Kaizenlives · 1 pointr/productivity

I thought Rework was a great read. It in and of itself is a productive book with the chapters being super short and to the point lol. But it's catered more towards business and startups so just depends what you're looking for.

u/finchak · 1 pointr/Entrepreneur

Rework. after 4 years undergrad b-school + 2 years top 20 MBA b-school, best biz book i ever read

u/heropsychodream · 1 pointr/jobs

I agree with you on some businesses requiring low financial capital to start. I read The $100 Startup to learn about that, but I found that many still require cultural capital or social capital. Also, too many of use can't afford to spend the time associated with failing and would rather spend time trying for standard jobs.

u/rjander77 · 1 pointr/MidAgedEntrepreneur

The $100 Startup

I have a business degree. You know what I didn't learn with my fancy degree? How to start a business. This book does that.

Lots of case studies. I guarantee after reading this you'll have a dozen ideas you can't wait to try.

u/PackingLite · 1 pointr/Entrepreneur

I just read the $100 startup very interesting read

u/a5s_s7r · 1 pointr/business

It's just a book recommendation:

I did not read the whole way through it, but it's for sure the little money it costs. ;)


u/FireOpal · 1 pointr/startups

Just bought this book-- may be of some help:

With free webframes, you can start a web business for almost nothing. Check it out!

u/xlance · 1 pointr/Entrepreneur
  • Get some work experience
  • Talk with interesting people at work/school etc
  • Read books! I think these two will be a good start for you 100 dollar startup / Millionare Fastlane (Cheesy title, but really good book)
  • Dont try to invent the wheel for your first startup

    And sometimes you just need to go for it, and dont listen to everybody elses advice.
u/LangdonAlger88 · 1 pointr/startups

Honestly, check out The $100 Start Up. It's pretty straight forward and has some cool stories of people starting up businesses with little to no capital and experience, just doing what they love. I'm about half way through and I find it really interesting and refreshing from other business books I've read.

u/matters123456 · 1 pointr/Entrepreneur

This question is so hard to answer because you could write whole books on the subject.

My first recommendation would be something that pays you more than unemployment. Second, spend some time reading books about shoestring entrepreneurism: A really popular book is the The $100 Startup. A lot of people don't actually like the book, but it will answer your questions fully and the author is a smart guy (and a great marketer).

u/EdwardVayne · 1 pointr/financialindependence

Your post made me think of $100 startup. I'm not sure if it's something you are open to, but could you keep your same job and start a side hustle doing programming or datascience work? Something else you could bill hourly at your own discretion? Give the book a shot if you think so.

u/camerondare · 1 pointr/StopGaming

Let's continue to refine it together. I need a few more weeks to finish a few things I'm focusing on but then we can really dive in and see how we can break it all down and make it easy to digest.

I definitely want to dive into the social community aspect more and the identity side, two components which I believe are very strong in why we play.

For Bali (or travel in general...) it's all about perspective. A villa in Bali is around $300-400/month and food is cheap (like a dollar for a bowl of Pho). It's completely realistic to live in Bali for $10/day. To live really well (like a King) it would be less than $1000/month.

So if you want to go and not work for six months all you need somewhere between $1800-$6000 + flights (one way from Vancouver to Bali is about $500).

Now the benefit I have is that I'm still able to work while I travel (I have a few streams of income:

  • Coaching through Kingpin Lifestyle (been doing that for over six years)
  • Freelance/Web design. I outsource projects I find through friends/family. I also write for and get paid for it.
  • I have a food blog with my mom called Wheat Free Mom. She does recipes I do everything else.
  • A friend puts on an event called The Higher Purpose Project and I've helped him out with finding attendees for a referral fee.

    It all compounds. Thankfully I've been doing this for awhile so it comes more naturally now, but it's something you're definitely able to figure out if you dedicate time and effort towards it.

    The key is to develop different skills you can offer to people as a service. This is the difference between a friend of yours saying they need a website and you saying: "Ya... a website is something good to have." compared to you saying: "Oh ya? I could probably help you with that.." The next thing you know you've sold a website for $2000 and by outsourcing the project you end up with $1000 for sending a few emails and overseeing things. :)

    Here are a few good resources to start with if you're interested:

  • The $100 Startup by Chris Guillebeau.
  • The Art of Non-Conformity by Chris Guillebeau
  • The 4 Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss
  • Tim Ferriss' Blog
  • Chris Guillebeau's blog
  • Sean Ogle's blog: Location 180

u/8uniqdesign · 1 pointr/smallbusiness

I believe the majority of the business owner does not come from the business background, some start with the hobby sell the hobby stuff, some start to sell stuff with the friends.

I would recommend you to understand the business,
I start my business with this book >>> <<< $100 Startup.

u/itschrisreed · 1 pointr/Filmmakers

To avoid copyright infringement you can't use anyone else's copyrighted work, like music or images without clearance (paying them for it and getting the documents in writing).

To monazite it you can look at youtube ads, you can promote products as an amazon affiliate, you can set up premium content that you sell, you can build a brand and sell t-shirts or whatever. Lots and lots of ways. You should read The Four Hour Work Week [referral link] and the $100 Start Up [referral link] for ideas and systems you can use.

u/FourFootDangler · 1 pointr/soccer
u/Mugilicious · 1 pointr/The_Donald

>No way pal, trumps not cutting no deals

How retarded are you? Be honest.

u/flyinglotus1983 · 1 pointr/PoliticalHumor

You didn't respond to any of the documented bits about Hillary's campaign ('henchmen' in Trump's language) spreading the birther and 'dressed' obama photos -- which she did. So either you're conceding that point or don't believe it, you'd have to choose to ignore many mainstream (liberally-biased I might add) reported exactly that. So which is it? It's not revisionist when you admit that Mark Penn, Hillary's chief strategist during the 2008 presidential elections, wrote a strategy memo that blatantly tried to push the fact that Barack Obama was Un-American.

So let's go over this line by line:

> Even the MSNBC Show Morning Joe admits that it was Clinton's henchmen who first raised the issue, not Donald J. Trump

That's factually true, here's the link to the video: -- John Heilemann, the co-managing editor of Bloomberg Politics, and a polytical analyst for MSNBC confirmed it on air. Even Snopes manages to admit this! "That Hillary Clinton supporters circulated such an e-mail isn't in question"

> In 2011, Mr. Trump was finally able to bring this ugly incident to its conclusion by successfully compelling President Obama to release his birth certificate.

That happened.

> Mr. Trump did a great service to the president and the country by bringing closure

Being that being born in the United States is a requirement for being the United States President, it was a great service. This is a government for the people, by the people. We deserve to know.

> to the issue that Hillary Clinton and her team first raised.

Here's where I think you and others start getting upset. Snopes claims that Andy Martin started it in 2004. I don't buy it, because that was in 2004, and nobody in America knew who the hell Barack Obama was in 2004. I follow news very closely, I have for my entire adult life, and I didn't hear about Barack Obama in the national light until 2008 when he ran for president. No one outside of Chicago or Hawaii had probably ever heard of him other than the most connected and/or informed. Joe Sixpack didn't know who Barack Obama was in 2004. When he decided to run for president, most people started hearing about him at that time, probably right before the Iowa caucases, and definitely right after when he won it (IIRC). This is precisely the time in which Hillary Clinton moved in and according to every resource I've cited above, her campaign started spreading this birther controversy, while she herself stayed out of it to create plausible deniability. THAT, I would argue, is more sick, vile, and non-virtuous than what Trump did. Trump owned it, he's always been his brash self. Hillary's campaign at that time, and even now, is baced on deception. She says one thing and her campaign does another. THAT's revisionism. Her gaping flaw, however, is that she's not savvy enough to realize that the alternative media that she does not control will call her out whenever she tries shit like this. And that happened -- although people like you still refuse to admit it.

> Inarguably, Donald J. Trump is a closer. Having successfully obtained President Obama's birth certificate when others could not,

That happened, Barack Obama did eventually produce a birth certificate, the guy is a closer. He knows what he has to do in order to get the action he wants out of someone.

> Mr. Trump believes that President Obama was born in the United States.

Here's where I start rolling on the floor laughing. Donald Trump knew that CNN wouldn't cover his one-hour event in Washington with a bunch of veterans and war heros endorsing Trump, in Trump's newly opened hotel. When the Trump campaign tweeted that he'd be releasing "something big" and started spreading rumors that it was about the birther controversy, guess who showed up and filmed the entire 1-hour event live. CNN. I listened to it live on the radio, it was 95% an endorsement for Donald Trump by some of the most highly decorated service men this country has. The last thirty seconds of the event, Donald Trump comes out, says Hillary started it, I closed it, Mr. Obama is born in the US, let's move on. Boom, done.

At that point, CNN realized that they got punk'd. Donald Trump literally baited CNN to cover an event FOR FREE that they didn't want to cover (they hate him and do not want him to win, that's been admitted -- they have clearly been campaigning for Hillary this entire time). He did this under budget and ahead of schedule. They were expecting him to bring the issue back up, but he closed it.

4D chess.

now, literally, you've got Don Lemon tweeting out that it was a stunt (it was). And this makes CNN look bad. Lemon is insulting Trump for getting free publicity, and you've got Don Lemon and CNN calling people deplorable, racists, xenophobes, etc, which sounds MUCH mroe insulting to me. That's ammo Trump will use later.

Like him or not, he knows how to play the media. Which is exactly what he did.

