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u/jouleheretolearn · 24 pointsr/BabyBumps

The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be

Hubby has started reading this and put a free pregnancy app in his phone after I yelled for the umpteenth time I'm not google, I need to study, look it up. It's helping.

u/icanseejew2 · 20 pointsr/AskMenOver30

I read this one, liked it:

The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be by Armin A. Brott, Jennifer Ash

u/Licensedpterodactyl · 13 pointsr/MensLib

We received The Expectant Father as a gift when we were expecting our first. I’ll be honest, I don’t remember what was in the book, but I do remember the reassuring feeling I had when I read it.

So... it’s probably down the alley of what you’re looking for

u/wtfmatey88 · 10 pointsr/predaddit

This book has helped me a lot.

The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be (The New Father)

u/Le4chanFTW · 7 pointsr/MensLib

I couldn't find any when my wife was expecting. I looked, but everything that turned up online or even in the store was all written with the premise that the father-to-be is some beer-guzzling knuckledragger. I wound up buying this book in the end, and it's actually really helpful for almost everything you can think of.

Apparently there is this one and a sequel book that look promising.

u/Dizzy_Oven · 6 pointsr/BabyBumps

Congratulations! If you're looking for a book to read throughout pregnancy, The Expectant Father is kind of like a What to Expect When You're Expecting for dads. I like that it has practical things you can do to support your SO week by week. It also has things about what she may be experiencing emotionally and what you may feel. Some of it is kind of goofy but things like a list of questions for your pediatrician might be helpful.

One practical thing any pregnant woman probably would appreciate is having good food around. I love that my SO never judges what I eat, is always down to get whatever I'm craving and cooks for me. The Brewer Diet has recommendations specifically for twin pregnancies. She may not feel like eating for a while, but it's especially important for her to stay hydrated and get good nutrition when she can eat. B vitamins, especially B6 can help with the nausea.

u/terranymph · 6 pointsr/pregnant

I bought my husband the book "the expectant father the ultimate guide for dads-to-be" it is available on Amazon and is really informative.

It is a little different in that it focuses on how the partner can help and not accidently cause a fight, as well as giving a perspective as to how she is feeling and what is happening with the baby. I got myself the book "day by day pregnancy" it is like a massive text book and let's me have a little to read each day with tips and ideas to make the experience more pleasant.

Good luck, most of all you need to let her know that you are in this together.

u/deadasthatsquirrel · 6 pointsr/BabyBumps

My favourite is definitely Expecting Better, as the author looks at the actual scientific evidence behind most common pregnancy do's and don'ts.

I've also bought:

u/BabyBOct16 · 6 pointsr/BabyBumps

Has he read any books specifically for husbands/dads? These books will help him realize the things you're going through and help him be a more supportive partner. I recommend The Expectant Father. It will give him a better perspective for sure.

It is a big book, but it's meant to be read week to week/month to month instead of all at once.

He DOES need to carry things for you because it's not ok for you to carry heavy things. I'm sure your doc will back you up on this one.

Regarding exercise - I've been sooooo ridiculously tired this entire pregnancy - a level I didn't think existed. Turns out, I'm anemic and found out when I did my 1st glucose test at 24 weeks. I have been doing prenatal water aerobics and it has helped a TON. I have also been walking. I have to force myself to do these things.

If my fiance nagged me about what I was eating and didn't carry things for me, I am like the other commenters here... I'd tell him to shove it.

Hopefully you can give him that book and he'll at least take a look and gain a new perspective. I feel for ya!!

u/morebikesthanbrains · 5 pointsr/Parenting

Aside from the urgency of the car seat if breast feeding is important get with her insurance co to get a pump in the mail sooner rather than later.

Also, I found this to be a good read for dad

u/nthngbtblueskies · 5 pointsr/pregnant

I literally LoLed! I bet many dads to be could use that!

My husband read this book. It had a whole section on what mom is going through and how to show empathy and support. Hope you find something similar.

u/ImFuckinLou · 5 pointsr/AskMenOver30

Having a kid will completely change your life, and it's not easy, but there will be more times where you and your wife can't stop laughing versus times where you can't get the kid to stop crying.

