Reddit reviews The Introvert Advantage: How Quiet People Can Thrive in an Extrovert World

Lord above! thanks firstly for recognising your introverted children as such (and not just as failures). I really wish my parents had bothered when I was little.

Secondly you need to understand how introverts work. I recommend The Introvert Advantage by Marti Olsen Laney and Quiet by Susan Cain who also rocks a mean TEDTalk In fact, start with the TED Talk then dig deeper with the books once that has settled in your mind. Once you can understand, that will inform your decisions in how you treat your children. All the best!

Aim for a meeting of the minds, that's how INTPs connect with others most readily. Show an interest in his thoughts and ideas. Be up front and specific about what you want. No drama or messy relationship complexities. Keep in mind he might find your E overwhelming so dial it down if you're able, lower the volume of your voice, don't invade his personal space, don't demand he socialize in groups. Allow for his needing alone/recharge time; you might find this book helpful in that regard.

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BTW, you may want to read the book. She's not speaking of the MBTI, just Introvert versus Extrovert. If you can ignore the title, there's 2 or 3 parts of the book that are actually worthwhile.

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There is a great book called "The Introvert Advantage". https://www.amazon.ca/Introvert-Advantage-People-Thrive-Extrovert-ebook/dp/B006VUIDIY This booked has helped me a lot to understand my introverted self and extroverts. We all have strengths, and trying to be something we are not is very draining to our energy. You don't have to be a super outgoing extrovert. As introverts, we are long-term thinkers with our own vast inner-world. Our brains are composed of neurons that use longer pathways than extroverts, whose neuron pathways are shorter and quicker. We also have less friends, but we have very deep connections with those friends we do have, which in my eyes is a beautiful thing. I really recommend checking out the book.

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There is also a lot of pressure from society put on women your age to be party-girls, but you have to think about who is the one forming that narrative. Many of those girls are extremely insecure and depressed, but they are good at hiding it. You see later in their lives when they become alcoholics or cheat on their partners. You really have to find out who you are and ignore what society says you should be.

As a very introverted person myself I understand what you are feeling. I found it hard to just make friends with people easily. At school I had a few close friends and that was it. I have found that close friendships are way more worthwhile than having lots and lots of acquaintances.

Recently I have been preparing for pilot assessment, which involves a lot of group exercises (something as an introvert I struggle a lot with). I was recommended a book called 'The Introvert Advantage' by Marty Olsen Laney. I highly recommend this book to you and any other introverts looking to discover more about themselves and how to live better in an extrovert world.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Introvert-Advantage-Making-Inner-Strengths-ebook/dp/B006VUIDIY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1410948686&sr=8-1&keywords=the+introvert+advantage