Note that he does not always say the truth but rather what the media will pick up on. That's not 1984 level revisionism. That's just a clever tactic he uses to get free publicity as an underdog who is not as politically connected as Hillary Clinton is (who, by the way, was discovered to have been feeding CNN talking points for favors, to make her look better -- this was discovered in the DNC Leaks). You've got Donald Trump, a media outsider, going up against a very corrupt Washington insider who uses money and power to get the media to make her look good and others bad. What the fuck else is this guy supposed to do? Just cry and lose?

How do I know all this about him lying to the media for publicity? He literally wrote the book on it. He's been using that same tactic for years.

You cannot call what he's doing 1984 because he DOESN'T WORK FOR THE GOVERNMENT. He's not hiding the misdeeds of the government. He's playing the crooked media like a fiddle -- and even so, he WAS STILL CORRECT about Hillary's campaign being the first to bring it up in 2008.

So there you go, QED. You're respectfully wrong, this isn't funny, it's not 1984-anything. Refute my reply or concede.

u/Exodus111 · 1 pointr/politics

The Art of the Deal, by Donald J Trump. Or how to trick people to giving you what you want, by telling them what they want to hear.

u/Tsorkin561 · 1 pointr/h3h3productions
u/MAGABMORE · 1 pointr/baltimore
u/HisNameIs · 1 pointr/AskTrumpSupporters
u/TheIslander829 · 1 pointr/politics

> By making our relations with China so bad they'll cut us off

You really think one of the most successful negotiators in history is going to make a bad deal with China?

This guy literally wrote a #1 Bestseller book on how to make good business deals.

u/ownworstenemy38 · 1 pointr/Guitar

A piece of advice I had when I was younger and wondering how long it takes to get a piece right...

"A good musician practices until they get a piece right, a great musician practices until they can't get it wrong."

I suffer greatly from stage fright. That piece of advice helped more than any other as if you practice enough (and I mean just at the point you figure you're done practicing, go over the piece another half dozen times!) you can rely on muscle memory to get you through.

That meant that I could play pieces through despite my nerves and actually enjoy playing to the point that I could think more about performing the music rather than just playing it.

A great book on this topic is 'the Inner Game of Music' by Barry Green

That's a great read and fullof insight on this subject.

My girlfriend does ballet but doesn't perform. However, she was in a show shortly after we met and texting me about how nervous she was before she was going on stage. I simply said "Nerves are natural. Just remember, you have practiced - you know the moves and your body knows what to do." She said that immediately calmed her down and helped her focus.

Hope some of that is useful.

u/BradAllenDrums · 1 pointr/drums

Your welcome! Glad it helped. The relaxation thing is something most drummers don't want to hear because it seemingly has nothing to do with music. It also makes people feel weird or self-conscious. But it absolutely works.
There are several books on the subject that really helped me.

One other thing I wanted to mention is the concept of dancing and drumming. There is a direct connection between the two. In Bob Moses book Drum Wisdom, he states that it behooves all drummer to dance. I tell tell students, if you're embarrassed about dancing in front of people go in your bedroom, shut the door, and dance. Again, this makes people feel weird, but it works. You don't have to be a good dancer. You just have to learn to relax and move with the music.

u/gtani · 1 pointr/jazzguitar

Maybe you're just burned out a bit and need to take 1-3 days off. Happens:

Maybe these books might give you a perspective, Werner and Galloway/Green. You might think Werner's really out there (practice long tones on piano?), but take his book as a source of questions to shape your thinking, rather than necessarily the right way to think about being a musician

u/aderra · 1 pointr/WeAreTheMusicMakers

Many people find [THIS BOOK] ( to be helpful when taming nerves at auditions.

u/iaintnoporcupine · 1 pointr/classicalmusic

I haven't tried beta blockers due to other health problems, but The Inner Game of Music helped me greatly. It takes a few months to really work through all of it properly, but now I can use that kick of adrenaline to perform even better. It's worth a read, even if you still decide to use beta blockers.

u/RonPolyp · 1 pointr/WeAreTheMusicMakers

I highly recommend a book called The Inner Game of Music. It's a short read but it has excellent methods for overcoming inner demons like self-doubt and exaggerated self-criticism. It's not "I'm okay, you're okay", either. It also helps with practicing, performance, composition, all sorts of things. And it can be applied to more than just music.

u/cratermoon · 1 pointr/classicalguitar

While that's mostly true, there are good reasons to add exercises that 'distract' the conscious attention from focusing on correcting and criticizing technique. Barry Green's book The Inner Game of Music discusses in depth how out thinking and judging attention can interfere with learning and suggests the kind of exercises that can overcome the interference.

u/shaansha · 1 pointr/Entrepreneur

u/Timsheljane - Thanks for this question and for opening up about a challenging situation to the r/entrepreneur group.

I am a man and have not personally dealt with this situation. I wish I had some personal experience or perspective from my female friends to share.

Have you read Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg? Her book doesn't address this topic explicitly but she does talk about themes that are similar to this situation.

u/KarenBoBaren86 · 1 pointr/relationships

You should read "Lean In" by Sheryl Sandberg.

I don't want to be a parent, but I've found lots of professional inspiration from that book, and as she is an extremely successful working mom, she writes from that perspective, and about her having children while being professionally ambitious.

If your career is the only reason you don't want to have children, it's worth checking that book out. It's hard for me to tell if all your fears stem from being an "absent working mom" stereotype, or you truly don't want children.

I'm similar to you in some ways, however. Six or seven years ago I knew I wanted children, and now the older I get, the more I enjoy my life as it is and don't want to introduce an unknown variable. My now-husband was always "meh" about the idea, so for him it was more of a relief when I decided I definitively do not want children. I'm only a year older than you, but that feeling hasn't passed. I really like my life how it is right now! And deciding to not procreate isn't selfish at all, and don't let people tell you otherwise. Selfish is creating another human being just for your own vanity.

But you're also right in that if he really wants children, he will resent you if you do not want them and never change your mind. For both of your happiness, it may come down to you having to cut him loose for both of yours happiness. You both deserve partners who are on the same page. Sorry I don't have any definitive advice.

u/shannonbananon2 · 1 pointr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

It's a stuff

The only way to safely have lorises as a pet is to remove its poisonous teeth which may or may not cause a slow, painful death :C

Thanks for the contest!

u/CaptainMeta · 1 pointr/TwoXChromosomes

If you haven't already, you might be interested in Lean In, which touches on several of the issues you've mentioned (including crying at work) and is just a great book in general.

u/snappyj · 1 pointr/discgolf

I used to feel the same way about things before meeting my girlfriend. We have been together 5.5 years and live together, and in that time, she has convinced me to really take a hard look at things (including reading a book on feminism, of which I would recommend at least the first couple chapters to everyone). Yes, some people are hypersensitive, but they are generally outnumbered by people who are offended and say nothing.

This is the book, for anyone curious.

u/nastyamerican · 1 pointr/instant_regret
u/GreenVoltage · 1 pointr/TheGirlSurvivalGuide

Here are some biographies that have just what you're looking for! Biographies sound boring, but you won't be able to put these ones down I promise!:

u/Cityslickahh · 1 pointr/smallbusiness

The book is actually by Sheryl Sandberg and I got a lot from it as well!

As you read this book, keep in mind the perspective of who is writing it. Sheryl is the COO of Facebook, a billionaire, Ivy educated for both undergrad and MBA, etc etc etc.

I really enjoyed the book and it was truly inspiring--but it is from a pretty skewed perspective.

My personal view is this....
Nobody on Reddit knows you better than you do. There are a lot of questions you should be asking yourself and discussing with your husband to get his view. Here is what comes to mind for me:

  • Does your age play a role in the timing of the baby (i think you have a lot more time to decide if you are 28 instead of 38), and if so, have you discussed with your OB and/or husband?
  • Do you think you can do both at the same time?
  • Would you be able to have your baby with you in your baking space?
  • What would happen if you did lose some of your customers or your business suffered from extra time the baby is taking from you?
  • Do you rely on this business as a major component of your income for your family?
  • Do you make enough income from your business that it would make sense financially to put your child in daycare? Even if you don't, would you still want to focus on your business and have your child in daycare?
  • Aside from your business are you financially secure enough to have a child?

    Truth be told, there are a million ways you can make this work. I think one thing you will get out of "Lean In" will be the sense that you can or simply will make it work.

    Don't forget to give yourself love and care during the process of starting your family--I think it is all too common for mothers to bear the lion's share of the familial burden.
u/vdp08 · 1 pointr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

Way to keep it simple. :-) Thanks so much for sponsoring a contest!

This would be absolutely awesome, and something I've been wanting to read since it came out...

Thanks again for doing the contest!

u/jurl · 1 pointr/nba

The two most important things to do to break into the industry is to network and to build a portfolio of tangible work. And when I say networking I don't mean sending out resumes and business cards but rather building relationships. I highly recommend reading Keith Ferrazzi's "Never Eat Alone" True relationship building is essential in such an insular industry as most opportunities are not listed publicly. It is through your relationships that you learn of most opportunities and it is through those same relationships where you can get credibility via recommendations. And whether you want to go into coaching, scouting, or even analytics you are best served by actively doing those things. Even if it is just summer basketball or middle school any coaching is experience that can help you get better. If you want to be a scout go scout the high schools and colleges near you. You will improve as a talent evaluator while simultaneously building up a portfolio of tangible proof of your knowledge, skills, and abilities. If you want to do analytics then start running studies on various things that could help a team improve. I hope this helps.

u/iddoy · 1 pointr/IAmA

First of all, are you actually a writer or not? Figure this out. Are you writing right now? Do you like it? Do you like to express ideas, etc? This is a big part of it. Find that out now by doing a lot of work-- I wish I had figured this out long ago.