This is also a really good book to pick up if you want to be more involved in your wife's pregnancy, as a show of solidarity for what she's going through.

u/orangedrink888 · 5 pointsr/Parenting

I read The Expectant Father. Highly recommend it.

u/madmartiganwaaait · 4 pointsr/everymanshouldknow

i liked this one.

touches on science, if not too deeply, has some nice historical tales about how modern fathering developed from ancient times, breaks down the experience month by month with what's going on with you and what's going on with your partner.

also, as a nice added touch, it offers insights for adoptive and ART dads. that said, i found it easy to skip sections that did not pertain to me and pick up later in the chapter without missing anything.

edit: the authors also have a subsequent book that's geared more to the new father rather than the expectant one.

u/CoolHandRebuke · 4 pointsr/AskMen

There’s a book I really liked called The Expectant Father. It’s divided into pregnancy months and takes you through what’s happening with your baby and with your wife. I read a chapter each month as we progressed through the pregnancy and it was really helpful.
It’s cliche and everyone says it but time will go by so fast so enjoy every minute. Being a dad is likely to be the best thing you’ll ever do in your life. Congrats!

Edit: link to the book- The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be

u/crabcakes3000 · 4 pointsr/Septemberbumpers2017

My husband was excited and wanted to tell his dad as soon as possible. I bought him this book The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be and he is really enjoying it. He says that he likes that it explains what's happening for the mother, but also talks about the father-to-be's feelings. Im relieved because reading a few chapters has convinced him we should wait until after our doctors appointment to tell people, even family.

That said, he did spill the beans to my friend this weekend though by asking if I was drinking decaf coffee, which she told me later was a dead giveaway! Luckily she is my best friend and has two kids of her own, and I explained to her that we haven't even told our parents. So our secret will be safe with her until February.

u/SuFxX · 3 pointsr/predaddit


I had to tell my coworkers so that I didn't go crazy from not telling anyone else. I would read some books about becoming a father and what she is going through right now. I started to read a book called the The Expectant Father.

My wife and I are both 28 with our first kid on the way. When my wife first told me we took alot of tests and even went to urgent care on fathers day just to make sure. I was shocked and in disbelief. It took a few weeks and visits to the doctor to make it feel real. If you want to talk or anything feel free to shoot me a PM.

u/bilbiblib · 3 pointsr/BabyBumps

The Expectant Father! Both my SO and I read this book, and I LOVED it more than most of the lady-focused ones.

And, Conscious Parenting. I grew up in a family that was similar to your SO's. This book was great for me.

u/OnesNew · 3 pointsr/Parenting

I agree that hospital parenting classes are the best way to go. But you can also find some books on Amazon or videos on Youtube just by searching things like "new dad tips" or something. Here's a few links; I'm not sure how many are targeted to single dads, though. You may find a lot of references to "your partner" in the books, but there still is some truth to that -- you're not romantic partners, but you still need to be parenting partners.

u/peaceouthaterz · 3 pointsr/pregnant

I got this book for my husband and he really likes it! He always brings up little facts and tidbits he learned from it.

u/loopymath · 3 pointsr/May2019Bumpers

Thanks for reminding me! I got my husband "the expectant father" last time I was pregnant. Unfortunately, I miscarried just days after it arrived so I don't think he got very far in it. I'll have to dig it out from where it's been stashed for the past two years...

Link: The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be

u/chelke · 3 pointsr/NewMomStuff

People love to give advice on sleeping patterns, how to take care of baby, what baby needs and they love to build diaper cakes. But no one really prepares you for how to take care of yourself and I’ve found that’s where my biggest deficits are despite months of meticulous planning. So the books I like focus on pregnancy and post partum transitions as well. Happy healthy momma, happier healthier baby.

