Reddit reviews The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife's Heart Forever

I read two books about four years ago. They were by psychologists and they were very helpful to me. One was generally about being a man and the other was about being a man within the context of a relationship. Unfortunately, I don't recall the titles at the moment. Here are two, #1 and #2, that look similar to what I'm talking about that are within the context of being a man in a relationship.

> It starts with expectations - what a man should expect of himself and what a woman expects in a man. I was clueless until I read the book.

> Then it's about taking responsibility, being decisive - NOT controlling, and being manly. Manliness means having "high moral qualities, self-discipline, decisiveness and strength in your convictions".

> Of course, those qualities make complete common sense - but the thing is, Elliott has found that it's women, far more than men, who overwhelmingly agree! That's exactly the problem. Men don't know.

> Men have to be formally introduced to that common sense. And that common sense then has to be promoted and passed on older man to younger man, generation to generation. If you have any doubt, just look at the ever-increasing divorce rate and how any sense of appropriate manliness is absolutely unrepresented in today's society, media and entertainment.

I hope it can help in some way.

I'm not sure that there's not "any". There are plenty of books on how to be a good husband, there are bible studies dedicated to men being good husbands, there are retreats dedicated to men being good husbands, et c. There may be less resources, which may be related to women, on average, being more religious than men, and that research has suggested that women are more likely to seek help for psychological and/or emotional problems (though one could potentially question if that is a chicken or an egg type problem, with more resources being available).

I think the cultural idea of a good wife is more sexy (puts out!), than a good husband (does laundry!), so it could be related to that as well.

I'll bite. So, the last book of many relationship books I read was this one:

http://www.amazon.com/The-Secrets-Happily-Married-Men/dp/0787994146

Standard advice like the majority give: be helpful, attentive, do more dishes, be ok with her taking your labors and not giving a shit about you. Accept that the moon and mercury have to be in alignment for sex to happen. 20 years of doing it the way society says. Nothing.

I got this book in November:

http://www.amazon.com/Married-Man-Life-Primer-2011/dp/1460981731/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1408725149&sr=1-3&keywords=Athol+Kay

December was an excellent month.

Delved further into RedPill concepts.

January was even better.