Once you have this done, then it's about connecting to existing networks of people. Everyone that I met that helped me out, I met online. I began knowing no one, in another country (Canada), with no education or anything. So honestly, this sounds impossible but it's actually quite easy.

Build a network of valuable people around you. Here, read this book. It's not bullshit.

u/H3lius · 1 pointr/asktrp

Before we talk about girls, let's talk about you. "Alpha" men don't exist, it's a mindset anyone can have.

"I get awkward as fuck in social gatherings and would rather just spend my time by myself." -- This indicates to me that this should be your area of focus. Force yourself into awkward situations until they aren't awkward anymore. Your emotional immune system is a muscle, you need to flex it. I argue that success is the 80/20 rule, 80% social skills, and 20% intelligence/knowledge in the field.

A book to help:

Think of it has a game. You're awkward in social situations because either you're not turning it into a game and you don't know the rules, or you're too concerned about what people will think about what you say. If you're genuinely just really bad at talking to people, take the former perspective and start reading books on influencing people or becoming a good story teller: Then start executing them in situations. Force yourself into meetups for things you like.

Also, RSDTyler has some really good videos recently about all of this. Check out his youtube channel.

Check out TRT too:

Reminder: You have a need to be loved, for emotional connection, etc. You DON'T need this specific girl for this, but she can meet your needs IF YOU'RE SETTING EXPECTATIONS for the relationship.

Before I got into my current LTR with a really RP woman, I asked her where it was going. I expressed my needs, and got hers. I set expectations, but remained as confident as I could with "outcome independence" as some call it. This might be unattractive to some women, but REALLY attractive to some. I don't like people wasting my time, so I started doing this. I can get a random hookup if I want to get laid, I don't concern myself with what a girl thinks about how I set expectations for a LTR. They want it or they don't, period. "I'm the catch" mindset helps here.

See, love goes away. Once the initial rush of a relationship is gone, if you two cannot meet eachother's needs, than the relationship falls apart. Just like you couldn't meet your X's sexual needs while you were deployed. She had someone else meet that need.

It's hard, and you might risk losing this girl. She may say "I'm just looking for something for the next few years, then I'm planning on moving to X, etc" (filling her need for a fuck or emotional connection). Are you willing to move with her or not? Are you sure you'd like to follow and not lead? Is she willing to sacrifice her goals in life to settle down and have a family with you? If she can't meet your needs, why keep her around? There are PLENTY of other girls out there that can meet your needs.

I'd argue that girls don't realize that they aren't going to be happy pursuing their goals in life that aren't related to having kids and raising happy and healthy kids. Getting a nursing degree, sure, go for it babe. But at the end of the day, I'm going to want kids in the future and you better be ready to drop EVERYTHING for us to do that. Again, "love" is relative and meaningless in the long term. You can either show her over time by being a really confident leader (alpha), or find someone that wants to have kids and stuff right now and not waste your time. The former is in my opinion not the right option.

Write down a list of YOUR needs. Narrow them down to their root needs. For example, you don't have a need for X to love you, you have a need for LOVE (ignore the fact that love is subjective for this example). Or take it further and write you have a need for physical closeness or trust with someone instead of "love". That you consider that to be part of love as it makes you feel good. Regardless of length, get it down on paper or in Evernote. If you're not willing to confront this new girl with your list of needs and ask her for hers, than just observe her actions and figure out her needs on your own (this wastes time, and it seems like you've spent plenty of time already on girls). If she's not right, MOVE ON. It sucks, I totally get it. But at the end of the day you are still the "gorilla", just smarter and more motivated/clear with intent.

Summary: Focus on you, your needs, and stop looking for a magic pill or the right advice from other men. Figure out what YOU want in life, and be a man that sets expectations and leads the direction of his life.

u/nick632 · 1 pointr/AskReddit

You know those books that make people lots of money?

They're called best-sellers. Not best-written, but best-sellers.

Think about that.

Also, read and and treat this job as your chance to learn how to fill people's needs. Yes, you're selling car chargers and blue tooth headsets, but someday those skills could go to schmoozing with business owners/decision makers to land a job or project.

Not that you aren't, but the sooner you treat everydays' experiences as learning exercises towards greater goals, the more awesomer your life will be.

u/crappyboy · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Also, relevant.

u/jl4855 · 1 pointr/PersonalFinanceCanada

pack a lunch every single day.

then again i'm reading 'never eat alone' right now.

u/JordenMichelle · 1 pointr/AdviceAnimals

Pick up a copy of What Color is Your Parachute?. It's updated every year!

u/Jimmy__Switch · 1 pointr/CFBOffTopic

I read this one, but there are many identical books that I imagine are just as good. This one is also very good general career search handbook.

u/rabbitdawg01 · 1 pointr/personalfinance

The bureau of labor statistics is always updating their career outlook and I believe you can filter by region so it would help you based on where you currently live.

What color is your parachute helped me back in my mid 20s understand what I enjoy and what makes me happy and I've been able to turn that into a career. It might be worth a read at your age.

There's been a couple articles recently talking about the growing job market for clean energy jobs. It's a highly politicized topic so I won't get it that here and the article below does include a political slant but there's some good info there regardless.

u/potterpockets · 1 pointr/politics

Read this and you can!!!

u/hopelifegetsbetter · 1 pointr/The_Donald

by the book, no really go buy it! ^^*I_Agree_With_Ya

u/beebeebeebeebeep · 1 pointr/politics

Well, this family does have a history of poorly written books.

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u/balancedben · 1 pointr/MGTOW

48 not 38. lol i need to read it. he's wrote other books that people rave about as well.

u/Porkinscrash · 1 pointr/TheRedPill

Read, "The 48 Laws of Power". If you are a history buff and want insight on how to gain power, this book is for you! One of my personal favorites.

u/octopus10 · 1 pointr/ChineseHistory

Yes! "Well-rounded" is a great way to put it. A leader who had a favorable ("favorable" is subjective, I know) balance between certain traits. Balance is key here.. Take a trait like ruthlessness for example:

Genghis Khan killed 40 million people in his campaigns across Eurasia, right? Massacring, torturing, executing, and enslaving the whole way.

Was all that necessary? I'm actually willing to admit the possibility that it was, as a matter of strategy. Chapter 15 (Law 15) of Robert Greene's book The 48 Laws of Power is called "Crush Your Enemies Totally" and discusses just this sort of thing. So I would not necessarily begrudge a leader taking a violent approach to securing their empire.

Now take, on the other hand, a leader like Timur aka. "Tamerlane", who was sort of Genghis' successor in a way. Tamerlane's death toll was only about half that of Genghis', but ~19 million deaths is still nothing to sneeze at. Timur's conquests were also run in the same sort of ruthless fashion as Genghis' (executing 100,000 captives in the 1398 Capture of Delhi, beheading 70,000 after the Isfahan revolt, etc).

Does this make Genghis Khan twice as ruthless as Timur? And if they happened to have racked up the same death toll, would that make them equally ruthless?

I believe the thing to consider is what else each leader brought to the table for their people and the world AND if, or to what degree those merits offset their ruthlessness. Again, this gets pretty subjective and philosophical (but I am asking for opinions, after all :-)).

So, for example:

One of Genghis Khan's main motivations for his campaigns (and I do think motivations behind actions are important) was to open up trade routes for the good of his people. In fact Genghis Khan is credited with bringing the Silk Road under one cohesive political environment, and this kind of environments may have had a positive impact on other civilizations as well who collaborated in trade using the same routes. Khan also replaced cronyism with meritocracy, which was a plus.

This was decidedly not the case for Tamerlane, who seems to have had much less noble motivations. By certain accounts "Unlike Genghis Khan, however, Timur conquered not to open trade routes and protect his flanks, but to loot and pillage." Besides being a military genius, positive light in Tamerlane's corner seems to be rather sparse.

Obviously this is a comparison between two historic leaders that I don't know if anyone would have as candidates for the very best leaders of all time but my point here is that there are certainly some solid metrics by which leaders can be praised or denigrated. Was there a boom in the economy when a leader rose to power? Was that a coincidence or because of some economic reform they enacted? Was there a dramatic fall in crime? Did their rise to power result in a fertile environment of innovation and literary/artistic/philosophical/scientific achievements? and so on. We can use historical data in context along with the same metrics that we could use to judge leaders today.

Thank you for the input.

u/JustinJamm · 1 pointr/LifeAfterNarcissism

Much of my knowledge about this is from reading good stuff on the subject. Relationship principles books and such. As I've done what I can to identify specific instances of each book's content in people I know, I've been able to build a better understanding of how people "tick."

Here are some examples of good ones, likely you've heard of one or two:

I've also read a whole bunch of Christian-authored material on the subject (both high and low quality) but I think some of the language/theological content gets in the way if it doesn't match a person's life-philosophy going into the book. I can share those if you're interested though. =)

u/monkeyboy888 · 1 pointr/melbourne

The 48 minute abs of Power!

Just remember us little people when you stage your first coup...

u/more_lemons · 1 pointr/Entrepreneur

Start With Why [Simon Sinek]

48 Laws of Power [Robert Greene] (33 Strategies of War, Art of Seduction)

The 50th Law [Curtis James Jackson]

Tipping Point:How Little Things Can Make a Difference and Outliers: The story of Succes [Malcolm Gladwell]

The Obstacle is the Way, Ego is the Enemy [Ryan Holiday] (stoicism)

[Tim Ferris] (actually haven't read any of his books, but seems to know a way to use social media, podcast, youtube)

Get an understanding to finance, economics, marketing, investing [Graham, Buffet], philosophy [Jordan Peterson]

I like to think us/you/business is about personal development, consciousness, observing recognizable patterns in human behavior and historical significance. It's an understanding of vast areas of subjects that connect and intertwine then returns back to the first book you’ve read (Start with Why) and learn what you've read past to present. Business is spectacular, so is golf.

