Reddit reviews Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships
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We found 4 Reddit comments about Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships. Here are the top ones, ranked by their Reddit score.
It's $9.99 on the amazon kindle/cloud reader (read in your web browser, no kindle needed).
http://www.amazon.com/Cupids-Poisoned-Arrow-Relationships-ebook/dp/B003WUYP9M
I think it's worth it, because you'll get tons of little details that people probably wouldn't write in a short reddit comment.
Alternatively, you can also read the FAQ (http://www.reddit.com/help/faqs/karezza) and see if that helps you to get started.
And we're happy to help with specific issues once you get going or get stuck.
After years of struggle with this problem i kinda solved this problem with a good porn blocker (qustodio in my case but there are others too), but it wont be effective if he is not willing to stop porn, get educated together about harms of porn and what he will go through during abstaining whenever he was ready install porn blockers on all devices and set the email on your emails you can check his activity in your control panel it took me a decade to realize i need help, i also suggest to block torrent apps, tor, twitter, facebook and instagram. an addicted person may hate the substance for 23:30 every day but that 30 minutes keep him/her addicted
Also be prepared to hear harsh things during his reboot, he probably will go through some very dark stages.
Some valuable resources
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oKRR1e67I1w
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B003WUYP9M
https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home
After a while he may try ERP
http://www.feedtherightwolf.org/2010/05/how-to-stop-porn-addiction-stop-watching-porn/
and this tools for help section of ybop
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/discussion-board
remember oxytocin and connectedness can do magic
A book that will allow to you to take a step back on what you always thought about sex and orgasm.
Link to Amazon
I see you are a part of Nofap, stay strong brother :)
Dude here who gave up pornography (for science reasons, not moral ones).
First of all, just wanted to say:
You are a great lady for even coming to other people to try to get help for this difficulty in your relationship (not to mention sticking it out for three years). You are not a bad person for wanting sex more than twice a week, you just have a healthy sexual appetite. Further, you should not feel responsibility for increasing his sex drive (beyond the normal efforts of just making sure you are healthy, happy and passionate). Maintaining ones sexual health is each individual's responsibility.
Honestly, the thing I would investigate is the following:
>He loves to look at naked pictures of me, but doesn't seem to care too much for porn
[emphasis mine]
There are two big possibilities here:
The symptoms you are describing (lack of interest in sex, difficulty in getting/maintaining an erection, lack of chemistry in bed, intense cuckolding fetish) seem to match up quite well with a lot of the symptoms of overconsumption of pornography (check out the /pornfree subreddit and sidebar, also google 'your brain on porn'). The cuckolding fetish specifically seems indicative of porn consumption as this is a pretty specific genre of pornography and not something you are likely to encounter outside of a personal experience (getting cheated on and subsequently turned on by it) or seeking it out in some kind of sex club environment. There are some dudes in the /r/pornfree sub who develop really intense/uncharacteristic fetishes (straight dudes getting into gay porn, intense rapey porn, bestiality, etc.)
The protocol I would suggest, regardless, would be to do the following:
Note: the last two points are derived from a practice called 'Karezza'. Google that too.
Finally, I would get and read (or at least google) the following books:
Sex at Dawn
Your Brain on Porn
Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain
Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships
Slow Sex: The Path to Fulfilling and Sustainable Sexuality