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u/cmcg1227 · 18 pointsr/Parenting
  1. You don't have to do what the pediatrician says in terms of sleeping through the night and night weaning - that's parenting advice not medical advice. If you were happy co-sleeping and breastfeeding at night then you can continue to do that. You can always sleep train him later or even wait until he shows you that he is ready to sleep on his own.

  2. Assuming you WANT to follow the pediatricians advice (a perfectly reasonable want, there is nothing wrong with following the pediatricians advice I just wanted to make sure that you knew that you shouldn't feel like you HAD to), then first I'll ask, what type of CIO are you doing? Are you doing the interval method where you go in at increasing intervals (after 2, 4, 8, 10 minutes) and lay him back down and rub his back for a minute to get him to calm down? Or are you doing the extinction method where you just let him cry until he falls asleep? Or are you sitting in the room with him the whole time, near his crib but not talking to him? Or some other version? You may just want to switch up how you do it. If you haven't read doctor ferber's book, I strongly suggest you do so, as it may help you find a specific method that will help you out.

  3. Also, when is the last time that you feed him at night? If he goes to sleep around 7-8 pm and he eats at that time, its fairly reasonable in my opinion that he would be hungry by 3 am. You might consider adding a dream feed when you go to sleep a few hours after after him, around 10-11pm. He will probably only eat a little bit, but this could help keep him full until 6-7am, which is a much more reasonable time for him to be awake.
u/bigchiefhoho · 12 pointsr/Parenting

Seconded.

I highly recommend Ferber's book, Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems. Dude gets a bad rap, but seriously, the book has chapters devoted to toddlers with this sort of issue, and it's really helpful.

u/TheHatOnTheCat · 10 pointsr/Parenting

> he became upset and whined that he "needs tv to fall asleep".

This is probably true. I've been reading Ferber's book and he talks about these sorts of situations. Both unwanted sleep associations (what your son likely now has with the TV), trouble with limit setting (your husband it sounds like :/) and what a good bedtime routine looks like.

On the sleep association if your child (or even an adult) always falls asleep in a certain situation, place, with someone present, ect they will often form a sleep association and now need that to fall asleep. He actually had an example of a kid who fell asleep every night in the living room watching TV and then if they woke in the night returned to the living room and turned on the TV since they didn't know how to fall asleep in their own bed. Also, if put to bed in their bed they struggled/cried/ect. The sleep association may be to the TV but also the living room, you guys being around, the couch, or multiple. All of these are changes.

Since you are creating new habits/breaking a sleep association your son is going to struggle for a couple days at least so you may as well set something up you are happy with. You don't want to create even more habits you don't have to like and will break again.

For the bedtime routine first have TV completely off the table/psychically not on in the house before he has to go to bed so it's not a temptation. Have him get ready for bed (PJs, teeth) and then have something to look forward to in terms of quality time in his room with a parent doing something relaxing/without a screen. So he has the quality time to look forward to when he is doing his PJs teeth and won't fight it (once he catches on). The amount of the fun activity can depend on how quickly he gets this done. So once he has done his PJs and teeth maybe he could go to his room and play one on one with a parent for 20 minutes then read two books in bed then go to sleep. Whatever.

Since it will be harder for him to fall asleep when breaking his routine you want to start off with a later bedtime not an earlier one. You want him to be so sleepy by the time the two books are done that he conks right out. To ease this transition bedtime would be set 30 minutes or an hour (an hour is safer) after the time he normally falls asleep watching TV. So a time he is very tired and will have an easy time falling asleep. Until he if falling asleep in his bed at night without TV and without excessive crying or tantruming keep him at an extra late bedtime and do not add any extra naps or allow him to nap any longer then he did previously. He needs to be sleepy.