To Add:

Irrationally Predictable:The Hidden Forces that Shape Our Decisions - [Dan Ariely] (marketing)

The Hard Things About Hard Things - [Ben Horowitz] (business management)

Black Privilege: Opportunity Comes to Those Who Create It - [Charlamagne Tha God] (motivation)

The Lean Startup: Use Continuous Innovation to Create Radically Successful Businesses - [Eric Ries]

Zero to One: Notes on Startups, How to Build the Future - [Peter Theil]

u/charlesbukowksi · 1 pointr/socialskills

There's a book written for people on this subject.

Read that book. Internalize that everyone is out for themselves. Even those who do things "for others" really are doing it for the satisfaction it gives them and they are no more responsible for their good deeds than they are for being born with their inclinations and tastes.

u/AndersonCouncil · 1 pointr/history

Not an exact answer, but if youre interested in this you should check out "The 48 Laws of Power" by Robert Greene. One of the most interesting books I've ever read, even after reading it maybe 10 or 15 times. The title might seem like it doesnt suit your interests, but for every law there are 2-5 or 6 historical anecdotes that show mistakes and successes administered throughout history. I really couldn't possible "pimp" this book enough.

u/drawingroomgentleman · 1 pointr/TheRedPill
>Law 48: Assume formlessness
· By having a visible plan you open yourself to attack.
· Stay adaptable and on the move

Also consider reading the whole sidebar, include the references contained in the assorted links. There's a fair amount of good stuff, and it will shed light on much of the discussion.

u/vitalysh · 1 pointr/IAmA

hmmmm maybe 48 Laws of Power? Tried to find 50 Laws of power, and only results that came up are crappy 50 Cent tracks.

u/flduckhunter73 · 1 pointr/smallbusiness

I highly recommend reading two books asap:

  • How to win friends and influence people
  • 48 laws of power

    These two books have both shaped me tremendously in terms of how I interact with an treat people and making those changes has only changed my life for the better both in business and personally. The first one is a more positive restore your faith in humanity type and the second is a more ruthless Machiavellian type but they both take an insightful look at people and how they influence each other. They also can both help guide you in decision making in certain situations.

    Other than that, just relax, enjoy the ride, and do your best. Confidence is key.

    Bonus book (nerd alert)

  • The joy of game theory
u/hanus_man33 · 1 pointr/psychology

Kinda practical, not sure if it's quite what you're looking for-The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene

u/torchlit_Thompson · 1 pointr/AskReddit

The 48 Laws of Power

Enlightening as to just how degenerate most people really are...

u/roughback · 1 pointr/Anger

I used to have much worse anger than I have now, here's some things I was living with that made me lash out.

  • My diet was horrible and I could polish off a case of mountain dew a week
  • I was "stuck" in a repetitive job that made me love that NiN song "every day is exactly the same"
  • I tried to do the /r/NoFap thing to improve my productivity and blah blah, without working things out with my gf first. Non regular sex + no beating off = anger
  • I was a beta pleaser to my girlfriend, who was stuck in this phase of writing covert contracts with others - basically I did nice things for people until it hurt, and wondered why they didn't reciprocate, and then got angry when they kept on taking. People will take if you are giving, that's just the nature of the world.
  • I let my health slip until I hated my body, which further fueled the anger.
  • I was a part time beta orbiter to a female friend who I never approached and resented as she rode the cock carousel - basically another "covert contract".

    Over the space of a year or two I cleaned up my diet, reached for better opportunities at work and began to try and show my eagerness for advancement (ie: instead of asking for a raise I asked to be part of projects that would get me noticed)

    I fapped when i wanted to, which took the stress off of times when my girlfriend wasn't in the mood and made things overall more light hearted when she was in the mood.

    I started to reward good behavior and ignore/punish the bad in every aspect of my dealings with other people. I stopped believing that the world owed me something, and instead realized that it's a dog eat dog world, and if you do good things for yourself, the rest of the world respects you more than if you do good things for them.

    Went to the doctor, he told me that I had to lose weight, and I did - dropped 40 pounds.

    I laid off on my friend who I was covertly coveting, and just let life go on it's own path for both of us. I stopped trying to be someone else, and just realized that real friends are friends naturally.

    I also read books like "the 48 laws of power" and checked out subreddits that are about men empowerment like /r/TheRedPill and /r/MGTOW

    tl;dr: self improvement made anger not necessary.
u/bala-key · 1 pointr/PurplePillDebate

> Always hide your work. Women don't want to know how hard you work for anything.

Law 30: Make your accomplishments seem effortles

u/Robot_Embryo · 1 pointr/politics

You've never heard of The 48 Laws Of Power?

The 48 Laws of Power

u/fuckyomama · 1 pointr/history

48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene

It's not exactly what you're looking for but it does give a bit of backstory and context to some of the most influential people in history.

Very Machiavellian in tone which can feel a bit cynical at times but nonetheless a fascinating read...

u/csiscool · 1 pointr/UIUC

Edit: I would note that I definitely agree with the other posters' comments on hard work/merit of your work. That's a big element! I just thought I would address your question from another angle, since they already covered the other important elements. :)

Original comment:

Academia + research involves a fairly significant element of relationships and/or politics, which may seem insincere. You could look into books on navigating relationships and/or office politics. Many extroverted or popular people fake it until they make it. That is, treat everyone as if they are already your buddy, and soon they will be.

I’ll list a few books below that are solid regarding navigating relationships and politics... but I would also note that different environments have different politics. (academia has different politics than a corporation, for example)

And if you don't like politics or managing office relationships, you could start your own business. I don't know whether you are an introvert, but I think introverts benefit from owning a business, because there is no stress from trying to anticipate office politics.

Good luck!

Helpful books: (I recommend “How to Talk To Anyone” to start)

Introvert entrepreneur blog:

u/quiksilvernyc · 1 pointr/NoFap

Hey Jernest,

Whenever you get the time, you should buy this book from your local store and read it. Its a life changer.

u/Asmul921 · 1 pointr/history

The 48 Laws of Power By Robert Greene is an entertaining read. He kinda sells it as a modern version of Sun-Tzu's "Art of War" but he illustrates each "law" with a handful of detailed historical stories.

For example law 20 is "Do Not Commit To Anyone" and he illustrates this by telling how Queen Elizabeth used her status as an unmarried monarch to manipulate suitors from other nations into doing favors for England, by telling how Isabella d'Este lead the Italian city state of Mantua through a complicated web of alliances by maintaining neutrality, and how Charles Maurice Talleyrand the French diplomat successfully served under Louis XVI, the revolutionary government, Napoleon, and Louis XVIII, without losing his head.

Each story is only a page or two at the most, and the book is filled with them. I like them much more for the historical anecdotes than as some kind of a modern Sun Tzu.

u/MangoTango54 · 1 pointr/Entrepreneur

10x Rule 10x

The E-Myth Revisited E myth

48 Laws Of Power 48 Laws Of Power

u/archonemis · 1 pointr/conspiracy

What you're dealing with:

>Without Conscience - Dr. Hare

>On Bullshit - H. Frankfurt

Their methods:

>48 Laws of Power - R. Greene

>The Art of War - the Sam B. Griffin translation is the best

u/conspirobot · 1 pointr/conspiro

archonemis: ^^original ^^reddit ^^link

What you're dealing with:

>Without Conscience - Dr. Hare

>On Bullshit - H. Frankfurt

Their methods:

>48 Laws of Power - R. Greene

>The Art of War - the Sam B. Griffin translation is the best

u/TheEthicalEugenicist · 1 pointr/The48LawsOfPower

I picked up this book three years ago and recently found out it was released two years before I was born. I sometimes read the new reviews on Amazon or the comment section in this video to see peoples first reaction to what they learn.

It puts into perspective how limited my understanding of the world is.

Like what other things am I missing out on?

u/AskWhatNext · 1 pointr/personalfinance

I have three recommendations. The first is The Coffeehouse Investor by Bill Schultheis.

The second is Your Money or Your Life on financial independence.

And third is totally self serving but if you have an entrepreneurial bent then What Next: A Proactive Approach to Success by this humble responder might be of interest.

u/masterdebaater · 1 pointr/financialindependence

Check the sidebar for this book and others. You really ought to read this and The Millionaire Next Door.

u/Nodoxxintoxin · 1 pointr/PurplePillDebate

It was written many decades ago, and the actual investment advice was very much tied to the times, but the philosophy is still valid, it is entitled “Your money or your Life” .

MMM (Mr Money Mustache) blog and forum are somewhat international, but English speaking based. The blog is a great resource for understanding the math behind savings rates and time to retirement

This guy is a little too out there for me, but Jacob Lund Fisker. Aka “early retirement extreme” or ERE, is a Scandinavian guy who lives by extreme frugality
He has his own website and forum too

u/ohwowohkay · 1 pointr/leanfire
fairly certainly that's the one OP was talking about

u/thethax · 1 pointr/Frugal

Give this a spin.

