Reddit reviews Love Busters: Protecting Your Marriage from Habits That Destroy Romantic Love

I have a few that I think might be good possibilities for discussion:
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30 Days to a Great Attitude: Strategies for a Better Outlook on Life

My Wife Is A Bitch (THE GUN AND THE BULLET)

Why Men Divorce Bitches - How to Know When It's Time to End Your Marriage

Feeling Good Together: The Secret to Making Troubled Relationships Work

Love Busters: Protecting Your Marriage from Habits That Destroy Romantic Love

Big and Black and Not My Husband's

oh dude i'm so sorry! i'm an enfj married for a couple years now and yeah... it's hard. if you're still trying to salvage this, and she isn't completely cutting you out for trying, do everything you can.

i think this is less a personalities thing and more of a marriage thing. yes, personalities play into a marriage - but the way we treat each other kindof plays out the same way across the board. my husband and i have been reading Love Busters and it's basically EVERYTHING that one of you could do to hurt the other summed up in 9 chapters. i should also add that it does cover what happens when one partner enters into a state of emotional, quickly followed by physical, withdrawal; how that partner got into that state; how you can try to get them out again. it's seriously an incredible book. if she's willing to try this, i would definitely buy two copies of this book and ask if the two of you can read it on your own and discuss before finalizing the divorce - because this book is incredible at diagnosing what goes wrong and how to salvage it. if you're on the brink of death, you're going to go to a doctor, right? why don't we treat our marriages this way?

this is of course all dependent on whether she's willing to try. i am really, really sorry this is happening to you and i sincerely hope the two of you can come to a safe, beautiful, and even logical solution.

for no-nonsense, practical advice i highly recommend Fall in Love, Stay in Love and His Needs, Her Needs.

if you aren't yet involved in a LTR and are wondering whether to commit, Buyers, Renters and Freeloaders is an education.

if your relationship is struggling or in crisis, Love Busters is a good workbook.

harley is a clinical psychologist who specializes in marriage, and his behaviour modification techniques have a proven track record. i generally don't believe in the whole "self help" genre; however, by implementing harley's advice (which focuses around having an integrated life), we've built a strong marriage. it's not for everyone (nothing is), but his books are something i really can wholeheartedly recommend.

edit: sorry, i was talking with someone and forgot to click over to the tab with the actual list. i see HNHN is on there!