Reddit Reddit reviews Don't Sweat the Small Stuff . . . and It's All Small Stuff: Simple Ways to Keep the Little Things from Taking Over Your Life (Don't Sweat the Small Stuff Series)

We found 20 Reddit comments about Don't Sweat the Small Stuff . . . and It's All Small Stuff: Simple Ways to Keep the Little Things from Taking Over Your Life (Don't Sweat the Small Stuff Series). Here are the top ones, ranked by their Reddit score.

Stress Management Self-Help
Self-Help
Books
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff . . . and It's All Small Stuff: Simple Ways to Keep the Little Things from Taking Over Your Life (Don't Sweat the Small Stuff Series)
The pupose of the book is to get you to look at things, common situations we all come across everyday, like being criticized or being given more work than you can possibly finish, and see them a little differently.
Check price on Amazon

20 Reddit comments about Don't Sweat the Small Stuff . . . and It's All Small Stuff: Simple Ways to Keep the Little Things from Taking Over Your Life (Don't Sweat the Small Stuff Series):

u/CoochQuarantine · 8 pointsr/RedPillWives

So you have got an uphill battle in front of you and you want something that is going to fix it right away. That ain't gonna happen.

Firstly, I commend you for realizing that you need to take responsibility for your actions. That is really important. Becoming an easy going person isn't something that just happens over night. You snapping and being critical won't magically go away. However, what you do with that is what you can fix while you are learning coping skills.

If you find that you snap and bitch, apologize. Do not say things like "I wouldn't have snapped if you didnt' do XYZ". Just apologize and own your behavior. FULLY. Once you have apologized, then you can use the STFU method. Walk away. Think about why you need to control, why you snapped, why you were irrational. Think about those things until you have come up with a reason.. NOT AN EXCUSE.. then talk to your SO about them. "I feel X when Y is happening." Statements like that will shift the focus from what he is doing "wrong" to what a particular situation inspires in you.

After a while, you will find that there are patterns to your behavior. They can be as small as you getting tense when guests are around to you freaking out because your SO is always late. Here are some examples from my own life.

I cannot sit in the passenger seat without being filled with fear. This stems from being in car accidents.

I do not appreciate when my SO is late or makes me late. This stems from abandonment issues from my childhood.

Acknowledging where your fears are coming from will allow you to be more vulnerable with your SO. He will understand you better. Once you have that down, you then start to realize that you can let go just a bit more each time. You have to basically train yourself to respond to stimulus differently.

In my examples, I now read while in the passenger seat to distract myself instead of bitching that he is going too fast, or didn't take the right turn. I now allow myself to read some AA literature while I am waiting and do not even look at the clock if I am waiting. I also make sure that any plans I have include a buffer so that being late becomes a non-issue. Basically, I take steps to mitigate my crazy before they come out.

I personally recommend this book called "Dont sweat the small stuff and it's all small stuff" and on more of a relationship note The Surrendered Wife.

Learning to stifle your inner bitch is a long process and not one method is going to work for everyone. Don't beat yourself up about it and just work hard to do better from now on.

Good luck :)

EDIT: Actually, now that I read a little bit more into your post I think you should read the CTFO Method. It seems like you're stressed that trying to change isn't happening over night. So maybe try that too.

u/jchiu003 · 5 pointsr/OkCupid

Hmmm. Not sure if you're a troll or not. If you genuinely need help, then I agree with /u/x7BZCsP9qFvqiw and you should definitely see a therapist. I'm sorry about your situation, but your happiness is controlled by your own brain. The only person that can fix your problems if yourself. I really like the book Don't Sweat the Small Stuff...and It's All Small Stuff and I got lucky that I read it at a young age. The book really helped me build my foundation to live a low stress and low anxiety life. Best of luck OP!

u/Serenity101 · 3 pointsr/simpleliving

I have a few mainstays that keep me grounded:

  1. Your inbox will never be empty (so stop stretching yourself thin)

  2. Life is temporary (so stop fussing/fretting over whatever it is)

  3. Don't sweat the small stuff (and it's all small stuff) -book-

u/[deleted] · 3 pointsr/AskWomen

I've fought depression for years. Right now I'm probably the happiest and most content I've been in my life. What saved my life (and I'm not exaggerating) was this book: Don't sweat the small stuff

I pick up that book and read it whenever I'm having a crisis.

u/NickTDS · 3 pointsr/seduction

As lingual_panda said, take a second to formulate your thoughts. This will also allow you to catch yourself when you're going to say something negative. Be consciously aware and stop the words from coming out of your mouth.