And in keeping with the spirit of the exercise.. check it out from the library instead of buying it.

u/El_Poopo · 1 pointr/Frugal

I know several people who have been saved from ruin by this book: Your Money or Your Life

I've read lots of personal financial management books and it's my fave by a healthy margin.

u/Subject_Beef · 1 pointr/howtonotgiveafuck

If you have time, I highly recommend reading Your Money or Your Life. It helps to put career and money into perspective with your priorities--including your treasured relationships. If you and your gf are on the same page about your goals and values, then your relationship will grow stronger, and you'll be less likely to make a fatal mistake that ends up destroying your relationship because you'll be focusing on doing things that actually make the both of you happy.

u/racl · 1 pointr/personalfinance

I’m really glad that you’re being honest with yourself, introspective and detailed with your relationship with money. There are a lot of fantastic recommendations already so I won’t belabor the point.

However I’d like to recommend two books that may be of great use for you:

  1. Your Money or Your Life by Vicki Robbins ( The other posts in this thread have great tactics and suggestions that I wholeheartedly agree with.

    In addition to implementing those tactics, I would encourage you to read this book which does a wonderful job of also adding more logic, data, perspective, “oomf” and meat to the feelings of “this has to stop” you currently have. It’ll be a book that helps your attitude stay changed if you are tempted to relapse.

  2. I Will Teach You To Be Rich by Ramit Sethi. The title is rather flamboyant and lame. The content is not. Ramit is a Stanford grad son of Indian immigrants who takes a no-nonsense and often hilarious attitude to writing about getting your shit together when it comes to personal finance. It has a fantastic list of tactics, strategies AND philosophical frameworks to think about money contained in it. Really worth the read. Get the 2nd edition (recently released) since it has about ~80 new pages of content that covers some of the newer fads (e.g., roboinvestors like Wealthfront and the like).
u/m741 · 1 pointr/Frugal

Read this book: Your Money or Your Life

Really think about what money means. In your case, you're spending an hour of your time in exchange for $10. But it's probably less than that, because you're wearing out clothing, spending gas to commute, maybe paying taxes, etc. So let's say you're spending an hour of your time for $7.

So if you spend $21 on something (movie tickets, let's say), that means you're spending about 3 hours of your life for that thing (in addition to the time at the movie). Maybe that's worth it - or maybe it's not.

u/bghanoush · 1 pointr/Economics

Get a general investing book, as well as a book on investor behavior/psychology. Finally something on market history to help you realize that this time is not different during the next downturn.

general: The Four Pillars of Investing, by William Bernstein

behavior: Why Smart People Make Big Money Mistakes, by Belsky and Gilovich

history: Capital Ideas, by Peter Bernstein

A Random Walk Down Wall Street is also quite good -- a combination of general and historical. I also really liked Wise Investing Made Simple, by Larry Swedroe -- but only as a second or third book, not the primary one.

Dave Ramsey and Suze Orman are great for personal finance, but don't follow their investing advice. Ditto for Your Money or Your Life.

u/flashbang123 · 1 pointr/asktrp

Compound interest is the closest thing to magic in this world. You need to at least learn the very basics of investing. Check out r/financialindependence and read this and this.

Never stop exercising. Start doing 5x5's if you aren't already. If you have time to watch TV you have time to lift.

Don't waste your time and attention on mental opiates. Kill your facebook account. Fuck social media.

u/KickAClay · 1 pointr/personalfinance

Congratulations and great tips!


Some things I've learned in life so far as well (maybe it will help others too):

  1. If you have debt, use a debt snowball calculator to get rid of the smallest debts first (as it feels like you're getting somewhere). On my last debt now, excluding my mortgage. Feels so good!
  2. Read/Listen to Your Money or Your Life by Vicki Robin.
  3. Automate as many bills/debts as you can (using things like Bill Pay or ACH at your credit union). Once my account sees by paycheck deposit (into spending account), it sends funds to my mortgage, bills, savings, other savings, and groceries accounts. The remaining is what I have each week for gas, eating out and "fun" money (~$100/week. I try to not spend it all and then I put more towards debts). This requires a budget. I have a debit card for bills and spending, and use the bills card for auto charges like Netflix, Utility bills...
  4. Look around for better deals on your utilities every year or sooner. I have saved over $2k in the last 1.5 years from just calling/chatting with my cell provider on a regular bases. Also, my trash company has matched any deal I can find, then beat it. I've cut most of my bills by 25% or more, just making calls.

    Best advice I got from my dad when I was a teen:

    "Dad, Im scared to get a CC."


    "Because it puts people in debt!"

    "Come with me..." [walks me to bathroom mirror] [points at me] "THAT'S who you should be afraid of! You have the control." AKA don't spend what you don't have and you'll be just fine. Hell, it worked. I think the most I had on a CC was $3k, which was due to both cars breaking in the same month.
u/TheRearguard · 1 pointr/investing

Here is a random article I found about stock simulators.

How do you like to learn things? There are tons of books, podcasts and blogs about investing. Here are some popular ones or ones that I have read and used

  • Books
  • Blogs
  • Podcasts
    • Money Tree Podcast -- pretty poor production quality but good general stuff.
    • There are tons of others, Google it.

      Warren Buffett famously/supposedly read every book in the financial section at the library by age 12--I think the important thing to take from that is you are still young and have tons of free time and aside from starting to invest as soon as you can (you can usually start as soon as you have earned income) you should be investing in yourself...getting good grades, figuring out what you want to do after high school, trying out businesses, learning marketable skills (e.g., coding, good writing skills, good interpersonal skills, good organizational skills, etc).

      Good Luck!
u/SisyphosOnTop · 1 pointr/asktrp

Set yourself a goal and then follow up on it mercilessly. Easier said than done.

Man I wish someone told me to read these three books when I was 17:

u/dequeued · 1 pointr/personalfinance

Your Money or Your Life? It's usually not a red cover, but that's the only one that comes to mind. Here's the Amazon page.

Also check out the reading list linked by AutoModerator and read the FAQ, especially "I have $X, what should I do with it?".

u/longlivedasset · 1 pointr/personalfinance

Read and listen to Dave Ramsey if you want to be "good" with personal finance.

If you want to "optimize" finance, then come hang out with us in r/financialindependence

Podcasts: ChooseFI, Afford Anything

Blogs: Mr. Money Mustache

Books: Simple Path to Wealth, Your Money or Your Life, Millionaire Next Door, The Richest Man in Babylon


Some pointers:

  1. Don't do what most people do. Chances are, they know less about personal finance than you do.
  2. Spend based on your value (within your means of course), not based on the percentage of income.
  3. Don't spend money to impress others.
  4. If you think 20's is time to spend every penny to have "full" experience, look at this chart.

u/Enphuego · 1 pointr/personalfinance

You should start with Your Money or Your Life. That's the only book I've read that really helps you to make a budget that's designed to maximize your own personal goals.

That book paired with A Boglehead's Guide to Investing will put you both on a sound financial footing. Then you can decide if you want to see the financial adviser.

u/feralfinds · 1 pointr/personalfinance

I recommend this book:

It's not just budgeting, but helps you get at what kind of life you are trying to create and how that matches up with how you are currently living. Each chapter has assignments and lots of stories/examples.

u/josh2485 · 1 pointr/personalfinance

Check out Your Money or Your Life: 9 Steps to Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Achieving Financial Independence: Fully Revised and Updated

Great book. Don’t forget to budget: (awesome) and are good rescoures for budgeting.

u/ducknalddon3 · 1 pointr/Frugal
u/RepairmanSki · 1 pointr/AskReddit

This is probably the best book I have ever read regarding money.

It deals very specifically with what you talked about, your relationship with money. I strongly recommend it. I've talked to hundreds of people in your situation and have yet to have anyone come back years later without tales of woe and regret that they "shoulda listened."

Please, be the first.

u/tufty_thesinger · 1 pointr/financialindependence

You'd probably benefit from reading Your Money or Your Life. Chapter 6 or 7 deals with redefining your relationship with work. There's an argument to be made that differentiates between paid employment and work. It goes something along the lines that we do all sorts of work every day: from cooking, cleaning, and learning to higher level concepts like raising a family and contributing a community. Recently, we've elevated money as the reward from work ignoring the less tangible rewards from those other forms of work.

u/MrFitzgibbons · 1 pointr/personalfinance
u/yolfer · 1 pointr/personalfinance

Good question! First off, I feel that retiring at 50 is an honest goal for me, since like any other goal, I have a realistic plan to make it happen, and key metrics to track my progress. I'm using the plan described in Your Money Or Your Life.

I plan to do volunteer work, and (at the same time, if possible) bicycle touring. My wife wants to sail around the world. At least we have over a decade to figure it out.

We live very frugally, by choice, not to deprive ourselves in the present in order to retire sooner. We're a family of 5 and our monthly expenses are about $8k/month. I figure when it's just the two of us, they'll be around $5/month (in today's dollars).

Current savings are in the low 6-digits. 401k and Roth IRA, invested in Vanguard's Target Retirement 2040 Fund.

I guess my original question is what investment strategies should I use to "bridge the gap" of about 15 years between when I retire and when I'm able to draw out of my 401k and Roth IRA. (I'm able to draw the principal out of the IRA at any time, right?)


u/Doctorblackjack · 1 pointr/DecidingToBeBetter
u/yber · 1 pointr/books

I found Thank you for Arguing quite useful.

u/Filmore · 1 pointr/books

I randomly read part of it at a store once. It's a fascinating overview of the art of rhetoric and it's applications in society. It uses examples from George Bush, to Abraham Lincoln, to Aristotle, to Homer Simpson to reiterate the key concepts of classical arguing.

u/SkepTickTickTickTock · 1 pointr/moderatepolitics

I didn’t even know we were in a competition :)

But in all seriousness, it would literally be impossible for me to lose considering you already lost after your use of ad-hominems. All I can suggest is get better at making good arguments, then you won’t have to do that. Look! I even have a book to suggest that you can read to help you out with that!

