Reddit reviews F**k It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way

There's actually a book called "Fuck It." No idea if it's any good. http://www.amazon.com/It-The-Ultimate-Spiritual-Way/dp/1401927599

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I, too, recommend "Choose Yourself." Great book. His more recent one, "The Power of No" isn't as good. So go with "Choose Yourself" first.

I also recommend "Fuck it: The Ultimate Spiritual Way." And perhaps spend some time over at /r/stoicism.

Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance http://www.amazon.com/Zen-Art-Motorcycle-Maintenance-Inquiry/dp/0060589469/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1418000780&sr=1-1&keywords=zen+and+the+art+of+motorcycle+maintenance

Do not look upon work as something that is outside of you, or a chore. Your labors must be of you, and include your mindset, because the end result is almost wholly dependent of the mindset of the laborer.

Among other philosophies and tenets of Quality...

And another book that may be a bit simple in its approach, but still has some important ideas, Fuck It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way. http://www.amazon.com/It-The-Ultimate-Spiritual-Way/dp/1401927599

There's something very freeing about being able to just say "fuck it" about something that's giving you frustration. I've found that after saying it, and really meaning it, the true solution becomes apparent.

http://www.amazon.com/It-The-Ultimate-Spiritual-Way/dp/1401927599

Ok so you go out which is good. Ever had any history of getting sucked into drama? Bad breakup? Bad friendship? Usually when you don't want something it's because you've gone thru it once and don't wan't to risk re-living that situation. Brain essentially tries to steer us away from pain, but it's just not capable of distinguishing between physical pain and mental pain. Mental pain is always different from physical pain in the sense that it's always a different scenario while physical pain is always the same, you hit your self you hurt your self... Example: Put your finger into fire, your burn it. Brains steers you away from putting it back into fire. ... Date a girl, she cheats on you, you break up. It hurts. In your next relationship brain automatically assumes your in that same situation (you are in a relationship... with a girl) and will start to steer you away from pain once more by suggesting (those random thoughts) that this situation is the same as before and you will burn your self, which it can't ever know since it's not a fortune teller. Fire will always burn. People don't always have drama or problems. You said it your self... it's unfair to project this on a lot of people. The problem lies with you, and how you perceive things.

This is why it's important not to assume things when meeting new people. Even tho our brain does that all the time, doesn't mean we have to listen to it.

Remember that what you get out of life has nothing what so ever todo with other people. It has only todo with how you perceive the world. Of course people can be assholes but in the end it's you who decides if it has effect on you or not.

If you wan't a more relaxed attitude towards life and a more "fuck it" attitude I recommend reading this book here. http://www.amazon.com/F-k-Ultimate-Spiritual-Way/dp/1401927599/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1318588693&sr=8-1

Really puts life in perspective. It's available for kindle as well.

You can change this yourself but you really have to do the work that needs to be done. Deal with ghosts of the past and shit. That Fuck It book is a good way to start... after I picked up that attitude towards life my life has been going upwards ever since.

If your not sure about the book, give yourself an hour and listen (and really listen) to interview #2 on this page: http://www.thefuckitway.com/podcast.htm

It's about the author him self and his previously miserable life.

Also, try to get a job during the day... it's been shown that nightwork / shiftwork has negative impact on mental health an can lead to depression.

http://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/excessive-sleepiness-10/shift-work
http://www.ehow.com/facts_5557800_effects-working-night-shift-depression.html


Do what needs to be done. And good luck!

She could probably find employment in the publishing industry.

One last tip. Read this book. The basics are the same as Vipassana Buddhism. But without all the terms and the idea you have to be a whole person to even try to let go.

And it's a pretty funny read too =)