Once he is going to bed with the new routine then slowly move his bedtime back down. When you are trying to shift a child's sleep schedule it can often be hard to just put them to bed an hour or two earlier right away, as their body/natural rytum is not set to fall asleep then. So first move him back to when he was falling asleep in front of the TV and then move bedtime 10 minutes a day or something until it is where you want it. However, a good bedtime is based on your child getting the right amount of sleep overall and being tired when it is time to sleep. If you move it to early for him he may not be able to fall asleep then and that can cause power struggles as he just can't do it.

Ferber also has chapters on natural rytums and shifting sleep schedules. Honestly, it's a really good book. And make your husband read it. It's important he understand and get on board with being a good parent rather then one who just does what is easy. You have a special needs child and you can't carry the whole workload by yourself. He may think he is being nice to your son but he is actually creating problems for him. Have him read the chapter on sleep association and the chapter on limit setting as these will help him understand why how he has been handling this is not good for his child.

u/drfrank · 9 pointsr/Parenting

Many, many parents have a similar experience. I include myself in that category, and this period was one of the worst in my life. The way that you describe "ferberizing" as neglect makes me think that you haven't actually read Ferber's book. I strongly recommend that you do; the data and model of sleep that he describes will be useful even if you still reject his technique.

A similar, but less aggressive technique is described in this book which you may find more palatable.

u/jmurphy42 · 7 pointsr/NewParents

Not until 6 months, and even then you're not supposed to let them cry for unlimited amounts of time. Please get your hands on a copy of Ferber's "Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems" before you even consider crying it out, because there are a lot of misconceptions about the method and if you do it wrong it might be traumatic for your child.

u/goodedition · 6 pointsr/beyondthebump

Ferber's book talks about how to solve these types of sleep problems for kids your daughter's age. https://www.amazon.com/Solve-Your-Childs-Sleep-Problems/dp/0743201639

u/monkey_feather · 6 pointsr/Mommit

His book (http://www.amazon.com/dp/0743201639/ref=cm_sw_r_udp_awd_1mHStb1PH9BDK) has been updated and SPECIFICALLY says that his method isn't just leaving the kid to cry. There's scientific background to his methods- plural! There are several potential complications for kiddos- we had a few we didn't even know about.

OP, please PLEASE read the book! It's a quick read and will give you actual science and strategy. Not saying it's right for everyone, but if you're considering using it, read the book in full.

u/twelveeleven · 6 pointsr/Parenting

In my opinion, no one should try "cry it out" without reading the book for themselves. It's a very informative read even if you don't end up using that method.

Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems: New, Revised, and Expanded Edition

u/TwinkieTriumvirate · 5 pointsr/Parenting

This book does have really great information in it, but I couldn't get over how poorly written it is for such a successful book. Really badly organized, and for sleep-deprived parents it was really hard to get at the information we needed.

Ultimately, we had great luck with the Ferber book. Ferber is famous for the "cry it out method" but his method is a little less "extreme" than Weisbluth's (if you are uncomfortable letting the baby cry for long periods without checking in, as we were).

The single most useful thing I learned from the Ferber book is that all babies will wake up many times per night, and that if their environment is different than when they went to sleep it will wake them up completely. E.g. imagine you go to sleep on your bed and wake up on the bathroom floor... you'll become aroused and completely awake. To a baby, this is the same as when they go to sleep in your arms or with you in the room and wake up alone in their crib.

There are different ways to get there, but ultimately it was finding a way to let the baby fall asleep without us in the room (i.e. the same way he'll wake up 4 or 5 times per night) that was key.

Also really benefited from "The Baby Whisperer" and her Eat Activity Sleep routine for newborns.

The real secret is that each baby is different, and different techniques will have differing levels of success with different babies. Ferber solved our problems where some of the advice in the "no-cry" books did not seem to apply to our child.

u/dogsordiamonds · 4 pointsr/Parenting

You mention cry-it-out, but have you read Dr. Ferber's book? It changed my life. It explains a lot about a baby's sleeping needs and cycles. I found that all the other books I read seemed to get their information from his book while drawing different conclusions. Anyway, you don't have to take a look at it if you don't want to, but if you're having trouble with a sleeping baby I just want to share what helped me.

u/acisnot · 4 pointsr/Parenting

>wait until 6 months.