You’re free to run along now :)

u/cavedave · 1 pointr/logic

This is a question about rhetoric. Rhetoric is generally based on logic, ethics and emotion.

Rhetoric is less related to pure logic then many think. Even a fully 'logical' argument would be damn hard to break down into propositional logic for example. NLTK has some discourse semantics engines if you are a programmer and interested in this area.

In terms of actual argument a book like 'thank you for arguing' might be of more help then a fully logical textbook. If you do want to study logic there are many threads on this sub asking for book advise.

u/gh3ttoduCanada · 1 pointr/army

Thank You For Arguing by Jay Heinrichs.

Book answer of Leadership is "Influencing people by providing purpose, direction, and motivation."

Ergo, having a solid foundation in rhetoric, in my opinion, is tantamount to being a gooder NCO; in line with management and expertise (subject matter/technical/MOS & soldiering).

u/PantsUpD0ntLoot · 1 pointr/army

Thank You for Arguing
This is a great read.

u/oaklandskeptic · 1 pointr/skeptic

Pick up a copy of Jay Heinrichs "Thank you for Arguing"

It's not going to bog you down with the esoteric aspects of logic (and if that is what you are looking for I still suggest starting here because of its great quality of writing and lay tone.)

Just clean simple explanation of the structure of arguments, fallacious reasoning and how to think about thinking. Plus its funny.

u/Pander · 1 pointr/IAmA

Rhetoric, probably. If you want to persuade people to do as you will, it's called rhetoric. Thank You For Arguing is a good (nonacademic) read for that sort of thing.

Philosophy, on the other hand, is devilishly hard to get absent good teachers. There's a lot of material written as and marketed as philosophy which is just terrible. Nothing like taking actual classes (even just community college classes) to get something out of stuff. If you're nice to your prof and not a complete idiot (you'd be surprised how many people manage to fail that test), they'll help you find stuff suited to your interests.

u/evil_twinkie · 1 pointr/wheredoibegin

Thank You for Arguing was pretty good. I'm no expert in rhetoric but I think it's an interesting subject. I had an english professor whose focus was on rhetoric, and he had us read this book.

u/misplaced_my_pants · 1 pointr/Physics

Unpaid internships are essentially slave labor, or at least indentured servitude. That's a terrible idea.

I'm not sure what you would describe as your dreams, so I'll give you a possible alternative track for a possible set of goals that may or may not coincide with yours.

Let's say your goal is to get a well paying job and have a reasonably deep understanding of physics. Perhaps you'd also like that job to be intellectually stimulating. Here's a rough outline of what you could do to accomplish that:

Before college

You're in 7th grade. First step, use this collection of links on efficient study habits to destroy and master your school work (check out Anki, too). At minimum, treat school like a day job. (Hopefully you'll have great teachers that teach you a love of learning and a value for a well-rounded educational base that includes the sciences, arts, and humanities.) Do all the exercises from Khan Academy from the beginning to fill any gaps in your knowledge and use sites like PatrickJMT, Paul's Online Math Notes, BetterExplained, and MIT OCW Scholar to supplement school and KA. Also, read these two books.

Once you've got school under control and are getting the most of what's available to you through that avenue, use the Art of Problem Solving Books to get a vastly deeper understanding of precollege mathematics. I'd say it should be a higher priority than learning calculus early in terms of ROI, but you can learn it if you want to.

See if you can find a group near you to train for a Math Olympiad or similar competition (like the ones listed on AoPS). Aim for the gold, but realize that it's unlikely and the real prize is how the training will bring up your mathematical maturity so you can tackle evermore challenging problems, concepts, and subjects.

Also, use sites like Coursera, edx, and Udacity to teach yourself programming. Once you've got a reasonable handle on programming, check out a site like Topcoder and maybe try to compete in the Coding Olympiad. Also, mess around with a Raspberry Pi.

You could also check out any big research universities or even decent state schools in your area. They often have youth outreach like summer camps for kids who love math to come and learn things not usually taught in schools. You could also see if there are any researchers willing to take on a hard working and science-loving high school student for a research project (this is how most of the winners of Intel science competitions get their start).

College (Undergrad)

If you've done the first paragraph of the previous section alone, you should be able to get into any top 20 program in the country without any trouble. Chances are you'll be competitive for most Ivies and top 10 programs. Do any of the stuff beyond the first paragraph, and you'll be a shoe-in with a huge advantage over the overwhelming majority of college applicants in the country. The link about scholarships in my earlier comment will guarantee that you get a free ride. Also, read this book.

So now you want job security and financial security. Any sort of engineering would do, but I think you'd be more interested in computer science so let's say you do that and double major in physics.

Every summer you do paid internships for CS at various software firms for work experience. This will be the best way to make sure you are extremely hireable after graduation for lucrative positions with interesting work as a software engineer. That's Plan B.

For physics, you find a lab that does interesting work and start doing undergraduate research. You might change labs a few times to find a better fit. You might stick with the first one until graduation. Doesn't really matter as long as you gain real research experience.

You also study your ass of for the Physics GRE from your first semester. A few hours per week you do problems from old tests from subjects as you learn them. As in, do mechanics problems your first semester, do mechanics and E&M problems your second semester, do mechanics and E&M and thermo and optics problems your third semester, etc. (This may be different depending on how your school organizes its physics curriculum.)

You talk to your advisors and grad students and fellow students and professors about applying to grants and graduate school. They'll be able to give you actual advice tailored to your situation.

Either in the spring of your junior year or the fall of your senior year, you take the GREs and apply to graduate programs in areas that interest you and apply to grants to fund you and wait for the offers to return. Assuming you've followed my advice, at least some of them will contain acceptance letters with details of stipends. More than likely all the acceptance letters will include stipends you can live off of.

If you just get rejected, you'll at least have a BS-worth of physics knowledge and have experienced real research and can go off and enjoy your well-paid life solving interesting problems as a software engineer.

Or you can try and get a job at a national lab somewhere putting your physics background and programming chops to work and just apply again another year while saving up more money.

And all of this was debt free because you had the forsight in high school to apply to hundreds of scholarships.


Also, read this thread on what it takes to kick ass at MIT. The post and the ensuing discussion should drive home what you could train yourself to become. (I think the reply by the twin is particularly enlightening.)

You can either shoot for the stars and hit the moon, or you can read magazine articles about gravity on the moon.

u/hawt · 1 pointr/math

Check out the book "How To Be A Straight A Student" ( it literally saved me in college because all through high school I made straight A's and B's without ever taking notes or studying and developed a lot of bad habits.

The note taking method mentioned in there is great.

u/incognitoshadow · 1 pointr/college

one of my family friends recommended this book to me after I shared that I did poorly second semester. I read it start to finish the week after the semester ended and implemented some of the time management and study techniques in the book, and did much much better the following year. I'm in my third year as well, and I sort of relapsed after becoming too comfortable with my classes this semester, so I'm gonna give it another read to motivate myself to finish strong. good luck to you and happy Thanksgiving!

u/LNhart · 1 pointr/neoliberal

I can fully reccomend this book:

It sort of touches on what you're talking about. And it's very popular at the moment, so everybody should read it, anyways.

If you're struggling academically, this book in college after I had never studied for anything in school and thus not built any learning skils or habits:

But there really are no easy fixes. I know it's a cliche, but it's true.

u/askinnydude · 1 pointr/college

I would recommend this book: see if your library has it. It's a "how to college" book that talks about time management, study skills, that sort of thing. It's not quite what it advertises itself to be in the title, but I think it would be useful for you.

I would second /u/SmellsLikeDogBuns (interesting name), and encourage you to attend community college. It's cheap, you can easily fund it with Pell Grants and working a part time job, and getting into a four year school as a transfer student is much easier.

> What's the process of applying to a school like? SATs and things like that?

The school's website will list the requirements. There's an application you fill out (either school specific or the common app), and then they sometimes want test scores (SAT, ACT). US News' rankings are the most commonly used for finding the "best" schools, but your local community college would not be a bad place to start.

u/wibblett · 1 pointr/ADHD

This booked help me out a lot you should check it out:

u/terpwisdom · 1 pointr/UMD

How to Become a Straight-A Student: The Unconventional Strategies Real College Students Use to Score High While Studying Less
by Cal Newport

u/antonivs · 1 pointr/Bitcoin

> So far, past performance has perfectly predicted future results

No, it hasn't. This is the precise error that the original quote is intended to challenge. You've basically been fooled by a correlation into thinking you have a useful indicator.

The claim you're making relies on hindsight to adjust for errors in the prediction, and to select which features of past performance should be extrapolated.

For example, looking at the Bitcoin price chart right now, there are two obvious major trends: one is a steady and consistent downtrend that began on Dec 4 and predicts that the price will hit $200 by October; the other is the uptrend that claims that the recent trend is part of a correction that will reverse and continue its upward climb.

If past performance were really a predictor, you should be able to predict when the current downtrend will end. Want to take a stab at that, so we can check how well this really works?

There are also other trends that can be drawn, depending on where you start from and how you fit your predictive curve to the data. With enough parameters, it's possible to fit any curve to a given dataset, and make it look like you've found a predictive formula. But it's only predictive for the past. But exactly the same is true for the simplest curve-fits.

A good introduction to thinking properly about such things is Taleb's book Fooled by Randomness, which among other things, "examines what randomness means in business and in life and why human beings are so prone to mistake dumb luck for consummate skill."

> this is subject to change in the future.

Then it's not a predictor. It's as simple as that.

u/CarlSagan79 · 1 pointr/investing

The author of this book would argue otherwise.

