Reddit reviews And Tango Makes Three

My first thought reading this was that he was saying men don't kiss ANYONE, not that it was about same-sex kissing. Like, maybe girls/princesses/women/whoever can give kisses but not boys/men. Which obviously is still not true and not a good thing to be saying, but at least it's not quite as bigoted as the other interpretation.

Either way, I agree with your decision not to make a big deal out of it, and just to make it clear that anyone can kiss anyone who is okay with it. You can also reinforce that message with diverse picture books, actually for both the issue of gender stereotypes and same-sex couples -- you might check out this list, this list, and this list for ideas. One of my personal favorites is And Tango Makes Three, a true story about two male penguins raising a chick together :)

And Tango Makes Three is an absolutely precious children's book too!

And Tango Makes Three

There's a gay penguin couple with an adopted baby at the Central Park Zoo as well! My 1 year old loves the picture book about them.

It's called "And Tango Makes Three."

https://www.amazon.ca/Tango-Makes-Three-Justin-Richardson/dp/0689878451/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1536280486&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=and+tango+makes+three&dpPl=1&dpID=51g5Su9qUtL&ref=plSrch

You should check out this book, And Tango Makes Three, which tells the adorably true story of a gay penguin couple at NYC Zoo which wanted a baby together. It's so cute!

How about And Tango Makes Three by Peter Parnell and Justin Richardson? Other books are listed in the "Customers Who Bought This Item Also Bought" section. PS don't read the customer reviews unless you want to blow a gasket at the stupidity of people.

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And Tango Makes Three, the true story of two male penguins at the Central Park Zoo in New York City. Baby Tango was a female penguin who later paired with another female penguin.

There's a children's book based on this story. I read it to my First Graders when we talk about what makes up a family/group/community in Social Studies.
http://www.amazon.ca/Tango-Makes-Three-Justin-Richardson/dp/0689878451/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1407780114&sr=8-1&keywords=tango+makes+three

There's fun curriculum here from the folks at Penguin Science, including a fun "Did You Know" page. My favorite fact from there is that an Adélie penguin waddles at a rate of 2 km/h! There are also cute children's books on penguins, like And Tango Makes Three, which is about penguins I used to work with at the Central Park Zoo in NYC.

For your daughter, if you want to "fight" the heteronormativity and cisnormativity that she'll be exposed to, you can slip a couple story books on the shelf. Children aren't born prejudiced- they need to be molded into that by the people around them and by society. Heteronormativity means assuming everyone is straight (so think of how in every disney movie the princess always winds up with a prince, etc.) Casually reading a story book and making it just "not a big deal" will enforce in your daughter's head that we LGBT people are, well, not a big deal.

This one will be coming out in June and is about a trans teddy bear.

"And Tango Makes Three" is a famous story about two real life penguins.

"It's Okay to Be Different" talks about all sorts of differences.

Dr. Seuss's story about the "Sneetches" talks about differences and is a classic that is applicable to all sorts of prejudice.

And "The Different Dragon" has a main character with two moms.

I hope that helps- you sound like a great parent who wants your child to be accepting. Best to plant the seed now, while she's young, rather than waiting until she's older. Maybe if you plant the seed, she'll call out grandma for being "mean", which would be pretty satisfying, right?

Edit: if I had been read a story as a kid where it was ok for two women to fall in love, I probably wouldn't have repressed my bisexuality for over a decade. It's the subconscious/internalized/pervasive cultural stuff that really messes with our heads, and reading her picture books with characters of different colors, sexual orientations, etc. will help plant a seed to make her truly an accepting person deep down. Best of luck with your mother in law, by the way.

And Tango Makes Three. Penguins, not people, but still gay.

I highly recommend the children's book based on this, called And Tango Makes Three.