[That's straight out of Ferber.] (https://www.amazon.com/Solve-Your-Childs-Sleep-Problems/dp/0743201639/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1491771431&sr=8-1&keywords=Ferber) - well 4-6 months is straight out of the Ferber book.

u/SF_Inuyushi · 4 pointsr/raisingkids

This is never popular when I share it, but this saved us. I start sleep training at 4 months. My second child was sleeping solid through the night at 6 months. From 15 months to 2 years they regress and will call out every 3 hours. If you follow the book, you just go in for 1 minute and leave then they're good, on average.

https://www.amazon.com/Solve-Your-Childs-Sleep-Problems/dp/0743201639

Best of luck!

u/karen_h · 4 pointsr/AskReddit

I'm going to pull the Psych card and suggest that you guys attend family counseling to get to the bottom of this. It sounds like she has a lot of anger from the divorce, and you're going to need to deal with this quickly before she gets much older and it starts to manifest itself in self-destructive ways. You need to take care of this now.

That said, You also need to set rules and enforce them. What you're doing, by giving in each time, is letting her know that you're not serious about setting rules. If you want her in bed, then you need to tell her the rules up front, and then put her to bed. If she starts screaming, then you need to come in and tell her that if she keeps this up, nothing is going to change. But she is still going to stay in bed and she'll just have a sore throat tomorrow. If it's disturbing her sister, then just arrange for your other child to sleep on the couch for the time being. Put her to bed, and then let her scream. I recommend this book http://www.amazon.com/Solve-Your-Childs-Sleep-Problems/dp/0743201639/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1300251518&sr=8-1 . Lots of people don't like this - but it's the kindest, best way to get your kid to sleep. My own copy is completely destroyed from being loaned out to so many others. Follow the directions, and your problem will be over with this. You need to stay firm, and mean what you say. In EVERYTHING. She's going to be testing you quite a bit for the next decade.

I still highly recommend you getting your family into counseling as soon as possible. If you cannot afford it, there are lots of alternatives available to low income families.

u/AnyelevNokova · 3 pointsr/beyondthebump

I strongly recommend getting the actual book. Do not google search it or go to some random mom's blog: there's a metric crapton of misinformation on the method. Remember: anyone can post pretty much anything on the internet. It might be well-written, but that doesn't make it fact, and it doesn't mean that that person has actual qualifications beyond "I pushed a baby out of my vagina that one time."

You'll eat a lot of crap from people for doing "cry it out" because they think it means just abandoning your kid to scream alone in a dark room until they eventually pass out ((which is what our doctor told us to do.)) The book explains what the method actually is -- progressive waiting -- why it works, and why the misinformation version of the method doesn't. It was really eye-opening to read Ferber himself explaining everything, particularly from a clinical point of view. He uses real cases and real kids, from all sorts of ages and sleep problems, and details how the parents used the method and what kind of results they had. It's not just "do X and you'll get X" and "if you do X you're a bad parent": he really takes the time to explain and show it.

Because I can't seem to find this anywhere on the internet, here is the waiting chart out of the book. My scanner is kind of crappy, but it's legible. I can scan more of the directly relevant pages if people want.

u/dspayr · 3 pointsr/Parenting

We had this issue with our daughter--we got to 11 months and she couldn't sleep through the night unless one of us was with her. We were seriously stressed, depressed and not having a good time. Then, I read about Dr. Richard Ferber here--his cry-it-out method had our daughter sleeping through the night within a week. Granted, there's a difference between 5 months and 11 months. The primary difference with Ferber is the fact that you don't ignore the baby. You go in, you comfort without picking them up, then leave. Come back in longer intervals. For most kids it seems to work at helping them self-soothe. Obviously, feeding would be a concern, but I believe the book covers that.