In it he basically says the only difference between the "unsophisticated investor" and the hedge fund manager is that the market simply hasn't caught up to the hedge fund manager yet.

u/Jhsto · 1 pointr/algotrading

Monte Carlo can take your historical data and then use the distribution to pick out values which could have had happened in the past. Say, if the distribution shows that there was an equal chance of the price increasing 1 dollar during a minute as there was a chance of the price decreasing 1 dollar a minute, then MC can flip a coin in the past and thus create a different kind of market history. You can thus play out events which were probably going to happen, but for some reason, such as randomness, never did. You may thus find that your strategy was either over- or underperforming in the timeline which is considered the real market history -- if you let out the price history play out more enough times, you will find variations in which you had astronomical gains and ones in which you were margin called every day. The idea is to find where exactly are you sitting with it currently.

Markov Chains then improve on the Monte Carlo by creating the possibility of occurrence of values which never were in the original distribution. In other words, this lets you play out timelines which are considered impossible by the historical data. This may further help you solidify your strategy even for the unlikely.

A book which introduces you to the importance of MC using an exhaustive amount of anecdotes is for example:

u/bayesian_acolyte · 1 pointr/nba
u/chopthis · 1 pointr/poker

The better question to ask is why do you need this in the first place? If you were playing good and running good your mental game would be fine. The only thing that affecting poker player results are playing bad or running bad. Playing bad can be fixed by analyzing hands, reading good poker books and training. The effects of running bad can be lessened by understanding probability and randomness better. Running bad shouldn't really be an issue if you are bank rolled properly because if it is, then you are playing bad.

Most poker players that I know that are always frustrated or constantly tilting are almost always playing at stakes their bankroll doesn't support.
If you are using the 100 times big blind and 25 buyins recommendation, you shouldn't really have a mental game issue because you should be able to absorb the variance.

Mental Game Books

  • The Mental Game of Poker

  • The Poker Mindset

    More understanding about probability, randomness and focusing on the present can be helpful. If you understand those more it should help your mental game. I would recommend these books and at least understand their central points:

  • The Power of Now - relates to poker because the hand you are playing now is the only hand you should worry about. There is no last hand. Each hand is a clean slate. Focus on the present hand.

  • The Drunkard's Walk - relates to poker because whether you double up and lost two buy-ins could just be randomness.

  • The 80 / 20 Principle - relates to poker because 80% of your wins or losses will most likely come from 20% of hands played. Thus making hand selection important.

  • The Black Swan - one "black swan" situation could triple you up or make you lose your whole stack. Typically this means knowing when to fold big hands like AA or KK.

  • Fooled By Randomness - relates to poker because you could win the main event and millions of dollars and still not be a good poker player. The poker gods and luck could have just wanted to hang out with you for a week.

u/ElecEng66 · 1 pointr/NEO

There are two kinds of people that use these TA (Technical analysis) tools in my experience, those that get lucky and think they know what they are doing and those who lose on the trade/s and then say something like "Oh, but if I had used a 10 period moving average instead it would have worked" and keep trying.

Might as well read the entrails of a dead animal, even then you will still get lucky sometimes.

Others will have a different opinion.

Humans are hardwired to be fooled into seeing patterns in randomness - Nicolas Taleb wrote a very good book about it "Fooled by Randomness: The Hidden Role of Chance in Life and in the Markets"


u/SkyMarshal · 1 pointr/politics

Standard Shipping was only $3.99 for me (to HI no less), might be worth not buying something else.

But here are a few suggestions anyway:

Fooled by Randomness: The Hidden Role of Chance in Life and in the Markets by Nassim Nicholas Taleb (Paperback - Aug 23, 2005)

The Black Swan: The Impact of the Highly Improbable (Hardcover) by Nassim Nicholas Taleb (Author)

I ordered these recently too, but haven't received them yet. The idea of shifting the entire tax burden from production, saving, and investment to consumption intrigues me:

The FairTax Book by Neal Boortz and John Linder (Hardcover - Aug 2, 2005)

FairTax: The Truth: Answering the Critics by Neal Boortz and John Linder (Paperback - Feb 12, 2008)

u/LieGroupE8 · 1 pointr/rational

> What do we mean by "complex systems"? As in complex-systems theory?

Yes, complex systems theory (the study of ecosystems, economies, chaotic systems, etc).

> Got a book you can recommend?

If you read one book by him, read Antifragile. The Black Swan and Fooled by Randomness are also good.

> You can suggest it in an open thread.

On /r/slatestarcodex or on the actual Slate Star Codex website?

> You can just tag him and see if he responds.

I tried this last time, but he didn't reply. Here it goes again: /u/EliezerYudkowsky

u/parcivale · 1 pointr/

Fooled by Randomness has helped me to more often see the fallacies of inductive reasoning that are at work everywhere around us.

u/mattschinesefood · 1 pointr/TooAfraidToAsk

Your Money or Your Life was a pretty good book that explained this well. The audiobook is narrated by the author and if given the chance, I'd hold her underwater until the bubbles stopped. She had the worst voice I've ever heard.

The Millionaire Fastlane was also a readyy good read. Highly recommended.

The Millionaire Next Door was a fantastic read and the book that got me started thinking about financial independence and the concept of FIRE. It's a bit dated (late 90s I think) but still some amazing information in there.

Check us out at /r/financialindependence and /r/leanfire. If you haven't, definitely visit /r/personalfinance and check out the sidebar and wiki - there's some AMAZING information and guides for all ages and walks of life.

I wish so hard that I found out about this stuff and had the resources available now when I was 18, and not when I turned 31. But oh well, such is life.

/u/typhuslol do feel free to PM me if you want to chat! I'm happy to share the lessons I've learned in the past few years of pursuing financial independence!

u/tonyf007 · 1 pointr/personalfinance

I suggest you give this book a read. Cheesy title but packed with eye opening content. I wish I would have found it at your age.

u/Wilyside · 1 pointr/Construction

Agreed. Certainly nothing easy about it. And I'm sure if you asked your friend if it was really that easy to turn a single check into a million dollar business, he probably would say it was easy.

I would suggest taking some time and making sure you have a handle on where this is going to go long-term and what it's going to take to get there.

I read a book, Millionaire Fastlane. I actually pulled out his major points and dumped it into a spreadsheet to 'grade' my business. I do it every few months, just to make sure what I'm working on is still in line with my plan. Asks some good questions like how it going to scale, USP's, ability to automate, etc. Good stuff.

u/greatteamwork · 1 pointr/LifeProTips
u/mossyskeleton · 1 pointr/findapath
u/jpecon · 1 pointr/LifeProTips

Yeah, almost exactly what Cal Newport found.

u/ImpishGrin · 1 pointr/getdisciplined

Read So Good They Can't Ignore You. It covers a lot of the material discussed in this thread. Hopefully it'll help you out.

u/fapstronaut24601 · 1 pointr/StopGaming

You're still in college? Then I would recommend:

And sign up for /r/NoFap and similar subs for any possible habit that you've evaluated as not being helpful for a good life.

If you have extra time, invest it in yourself. Study so that your next test is 98% instead of a 95%. Review last years material so it doesn't float away from your memory. Just take your major seriously, college isn't for drinking or parties. It's for getting a good job and getting laid :)

If you need help, imagine that fapping or playing videogames is the evolutionary equivalent of the pussy dude who went to pick berries with the women while men went hunting. Which guy do you want to be?

u/dee-mgp · 1 pointr/StudentLoans

What works in the real world is specialization. Learn one thing really well that people are willing to pay for.

Focus on one skill that is useful in new economy. Web development is one of those skills. There are others but web development is the one I'm most familiar with because that's what I do and I've researched the industry.

Why does this strategy work? Because of the 10,000 hour rule.

Here are great books on this subject:

Also spend 1% of your time planning and 99% of your time doing. Why? Because planning is guessing.

u/yushinokamithankyou · 1 pointr/Stoicism

Just because someone is full of themselves doesn't mean you can't learn from them. And it's not tailored to exactly to being a college student but I found he goes out of his way to make the over-arching principles clear.

I'm a college student too in a field fairly similar to yours. I don't know if you're a big reader, but this is another great book that has a lot of research into people who get to the top of their fields versus people who stay mediocre. It was written by a guy who has a phd in comp sci from MIT and wrote a book while doing his dissertation:

Just a recommendation, best of luck with it.

u/d_sarif · 1 pointr/singularity

PLEASE read this book, it really changed the way I think about making career decisions. (Guy who wrote it has a Ph.D from MIT and is a professor at Georgetown.)

u/_bartleby · 1 pointr/financialindependence

That's okay, it was a formative experience. No sense beating yourself up about the past as long as you can learn from it.

It's good to keep all of these FIRE principles in mind, but don't obsess over it. Look for jobs that will help you gain new skills, specialize in something useful, and open more doors than you could have before. I recommend the book So Good They Can't Ignore You to help guide your search.

Specifically, you should sit down with every person you know who has a full-time job and ask them:

  1. What is your job? What are you responsible for, and what do you do every day?
  2. How did you get to where you are? (You can just say that question specifically--gets some interesting responses!)
  3. What do you think I would be good at? Do I remind you of anyone you know whose job you think I could learn more about?
  4. Can you recommend someone else with an interesting career or life that I can talk to?