The Fourth Trimester

The Fourth Trimester: A Postpartum Guide to Healing Your Body, Balancing Your Emotions, and Restoring Your Vitality

And I’m currently reading Strong As A Mother. I really like it so far. It has three sections, pregnancy, the first year, and continuing motherhood. I’m having some struggles with mood and having a two week old alone since my husband is always on trips for work and that I didn’t have a great birth experience. Lots of help from other moms and their stories

Strong As a Mother: How to Stay Healthy, Happy, and (Most Importantly) Sane from Pregnancy to Parenthood: The Only Guide to Taking Care of YOU!

I got the expectant father for my husband. He referenced it a lot the first half of my pregnancy when doctors appointments were more spread out and he was like wtf is happening to your nipples, why are you eating that, why are you crying? You know, stuff that you don’t always anticipate or think about

The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be

Good luck and congratulations!

u/newdad30 · 3 pointsr/predaddit

I've been reading "The Expectant Father" on. Recommendation from here. It breaks it down month to month and was very easy to follow

See here

Also congrats!

Edit: I screwed up the link, should work now

u/verdouxkai · 2 pointsr/NewParents

I haven't read them yet, but I got this book and this book for my husband, they were highly rated.

u/stargirl142 · 2 pointsr/BabyBumps

The symptoms that I had in the beginning were far more severe than what I am experiencing now that I’m starting to show. This is totally normal and expected. Your body is going through a ridiculous amount of change and is being absolutely flooded with hormones. I got my husband a few new dad type books and he reads them, It seems to help a lot with getting them to understand what’s going on before you can physically see the changes. I’ll edit in a moment with the books that I purchased


I got them all used I believe, so picked out a few that had good reviews. He’s been primarily reading the one with the plaid shirt on the cover

u/Beerman84 · 2 pointsr/predaddit

Congratulations! Someone had recommended this book to me and i found it very useful.

u/skylarparker · 2 pointsr/pregnant

This book talks about emotions and pregnancy.

My husband has read some of it, but he says he prefers this book. He said he thinks it talks about hormones and emotions and I think I saw in the description that it does in fact talk about the support pregnant people need during this time. Hopefully your boyfriend is open to reading a bit so he can understand what’s going on. The books are written by men, for men so I would hope he will believe the information haha

u/saxman42 · 2 pointsr/TwoXChromosomes
u/RhodaStorm · 2 pointsr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

The Whole 9 Months: A Week-By-Week Pregnancy Nutrition Guide with Recipes for a Healthy Start

The book above is supposed to not only tell you what foods you should eat each week for baby - but also for mom with nausea, leg cramps and the other fun things :) Below is a book for Daddy - divided up so its not sit down and read it all now. Gives him info on what is going on with you and baby and how he can be involved with some humor included :) Any mint teas help with stomach upset (help not cure lol) so whether you pick peppermint, spearmint or what not it may help. I love mint iced tea.

The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be

Hope you feel better!

u/Traveling_wonder · 2 pointsr/pregnant

Ask him to come to your appointments, it helps with processing. It's especially helpful during ultrasound appointments.

Many, many men have expressed that they don't feel connected to the baby until the birth. So don't get upset if he's having difficulties. Additionally, it's difficult for men to learn about pregnancy and it's processes because the material is all targeting women. Books often put dad in a backseat, and make them feel excluded or helpless. It's important that he reads books written for men, and not books with a single 'dad chapter'. I highly reccommend this book series, The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be

u/goodbyegalaxy · 2 pointsr/predaddit

Just had our first. We don't live near family, but leaned on friends a lot. When someone asks you if you need help, say yes and give them a task. For me getting people to make meals helped a TON.

Also about there not being any resources for men, grab The Expectant Father. It discusses some of the exact issues you're dealing with.

Good luck and stay strong 👊

u/geraniumseeds · 2 pointsr/BabyBumps

My dude read The Expectant Father and he found it super helpful, informative, and a quick read (he's also a busy guy):

It's cheap enough, but you might be able to find it at your local library -- that's where I found all my pregnancy books :)

u/wishful_lizzard · 2 pointsr/predaddit

The expectant father is a great book. My husband loves it, and even I read it from time to time. There is also a follow up to this one about what to expect in the first months that is quite good.

The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be

u/The_MrPotatoHead · 2 pointsr/daddit

I would highly recommend listening to this audio book.