Reading introspective material helped me a ton. I started questioning why I was so bitter and began challenging those harmful thoughts. Don't Sweat The Small Stuff, The Four Agreements, and No More Mr. Nice Guy are excellent books that push you to be a more positive person.

Much of the cynicism and complaining stems from insecurity. Maybe you're frustrated or resentful with others. Figure out what's causing those feelings and eliminate them. And you have to accept that some people are the way they are -- there's no use in wasting your energy complaining.

When I'm truly satisfied and believe in myself, the last thing I want to do is bitch.

u/helaughsinhidden · 3 pointsr/asktrp

We found that our adult son probably has been dealing with Aspergers and we didn't fully realize it. Also, pretty sure my father does too, so I was raised by a man with these same challenges. My son is working through it, but after my dad just got married, he got a factory job and then abandoned hope of having friends, and pretty much stopped talking to people at 25-30 years old.

>people talk shit about me or just be nice to my face

This is not unique to you or to autistic people.

We all deal with it, but you are probably more "aware" that it is going on and in many cases you might suspect it's happening even when it isn't. Either way, these thoughts or observations are things that you have to learn to ignore or at least suppress because the reason people even do this is out of their own insecurities.

>I can feel the condescension and relegation of them.

There are things you can do, almost mind tricks to pressure flip.

It's difficult to answer without a specific instance, but one thing that my son has a hard time with is to assert himself in situations. For example, let's say you are at work and two employees have to watch and close a gas station. If you allow the dominant person to decide what to do, they will always say they will watch the till while you clean the bathrooms and sweep. What you need to do is start recognizing when these moments of decision are taking place and do something possibly very difficult, you have to speak up or actually be the person who decides what you are going to do first. Get used to push back and confrontation too. This new behavior will get resistance, so learn to stand up for yourself without being mean.

>I can't fit in anywhere I go

This is a basic human fear we all deal with.

If it weren't so, there would be no Red Pill theory to teach men "how to" be confident, alpha, manly, admired, and respected. This is literally why we are all here brother.

>I am starting to think I just have a shit personality.

You might, but that doesn't mean it has to stay that way.

You can learn to communicate better, lighten up, be confident, and relax. This actually is the crux of your issue. If YOU think you are shit, no one else is going to like you either. I suggest HIGHLY that you stick around this forum, and read the sidebar books and update your belief system as you learn and develop new patterns of behavior.

Things that have helped my son.

There are some great books out there that everyone can use to improve social skills and to cultivate a positive self image. Here are some I would recommend that either have helped ME develop a personality from being raised by parents like this or provided to my son to help him in his condition.

Don't Sweat The Small Stuff by Richard Carlson

Great tips and outlook to stop worrying about what people may or may not be thinking of you.

Top Performance: How to Develop Excellence in Yourself and Others by Zig Ziglar

Become the best version of yourself in the workplace and how to transition into a leader people want to follow.

How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie

This is actually part of the Red Pill side bar recommended reading and self explanatory.