    Rinse and repeat. There are so many millions of different jobs in the world that you can't possibly learn about just from reading. Your primary purpose here is to learn about different jobs and how people got them, but this kind of networking will also help you get a job should you decide to apply to any of the places these people work. Networking works best when you aren't asking people for anything--but there's no reason you can't go back to them weeks or months later and say, "Hey, our conversation really inspired me. I noticed department X is hiring for position Y. Do you happen to know anyone over there I could speak with to learn more about it?" etc.
u/gigaberry · 1 pointr/Futurology

Disruptive technologies move more slowly through the government because there are no alternatives - there's no Uber that can replace city hall itself. Individual jobs and technologies can be automated, but the structure is slow to change. However, you can't rely on a government job to shield you from the consequences of automation. The economy's going to take gargantuan, disruptive hits in the near future, and government positions are affected directly by the economy.

Consider that the government accounted for one third of all job cuts in 2011. After the 2008 recession, the government cut over 750,000 jobs in 2009 alone.

If you want a great job that allows you to make an impact and have a safe income, you of course need to consider your industry. However, the only way to truly insulate yourself is to develop skills that are valuable. There will surely be economic turmoil in the future, and you need to make sure you're valuable enough to be able to navigate those choppy waters. Become an expert in doing things that people need, and you'll stay in the game far longer than people who chose simply to get into a "safe industry". Checkout Cal Newport's book "So good they can't ignore you" for more in depth advice on how to pick a career and produce immense amounts of value.

TL;DR: No industry is safe. Regardless of industry though, top experts will be the last to be automated. Get great at something and you'll be alright.

u/BriceMo · 1 pointr/Showerthoughts

100% true. This is not a thing to wonder about. Source:

u/Zartonk · 1 pointr/getdisciplined

Be good at something!

I just started reading a book called "So good they can't ignore you", the author's premise is that "Passion comes after you put in the hard work to become excellent at something valuable, not before."

u/owlpellet · 1 pointr/cscareerquestions

I've been a product lead on public-benefit tech for ~10 years. We [work on things like this] ( day to day. We build neat things, sometimes well. You should join us!

Here's some groups to get your brain working:

u/Your_Roaring_20s · 1 pointr/financialindependence
u/tralfaz66 · 1 pointr/needadvice

What are you good at?

A friend recently posted a book to my FB wall. The gist was "do what you are good at not what your passion is" You can be passionate about listening to music, but that won't pay even minimum wage.

u/harimau22 · 1 pointr/LosAngeles

Check out this book that might help you in the transition and think about your skill set and where you might want to go:

The author has a good blog as well (, currently focused on "Deep Work" (his newest book).

u/raorao · 1 pointr/cscareerquestions

bootcamps are helpful in building your professional network, teaching you modern web development practices, and learning how to market yourself as an engineer. Is that worth ~$12,000? maybe, maybe not. It definitely works for some people, though, and usually for people who are motivated and excited about starting a new career.

...and you don't sound that motivated or excited. One book that I wish I had when I was going through my post-college meandering was So Good They Can't Ignore You, which is one of the best big picture career books out there (admittedly, that's faint praise). The basic premise is that the advice of "follow your passion" is mostly bullshit, and that hard-earned craftsmanship is the key to long-term professional success. As someone who's been working for now for ~10 years, his advice really resonates with me.

u/buggy-cyborg · 1 pointr/DecidingToBeBetter

This might not be the kind of thing you're looking for, but I'd definitely recommend this book for college students. Seriously. It changed the trajectory of my life.

u/RMillz · 1 pointr/careeradvice

2009 B.S. in Psychology here. I was the same way. I loved learning about Psychology, but never wanted to go into it as a profession.

I wouldn't worry so much about finding something directly related to Psychology. I haven't had a job yet that required a degree in Psych and I probably never will. The most important thing is that you graduate and make connections.

Every step I've taken in my career has been made through connections. Your network is more important than your degree.

Also, a friend of mine recently led me to So Good They Can't Ignore You. It describes a method of finding the right career in a way that makes sense, I think.

Good luck, fellow Psych major!

u/heyImMattlol · 1 pointr/financialindependence

You can't really control bad coworkers or bad bosses (which will ruin any job no matter how much you love the work).

But you should read "So Good They Can't Ignore You" (Amazon link) The author proves that the commonly held belief of "follow your passion" is actually really bad advise. You can find happiness in about any career as long as you gain unique skills, have autonomy, and are working on something meaningful/impactful.

u/UnicornsPoopSkittles · 1 pointr/Career_Advice

There's this book called So Good They Can't Ignore You, you should check it out. It basically talks about how skills trumps passion in the quest for work.

u/kisskissbangbang99 · 1 pointr/mexico

Acerca de la "pasión", checa este libro que curiosamente alguien posteo aquí en r/Mexico :')
Yo estaba igual que tu, pero este libro me ayudo!

¿Ya le has comentado a tu mamá cuáles son tus metas?, ¿o qué quieres hacer?

u/VodkaHaze · 0 pointsr/badeconomics

If you want an actual non-prax answer, Picketty's C21 is where to go. If you want to be spared 700 pages of pain, here is a toy model to explain it:

We can simplify this and say that social mobility depends on one's "rank" in an ordered list of all individuals in a given society. Of course, social rank doesn't just depend on wealth (there are other measures of influence) but wealth is a decent proxy to start.

How much income does one make in his own lifetime? That depends really on what you do to earn wealth. If you work for a wage, then you won't have much income variance, and you can expect to make anywhere between half and ~3.5x the US median income (~55k/household). If you make income from capital revenue or entrepreneurship (investing, startup) then your revenue is a function of your investment decision and your luck.

Sidebar: Luck is by far and away the bigger factor here, without question. If you need to conceive this, think about the biggest startup successes in the last few years and think where success in picture messaging or social networking apps' successes are created (the answer is luck, because of network effects). There is varying amounts of variance in investment or entrepreneurship decisions (of course a bond is going to be lower variance than a tech startup), but luck by far is the bigger factor nonetheless in any of these. Recommendations if you need additional convincing 1 2 3.

Now Picketty's whole point about r>g is that if capital revenue is greater than economic growth (which should roughly index wages as per gdp/pop) then there will be social immobility, because returns to capital will far outpace wages (and you have the conundrum of acquiring capital in the first place if you aren't born with some eg. by inheritance).

But even if r~g you would get significant immobility at the upper echelons, because getting to that place requires a significant amount of luck. You can see this in income distribution graphs which follow roughly exponential distributions. So if you let people inherit hundreds of millions or billions, then you have created an impenetrable, self sustaining, static class at the top of your income ranking for all intents and purposes, because getting to this class from below is only attainable by effectively winning the lottery regardless of your skill.

Having to win the lottery to move up is not what we would consider "social mobility". Note that I'm not making policy proposals here, just stating that if you let people inherit wealth you're going to create social immobility, and increasingly so as you move up the ordered list. Make of that what you will.

u/hypnoconomy · 0 pointsr/Anarcho_Capitalism

Yeah, he's wrong.

There is no way to get the prices of goods except to sell them.

And there is no way to predict the future of markets with prices, either.

What a free market does is make bankrupt over time those people who aren't selling things that other people want. No one has the slightest idea what's going on, prices tell you absolutely nothing, if they did then no one would make any mistakes and we could predict the future.

It just looks like prices give accurate information, which gets people out of bed in the morning trying to earn a crust. But markets are essentially random, yo.

In a market based system, unless steps are taken to avoid it, a handful of people will wind up with all the rewards, and they will get them based on what amounts to raw luck. 80/20 rule, mathew effect etc Nassim Taleb has some excellent writing on why in the markets luck is mistaken for skill, fwiw.

u/irestful · 0 pointsr/PHP

You are totally wrong with this. To build up a community while creating an open source project, its better/easier to keep people updated with what I'm doing while I'm working on it. This will build up an elite community around the project and when it will be stable, some developers will already like to contribute to it, if the project is good enough.

There is various books related to that topic including the 100$ startup.

Also, this project is separated in multiple projects because they are multiple projects. For example, it will be possible to use the sharding project without using everything else. Same goes for each of these 5 sub-projects.

By fragmenting the big project in smaller one, it makes each part easy to use separately, which make the code highly re-usable, scalable and maintainable.

Symfony2 and Doctrine also tries to separate packages. For example, I used the Annotation package of Doctrine inside my own project. This was possible because they made it a separate package at first.

Hope this makes sense.

u/mongormongor · 0 pointsr/politics
u/Phantomchrism · 0 pointsr/norge

Er ikke Trump et forhandlingsmenneske? Interessant, med tanke på at han skrev "the go-to" boka om forhandling og avtaler i 1987...

u/maddata · 0 pointsr/PoliticalDiscussion

One big problem with Trump and defending him is that the media is incredibly uncharitable.

Temporarily halting muslim immigration until we figure out what is going on has been reported as "Trump wants to ban muslims".

Illegal immigrants are sometimes criminals and rapists (based on studies that found that between 60% and 80% of female illegal immigrants are raped by their companions or guides along the way) gets reported as "Trump says latinos are rapists".

That caveat out of the way:

His tax plan is on his website. The US corporate tax is the 3rd highest in the developed world. Many economists don't think a corporate tax is a good idea [1] [2]. His corporate tax plan includes a 10% one-time repatriation tax to incentivize reversing corporate inversions.

China practices currency manipulation. The Chinese government pracitces industrial espionage. You'll have to take my word for it, but every press conference where he's asked if he'd implement tarrifs, he dodges the question ("I'd consider it" etc.) because, in my view, he just wants to use it as leverage.

I would also recommend your read The Art of The Deal (or don't buy it and try this?) for perspective on how he uses inflammatory rhetoric and his opinion on the media.

If you have an hour of time to listen/watch something in the background, consider watching The Untruth about Donald Trump by Stefan Molyneux, a lecture that details the dishonest patterns the media has used to attack Trump.