  • Take steps to prepare the baby to sleep. This includes night-time rituals and day-time activities.
  • At bedtime, leave the child in bed and leave the room.
  • Return at progressively increasing intervals to comfort the baby (without picking him or her up). For example, on the first night, some scenarios call for returning first after three minutes, then after five minutes, and thereafter each ten minutes, until the baby is asleep.
  • Each subsequent night, return at intervals longer than the night before. For example, the second night may call for returning first after five minutes, then after ten minutes, and thereafter each twelve minutes, until the baby is asleep.

    The book was originally written in 85, and revised in 2006 to cover different situations that it had't previously.
u/rachyrachyrach · 3 pointsr/Parenting

Read the Ferber book! My husband and I were in a similar situation because we are night owls and I nursed to sleep. My daughter is finally okay with letting me walk away at 3 years old. She would want me to lay in bed to nurse all night. When she was deep asleep, I would be able to sneak away. However, when she woke up, she would run to our room because she was expecting me to be there. The book has a lot of similar situations on what to do. We didn't use the cry it out method by leaving her alone but got a lot of ideas from the book. The game changer for us was having my husband put her down at night. She hated it but after a few days she was comfortable enough to fall asleep. She still wakes in the middle of the night but no longer insta-screaming when I (or usually my husband) will walk her back to my daughter's room. She still will ask for back rubs but we are weaning those out. We found a trick by saying, "I'll be right back." If she's calm, she is okay us leaving and will fall asleep before we do a check in.

You can skip a lot of sections of the book to get to the good stuff. My husband and I had to look through the book together so we could make a plan.

u/chickenfuz · 3 pointsr/Mommit

My LO is the same age and was also waking up multiple times a night and would need us to rock her back to sleep or replace a pacifier. We were also rocking her to sleep at bedtime and for all naps. The broken sleep was not sustainable but we wanted to wait until she was at least 6 month before starting any kind of sleep training.

We knew we needed her to learn to self soothe so we decided to read Dr. Ferber's book. His method to break sleep associations, like being rocked to sleep, is often referred to as CIO but it really isn't and is not as bad as it sounds. You do let the baby cry but you go in to soothe them by patting, talking, etc, but don't pick them up. It sounded like the best option for us since we knew the pick up put down method would just frustrate and keep her up. We would do her bedtime routine (nurse, change, stories and rocking) and then put her down with her lovie but without the paci while she was still awake.

The first night we did 1 min crying, 1 min soothing, 3 min crying, 1 min soothing, 5 min crying 2 min soothing and then repeated the 5:2 pattern until she was asleep which took about 30 minutes. I felt ok letting her self soothe and cry a bit because we know her cries. We know what is her tired cry, her angry cry, her sad cry and her pain cry. For the most part she would just fuss and whine and occasionally escalate up to an angry cry. If she started to get quiet we would hold off going in for a minute since you do not want to interrupt when they are learning to soothe themselves. The next nights we did a 2 min: 1 min, 5 min: 2 min and 7 min: 2 min pattern and I don't think we even made it to the 7 min one.

It only took 3 nights and she was able to go down for naps and at bedtime with very little fussing. The only time she now gets upset is if we put her down way past her nap or bedtime. Then we just use the same basic pattern and usually only have to go in once. She does still wake up in the night and fuss sometimes for 1-2 min but will almost always fall back asleep on her own and if she doesn't then it's just me or SO going in for 10-30 secs to replace her lovie and make a few shushing sounds. I am still feeding her sometime between 3-5am, but am hoping to night wean in the next couple months.

Also, I've heard it repeated a lot that sleep training often has to be refreshed. Teething, travel, time changes all can cause regressions. I'm not sure how helpful all this will be but I wanted to share what worked for us. I think the key things in our case are her lovie, keeping the routine and sticking to the pattern. Good luck!