The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be

u/PainInTheAssWife · 2 pointsr/JUSTNOMIL

I’m expecting my second, and the “company line” around here for any request to see baby is, “we’ll let you know when we’re ready for visitors.” It reassures them that they’ll be allowed over, but keeps it on OUR terms. My MIL, who is pretty great most of the time, came over nearly every day for the first two weeks when my first kid was born. She usually brought food, and was pleasant to visit with, but I was tired, breastfeeding, sore, and just generally not in a good state for visiting. This time, I’ll be all that, and chasing a toddler, so boundaries are a top priority.

As far as being a good dad- you’ll be great. My husband has never been around babies, and his own dad isn’t very hands-on. He walked into parenthood with no practical experience. Between my own experience level, a few good parenting books like this, and realizing that babies aren’t as fragile as he thought, he’s practically a pro at this point. Our goal has always been to make sure he’s as capable a parent as I am, and I think we’ve reached that goal. Our daughter adores him, he knows what he’s doing, and he’s honestly better at getting her to go to sleep at night. I just went out of town for a weekend, leaving the two of them home alone, and everything was perfectly fine. My daughter was less upset about me being gone than she was about him leaving for work on Monday morning. (That stung a bit.) My point is- you’re already focusing on being a good dad, and you will be. What you don’t know yet, you’ll learn, and you’ll build a great bond with your kid.

MIL can suck eggs.

u/CuteLittleParasite · 2 pointsr/predaddit

My daughter was born almost 11 months ago.

I felt the same anxiety - trepidation - dread that you're going through right now. Your fiancee might be feeling similarly but worried about talking about it - or she might have times where she will feel that way. It's normal to be that worried. Before this, you really only had to worry about you - for the most part. of course, I'm sure you and your partner take care of each other but ultimately you are both adults capable of independence. Now you're going to be responsible for a new human that's tiny, extremely vulnerable, and it is up to you and your fiancee to keep the human alive and healthy. After several months they'll get older and then they'll get older again. each time they get a little stronger or more physically capable, they'll have new ways that they will accidentally almost kill themselves, and you need to not let that happen. Of course that's terrifying.

But it's amazing. Sign up and go to some birth classes with your partner. Not everything was obvious but a lot of it will come to you when your baby does. You'll quickly become comfortable with holding a baby. You'll have a lot of practice in changing diapers, wrapping swaddles, etc. and it will get easier. If you feel like you are really worried, don't be afraid of finding a therapist to talk to it about. During the pregnancy, try to prepare everything to be ready about two weeks earlier than you might need it, just in case you end up giving birth early. Remember to enjoy these last few months of childlessness (and to forgive easily). Obviously your fiancee can't drink or go to smokey bars, but it's about to get a lot more difficult to go to a movie, or dinner, or really anywhere without planning it in advance.

Will everything work out? It'll be good enough. You probably won't feel like you have enough money, or enough time, or enough sleep. But it'll work out.

Here's a couple other tips if you want something specific:

  • Here is a great book for dads-to-be. This helped me learn a lot. It's one of the only books for made specifically for "pregnant dads" that is this thorough and isn't effectively a joke book.
  • It is definitely worth going to one of those birthing classes. Ours was 5 or 6 weeks - one 90-minute class each week.
  • If your lady is getting morning sickness, maybe set her up with a sick-bag or two - I made two for my wife (one for her car, one for her desk at work). It included some crackers and a couple other simple snacks, a few barf bags (a couple trash bags and if you really want to be fancy, these barf bags are nice), some mints and gum, a bottle of water, and a couple hair bands to tie her hair up. The bag was something like this one but i'm sure you can find others that would work fine.
  • Don't forget to take time to enjoy each other. I'm not necessarily talking about sex, since that might not be something you're both interested in now. It could be cuddling or whatever, but it could also just be going on dates, having a nice dinner together, etc. Before the kid and after the kid is born, don't forget to at least pause life for a couple minutes and appreciate each other.
  • If you're in the US and near a Costco or Sam's Club - and you aren't already a member - strongly consider membership. The money you'll save on diapers, wipes, and formula (as needed) will make up for the cost of the membership pretty quickly.
u/Mehrlyn · 1 pointr/Fatherhood

Read Expectant Father . Even my wife thought it was the best and most informative of any books we read.