Power Hold'em Strategy by Daniel Negreanu

This isn't as obvious, but learning to play poker has helped my son a lot. This is a game where it's socially acceptable, even advantageous to be quiet, not show emotions, and to have extraordinary ability to read other people. Through this, my son has learned to like who he is and see how he has special ability. Also, he can practice small talk at the tables in little doses as he gets comfortable in the setting. We play in a free poker league here and after a year of playing in 2 tournaments a month, he's really starting to open up and enjoy the results he is getting at the game and more importantly at the social aspect of playing cards with some people he knows and with new people.

u/baxter00uk · 2 pointsr/AskReddit
u/RakshaNain · 2 pointsr/books

How to stop worrying and stop living : I think I have the perfect how-to book for you, it's called Bunny Suicides
EDIT - non-sarcastic answer - Maybe something like Don't Sweat the Small Stuff

u/bohogirl1 · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

this was my problem as well and reading and rereading this book was amazing.
http://www.amazon.ca/Dont-Sweat-Small-Stuff-Its/dp/0786881852#reader_0786881852

u/mattyven · 2 pointsr/pics

There's actually a pretty good book by that title.

EDIT: Link to the book on Amazon

u/AfroWairus · 2 pointsr/teenagers

Glad to hear that things can be slightly resolved. I recently heard of this book that could help with these sort of things (Linky to buy it on amazon. If you ever need to talk or anything, feel free to hit send me a message!

u/pollyannapusher · 2 pointsr/AlAnon

Thanks for your reply. :-)

  1. No, she is not someone that I email with often, so therein lies my major obstacle. We are close when we are together, but since I moved 3 years ago I only see her once a year and we don't communicate outside of that (I dropped facebook years ago).
  2. I know that she is searching for something to fill the hole that is inside of her. She has taken to reading self-help and inspiration books of late. When we were together over Christmas, she was really interested in the process that I had been through to get to the point I was emotionally, mentally and physically (it's quite dramatic for someone who hasn't been around me in awhile). No, she has not specifically asked me for help.
  3. Mid-South. I checked, and there is a group in her city.

    I understand what you are saying about thinking whether or not you actually need help. That's why I didn't want to stumble on my first attempt to reach out to her about it. Sometimes once that wall comes up initially, it's next to impossible to get through again.

    I picked up Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, and It's All Small Stuff for her over the weekend at a used bookstore and I thought maybe I might send it to her to restart a dialog(?) Honestly, I'm not really sure what I'm doing that's why I'm here! ;-)
u/havok2020 · 1 pointr/depression

I've read a few books on it, but I would suggest Don't Sweat the Small Stuff (And It's All Small Stuff). It talks about the importance of taking time to clear your mind so that things don't stack up, but also some other ways to alleviate worry.

Also, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie. it is arguably better than the first, but it is a slightly older book (though Dale Carnegie was awesome).

u/ohsuplauren · 1 pointr/introvert

If you are anything like my sister, you absolutely are overwhelming him. I mean that in a good way, because you're recognizing it. My sister has been fluff stressing me my whole life, and she's finally dating someone who doesn't know how to filter it like I do. I also have a lot of patience for her because I recognize my weakness in her strength... anyway...

She is reading this book as we speak. Maybe you will find it helpful too!

u/FWMalice · 1 pointr/kotk

> But I forgot people can't say anything on reddit without getting bashed.

Isnt that kind of what just happened here. They were sharing information with the community and you were giving them grief because some of the information in the post had been mentioned before in another post.

Still, you being upset over this seems petty.

Shouldn't let little things like that bother you man.

I remember my mom reading a book when I was younger called "Don't sweat the small stuff". Maybe you should give it a read man. Might help you shake off some of that stress.

That's a link to it on amazon.

https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Sweat-Small-Stuff-Its/dp/0786881852

u/ScienceYouMonster · 1 pointr/AskReddit

This wasn't a thread about bad parenting. It was about overreactions. And I think you just gave me a better one, so thanks! I don't understand what your problem is. I guess you must be having a bad day or something. All I can say is that I hope whatever it is gets better for you and you stop feeling the need to go on the internet and insult people that you know nothing about and belittle situations that you have no context for. I'm sorry that you expended energy and irritation on me, because I am certainly not worth it or looking to upset anyone with my comments on reddit, unlike you. Have a good day, I wish the best for you.

And may I strongly suggest