Edit: I also should have included that we don't have a super strict bedtime or naptimes. We watch for tired signs (fussing, eye rubbing, the usual) and then start her bedtime or naptime routine.

u/GeekDad12 · 2 pointsr/daddit

We ferberized our kid at six months. Went from 2-3 wakings per night to once every two weeks. I highly recommend getting his book rather than reading summaries on the Internet. Most of those summaries focus on the progressive waiting aka CIO method itself. There is so much more involved... We learned we were screwing up her routine and taught her to fall asleep breastfeeding. She would wake up in the middle of the night and wouldn't be able to fall asleep until what happened? Breastfeeding! If you give your kid juice to fall asleep at night what happens when he wakes up? "I want juice!"



Totally worth $15 and you can skip chapters that aren't relevant (now) so it can be a quick read. http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0743201639/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1375222053&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX110_SY190

u/librarianzrock · 2 pointsr/NewParents

Consistency. If you can be as regular as possible with the routine and the pre-bedtime rituals, that might help. The time of evening doesn't matter as much as the process and duration of bedtime.

We started doing sleep training at 14 months when our LO started giving us signs she was ready to sleep through the night (she was tired during the day, napped poorly, nursed just a little before nodding back to sleep...we truly felt she was telling us she needed to figure out how to put herself back to sleep through the night). I was hesitant to let her cry because I assumed she was hungry, so we started giving her a smoothie of Greek yogurt, milk, and a banana at story time.

If you do sleep training, read the updated Ferber book. It took only a few days and now at 19 months she's sleeping for 9-11 hours strait. It's like a drug...

u/libertao · 2 pointsr/Parenting

Everyone has different opinions, but mine are

Sleep: Ferber

Discipline: 1-2-3 Magic

Like a lot of things with kids, routine and consistency are paramount. Unfortunately, he is a little too young for the Discipline and might be a little too old for the Ferber sleep method, but they might be worth looking into. You can find summaries on the internet too. It can be a tough age.

u/slumlord · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

"Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems", by Dr. Richard Ferber.

http://www.amazon.com/Solve-Your-Childs-Sleep-Problems/dp/0743201639/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1262131888&sr=8-1

This is the same Ferber Method that got ridiculed in "Meet the Fockers". The actual method is hardly anything like what they show in the movie, which is unfortunate because it got a bad rap.

ANYWAY - using the methods we learned in this book our daughter went from waking up 2-3 times a night, to sleeping THRU the night, in two nights (she was 9 mos old). She still has the random wake-up in the middle of the night, but it's exceedingly rare.

I never give expecting/new parents unsolicited advice, EXCEPT to get this book (or borrow mine). Seriously. Read it BEFORE you have the kid.

u/ElegantAnt · 2 pointsr/AskParents

Please read the book:Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems . So many people claim to do the Ferber method, use some method they read about on the internet, fail, and then say "the Ferber method doesn't work!" He answers a lot of the "what if" questions you probably have and a lot that you haven't thought of yet. It's a good read and you really only have to read Ch4, althoughthe whole book was interesting.

u/ohno2015 · 2 pointsr/Parenting

This book saved my wife and I from, I don't know what, when our Son would not sleep, this method works, but you have to be strong and that can be difficult.

http://www.amazon.com/Solve-Your-Childs-Sleep-Problems/dp/0743201639/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1452163357&sr=8-1&keywords=ferber

u/Nuclayer · 2 pointsr/Mommit

You desperately need to teach your child to self sooth. It will not only be amazing for you, but also much healthier for your child.

The older your child is, the harder it will be to break those bad habits. It will not be easy but you really need to do it.

My wife and I used the Ferber Method and it took 2 terrible nights. By the 3rd night we had a self soothing infant who has slept perfectly through the night ever since.

Ferber Book

Buy this book off amazon, Read it, Follow it .... get your life back.

u/morario84 · 2 pointsr/Parenting

He's old enough to sleep on his own. I recommend reading this book: r/https://www.amazon.com/Solve-Your-Childs-Sleep-Problems/dp/0743201639

u/schnitzel24 · 2 pointsr/Parenting

In my experience, it seems there's a correlation between being a good daytime napper but bad sleeper. My 6 mo old never naps more than 40 mins during the day and his last nap is usually around 3pm. His is brutal because his bedtime is 7:30. That's a long time to keep an infant occupied.

