Reddit reviews On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss

I strongly recommend reading On Grief and Grieving.

I've been through a few losses which have devastated me beyond belief and I've recovered to a good degree and handled the depths of despair. So I'll tell you what has helped me.

Two books that really helped me were On Grief And Grieving and Healing After Loss. The first one talks a lot about accepting and understanding all of the emotions you go through and can help you navigate it a bit better. The second one was a god send because it was so easy to digest when I was overwhelmed. Just one little passage a day. They aren't Buddhist books, but they are still invaluable.

Another thing that I still use 1.7 years after my moms death is to journal to the dead, it really helps. Sometimes I just talk vocally, sometimes I journal. I talk about how I feel. I talk about any feeling or thought about them to them. It gives me some closure. My love has not died with them. So maintaining a connection to them is very helpful.

One thought that has helped me is to realize that the person lives on in how they've impacted me and others. So to me, my mom isn't completely dead.

I know it's really hard and sucks. I hope you feel better and I'm sorry you're going through this.

I agree with the top comment about how everyone goes through this and it's good to confront death and loss head on.

I hope some of this was helpful. Wish you well.

Life after Loss: A Practical Guide to Renewing Your Life after Experiencing Major Loss 1 and On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss 2

Lots of good suggestions here, but I'll add: On Grief and Grieving by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler. https://www.amazon.com/Grief-Grieving-Finding-Meaning-Through/dp/1476775559/ref=sr_1_4?crid=2TNKUIYPRCWA3&keywords=david+kessler&qid=1565071942&s=books&sprefix=David+Kessler%2Caps%2C163&sr=1-4

I work with people who are grieving and your greatest gift will be your ability to sit with your loved one while they feel whatever they're feeling in that moment. They don't need you to fix it or them, they just need you to be there.

I'm sure your generous heart will carry you through.

I broke up with my girlfriend of 10 years about 7 years ago, and I was overcome with grief, I felt like I was going crazy. My mom died a little over a year ago. It also felt devastating. I'm not going to lie and say it was easy or that any sort of positive thinking caused me to just shrug off the pain of the situation. I felt anger, regret, sorrow, confusion, depression, guilt, gratitude and appreciation.

From my experience wisdom can't cure you from the pain, but it can help (unless maybe you're enlightened). Knowing that loss is natural because everything is impermanent can help you accept the situation more. And the most comforting thought to me is that the person who left me is still alive in my thoughts and memories, in the impact they had on me, in the impact they had on others. In a way, a part of them is still around.

In my opinion, in these situations you shouldn't tell yourself how you're supposed to feel. You feel how you feel and you feel your way through it and live your life as best you can and you heal, at your own pace. Healing will happen, if you don't fight the process too much.

A couple of books that have helped me through grief are.
[On Grief And Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss] (https://www.amazon.com/Grief-Grieving-Finding-Meaning-Through/dp/1476775559/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1519274083&sr=8-1&keywords=on+grief+and+grieving+by+elizabeth+kubler-ross)
[Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief] (https://www.amazon.com/Healing-After-Loss-Meditations-Working/dp/0380773384/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1519274112&sr=1-1&keywords=meditations+grief)

I'm so sorry. Believe it or not, you will get through this. Just keep breathing.
I know it's hard. Just take it one day at a time.

One thing I highly recommend is reading the book On Grief and Grieving. You don't have to read it right away, but perhaps you can pick it up a few months down the road.

I have a few book recommendations if you'd like something to read in this time:

On Grief and Grieving by Elisabeth Kubler Ross - I haven't read this one yet but it's on my list of things to read next. It has a lot of great reviews and is a classic.

No Death No Fear by Thich Nhat Hanh - This is one of my favorite books. Birth and death are deceptive concepts and arbitrary notions we use to try to explain the world around us. Life just changes; life is not annihilated and life is not created from nothing. Nihilism and our society's Christian-influenced view of birth and death are two extremes and the truth lies somewhere in the middle.

When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron - This is my other favorite book. We're so afraid of feeling bad. We can't just let ourselves feel shitty about things sometimes. We want to escape and run away from it all, but that just makes things worse. The best thing is to just face your fears and sit with the uncomfortable feelings and be at peace with them. Everything comes together and falls apart and we can try to run away or try to face it. Bad things happen and you feel like the biggest piece of shit on earth but it's not true. Our view is just messed up.

I'm sorry for your loss and I'm sorry you feel like shit. I hope you can make a happier life for yourself :)