Other than that, take it all in and be as supportive as you can. Congrats and good luck.

u/LawsThickShaft · 1 pointr/AskMen

Hey OP. First time dad here. My little girl is 8 days old. I saw my dad every other weekend growing up. So 52 days a year with your old man is not a lot of time. Especially when he’d end up working on your weekends anyway.

When I found out the wife was pregnant I was in your shoes. Scared. How do I be a good dad when I never really had one? I am one of the first of my friends to be a dad.

The answer for me is partially trust your instincts and trust your partner. Parenting is a team effort. So far it has been more me supporting my wife than actually caring for the child. Why? Because she’s 8 days old. All she does is sleep, poop, and eat. Sleeping is obviously pretty hands off, unless she’s rolled onto her belly. Poops I can help with, diaper duty gets me involved with my little girl, helps reinforce that I am responsible for her in every way.

It’s eating where my views changed. I’m a man, I do not posses milk making breasts for the child. Research has shown that breastfeeding babies is the best option for them, and that means straight from the breast. If you try to bottle feed (even if it’s breast milk in the bottle) it could interfere with how your baby patches on to mom. All that is a long way to say I sit and watch for 66% of my babies life so far. So I take this time to try to be the best husband I can.

I’m on paternity leave right now so I have time. I offer to get my wife anything and everything I can to make her comfortable, so she can feed the baby and not worry. So she can also nap when the baby is asleep.

I don’t have much insight on dance classes, or her making friends, or dating. What I do have is a week’s experience and I can tell you with the upmost confidence that you need to be there for your spouse as much as your baby.

Also I recommend a book “The Expectant Father” it has gone good insight into what your spouse is going through and what you can do.

TLDR: Trust your gut, do what you can, accept what you can’t, and be there for your wife.

u/millennial_dad · 1 pointr/trees

Congrats! Exciting times. Highly recommend this book. A great guide through these next 9 months. The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be

u/whatathymeitwas · 1 pointr/BabyBumps

These have super high reviews and are what I'm considering for my husband (I've done this before, he hasn't):

The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance

Be Prepared

The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-to-Be

Edit: sorry for such messy links!

u/MusicMagi · 1 pointr/predaddit

The Expectant Father Got this on audio. Was definitely helpful

u/squidtopus · 1 pointr/BabyBumps

My husband really likes this book. There are so many things in there that he's read that haven't been in the books I have, either, so it's great for him to read aloud.

u/rbanders · 1 pointr/predaddit

I'll try to answer as many of these as best I can from the other side (just had our son in July).

  1. My understanding is that at home pregnancy tests are fairly reliable. It's unlikely it's a false positive but you'll know for sure tomorrow.

  2. It is normal to be both nervous and excited. My wife and I had planned to try for our son for a while before we started and when we got the confirmation I was both thrilled and incredibly nervous. It's a big change so it's totally normal to have some concerns. But it's a really great change as well.

  3. As to questions at the doctor, we mostly asked about what the steps are from the doctor's perspective for going through the pregnancy. The Bump has a list of questions to ask at your first prenatal visit here that you can use as a guide to start if you want but depending on how early it is there may not be a ton of information for you at this point. You'll have plenty of time to ask extra questions at future visits too. I'd recommend starting a Google Doc with any questions you think up randomly so you'll have them all somewhere when you go to the doctor. As far as planning for a baby, for me just learning about the process of pregnancy was a good place to start. You'll need to look at finances, sleeping arrangements and other stuff too at some point but a good first place to start for me was what's going to be potentially happening for the next 9 months. I found The Birth Partner and The Expectant Father to be great resources for me to understand what was happening and how I could help.

  4. Whatever you're feeling is appropriate. It's totally ok to be nervous but you don't need to freak out too much. You'll be able to handle whatever comes your way on this. The fact that your already reaching out for info is a good sign you'll be able to figure out what you need when you need.