The flip side is that he is a great nighttime sleeper. He has been sleeping (mostly) through the night for 10+hrs in his own room since he was 3 mo old. He doesn't always go down quietly despite having a routine. Sometimes he will scream in his crib but before we are even back downstairs to check the monitor he would be snoring away. It seems the more aware and active they get, the more they fight to stay awake.

My basic point is that whether they are a good napper or sleeper it's usually not only what you do at bedtime but maybe what you do throughout the day that sets them up for good sleep.

Also have you any read any books? I'd recommend this one by Ferber.

u/InlinedSnakePlane · 2 pointsr/Parenting

Your attitude might be apparent in the way that you help. Take some pride in being an involved daddy, get a book on sleep training (seriously get the Ferber book, http://www.amazon.com/Solve-Your-Childs-Sleep-Problems/dp/0743201639) and tell your wife she needs to be okay with accepting help.

u/belchertina · 2 pointsr/breakingmom

You should check out https://www.preciouslittlesleep.com/. Read through the articles there. Then, if you need to, you can join the Facebook group and ask questions. They're super helpful. It's pro-sleep training, but honestly, it sounds like you're at that point. The real goal of sleep learning is that the baby learns to put himself to sleep independently, without boob/rocking/walking/etc., so that when he DOES wake up in the middle of the night, he can go back to sleep easily if he's not wet/hungry/sick. There will be crying, but it sounds like he's crying now, AND not getting the sleep he needs, so it will be an improvement! You and your SO really need to be on the same page with this, or it won't work. But if you're doing the heavy lifting right now (the walking, the boob, the naps during the day) then in my opinion, it's your decision. You'll most likely have a week or less of crying, and then magical sleep.

You may also want to read the Ferber book, and for extra credit, the Weissbluth book. They both explain the science behind sleep, which helped me tremendously. They also give lots of ideas for teaching your baby to sleep independently. We did the Ferber method around 6 months, and now I know that if he wakes up at night, he's wet or sick, and it doesn't happen often.

u/TropicalAquarium · 2 pointsr/Mommit

I used a modified Ferber method to help my little one. For example, Ferber helped me create a night routine, set a sleep schedule, help me comfort my little one as they learn to comfort themselves, and drop night time nursing.

The goal is that eventually you will be able to put the the little one down awake, and they will be able to settle themselves. A very necessary life skill and a 10 month can definitely learn how to do this.

https://www.amazon.com/Solve-Your-Childs-Sleep-Problems/dp/0743201639/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1467736278&sr=8-1&keywords=Ferber

u/ugnaught · 1 pointr/Parenting

> the baby refuses to rest and is up four times every-single-effing-night.

It is a (somewhat) controversial topic, but you might seriously want to consider trying the "cry it out" method.

Long story short, you start by slowly weening your child off of soothing (picking them up, rocking them, etc) but eventually you will just monitor your child but not soothe them during the night.

We did the cry it out method with both of our children after some initial problems and now we all have a happy and wonderful sleep. Just about ever single night. And catching up on sleep makes a HUUUUGE difference to your overall well being and happiness.

Here is a conversation about the topic here in /r/parenting. The first two top comments talk about the cry it out method


Here is another one.

Some studies to back up the talk


If you are really looking for more of an expert opinion there are some books too. Book 1 and Book 2.

Some people will claim that it harms your child's brain, while others will say that that the fear mongering is just a bunch of nonsense. It's a baby. They cry. They get over it.

u/TheSummarizer · 1 pointr/parentsofmultiples

7 months is overlong. Mine slept through the night at 5 months. It's time to talk to your pediatrician and strongly consider Ferberization.

u/stegosauruspancakes · 1 pointr/beyondthebump

You can still try it for sure. I read and followed the method in this book and would definitely recommend it. It mentioned babies and children much older than yours so I'm sure the pulling up/standing is not too much of an issue in the grand scheme of things.

u/opiate46 · 1 pointr/Parenting

Get this book. Even if your wife refuses to try CIO it will help to understand your child's sleeping patterns. Eventually if everything keeps failing, go to page 61 and familiarize yourselves with the CIO method so you can get started and actually get some sleep. The screaming and crying is terrible, yes, but so is not sleeping. Plus the training only takes a few days to get working if you stay on schedule.

u/rboymtj · 1 pointr/NewParents

Sorry, How To Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems by Dr. Ferber.

Audible has it too if you like to listen to books.

u/csexton · 1 pointr/self

Don't worry about the pregnancy too much, instead research and read up on caring for infants. Specifically sleep and schedule.

Baby Wise was a pretty solid book, I recommend it since it really helped us. But Ferber's Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems was critical to helping us figure out what to do once there are sleep habits not condusive to a happy family.

u/babyblanka · 1 pointr/Parenting

It's a sleep training method. It's similar to CIO but not as extreme. The book is really helpful.

u/drunkferret · 1 pointr/daddit

I'm not sure what details you were given about the method if your pediatrician recommended a routine...but if you can, check this out.

It helped me understand the Ferber method in and out and what to and not do. If done correctly, most kids don't need the exaggerated bs you hear about from...wherever you hear about Ferber hate.

It's really simple if you stick to it. Good luck!

u/toomanyees · 1 pointr/parentsofmultiples

Sleep training! Sleep is the one problem you have that you can solve within a month: get this book

http://www.amazon.com/Solve-Your-Childs-Sleep-Problems/dp/0743201639/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1377135238&sr=8-1&keywords=solve+your+child%27s+sleep+problems

Read first few chapters, get SO on board, and implement instructions in Ch4. After week 2, enjoy feeling well-rested. Then tackle your other problems.

Also, don't be too proud to send out an SOS to your family. I did and my SO's aunt came for a week from hundreds of miles away. Best week I'd had since the babies were born.

u/Serifem · 1 pointr/beyondthebump

This one.

I'm pretty sure it's the most updated version of his book.

Not a silly question. :) I think in the book it said that 4 months is the earliest. 4 months is when I started to mildly introduce things like not being in the swing to fall asleep. Stuff like that. Mostly just to ease myself into the idea of it all.

I was also EBF and the book addresses how to manage it. The best part I found is that you gradually shift night time feedings. That way you aren't dealing with an upset baby AND engorgement.

u/theuntamedshrew · 1 pointr/Mommit

I'm sorry that you and your child had such stress. I am going to gently suggest that you are doing Cry It Out in the way popular culture seems to understand it? Leaving the baby to cry for long, long intervals (perhaps crying yourself?) Consider checking out [Ferber's Book] (http://www.amazon.com/Solve-Your-Childs-Sleep-Problems/dp/0743201639). The way it is described in the book is very gentle and easy. I grabbed mine from library.

u/FunGal_in_SoCal · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Bible for getting kids to sleep on their own.

u/checktheradar · 1 pointr/Parenting

If you're going to sleep train, buy/borrow the book. It's not "the Ferber method" unless you follow the instructions as they are laid out. Only the first few chapters are relevant to infants without sleep disorders, so you don't need to worry about reading all 300+ pages. What you're doing now is winging it and sending mixed messages, which will prolong the process for everyone.

Good luck - sleep issues are, hands down, one of hardest parts about the infant stage.

Check out r/sleeptrain if you have decided to go in that direction and need additional support.

u/ggkimmiegal · 1 pointr/beyondthebump

Read Dr. Ferber's book Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems.

Skip straight ahead to the sleep associations chapter. He talks about how to sleep train and continue co-sleeping in that section. I think you'll find that if you do choose to use his method that it will be way less crying than what you imagine it would be. I know my son cried longer and harder during every car ride as a newborn than he did when we sleep trained.